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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

happiness and maturity (as in growing older).

I am inclined to think we become happier, more content and we focus more on the positive as we get older.

What is your experience? And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And what makes us be more content as we grow older? "

Acceptance of many things.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

Acceptance of many things."
I find I accept things that I would not have before and have become less tolerant of things I never thought would bother me before. Is that your experience as well?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

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"happiness and maturity (as in growing older).

I am inclined to think we become happier, more content and we focus more on the positive as we get older.

What is your experience? And what makes us be more content as we grow older? "

Good question... Happiness in suspect comes from having opportunities, choices, health, wealth, achievement, significant personal relationships... And conversely unhappiness the lack of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello beautiful hope all is well with you

I find I get happy the old I get because as I get old I stop caring what others think off me

Wished I would have thought this way 10 years ago

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

Acceptance of many things.I find I accept things that I would not have before and have become less tolerant of things I never thought would bother me before. Is that your experience as well? "

Yes I think refining which battles we pick probably based on our experiences or wisdom of what serves us well.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"happiness and maturity (as in growing older).

I am inclined to think we become happier, more content and we focus more on the positive as we get older.

What is your experience? And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

Good question... Happiness in suspect comes from having opportunities, choices, health, wealth, achievement, significant personal relationships... And conversely unhappiness the lack of the above. "
I can see where you are coming from. But what about things that irk us... annoy us... makes us feel we want to change things? Have they changed for you over the years?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

Acceptance of many things.I find I accept things that I would not have before and have become less tolerant of things I never thought would bother me before. Is that your experience as well? "

I'm definitely less tolerant of a lot of things but I accept the fact that I can't change a lot of it so just try not to put myself in that position in the first place.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Hello beautiful hope all is well with you

I find I get happy the old I get because as I get old I stop caring what others think off me

Wished I would have thought this way 10 years ago "

Hello my lovely - you completely read my mind here. I was never THAT worried about what others think but I really don't even think about it these days, sometimes to the shock and horror of my close friends. Bad, isnt it?

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

Acceptance of many things.I find I accept things that I would not have before and have become less tolerant of things I never thought would bother me before. Is that your experience as well?

Yes I think refining which battles we pick probably based on our experiences or wisdom of what serves us well. "
I guess priorities change over time? Like climate change is important to me now but was not as much of a focus when I was in my twenties.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

Acceptance of many things.I find I accept things that I would not have before and have become less tolerant of things I never thought would bother me before. Is that your experience as well?

I'm definitely less tolerant of a lot of things but I accept the fact that I can't change a lot of it so just try not to put myself in that position in the first place."
It is kind of the wisdom of knowing what you CAN change, eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be exactly as we are and not what others expect us to be

To own our flaws

To accept that we can't change what happens or what people do but we can control how we react.

Expect nothing

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Oh I don't know, there seems to be a point where the old start grumbling/being generally a fuck lot more grumpy than younger generations. Are more cynical and jaded. That comes through whether in messages, interactions f2f...

But, let's go with the OP. I think that as people age they know themselves more. Are generally more accepting of who they are, know what works for them and what doesn't. Less focused on perception of others and happier to be themselves. Maybe with old age comes a certain self wisdom, realising what's important to them and what's not.

These are massive generalisations though.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

An attitude of gratitude

giving gratitude for what we do have no matter how small it seems to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"happiness and maturity (as in growing older).

I am inclined to think we become happier, more content and we focus more on the positive as we get older.

What is your experience? And what makes us be more content as we grow older? "

I've less time for bullshit and drama.

I just like my peace and quiet now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello beautiful hope all is well with you

I find I get happy the old I get because as I get old I stop caring what others think off me

Wished I would have thought this way 10 years ago

Aww thank you and no I think it’s a good thing as the people that think like that aren’t worth my time as I get old I find I don’t have time for the pettiness off them x

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"To be exactly as we are and not what others expect us to be

To own our flaws

To accept that we can't change what happens or what people do but we can control how we react.

Expect nothing "
Love this - especially the bit about flaws!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"happiness and maturity (as in growing older).

I am inclined to think we become happier, more content and we focus more on the positive as we get older.

What is your experience? And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

Good question... Happiness in suspect comes from having opportunities, choices, health, wealth, achievement, significant personal relationships... And conversely unhappiness the lack of the above. I can see where you are coming from. But what about things that irk us... annoy us... makes us feel we want to change things? Have they changed for you over the years?"

Yes I think it works both ways, those things we want to rule into our lives and those we want to rule out. As youngsters we are blessed with huge passion and ignorance... Everything is achievable... Energy is endless. As we mature we understand a little more our place in the world and how insignificant many things are. Probably the biggest irritant for me now is the lack of community and respect as we evolve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

Acceptance of many things.I find I accept things that I would not have before and have become less tolerant of things I never thought would bother me before. Is that your experience as well?

I'm definitely less tolerant of a lot of things but I accept the fact that I can't change a lot of it so just try not to put myself in that position in the first place.

It is kind of the wisdom of knowing what you CAN change, eh?

Something like that

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Oh I don't know, there seems to be a point where the old start grumbling/being generally a fuck lot more grumpy than younger generations. Are more cynical and jaded. That comes through whether in messages, interactions f2f...

These are massive generalisations though. "
Of course, these are generalisations, I agree. I just hear this a lot from people of my age group that they are more self-accepting and therefore less anxious to please others = happier.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think some people do

But others are still mired in the misery of past experiences that they can't/won't let go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To own our flaws"

By this, do you mean learning to live with them, spotting when they might occur and using that knowledge to decrease their impact on others?

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"An attitude of gratitude

giving gratitude for what we do have no matter how small it seems to us."
Love it - gratitude in itself is such an important part of contentment. Looking at what is good in your life... can make you feel better instantly...

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I think some people do

But others are still mired in the misery of past experiences that they can't/won't let go"

Yes, very much this.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"happiness and maturity (as in growing older).

I am inclined to think we become happier, more content and we focus more on the positive as we get older.

What is your experience? And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

I've less time for bullshit and drama.

I just like my peace and quiet now."
Maybe it has something to do with wanting a more peaceful life.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"happiness and maturity (as in growing older).

I am inclined to think we become happier, more content and we focus more on the positive as we get older.

What is your experience? And what makes us be more content as we grow older?

Good question... Happiness in suspect comes from having opportunities, choices, health, wealth, achievement, significant personal relationships... And conversely unhappiness the lack of the above. I can see where you are coming from. But what about things that irk us... annoy us... makes us feel we want to change things? Have they changed for you over the years?

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"I think some people do

But others are still mired in the misery of past experiences that they can't/won't let go"
I have seen that in people who are still embittered about things that happened decades before. This can truly ruin somebody's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I believe that with age you are becoming more comfortable with (1) who you are and (2) less inclined to give in to societal expectations of how you should be, especially related to your gender.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Yes, I believe that with age you are becoming more comfortable with (1) who you are and (2) less inclined to give in to societal expectations of how you should be, especially related to your gender.

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So true!! You know, that is really my own experience. I do not conform to what is expected of me being a woman. If I do it is because I choose to do it.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Yes, I believe that with age you are becoming more comfortable with (1) who you are and (2) less inclined to give in to societal expectations of how you should be, especially related to your gender.

I agree with this ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To own our flaws

By this, do you mean learning to live with them, spotting when they might occur and using that knowledge to decrease their impact on others?"

Yes that exactly. To own your flaws means having self awareness and understanding the impact it can have on others because if you don't there is no growth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be exactly as we are and not what others expect us to be

To own our flaws

To accept that we can't change what happens or what people do but we can control how we react.

Expect nothing Love this - especially the bit about flaws!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"happiness and maturity (as in growing older).

I am inclined to think we become happier, more content and we focus more on the positive as we get older.

What is your experience? And what makes us be more content as we grow older? "
I think you are either content or not, I think their are things I would change about the way I lived and things I would do but all in all I've lived a useful life and still have some to live

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I think some people do

But others are still mired in the misery of past experiences that they can't/won't let goI have seen that in people who are still embittered about things that happened decades before. This can truly ruin somebody's life. "

Very much so..

Moving on is very hard for some... Experience right here.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I was at the height of my confidence in my 40s. Then peri menopause hit and that dragged it down. Back to being pretty confident in my skin, though I still don't like my mum tum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To own our flaws

By this, do you mean learning to live with them, spotting when they might occur and using that knowledge to decrease their impact on others?

Yes that exactly. To own your flaws means having self awareness and understanding the impact it can have on others because if you don't there is no growth"

Agreed.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Realising the things that you felt were important aren’t that important and so you can live much more in peace with yourself.

Feeling so much more comfortable with your body, yourself comes with age too.

It all helps you develop a somewhat ‘don’t give a fuck what people think’ attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not really matured and am still a total car wreck, hence why I'm here and not in a "meaningful relationship" but I've developed the self awareness to realise that. Swingle for life ;-p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm much happier and more positive than when I was younger. Perhaps learning to only worry about the things in my control and largely ignoring the rest?

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over a year ago

"I'm much happier and more positive than when I was younger. Perhaps learning to only worry about the things in my control and largely ignoring the rest? "

You spend all day in the Care Home looking at boobs, bound to make any guy happy!

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By *aidbacklover2021Man
over a year ago

perth

I fine pleasure in the simple things. Grateful for each day I spend on earth.

Love to see nature in my garden notice more wildlife and appreciate the miracle of it all .

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over a year ago

"I'm much happier and more positive than when I was younger. Perhaps learning to only worry about the things in my control and largely ignoring the rest?

You spend all day in the Care Home looking at boobs, bound to make any guy happy!

That's only one the days you come in for Burlesque hour

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