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"This is a bit contentious for me If I’m regularly talking to someone and they read and don’t reply, or read and log off it can annoy me. But it more depends on the mood I’m in as my life doesn’t evolve around here so I understand others don’t. I’m more of if you don’t want to talk anymore then tell me. With regards to a new message if they read and don’t reply then I guess they’re not interested after about an hour. So I will block just so I don’t resend another one. It may mean I miss “the one” but it seems to work for me " I think you are over reacting. Life happens. If people are slow at responding then I am talking to other people so who cares? If they aren’t interested then I am talking to other people so who cares? | |||
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"This is a bit contentious for me If I’m regularly talking to someone and they read and don’t reply, or read and log off it can annoy me. But it more depends on the mood I’m in as my life doesn’t evolve around here so I understand others don’t. I’m more of if you don’t want to talk anymore then tell me. With regards to a new message if they read and don’t reply then I guess they’re not interested after about an hour. So I will block just so I don’t resend another one. It may mean I miss “the one” but it seems to work for me I think you are over reacting. Life happens. If people are slow at responding then I am talking to other people so who cares? If they aren’t interested then I am talking to other people so who cares? " Thanks for your response on how I handle my account here. I agree in most but to say I’m over reacting is not necessary. But maybe that’s over reacting. I’ll get back to my corner and stop opening up here | |||
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"This is a bit contentious for me If I’m regularly talking to someone and they read and don’t reply, or read and log off it can annoy me. But it more depends on the mood I’m in as my life doesn’t evolve around here so I understand others don’t. I’m more of if you don’t want to talk anymore then tell me. With regards to a new message if they read and don’t reply then I guess they’re not interested after about an hour. So I will block just so I don’t resend another one. It may mean I miss “the one” but it seems to work for me I think you are over reacting. Life happens. If people are slow at responding then I am talking to other people so who cares? If they aren’t interested then I am talking to other people so who cares? Thanks for your response on how I handle my account here. I agree in most but to say I’m over reacting is not necessary. But maybe that’s over reacting. I’ll get back to my corner and stop opening up here " | |||
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"...oh I hate when this happens. I can't do words at work " This and also We are not always together, when I read a message and need innocent to look at it as well, I mark it unread.like the emails at work I still need to deal with. Sweet | |||
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"I normally get a block after sending messages back and forward and they ask for face pic send it then I'm blocked ?? others who do read my profile and say not for me we go our separate ways no hard feelings.if I don't get a response I just leave it at that " I normally get immediately blocked for telling someone on a thread about blocking that they are over reacting when they block anyone who doesn’t respond immediately. | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? " lol I never assume I'm getting one but if he's sent you a message and theirs a smidgen of interest then straight away or as soon as is convenient | |||
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"This is a bit contentious for me If I’m regularly talking to someone and they read and don’t reply, or read and log off it can annoy me. But it more depends on the mood I’m in as my life doesn’t evolve around here so I understand others don’t. I’m more of if you don’t want to talk anymore then tell me. With regards to a new message if they read and don’t reply then I guess they’re not interested after about an hour. So I will block just so I don’t resend another one. It may mean I miss “the one” but it seems to work for me I think you are over reacting. Life happens. If people are slow at responding then I am talking to other people so who cares? If they aren’t interested then I am talking to other people so who cares? Thanks for your response on how I handle my account here. I agree in most but to say I’m over reacting is not necessary. But maybe that’s over reacting. I’ll get back to my corner and stop opening up here " I was chatting away nicely .... Was told not to break the thread! I omitted a kiss at end of message .... sent a kiss and broke the thread.... blocked .... gets childish | |||
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"This is a bit contentious for me If I’m regularly talking to someone and they read and don’t reply, or read and log off it can annoy me. But it more depends on the mood I’m in as my life doesn’t evolve around here so I understand others don’t. I’m more of if you don’t want to talk anymore then tell me. With regards to a new message if they read and don’t reply then I guess they’re not interested after about an hour. So I will block just so I don’t resend another one. It may mean I miss “the one” but it seems to work for me I think you are over reacting. Life happens. If people are slow at responding then I am talking to other people so who cares? If they aren’t interested then I am talking to other people so who cares? Thanks for your response on how I handle my account here. I agree in most but to say I’m over reacting is not necessary. But maybe that’s over reacting. I’ll get back to my corner and stop opening up here I was chatting away nicely .... Was told not to break the thread! I omitted a kiss at end of message .... sent a kiss and broke the thread.... blocked .... gets childish " Is that for me? We’ve never talked and you’re not blocked | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? " I wont lie. I normally leave the read messages for a couple of days, a week at the most. Then I delete the thread after that. In general though. I never knew people waited before replying. Now I know that il give it time. | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? " I don't wait for replies. If there's a reply then great I'll respond, if not then I'll forget about it fairly quickly. I read all my messages and hardly reply to any. People have their reasons for not reading or not replying and I don't give it much thought or get hung up on it. Exception being if we have arranged to meet that night and they aren't communicating. If I feel like my time is being disrespected or I'm expected to be on call then I'll just block them. | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? " This happens to, I would hazard a guess and say the vast amount of Guys on here. I always send messages which are respectful etc. I usually don’t get a reply at all, or in some cases are blocked altogether with no explanation. A simple no thanks would be sufficient. I don’t take offence. Just no response is a bit odd. | |||
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"I normally get a block after sending messages back and forward and they ask for face pic send it then I'm blocked ?? others who do read my profile and say not for me we go our separate ways no hard feelings.if I don't get a response I just leave it at that I normally get immediately blocked for telling someone on a thread about blocking that they are over reacting when they block anyone who doesn’t respond immediately. " You can’t use the forum for that! You can’t use them to get around a block and fyi people can block over rude forum interactions if they so wish! | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? This happens to, I would hazard a guess and say the vast amount of Guys on here. I always send messages which are respectful etc. I usually don’t get a reply at all, or in some cases are blocked altogether with no explanation. A simple no thanks would be sufficient. I don’t take offence. Just no response is a bit odd." A no response is a no thank you in the rules of fab. | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? " I don't always have my profile open. Yesterday I had a decent number of messages in. I answered some. No thank you (I block) I answered some bit of chat I happen to stop , go have dinner come back... Had a second message from someone I'd replied to (before dinner) ..went to reply.. they had blocked me !!? Yes it's their choice but most guys know /acknowledge that a woman's inbox is busy So yes you think they would have a bit more patience especially when they post enough threads about them never getting messages/meets Nowt as funny as folk | |||
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"I've never sent a message first, as yet so don't know lol.. But do block if they keep sending messages and I haven't replied" Yes. I have sent replies saying i'm not interested and they still message. I do block those | |||
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"Having read a few threads here, I’m going to say that person messaged you, saw you didn’t respond after what *they felt* was a decent amount of time to expect a reply and didn’t want to get all excited about you next time they see your profile, go to message, and see they’ve already done so in the past, so it’s a ‘strategy block’. To prevent them from wasting their time again. And perhaps yours although I might be being generous with that last bit." That makes sense | |||
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"This is a bit contentious for me If I’m regularly talking to someone and they read and don’t reply, or read and log off it can annoy me. But it more depends on the mood I’m in as my life doesn’t evolve around here so I understand others don’t. I’m more of if you don’t want to talk anymore then tell me. With regards to a new message if they read and don’t reply then I guess they’re not interested after about an hour. So I will block just so I don’t resend another one. It may mean I miss “the one” but it seems to work for me " I will sometimes read and then log off without replying. This place has to come 2nd to my 'real life ' priorities. People surely shouldn't take offense at this. | |||
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"I wont lie. I normally leave the read messages for a couple of days, a week at the most. Then I delete the thread after that. In general though. I never knew people waited before replying. Now I know that il give it time. " I usually reply straight away, but its a short reply or a "no not for me" reply. When I read a message and think, "that deserves a longer more detailed reply" I will wait until I am able to sit down and actually type it without feeling rushed. So I can leave people read for a few hours sometimes without replying | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? " If someone blocks like that I'd say they were very high maintenance and it makes a great filter | |||
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"This is a bit contentious for me If I’m regularly talking to someone and they read and don’t reply, or read and log off it can annoy me. But it more depends on the mood I’m in as my life doesn’t evolve around here so I understand others don’t. I’m more of if you don’t want to talk anymore then tell me. With regards to a new message if they read and don’t reply then I guess they’re not interested after about an hour. So I will block just so I don’t resend another one. It may mean I miss “the one” but it seems to work for me " Totally get this. With us we can't always be on at the same time so we might quickly read it and reset as unread for the other. We try to make sure the other reads any we find interesting as quick as possible or might message saying one has read and will reply properly when other has read it. It's the cannundrum that the fab rule of no reply means not interested creates. It doesn't take long to reply and of course for some there are so many more messages that one wants to read and maybe get excited about and for a couple it creates another problem if both need to read it first. If it's read and left with no reply and we've noticed the person has been on once or twice since reading then we just move on usually by blocking as there's no point in sending another message again aka fab rules. Some would say why not just leave it without blocking? Well as Sapiosexuals if we feel someone isn't interested then the switch goes off anyway so no point in letting them think otherwise later on. | |||
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"Having read a few threads here, I’m going to say that person messaged you, saw you didn’t respond after what *they felt* was a decent amount of time to expect a reply and didn’t want to get all excited about you next time they see your profile, go to message, and see they’ve already done so in the past, so it’s a ‘strategy block’. To prevent them from wasting their time again. And perhaps yours although I might be being generous with that last bit." Completely this. And there are loads more who will engage. It may not lead anywhere but you feel the respect of going to the bother of initially sending a message of interest. Remember it's only initial interest and that can change after some conversation. | |||
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"Just treat people with respect. If you were chatting to someone in the pub, you wouldn't just mid sentence walk off and not say anything. So why do it online, not just fab but anywhere on line. It literally takes seconds to say "gotta go, chat later" then the other person is not waiting for something your not sending. Just common courtesy. Just because this is swinging site, we're all still people. If this would be seen as unreasonable from someone then they are not the sort of person I want fucking me, men or women. Just my point of view. Not everyone agree I know lol xx" | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? " 6 weeks normally | |||
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"This happened to me this week, except mine was an insult and i didn't get chance to reply. Some people are just sad." It’s happened to me , it’s quite irritating not being able to have your say when it happens | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? " I usually give it a day - 24hrs - then put a private note on the profile and delete from my sent box. I've never blocked anyone because they not replied because, you never know, they may at a later date. | |||
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"This happened to me this week, except mine was an insult and i didn't get chance to reply. Some people are just sad. It’s happened to me , it’s quite irritating not being able to have your say when it happens " It really is! Sometimes you just want to snap back in defense, but they have taken that chance away, grrr. | |||
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"If a message is read and I don’t get a reply after 7 days, I’ll delete it and probably block strategically so I don’t message them again and appear annoying or needy, as they’re clearly not interested I’ll delete an unread sent message after 7 days but won’t block, just in case they’re ploughing through thousands of messages and haven’t yet got to mine… that way if they do by some miracle have some interest it’s a nice surprise to get a reply A reply saying no thank you means I’ll block them, again, to prevent me messaging them again So blocking for me isn’t being petty and spiteful, but just means I can manage my time better " | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? " Us guys are told that on here often enough that if we don't recieve a reply it's means not interested. Speaking for myself if I don't get a reply after a certain time or my message is deleted I block people. Reason I do this is mainly that I do not waste my time and theirs by repeatedly messaging and get myself thrown out of the site. There's no malice in this I am trying to follow the rules and it's for mine and others benifit | |||
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"Had a strange one for me today. Had a guy message me a few hours ago, was a nice message but I was only popping on so read it and fully intended to reply once I had a bit more time. Just went to reply and he has blocked me lol Now im not bothered by this, each to their own, its just a first for me. Maybe he thought because I had read and not replied that I wasnt interested. So I am wondering, how long do you wait for a reply before assuming you wont be getting one? Us guys are told that on here often enough that if we don't recieve a reply it's means not interested. Speaking for myself if I don't get a reply after a certain time or my message is deleted I block people. Reason I do this is mainly that I do not waste my time and theirs by repeatedly messaging and get myself thrown out of the site. There's no malice in this I am trying to follow the rules and it's for mine and others benifit " A prince among thieves! | |||
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"I replied to a message 9 months after it was first sent... So many variables - mood, situation, energy, life! " Good to know I'll be patient | |||
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