FabSwingers.com forum: Quick rant

By *werkfan87 OP Man
over a year ago

Mortlake

The toxicity and casual bigotry being openly displayed by members in here is disappointing to say the least!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. Shut the whole place down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Examples please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree. Shut the whole place down."

I love to see you stand up for what you believe in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's funny and kind shit too. Yin Yang eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree. Shut the whole place down.

I love to see you stand up for what you believe in "

I feel passionately about this place. Which is why I want to see it shut down.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Just block the bigot and move on...idiots will be idiots ...they don't get laid ..just ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Total cesspit.

But you know this, OP, you’ve been here since 2018, at least?

Tis the way of the world. There are some bigots (Ye fka Kanye West, is a fine example), but there are many many accepting, considerate people too. Don’t let the bad apples win. It’s them, not you.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Just go look at some boobies ..that always cheers me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok while we are at it … “you know who you are” fuck off / 357 verifications fuck off / “site supporters only” fuck off / “ no single men” fuck off / “ no married men” fuck off / “not meeting at the moment “ fuck off / “ only chatting to friends” fuck off . Have a lovely day everyone .

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I just ignore them op.

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By *werkfan87 OP Man
over a year ago

Mortlake

I've been here since long before 2018 so I know how it gets but I also see things have become so much worse and ultimately it's something that effects everyone here because if it continues more genuine people leave and more window lickers are left behind!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Now wondering if I'm a window licker

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I've been here since long before 2018 so I know how it gets but I also see things have become so much worse and ultimately it's something that effects everyone here because if it continues more genuine people leave and more window lickers are left behind!"

Isn't this you being guilty of exactly what you're ranting about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want me to go just say

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Now wondering if I'm a window licker

Same. Maybe we are Nanna.

Would a window licker know if they are one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now wondering if I'm a window licker

Same. Maybe we are Nanna.

Would a window licker know if they are one? "

They would if they were licking a mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Window lickers'

Classic

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Now wondering if I'm a window licker

Same. Maybe we are Nanna.

Would a window licker know if they are one?

They would if they were licking a mirror."

Ah because they'd question why they were licking a mirror and not a window? Good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 18/10/22 10:57:10]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got lost and licked the back door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now wondering if I'm a window licker

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Now wondering if I'm a window licker

Same. Maybe we are Nanna.

Would a window licker know if they are one? "

My tongue does feel kind of slimy.

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By *werkfan87 OP Man
over a year ago

Mortlake

And before anyone else PM's me abusive messages. If you take offence to me challenging toxic behaviour and bigotry please send all complaints to your nearest bin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And before anyone else PM's me abusive messages. If you take offence to me challenging toxic behaviour and bigotry please send all complaints to your nearest bin

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your not challenging it tho really are you you havent given any examples of it and then even used a similar kind of insult to describe the ones left behind

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By *werkfan87 OP Man
over a year ago

Mortlake

I didnt say I was challenging it here I highlighted it here. I challenged it in private when the messages hit my inbox.

Why exactly are you so keen to see further examples than the ones exhibited in forum posts on a daily basis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's funny and kind shit too. Yin Yang eh?"

Balance is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh cmon OP don’t let them get to you, just delete, block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, still don't know what you're specifically complaining about other this "this place is shit" for short.

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By *werkfan87 OP Man
over a year ago

Mortlake

It wasnt even comments aimed at me. I really don't care what people say or think about me. But I've seen good friends from here leave because of it, I've seen people have breakdowns because of it. So seeing it get worse and speaking to someone who is now likely to quit because of it made me decide to highlight it in open forum

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By *werkfan87 OP Man
over a year ago

Mortlake

And FYI I didnt say this place is shit. I highlighted an ongoing issue that makes things less enjoyable for people. If I thought it was shit I would leave

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Thats where the private note feature comes in handy! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I have to admit feeling a certain irony when someone complains of toxicity and says someone wrote r*tard on their car, but then describes people as 'window lickers.'

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

But the things you've mentioned up there ^ somewhere aren't toxicity or bigotry in my opinion, they're people's preferences and criteria for who they do and don't want to meet.

I'm confused (perhaps I'm a window licker), are you saying that we should all meet anyone who asks just in case we upset them by not meeting them? Or that we can only be on this site for specific reasons?

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By *werkfan87 OP Man
over a year ago

Mortlake

I'm happy people are seeing the irony behind it. But confused why it's an issue now but not when its read directed at specific individuals in other forum feeds? The mind boggles

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By *werkfan87 OP Man
over a year ago

Mortlake

And I made no mention of peoples preferences about who they meet?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Spousal bereavement is upsetting at the best of times. If a Widow requires licking as a form of 'coping mechanism', this gentleman may, at a push, oblige.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didnt say I was challenging it here I highlighted it here. I challenged it in private when the messages hit my inbox.

Why exactly are you so keen to see further examples than the ones exhibited in forum posts on a daily basis? "
your own words

And before anyone else PM's me abusive messages. If you take offence to me challenging toxic behaviour and bigotry please send all complaints to your nearest bin

Examples give context its about the details

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"I'm happy people are seeing the irony behind it. But confused why it's an issue now but not when its read directed at specific individuals in other forum feeds? The mind boggles"

Because I haven't personally seen the forum threads you speak of.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

The problem is that even though the site is supposedly for swingers and the sexually enlightened, it's still populated by people.

Amd people, yknow, suck.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

*licks window*

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"The toxicity and casual bigotry being openly displayed by members in here is disappointing to say the least! "
I work for the samaritans can I help you in any way?

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

"Spousal bereavement is upsetting at the best of times. If a Widow requires licking as a form of 'coping mechanism', this gentleman may, at a push, oblige.

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How deliciously irreverent

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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago

wirral

I've realized I've been doing it wrong all this time, I've licked balls instead of windows.

I feel so embarrassed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And FYI I didnt say this place is shit. I highlighted an ongoing issue that makes things less enjoyable for people. If I thought it was shit I would leave"

All I can say is the advice I was given. If you have reason to do so, report it. If you try to deal with it yourself directly you may well end up falling foul of forum/site rules by default.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very quick rant with no substance backed by no evidence

C+ just because I'm feeling generous

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"I didnt say I was challenging it here I highlighted it here. I challenged it in private when the messages hit my inbox.

Why exactly are you so keen to see further examples than the ones exhibited in forum posts on a daily basis? "

Because providing details, context, and evidence goes a long way to supporting your claim and rallying to your cause.

A simple rant is an irritant to people, an open discussion however is welcoming to most (not all). You unwillingness to provide contextual evidence for your cause does not really muster any form of interest in what you are saying other than to pass the time and ease bordem by making light of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paul you’re a legend .. the gobshites have gathered in their droves .

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

"Ok while we are at it … “you know who you are” fuck off / 357 verifications fuck off / “site supporters only” fuck off / “ no single men” fuck off / “ no married men” fuck off / “not meeting at the moment “ fuck off / “ only chatting to friends” fuck off . Have a lovely day everyone . "

No married or straight single men

Fucking right, I stand by that decision too because its added hassle on our lives we don't need and the sooner they start getting the fucking hint the better.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Could you at least give one example?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

What have I missed?

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

"And I made no mention of peoples preferences about who they meet?"

^^ your words

I'd argue that more than one of those are preferences, why should someone fuck off (as you so eloquently put it) because they don't want to meet married men? (using just one of the above as an example).

I'm not saying that there aren't examples of bigotry to be seen on this site, but I think having an understanding of the words being used during a discussion always helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What have I missed?

Bugger all

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"What have I missed?

Bugger all

I’m not sure if I’m disappointed or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, this is going swimmingly.

Peace and love innit.

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Every online community has the same range of individuals. Good, bad, ugly, passive, aggressive.

From car clubs, to trains, to d&d nerds, techies, to swingers.

You get what you want from the site and report, block the individuals who spoil it for others.

Simples

A_elia

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

People can put anything they like on their profiles(within reason)

You don't have to like it, you just need to get over it

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