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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why does it seem acceptable for women and couple to far shame men in messages or posts and not pulled up on it and, still have meets? If a single guy was to do the same, he would be void of contact on fab?? Both are wrong to do but thought we could discuss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I can't comment on people's DMs to know if this is the case? Haven't really seen it much on threads either though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s never acceptable no mater if the person is a woman man couple or tv/ts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I can't comment on people's DMs to know if this is the case? Haven't really seen it much on threads either though? "

This. Its not something iv seen on the forums often but it's never acceptable.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Why does it seem acceptable for women and couple to far shame men in messages or posts and not pulled up on it and, still have meets? If a single guy was to do the same, he would be void of contact on fab?? Both are wrong to do but thought we could discuss?"
women rule remember that it's a fab phenomenon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does it seem acceptable for women and couple to far shame men in messages or posts and not pulled up on it and, still have meets? If a single guy was to do the same, he would be void of contact on fab?? Both are wrong to do but thought we could discuss?women rule remember that it's a fab phenomenon "

That's not true. Fat shaming gets called out on the forums regardless of the gender its aimed at.

I often see this comment that women rule in fab but no one ever gives any examples of how this is actually true.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Why does it seem acceptable for women and couple to far shame men in messages or posts and not pulled up on it and, still have meets? If a single guy was to do the same, he would be void of contact on fab?? Both are wrong to do but thought we could discuss?"

My advice would be don't waste time talking to or worrying about negative sad humans fuck em

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By *ermaine44Man
over a year ago

North Birmingham


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ? "

When stated like that I wouldn’t say so in my opinion. That’s a respectable way of saying it’s not for you.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ? "

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

If I fat shamed myself publicly would I get banned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

When stated like that I wouldn’t say so in my opinion. That’s a respectable way of saying it’s not for you. "

Totally agree.

The problem comes when people make statements about larger people for example there was A while back where someone said fat people are not hygienic because they can't reach to wash properly. Or another one that is often bandied about is I won't meet anybody but doesn't care enough about themselves to lose weight.

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what "

It means you carried that little bundle off joy for 9 months and you kinda let yourself go a bit love

Also, dinners not gonna cook. Itself *pats bum*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what "

I have to agree with this a mum tum is obviously there for a reason as a woman's body changes through pregnancy. Men do not go through the same body changes.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

its not just fat shaming there are plenty of us slim people who get nasty messages ang post shaming too ... it all wrong and should be reported as with any shaming

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I have to agree with this a mum tum is obviously there for a reason as a woman's body changes through pregnancy. Men do not go through the same body changes."

Exactly my point !! It's so stupid this terminology.. like a man just becomes a unhealthy slob once he's a dad.. a woman has changes and effects on her body to become a mother a man has fuck all .. makes no sense ..

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

As the famous legend Mike Tyson said .. " social media made you all way too comfortable to disrespect each other without getting smashed in the face for it"

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what "

I think it’s just a polite way of saying out of shape people who eat crap

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

I wonder if this happens but guys don’t mention it?

On three occassions this year I’ve had women or a couple randomly message me, making fun of my size, before blocking me. These are people I have not interacted with, both 1:1 or in the forums. Later I saw them posting on the forums and so I do believe they were genuine accounts.

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By *arriedcoupleNECouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I think it’s just a polite way of saying out of shape people who eat crap"

Wow, it did not take long for the thread about fat shaming men to descend into low level generalised fat shaming of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And just like that this post has become a vessel for fat shaming.

I am fat, I hate the term BBW but use it because people get the picture when it's used. I have a thing for very skinny men and I state it on my profile. Yes I do turn down people on here based on their size because its not what I'm looking for and that person has not read my profile. In the real world outside of fab I meet all kinds of people and size, shape, age or ethnicity isn't a factor.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


"I wonder if this happens but guys don’t mention it?

On three occassions this year I’ve had women or a couple randomly message me, making fun of my size, before blocking me. These are people I have not interacted with, both 1:1 or in the forums. Later I saw them posting on the forums and so I do believe they were genuine accounts. "

What nasty people: you dodged a bullet there as they were clearly not worthy of your time.

Most of us have *preferences* about physical type (I will admit that I certainly do but other personal attributes are more important) but it is never ever ok to fat (or thin) shame anyone.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

To paraphrase Winston Churchill (IIRC), responding to any such messages with 'I may be fat, but you're ugly...i can diet though' followed by a swift activation of the block button, is the way forward with such contacts

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I think it’s just a polite way of saying out of shape people who eat crap

Wow, it did not take long for the thread about fat shaming men to descend into low level generalised fat shaming of men."

Are you reading the same forum as us ?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I have to agree with this a mum tum is obviously there for a reason as a woman's body changes through pregnancy. Men do not go through the same body changes.

Exactly my point !! It's so stupid this terminology.. like a man just becomes a unhealthy slob once he's a dad.. a woman has changes and effects on her body to become a mother a man has fuck all .. makes no sense .. "

Not all fat people are slobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I have to agree with this a mum tum is obviously there for a reason as a woman's body changes through pregnancy. Men do not go through the same body changes.

Exactly my point !! It's so stupid this terminology.. like a man just becomes a unhealthy slob once he's a dad.. a woman has changes and effects on her body to become a mother a man has fuck all .. makes no sense ..

Not all fat people are slobs "

Or unhealthy

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I have to agree with this a mum tum is obviously there for a reason as a woman's body changes through pregnancy. Men do not go through the same body changes.

Exactly my point !! It's so stupid this terminology.. like a man just becomes a unhealthy slob once he's a dad.. a woman has changes and effects on her body to become a mother a man has fuck all .. makes no sense ..

Not all fat people are slobs "

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty, if someone calls me fat they are just pointing out the blindingly obvious, I am fat, it's that simple. I could dress it up with different titles but it's what I am, how it is said on the other hand, the delivery of the word fat is the important one.

"You're fat though"

"You're fat though!

The first line my opinion wouldn't be shaming but the second one perhaps could be.

And as for "dad bods", I guess the poster with the 6 pack is correct with what he is saying, I prefer a man with a bit of extra weight and like the word BBW (cringe) it feels like a nicer way of putting it, having a thread entitled "larger men, fat man show yourselves" doesn't have the same playful ring as "dad bod"

If someone came on the forums saying they preferred larger women, fat women, bbws I would be all over that thread but then size is objective, one person's view of a larger person might be different to the person standing next to you.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

no need for any tags just state your dress/trouser size and be done with it ... mum bod dad bod bbw means nothing on here there are there no real guide to it just be honest and state your real size most women do wish guys would do the same (some do) no shame in who you are ... rugby player build is the one that amazes me most like what the hell is that ???

also lets not shame people for what they like size wise either.. most peoples first reaction to someone is visual sexual attraction size big or small will come into that and thats how things should be its not the be all but nobody should be shamed for what they like ...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Why does it seem acceptable for women and couple to far shame men in messages or posts and not pulled up on it and, still have meets? If a single guy was to do the same, he would be void of contact on fab?? Both are wrong to do but thought we could discuss?"

These posts annoy me.

Every single word in it is assumption. There is no truth in what is said in these types of posts - just interpretation.

These types of posts are divisive.

It is NOT okay for any person regardless of their gender to be derogatory toward another for what ever reason.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Of course it's wrong. But I dont think DMs should be controlled. I hope it didn't hurt too much. They are idiots and deserve the blocking.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ? "

Purely stating a preference is not shaming but these are often followed up with a reason behind the preference that could often be classed as shaming.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?


"no need for any tags just state your dress/trouser size and be done with it ... mum bod dad bod bbw means nothing on here there are there no real guide to it just be honest and state your real size most women do wish guys would do the same (some do) no shame in who you are ... rugby player build is the one that amazes me most like what the hell is that ???

also lets not shame people for what they like size wise either.. most peoples first reaction to someone is visual sexual attraction size big or small will come into that and thats how things should be its not the be all but nobody should be shamed for what they like ..."

That doesn't work either though.. for example, someone who is 5'2" and a size 18 is going to have a vastly different body composition and shape to someone who is 5'9" and a size 18, or someone 5'7" with a 36" waist versus someone who is 6'3" with a 36" waist.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Women can be as disrespectful as the like and nothing will happen to them.

In swinging as in life men are bound by a different set of rules. That's how it is

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By *WINGStars23Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

You should have re-named your post... Fabs Double Standards!

So many on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I have to agree with this a mum tum is obviously there for a reason as a woman's body changes through pregnancy. Men do not go through the same body changes.

Exactly my point !! It's so stupid this terminology.. like a man just becomes a unhealthy slob once he's a dad.. a woman has changes and effects on her body to become a mother a man has fuck all .. makes no sense ..

Not all fat people are slobs

Hahaha "

Im very plus size but no slob. I play gaelic football twice a week, swim twice a week and walk twice a week. I take sundays off. Im fit, can run and kick a ball better then plenty of slimmer people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I have to agree with this a mum tum is obviously there for a reason as a woman's body changes through pregnancy. Men do not go through the same body changes.

Exactly my point !! It's so stupid this terminology.. like a man just becomes a unhealthy slob once he's a dad.. a woman has changes and effects on her body to become a mother a man has fuck all .. makes no sense ..

Not all fat people are slobs

Hahaha

Im very plus size but no slob. I play gaelic football twice a week, swim twice a week and walk twice a week. I take sundays off. Im fit, can run and kick a ball better then plenty of slimmer people."

I challenge you to an arm wrestle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I have to agree with this a mum tum is obviously there for a reason as a woman's body changes through pregnancy. Men do not go through the same body changes.

Exactly my point !! It's so stupid this terminology.. like a man just becomes a unhealthy slob once he's a dad.. a woman has changes and effects on her body to become a mother a man has fuck all .. makes no sense ..

Not all fat people are slobs

Hahaha

Im very plus size but no slob. I play gaelic football twice a week, swim twice a week and walk twice a week. I take sundays off. Im fit, can run and kick a ball better then plenty of slimmer people.

I challenge you to an arm wrestle "

i counter challenge you to run the length of a pitch soloing the ball using only one hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I have to agree with this a mum tum is obviously there for a reason as a woman's body changes through pregnancy. Men do not go through the same body changes.

Exactly my point !! It's so stupid this terminology.. like a man just becomes a unhealthy slob once he's a dad.. a woman has changes and effects on her body to become a mother a man has fuck all .. makes no sense ..

Not all fat people are slobs

Hahaha

Im very plus size but no slob. I play gaelic football twice a week, swim twice a week and walk twice a week. I take sundays off. Im fit, can run and kick a ball better then plenty of slimmer people.

I challenge you to an arm wrestle

i counter challenge you to run the length of a pitch soloing the ball using only one hand "

Completed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man starts a "do ladies like dad bods" thread and someone says not my preference is this fat shaming ?

Dad bods cracks me up .. how are people going with this crap ? Does this mean a dad is fat? I'm a dad I've got a 6 pack and what

I have to agree with this a mum tum is obviously there for a reason as a woman's body changes through pregnancy. Men do not go through the same body changes.

Exactly my point !! It's so stupid this terminology.. like a man just becomes a unhealthy slob once he's a dad.. a woman has changes and effects on her body to become a mother a man has fuck all .. makes no sense ..

Not all fat people are slobs

Hahaha

Im very plus size but no slob. I play gaelic football twice a week, swim twice a week and walk twice a week. I take sundays off. Im fit, can run and kick a ball better then plenty of slimmer people.

I challenge you to an arm wrestle

i counter challenge you to run the length of a pitch soloing the ball using only one hand

Completed it "

I need proof

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Body shaming full stop is a total dick move whether its skinny People having a pop at fat people or the other way around. I have one simple rule in life.. don't be a douchebag.. don't like what you see, scroll on

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma

Isn't fat shaming the result of people on social media who were promoting their size as healthy and positive, being challenged on their size?

If someone randomly messages to say you are fat, isn't that just being a down right nasty person, who has nothing better to do?

Is there a difference?

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