FabSwingers.com forum: Abusive message

By *weet and Spice OP Couple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

We have just had our first abusive message from a single guy in around 3 years. Totally unexpected and unfounded. He even went on to threaten violence!

Have reported and blocked and know the general consensus will be to ignore it and move on, but in all honesty it does throw you and make you wonder firstly why people can be like that (we know keyboard warriors) and secondly whether this is worth the hassle.

We're not looking for sympathy as we know this happens a lot, just having a rant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nastiness stemming from frustration on a site where many men are ignored...

Those that get a kick out of abusing folk when there's no consequences.

Folk just being bellends

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I had the same today more or less telling me to stay away from a certain person...it's a shame People have to be like that..

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By *weet and Spice OP Couple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

"Nastiness stemming from frustration on a site where many men are ignored...

Those that get a kick out of abusing folk when there's no consequences.

Folk just being bellends

So true

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By *weet and Spice OP Couple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

"I had the same today more or less telling me to stay away from a certain person...it's a shame People have to be like that.."

Couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs

I just see it as a extra filter and dodged a built

As if they spit the dummy at a no thanks or what ever

Just think how much worse it could be in mid meet and they decided to do something out within your comfort range and you told them no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean, that shade of toe nail is pretty jarring, to say the least.

Maybe he had a point, but didn't articulate it very well.

...

Jokes obviously. Hold back the hammer of bans.

Still, yeah, that's clearly uncalled for, hopefully it won't be something that sticks in the mind once you've had a good vent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a sweet and sexy couple doesn't need to deal with this negativity, but it is an unfortunate fact of life. Rise above, report and block. Unless you want a specific set of skills, which can get expensive.

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

"We have just had our first abusive message from a single guy in around 3 years. Totally unexpected and unfounded. He even went on to threaten violence!

We're not looking for sympathy as we know this happens a lot, just having a rant!"

Unfortunally people like him are everywhere, just move forward

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Just had a quick browse, still can't see what to get angry about. I mean, you are both really sexy people and Mr looks really sharp in a suit, beyond that it's a mystery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have just had our first abusive message from a single guy in around 3 years. Totally unexpected and unfounded. He even went on to threaten violence!

We're not looking for sympathy as we know this happens a lot, just having a rant!"

Tbh it's a Jungle , with so many different types , some people can't handle rejection and unfortunately that's how they deal with it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think often the abuse comes from frustration, the person sending the abuse is rather unhappy because anyone who is feeling OK doesn't feel the need to abuse others simply because they say no or because they say something they don't agree with.

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I get loads mostly because I am Pakistani lol

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

First time is allways a shock! U wonder why or how people can b so vile! X

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I got abuse off a couple for not wanting to meet up straight away. Had both barrels off the shotgun from them, calling me fat, a loser, pathetic etc.

There’s an awful lot of insecure fragile ego’s on this site. Sorry you experienced that.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Proper arsebags, some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And it doesn't have to be abusive and threatening either to knock you off balance....and catch you by surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had it off couples. No cock cage no chat!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

There's odd bods in all walks of life and we get our fair share on here.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

The advent of digital communication has allowed those who feel disempowered, lacking in skills, etc to have the same or greater power / voice as those that they perceive as being above them and state things with impunity.

..... or

Anonymous communication allows idiots to be idiots, usually without consequence.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"We have just had our first abusive message from a single guy in around 3 years. Totally unexpected and unfounded. He even went on to threaten violence!

We're not looking for sympathy as we know this happens a lot, just having a rant!"
. Sorry to read that you have been abused it’s not right but unfortunately this seems to be happening a lot with online keyboard warriors. You don’t have to answer but on your profile it says British Indian Couple was the abuse related to you been Indian or a Indian male feel they are entitled to a meet because they are the same nationality as you.

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By *weet and Spice OP Couple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

Thank you all for your input/advice

No nothing to do with being Indian Cos19

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Thank you all for your input/advice

No nothing to do with being Indian Cos19"
. Ok that’s good to hear just that I have seen and witnessed things with the Indian community as well as the Greek and Turkish community that are involved in swinging where it feels like a entitlement that you are from the same community / background as someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really want to know what admin are doing about these because the abusive messages from men seem to be allowed to happen with no repercussions

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By *illycarrolCouple
over a year ago

n/cle on tyne

a lot of sweet talkers on here just do not understand people having the temerity to knock them back ffs

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

It’s horrible feeling had couple of very nasty guys make awful comments attacking hubby. Just try forgetting as had some lovely guys chat here to xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s horrible feeling had couple of very nasty guys make awful comments attacking hubby. Just try forgetting as had some lovely guys chat here to xx"

As damn that’s horrible

sorry to hear that!

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Just this minute had guy totally out of blue just insulting me from 1st message. Then blocked me I have absolutely zero idea what he got out of it ? Here for bit of fun chat to like minded people! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember this site has a lot of men who assume this site is for getting an easy fuck....but when it dawns on them that its not like that,they get angry and lash out

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By *lackroses85Woman
over a year ago

Between Norwich & Yarmouth

"Remember this site has a lot of men who assume this site is for getting an easy fuck....but when it dawns on them that its not like that,they get angry and lash out"

This! I've had guys abuse me because "this is a sex site and I shouldn't be so fussy" usually the ones with 20 pics of their cock on display x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're right about the been ignored part but I wouldn't abuse somebody just for not been interested

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Had quite a few in the few months I've been here.

Couple for asking for face pic before social meet.

Couple for insisting on social meet first before going back to hotel room.

Single guy profile who claimed to be part of couple, but was unable to provide details of partner.

Single female who I refused to meet when she suddenly mentioned male partner (after multiple conversations)

Many guys, who claim to have read my profile have a tantrum when asked why they think boundaries don't apply to them. (I say women only, not pegging guys etc). And I get 1001 messages ' I know you only seek women, BUT, .....meet me, fuck me, dominate me,peg me etc...

There is no But.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

This site now seems to attract any number of users with some alarming issues!

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By *amoruUsagiCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We have had a older man offered himself to be my sugar daddy, trying to give me money for sex.

My fiancé answered the message on my behalf for this old geezer to claim that my pictures were on Adult Work. He demanded the link and the username, which this geezer conveniently said he forgot then blocked us. Dude got reported and his account deleted. I deem that man as abusive and potentially extortive.

Then there is the bloke who used the “Nearby” part and asked us if we lived in the area and offered us “a free taxi ride.” That was weird and creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ingrained self entitlement from guys like that. We have had it too - we just ignore and block. Absolute losers....

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

New pic I never post pics like this as looks not for everyone but I’m shocked how many like pic. Made up for for earlier xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"New pic I never post pics like this as looks not for everyone but I’m shocked how many like pic. Made up for for earlier xx"

It's an amazing pic! It really shows off the hard work and dedication to get them and should absolutely be commended because I have serious ab envy. I could look like that, but I like cookies and doughnuts too much

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Thanks for complement glad you like and I do love cookies to xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone just called me a yiddo on chatrooms, wasn’t the nicest feeling in the world (they knew I was jewish)

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"Someone just called me a yiddo on chatrooms, wasn’t the nicest feeling in the world (they knew I was jewish)"

Sorry you had that abuse. Sending hugs. Report any abuse, when you can, as fab is better off without such people

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk/Essex

We just had a meet that went wrong. Our profile spells out our boundaries and we reaffirmed them in a message, but hands still went wandering where they shouldn’t. We terminated the meet there and then as we said we would. Before they even got to their car they sent an abusive message slagging us both off.

Mr takes these things in his stride but it’s really affected Mrs. Would love to name and shame but I know that will get us a ban and the mods would just delete the message but other people should know who they are.

It’s not fair that the innocent get punished and the dickheads get away with it. Reported them but they are site supporters so I doubt anything will happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone just called me a yiddo on chatrooms, wasn’t the nicest feeling in the world (they knew I was jewish)

Sorry you had that abuse. Sending hugs. Report any abuse, when you can, as fab is better off without such people "

Thanks, sending hugs back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Diego would forgive him and apologise for whatever he thinks we did wrong.

Play up to him and make him certain that he had the upper hand with lots of praise for his obvious manliness.

When he was nice and comfortable again Diego would then set up a meet somewhere nice and quiet and dark, maybe a dogging type of thing.

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By *s2pervsCouple
over a year ago

Truro

"Diego would forgive him and apologise for whatever he thinks we did wrong.

Play up to him and make him certain that he had the upper hand with lots of praise for his obvious manliness.

When he was nice and comfortable again Diego would then set up a meet somewhere nice and quiet and dark, maybe a dogging type of thing. "

We like Diego's approach...just how we do things round our way! Lol X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much of an abusive message but his recent update is about me,how pathetic

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