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By *iss Mia OP   Woman
over a year ago

bristol

So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely had a thing for older women when I was younger. I suspect looking at your pics though, it's not just because you are older

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By *hiskeyColaMan
over a year ago

Oswestry


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

You bet it's a real thing Mia! The best sex I ever had was with a forty year old mother of two when I was, like, twenty five x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

I like older women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always had a major thing for a matriarchal female… “desperation” has never entered the equation for me at least

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By *werkfan87Man
over a year ago

Mortlake

It's probably a mixture. One of my friends gets approached by younger men. Some think it will be easier to get an older woman and they tend to be very rude if they're rejected. Some have a fetish and then there are an elite few who appreciate the explosive mental and physical exhilaration of a beautiful mature woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak for everyone, as you'll always get everything and sundry in between.

As to viewing older women as easier, meh, I'm not so sure that's even true from a technical stand point or from the perspectives of some men. From what I've heard it's basically impossible regardless.

Personally, it's about the individual. A fine woman is a fine woman is a fine woman. Now I loathe the age is just a number phrase, it isn't, but people are individuals. Free to assess and choose compatibility in line with their own personal requirements.

To chose someone as suitable just based on age, would be ironically churlish, and hopefully sniffed out early doors if that sort of thing might bother someone.

So, I guess take each case on it's individual merits. If you feel objectified or disrespected, and don't want that, move on. There's always more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait... I think i am desperate?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

95% of my partners have all been older, on and off the site. I think I just prefer to be with someone with more experience than myself.

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By *werkfan87Man
over a year ago

Mortlake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know at that age I'm expecting you can do 2/3 of the following

- suck a good dick

- own home to accommodate

- string a sentence together without Dutch courage

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By *werkfan87Man
over a year ago

Mortlake


"Wait... I think i am desperate?!? "

Not a chance in hell you're desperate when you look like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't speak for everyone, as you'll always get everything and sundry in between.

As to viewing older women as easier, meh, I'm not so sure that's even true from a technical stand point or from the perspectives of some men. From what I've heard it's basically impossible regardless.

Personally, it's about the individual. A fine woman is a fine woman is a fine woman. Now I loathe the age is just a number phrase, it isn't, but people are individuals. Free to assess and choose compatibility in line with their own personal requirements.

To chose someone as suitable just based on age, would be ironically churlish, and hopefully sniffed out early doors if that sort of thing might bother someone.

So, I guess take each case on it's individual merits. If you feel objectified or disrespected, and don't want that, move on. There's always more. "

This!

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By *riental_brit_studMan
over a year ago

London

If anything older women are more confident. Over 50s women are sexy, in my opinion, because they are more experienced, unshockable and can be filty (which turns me on a lot).

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I do little surveys each time a youngster asks to meet and the answers are very varied from thinking I'm likely to b more experienced to knowing exactly what I want but yes it's a large proportion of my messages from 18 to 30 year olds! Would never meet below 30 but don't mind chatting to them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God, I’m going to be serious (), I do like older women no more than women of any other age but I like them because they generally enjoy similar conversation topics and have a similar in person vibe to me. On here, I don’t seek older women out though because it’s not something I fantasise or obsess over. But I’ve ended up connecting with older women and I imagine it’s for the reasons mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait... I think i am desperate?!? "

You are, hate to confirm your worst fears.

Honestly, try to do better.

Simon was only barely so so, we all thought it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To add, ANYONE that I message on this site or any other app, I am interested in genuinely. I know some people message for various reasons but unless it’s obvious it’sa box ticking thing, I’d assume someone genuinely likes me too.

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By *iss Mia OP   Woman
over a year ago

bristol

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

This is something I wonder also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t speak for the mob, but for me - when I’m attracted to a more mature woman, it’s often because I get the sense she’s worked out what she wants from a man and I know if we click, it’ll be dreamy all the way. The slight edge of taboo is like an additional plus. But attractive is attractive, and it’s never just about numbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the flip side, older women are more likely to say something offensive to me…

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By *iss Mia OP   Woman
over a year ago

bristol


"I definitely had a thing for older women when I was younger. I suspect looking at your pics though, it's not just because you are older "

Haha why thanks

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By *nexpectedExplorerMan
over a year ago

SA3

It’s a very genuine thing. If I even tried to go into it now this would end up as an essay, but maturity in all walks of life is a damn sexy thing. That’s not to say I’m only attracted to older people. I’m attracted to attractive people and that’s a whole picture of who they are. Variety is exciting and there are some people in their 20s who are incredible. Older women have always had a particular appeal though and as I’ve got older myself I still find them incredible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely had a thing for older women when I was younger. I suspect looking at your pics though, it's not just because you are older

Haha why thanks "

Flipped round, Mia - what is it you enjoy about younger men?

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By *he Gentleman CallerMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I think many men are keen on older women - genuinely keen, so many of your suitors will have been in touch for that reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait... I think i am desperate?!?

You are, hate to confirm your worst fears.

Honestly, try to do better.

Simon was only barely so so, we all thought it.

"

I'll take my teeth out next time for better suction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

I'm into older women, always have been, I like young ones too, ladies my own age also,, maybe I just like women. sexy, naughty, slutty women

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I am attracted to a broad range of women. This very definitely includes some who are older than I am. Absolutely a real thing.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"
why do you ask is it because you are warming to younger guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait... I think i am desperate?!?

You are, hate to confirm your worst fears.

Honestly, try to do better.

Simon was only barely so so, we all thought it.

I'll take my teeth out next time for better suction "

I don't think I've had a gumjob before . Difficult to see during 69

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By *rgasmicChemistryCouple
over a year ago

east coast

It's definitely a thing we have a couple on here where I found her really attractive but yet to meet i will probably last all of 5 minutes when we do lol she's smoking HOT x J

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By *iss Mia OP   Woman
over a year ago

bristol


"I can't speak for everyone, as you'll always get everything and sundry in between.

As to viewing older women as easier, meh, I'm not so sure that's even true from a technical stand point or from the perspectives of some men. From what I've heard it's basically impossible regardless.

Personally, it's about the individual. A fine woman is a fine woman is a fine woman. Now I loathe the age is just a number phrase, it isn't, but people are individuals. Free to assess and choose compatibility in line with their own personal requirements.

To chose someone as suitable just based on age, would be ironically churlish, and hopefully sniffed out early doors if that sort of thing might bother someone.

So, I guess take each case on it's individual merits. If you feel objectified or disrespected, and don't want that, move on. There's always more. "

Very good answer. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait... I think i am desperate?!?

You are, hate to confirm your worst fears.

Honestly, try to do better.

Simon was only barely so so, we all thought it.

I'll take my teeth out next time for better suction

I don't think I've had a gumjob before . Difficult to see during 69"

Oo gummy job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait... I think i am desperate?!?

You are, hate to confirm your worst fears.

Honestly, try to do better.

Simon was only barely so so, we all thought it.

I'll take my teeth out next time for better suction

I don't think I've had a gumjob before . Difficult to see during 69

Oo gummy job "

Gum shield job.

A taste of the future.

Maybe?

God can you imagine the noises haha.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

Personally, I don't like to be so blunt as to say I have a thing for older women (although I totally do). Talking about their age/referring to them as an "older woman" is something I avoid unless they bring it up. I don't want her to feel like her age is what's attracting me, I'm attracted to her not her age.

To answer your question though I'd imagine some guys pursue older women in the hope they might be easy.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Older women have always been a thing for me - it’s the confidence and has nothing to do with desperation.

I’d say if anything it’s harder to get an older woman as they can see through any BS. They’ve got the t-shirt and they also know what they want more.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait... I think i am desperate?!?

You are, hate to confirm your worst fears.

Honestly, try to do better.

Simon was only barely so so, we all thought it.

I'll take my teeth out next time for better suction

I don't think I've had a gumjob before . Difficult to see during 69

Oo gummy job

Gum shield job.

A taste of the future.

Maybe?

God can you imagine the noises haha. "

The noises are the best bit

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

I like them because they can tell me stories from world war 2 (I love learning about history)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always loved older women, not a desperation thing as mentioned by the OP, more an experience thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do genuinely prefer older women. I definitely don’t think that they are more desperate as a lot of the women I’m interested in have husbands haha

I had an experience with an older women when I was a bit younger and ever since I’ve really found older women very sexy.

I wouldn’t sleep with someone just because there’s an age difference though. I would have to be genuinely attracted to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait... I think i am desperate?!?

You are, hate to confirm your worst fears.

Honestly, try to do better.

Simon was only barely so so, we all thought it.

I'll take my teeth out next time for better suction

I don't think I've had a gumjob before . Difficult to see during 69

Oo gummy job

Gum shield job.

A taste of the future.

Maybe?

God can you imagine the noises haha.

The noises are the best bit "

I'll be the judge of that.

No really, I'm gonna visit sports direct tomorrow, I'm thinking you're a small right?

Do you have a favourite colour? I'm well polite like that. True gentleman.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I can only speak on behalf of myself but the truth is no. I've never had a thing for older women. Throughout my twenties, thirties and now forties, finding women my age or younger has always been the norm for me.

I've not been very successful with it mind you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait... I think i am desperate?!?

You are, hate to confirm your worst fears.

Honestly, try to do better.

Simon was only barely so so, we all thought it.

I'll take my teeth out next time for better suction

I don't think I've had a gumjob before . Difficult to see during 69

Oo gummy job

Gum shield job.

A taste of the future.

Maybe?

God can you imagine the noises haha.

The noises are the best bit

I'll be the judge of that.

No really, I'm gonna visit sports direct tomorrow, I'm thinking you're a small right?

Do you have a favourite colour? I'm well polite like that. True gentleman. "

Best make it neon green in case it gets lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait... I think i am desperate?!?

You are, hate to confirm your worst fears.

Honestly, try to do better.

Simon was only barely so so, we all thought it.

I'll take my teeth out next time for better suction

I don't think I've had a gumjob before . Difficult to see during 69

Oo gummy job

Gum shield job.

A taste of the future.

Maybe?

God can you imagine the noises haha.

The noises are the best bit

I'll be the judge of that.

No really, I'm gonna visit sports direct tomorrow, I'm thinking you're a small right?

Do you have a favourite colour? I'm well polite like that. True gentleman.

Best make it neon green in case it gets lost "

Glow in the dark, even better?

Lights out, it'll feel like something out of ghost busters

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By *ilks xXxWoman
over a year ago

East Mids


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

I have often wondered this x

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By *iss Mia OP   Woman
over a year ago

bristol


"It’s a very genuine thing. If I even tried to go into it now this would end up as an essay, but maturity in all walks of life is a damn sexy thing. That’s not to say I’m only attracted to older people. I’m attracted to attractive people and that’s a whole picture of who they are. Variety is exciting and there are some people in their 20s who are incredible. Older women have always had a particular appeal though and as I’ve got older myself I still find them incredible. "

Good answer. Thank you.

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By *aturingNicelyMan
over a year ago

The Valleys or DG5 area

I'm 55 and when I was in my early 30s loved my dates/ meets etc with older women, the maturity and life experiences were a turn on in many ways. Now I tend to look. Around my age or a little older. Maybe as younger women in general don't really go for maturer men unless they are wealthy/successful.

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By *iss Mia OP   Woman
over a year ago

bristol


"I definitely had a thing for older women when I was younger. I suspect looking at your pics though, it's not just because you are older

Haha why thanks

Flipped round, Mia - what is it you enjoy about younger men?"

I tend to go usually for men more around my own age. That said I am definitely attracted to the person, not the age. Takes me a while to build a connection with someone but it’s always very worthwhile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope older women are more desperate. It gives me hope for the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

BOTH!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been attracted to older women, problem is now I'm older than them so I've had to raise my upper age limit.

It's not really a limit, more open ended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also no man is going to admit going for an older woman because he thinks they’ll be easier to get.

They’ll all give a multitude of reasons why they love older women.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

°

I would interpret (or presume?) that a proportion of them are simply contacting you based on your merit and qualities, as opposed to your specific age demographic. But clearly a few others would have ulterior motives, well-intentioned nevertheless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

Naaaa it wouldn’t be as u the desperate one .

The older women is wise , she knows more , is intimidating and gives more fear of rejection .

The older woman never trusts a younger guy cause she always thinks she is in disadvantage cause of age gap.

Is not true. I feel attraction for some older ladies .

As a man and knowing how the male Brain works :

And this not apply to everyone as we all know .

In any matter the only difference is:

Is he genuine or is a charmer ?

Then u know the rest , n u find yourself ….

But u can’t start first from : is he ….

1- Desperate . trying to charme anything it moves from 18 to 99 .

Not treating you as an easy target .

2- Curious . specially when you younger , not cause is just 12/10 hot , u just wanna know how it feels to have a real woman and not just a normal kid like you .

3- Total into a older lady . Doesn’t mean likes them all , but totally into it .

4- Absolute prick who thinks you a mug

5- A sweetheart who would love to make love to you …

Genuine or charmer ? That is the only question .

Treat you as the weakest link , desperate cause is older ?

I don’t see that happen . Is more likely he be the desperate one and be a charmer to use any one .

Classic Macho .

Have I gone ok on this one ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think they're easier to get. I just find them easier to talk to as I find they cut through the BS which means I can be more open and honest with them as opposed to reading between the lines. I wil be honest though and say that while there are plenty of sexy older women, it would be tough to find myself in a position of dating someone much older than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies

Naaaa it wouldn’t be as u the desperate one .

The older women is wise , she knows more , is intimidating and gives more fear of rejection .

The older woman never trusts a younger guy cause she always thinks she is in disadvantage cause of age gap.

Is not true. I feel attraction for some older ladies .

As a man and knowing how the male Brain works :

And this not apply to everyone as we all know .

In any matter the only difference is:

Is he genuine or is a charmer ?

Then u know the rest , n u find yourself ….

But u can’t start first from : is he ….

1- Desperate . trying to charme anything it moves from 18 to 99 .

Not treating you as an easy target .

2- Curious . specially when you younger , not cause is just 12/10 hot , u just wanna know how it feels to have a real woman and not just a normal kid like you .

3- Total into a older lady . Doesn’t mean likes them all , but totally into it .

4- Absolute prick who thinks you a mug

5- A sweetheart who would love to make love to you …

Genuine or charmer ? That is the only question .

Treat you as the weakest link , desperate cause is older ?

I don’t see that happen . Is more likely he be the desperate one and be a charmer to use any one .

Classic Macho .

Have I gone ok on this one ?"

PS: you are a very attractive sexy hot lady , any men and any women of any age would love to put they hands on you .

Me personally , I’m in xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

That is exactly how some men's minds work and on here I would say most are not genuine. In real life I would say most are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies

That is exactly how some men's minds work and on here I would say most are not genuine. In real life I would say most are."

You would be surprised .

I heard many stories on dating app . Many ladies , pen pals , friends on WhatsApp , ladies I never met personally , as there was no match for dating .

And is shocking , the way men are treating our ladies . Absolute revolting . Specially husbands trusting them like rubbish .

They not genuine at all or maybe they are genuinely pricks .

So they have to deal with shit husbands and ahit sex predators

They are very sad and depressive with at home with a husband who doesn’t touch her for 8 years

Then has to deal with hundreds who just want to use her to make the dick wet and they tell her in her face .

They not ready for that . They just want to find someone to be there for them .

Is really sad … most men in general not genuine at all . They wankers . Sadly majority is

And is because of them that our game is so challenging .

The woman is always guards up x why ?

That’s the answer .

Saying that , not all ladies are angels either

I been there .

Respect .

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over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies

That is exactly how some men's minds work and on here I would say most are not genuine. In real life I would say most are.

You would be surprised .

I heard many stories on dating app . Many ladies , pen pals , friends on WhatsApp , ladies I never met personally , as there was no match for dating .

And is shocking , the way men are treating our ladies . Absolute revolting . Specially husbands trusting them like rubbish .

They not genuine at all or maybe they are genuinely pricks .

So they have to deal with shit husbands and ahit sex predators

They are very sad and depressive with at home with a husband who doesn’t touch her for 8 years

Then has to deal with hundreds who just want to use her to make the dick wet and they tell her in her face .

They not ready for that . They just want to find someone to be there for them .

Is really sad … most men in general not genuine at all . They wankers . Sadly majority is

And is because of them that our game is so challenging .

The woman is always guards up x why ?

That’s the answer .

Saying that , not all ladies are angels either

I been there .

Respect . "

PS: fabs is real life . And I chatted frustrated depressed house wifes trapped in shit wedding and mortgages here as well .

Is very very real .

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

when i was a young man i fancied older women its real,,

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By *urious is the VoyeurMan
over a year ago

Rickmansworth

When I was 24 I was seeing a lady in her mid 40s.

We used to fuck all night, not sure who got the most enjoyment but was certainly fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies

That is exactly how some men's minds work and on here I would say most are not genuine. In real life I would say most are.

You would be surprised .

I heard many stories on dating app . Many ladies , pen pals , friends on WhatsApp , ladies I never met personally , as there was no match for dating .

And is shocking , the way men are treating our ladies . Absolute revolting . Specially husbands trusting them like rubbish .

They not genuine at all or maybe they are genuinely pricks .

So they have to deal with shit husbands and ahit sex predators

They are very sad and depressive with at home with a husband who doesn’t touch her for 8 years

Then has to deal with hundreds who just want to use her to make the dick wet and they tell her in her face .

They not ready for that . They just want to find someone to be there for them .

Is really sad … most men in general not genuine at all . They wankers . Sadly majority is

And is because of them that our game is so challenging .

The woman is always guards up x why ?

That’s the answer .

Saying that , not all ladies are angels either

I been there .

Respect .

PS: fabs is real life . And I chatted frustrated depressed house wifes trapped in shit wedding and mortgages here as well .

Is very very real . "

Fabs maybe real life but it’s still not the same as meeting people offline! Leo’s point stands.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i didnt just fancie older women i fucked older women, loved it

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By *unfriendly 123Man
over a year ago

boston

When I was younger loved older

Now I'm older love younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a real thing, for some men.

Just don't do what I did, and marry one

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By *iss Mia OP   Woman
over a year ago

bristol


"I hope older women are more desperate. It gives me hope for the future."

Hahaha !!!

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Not from this site but best night I ever had was with an older lady

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By *P994Man
over a year ago

Travelling

From a personal perspective I generally tend to connect easier with people older than myself. I tend to find there’s less beating around the bush and older women tend to know what they want. Also in a lot of instances I think there can be over thinking, if you’re attractive you’ll get attention as guys will want to fuck you to put it crudely. The age part is irrelevant for that whether you’re 58 or 22, pictures on profiles will lead people to you and they’ll message based on what they see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The younger guy older woman is definitely about attraction rather than knowing the older woman is as you say "desperate ".

You have an amazing figure,51 jeez absolutely fantastic.

I had a thing for my aunt who was 25 years older than me, this simmered and bubbled for years and years with looks ,slight touches ,glances kisses then inevitably sex and was shit.

I'm kidding it was amazing wish I could turn back the clock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I like and older women x

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By *iss Mia OP   Woman
over a year ago

bristol


"From a personal perspective I generally tend to connect easier with people older than myself. I tend to find there’s less beating around the bush and older women tend to know what they want. Also in a lot of instances I think there can be over thinking, if you’re attractive you’ll get attention as guys will want to fuck you to put it crudely. The age part is irrelevant for that whether you’re 58 or 22, pictures on profiles will lead people to you and they’ll message based on what they see."

Fair point. Thanks.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.


"The younger guy older woman is definitely about attraction rather than knowing the older woman is as you say "desperate ".

You have an amazing figure,51 jeez absolutely fantastic.

I had a thing for my aunt who was 25 years older than me, this simmered and bubbled for years and years with looks ,slight touches ,glances kisses then inevitably sex and was shit.

I'm kidding it was amazing wish I could turn back the clock"

You fucked your aunt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The younger guy older woman is definitely about attraction rather than knowing the older woman is as you say "desperate ".

You have an amazing figure,51 jeez absolutely fantastic.

I had a thing for my aunt who was 25 years older than me, this simmered and bubbled for years and years with looks ,slight touches ,glances kisses then inevitably sex and was shit.

I'm kidding it was amazing wish I could turn back the clock

You fucked your aunt? "
damn right she's a hottie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums are a great filter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The forums are a great filter! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The younger guy older woman is definitely about attraction rather than knowing the older woman is as you say "desperate ".

You have an amazing figure,51 jeez absolutely fantastic.

I had a thing for my aunt who was 25 years older than me, this simmered and bubbled for years and years with looks ,slight touches ,glances kisses then inevitably sex and was shit.

I'm kidding it was amazing wish I could turn back the clock

You fucked your aunt? damn right she's a hottie "
she was more of a 2nd cousin twice removed distantly related kind of a deal So "Auntie" was easier, don't call the police

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Cycle a lot then

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire


"The younger guy older woman is definitely about attraction rather than knowing the older woman is as you say "desperate ".

You have an amazing figure,51 jeez absolutely fantastic.

I had a thing for my aunt who was 25 years older than me, this simmered and bubbled for years and years with looks ,slight touches ,glances kisses then inevitably sex and was shit.

I'm kidding it was amazing wish I could turn back the clock

You fucked your aunt? damn right she's a hottie she was more of a 2nd cousin twice removed distantly related kind of a deal So "Auntie" was easier, don't call the police "

"Alexa, play Sweet Home Alabama"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The younger guy older woman is definitely about attraction rather than knowing the older woman is as you say "desperate ".

You have an amazing figure,51 jeez absolutely fantastic.

I had a thing for my aunt who was 25 years older than me, this simmered and bubbled for years and years with looks ,slight touches ,glances kisses then inevitably sex and was shit.

I'm kidding it was amazing wish I could turn back the clock

You fucked your aunt? damn right she's a hottie she was more of a 2nd cousin twice removed distantly related kind of a deal So "Auntie" was easier, don't call the police

"Alexa, play Sweet Home Alabama""

Might watch Con Air now.

Ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The younger guy older woman is definitely about attraction rather than knowing the older woman is as you say "desperate ".

You have an amazing figure,51 jeez absolutely fantastic.

I had a thing for my aunt who was 25 years older than me, this simmered and bubbled for years and years with looks ,slight touches ,glances kisses then inevitably sex and was shit.

I'm kidding it was amazing wish I could turn back the clock

You fucked your aunt? damn right she's a hottie she was more of a 2nd cousin twice removed distantly related kind of a deal So "Auntie" was easier, don't call the police

"Alexa, play Sweet Home Alabama""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The younger guy older woman is definitely about attraction rather than knowing the older woman is as you say "desperate ".

You have an amazing figure,51 jeez absolutely fantastic.

I had a thing for my aunt who was 25 years older than me, this simmered and bubbled for years and years with looks ,slight touches ,glances kisses then inevitably sex and was shit.

I'm kidding it was amazing wish I could turn back the clock

You fucked your aunt? damn right she's a hottie she was more of a 2nd cousin twice removed distantly related kind of a deal So "Auntie" was easier, don't call the police

"Alexa, play Sweet Home Alabama""

Roll Tide!

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

As an adolescent I had many crushes over older woman on film and television. As I have got older, so have they obviously, but I still have take a fancy…. Oh and I still have a bit of a crush on my old primary school teacher.

I’ve have been lucky enough to have had some wonderful moments with a few elegant older woman. I hope I can admire the right lady again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last meet was 12 years younger than me, it appears he has always had a thing for older women, I dunno, I just know I had a good time lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good post OP,I've wondered what younger men see in older woman,and like you thought do they thing we are desperate, going by the replies it's nice to know they don't think that

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think it's very normal. I was in a packed rush hour train tonight and a 19-year old was coming onto me, loudly in front of everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you indulge him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

Absolutely genuine, i adore older women a few years ago i was seeing an older woman, best sex ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's very normal. I was in a packed rush hour train tonight and a 19-year old was coming onto me, loudly in front of everyone."

Statues come on to you you're so damn hot x

Also, was he ginger and did you get me his number ;-p

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

The life experience usually brings a sense of confidence and self realization I find very attractive. My preference is always older than me over younger than me.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Probably a few reasons:

1- young'uns consider it a kink

2- mommy issues

3- something to brag about to their mates

4- because they think older single women are easy

5- the emotional and intellectual maturity is all the more alluring than physicality of age. I find it easier to engage in conversation with older woman than I do with 20/30yr olds... and that mental connection adds oh so much more spark to a date

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By *uryWhipMan
over a year ago

Harringay

I've always liked older women however, Im heading towards my preferred age range so they're no longer older women...

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I've always just liked people that I've liked, never really bothered about asking age unless it became important in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive definitely never felt like an older woman is 'desperate' lol, for me its a mix of

1) Much harder to sleep with someone with an age gap compared to someone your own age, for example most tinder users are below 30. I guess its a bit like forbidden fruit?

2) Older women (And I presume older men too) seem to actually know what they like and actually participate in sex.

When I was a teen and in my early and early 20s, most women I dated or had any kind of chat with about this stuff either had no idea what they liked in bed or expected me to do everything.

3) Both the women i've had longer term chats with from here have been older women who arent getting enough at home (long term sexless marriage or a very vanilla partner) and both of them got freakier the longer they'd not been able to try the stuff they liked.

Getting freaky with someone who's not got any other chance to do it is something i'm into, cant explain why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"
honestly guys realise older women are better they're not chasing some insta fame, they know what they want and they're confident about it. Confident females rule, plus they're better in bed

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By *hocohung8Man
over a year ago

Norrh East & East midlands

I am not young but I am still having something for very young women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always adored older ladies when I was younger, but am now nearing the age when I may need to get a fishing rod and pose as a gnome at the local nursing home to attract one.

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I get a lot of messages from younger men...

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I get a lot of messages from younger men..."

I can see why though

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I get a lot of messages from younger men..."

26th January 2021, just the eyes in black & white. Stunning, classy, captivating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get a lot of messages from younger men..."
probably because you're confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction is a personal thing - never down to age but more the person. An older woman who has been messaged from a younger guy has obviously looked after their body well. And I can completely understand why you’re popular x

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

Age is a number and you Look like 30 but Yes young guys really loves older women. They taste different and they act different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally speaking an older woman has always been sexually attractive. There has never been an upper limit, be that a level where a woman stops being attractive because of her age. It is entirely her attitude and more importantly if she expresses and interest in me. I have never thrown an opportunity out because of someone's age and I doubt I ever will. Sexy is just that. 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh it really doesn't matter once they're on the same wavelength,both have the same wants , needs ,desire,and look forward to each other, when that happens it's crash helmet stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion if I may!

I myself am attracted to older women and I have always dated/had relationships with a woman older than myself.

Personally (this is my reason), other gents may have their own reasons.

But for me it is the fact that a older woman "I don't like to use that term", A more mature woman who I have a relationship with, I would like and want to know that I can have a intellectual convention with her about any and many things rather than getting annoyed about the minor things (this is only one small reason why of many reasons) .

I see that being more mature and also that coupled with having more life experience and knowing what she wants in her life is a very big attraction for myself.

Being with a woman who knows what she wants in her life and already has her own life planned out, I think that this gives her more time to give her time for to someone.

Intellect and confidence is a massive attraction in a woman for me.

There are many more reasons why, and I am only touching the surface for myself.

But this is just part of the reason that I am attracted and always will be attracted to a mature woman who has more experiences in life.

Its not just the, im young dumb and full of cum teenager milf thing "thats sad". It's the way she holds her self with life experiences and confidence. And mature women are just so much more attractive to me than a woman my same age or younger.

Please excuse my grammar and don't report me to the grammar police ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My opinion if I may!

I myself am attracted to older women and I have always dated/had relationships with a woman older than myself.

Personally (this is my reason), other gents may have their own reasons.

But for me it is the fact that a older woman "I don't like to use that term", A more mature woman who I have a relationship with, I would like and want to know that I can have a intellectual convention with her about any and many things rather than getting annoyed about the minor things (this is only one small reason why of many reasons) .

I see that being more mature and also that coupled with having more life experience and knowing what she wants in her life is a very big attraction for myself.

Being with a woman who knows what she wants in her life and already has her own life planned out, I think that this gives her more time to give her time for to someone.

Intellect and confidence is a massive attraction in a woman for me.

There are many more reasons why, and I am only touching the surface for myself.

But this is just part of the reason that I am attracted and always will be attracted to a mature woman who has more experiences in life.

Its not just the, im young dumb and full of cum teenager milf thing "thats sad". It's the way she holds her self with life experiences and confidence. And mature women are just so much more attractive to me than a woman my same age or younger.

Please excuse my grammar and don't report me to the grammar police ??"

But yes feisty younger woman are also very much fun. As I eat my words

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

When I was in my teens I had a very obsessive attraction to 2 of my mates mums (one in particular).

For me it wasn't about their looks - both would talk to me as if I was an adult myself and the conversation levels were so much greater than with 'girls' of my own age and that for me was part of the attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a genuine thing. I am hugely attracted to older women although I have never been with one considerably older than me. I would love to be someone’s toy boy lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of a mother in their lifes I guess

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

At my age it’s difficult to join in this thread

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

That’s something that puzzles me as well

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By *lowryderMan
over a year ago

Stafford

There is something very alluring about an older woman... some of the best sex I've had has been with women 15-20 yrs older than me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way of telling if it's genuine or not. On here, I'm very cynical and believe a lot of younger guys see older women as desperate.

When I've been chatted up by a few in person on a night out they've seemed genuine enough. Always thought they're fucking nuts though when I've looked around the place and clocked the gorgeous 30 something females that I'd have firing into if I was them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lack of a mother in their lifes I guess"

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By *risxbrisxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I love older women, ideally over 10-15 years older than me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a thing. Most of my messages are from younger men. They want / like the experience and also know a women is in her prime once she hits 40’s…

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I often choose older women because they are more forthright.

They know what they want, they communicate better and they mess you about a lot less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women get better with age. Never got the fuss about Gillian Anderson when she was in X-Files but nowadays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my mid 20’s I had an affair with 40 year old woman. She initialled it and got exactly what she wanted. I started very naive but she taught me all I know. For me she was so much more experienced, knew exactly what she wanted, how she wanted it and showed me how to do it. It was the most exciting time of my life… yet.

So I completely understand the attraction. Ultimately it’s a conference thing in knowing what they crave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it isn’t just about being older, it’s the independence that many have gained over time, the experiences they have collected that has led them to know what they desire, and how they will obtain that.

I’d certainly not say they’re more inclined to respond than younger women.

Hope that makes sense?!

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Older women are less demanding and more appreciative, a bottle of Stout and they’re anyones, plus you can usually get them to do a quick run round with the hoover before they leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Older women? Yeah, oh wait …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some women get better with age. Never got the fuss about Gillian Anderson when she was in X-Files but nowadays "

She was very hot as Margaret Thatcher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

I think they just think your a hot older woman etc etc!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a thing for older women. There is just something an older woman that really turns me on. Always seem to be a lot naughtier

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

I've always liked/preferred older women. No Oedipus complex here, merely a matter of acquiring a good dose of humanity and perspective through just living their lives.

I'm not into skinny women, and prefer the female form when it's not a bit of mileage, along with the extra padding which comes with it. My Missus is a big ol' bird, and she's three months older, which still counts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd guess it will be a mixture of every type, once chatting it's easy to separate the boys from the men. Personally, I have always had a better connection with people younger than me so not sure why anyone would think the same can't apply the other way around. I am not at all attracted to men my age based more on their mentality than appearance. If there's a connection/attraction then so be it. I have lower and upper age limits based on experience though there will be some flexibility.

Before the age jokes fly, no... I'm not 95

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look for younger guys on here. Many have the assumption that an older women is somehow more sophisticated, then I come along and shatter that illusion with my battered up doc martens and total lack of class.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look for younger guys on here. Many have the assumption that an older women is somehow more sophisticated, then I come along and shatter that illusion with my battered up doc martens and total lack of class.

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You're doing gods work Mrs Flame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's 100% a real thing. I can't fully explain why but there's a definite attraction to older women.

I think a big part of it is that they know what they want and like so it makes the whole experience so much better for everyone.

That's certainly been my experience with older women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some women get better with age. Never got the fuss about Gillian Anderson when she was in X-Files but nowadays

She was very hot as Margaret Thatcher. "

You've just ruined her for me

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Firstly to the OP, great post. Rare that I'd read every viewpoint but this post has been illuminating in many ways.


"I'm not into skinny women, and prefer the female form when it's not a bit of mileage, along with the extra padding which comes with it. My Missus is a big ol' bird, and she's three months older, which still counts. "

For me it comes down to this point. I've always been attracted to a thicker set body shape. Dadbod = yum. I don't do skinny either. So I guess it's the "MILF" these younger guys are into?

Also men my age are turning into Victor Meldrew! Stop it, it's not sexy!

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Maturity brings a self assured confidence, thats attractive along with life experience and experience in the bedroom - all very attractive traits - so I guess that’s a lot of the attraction of older women.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Maturity brings a self assured confidence, thats attractive along with life experience and experience in the bedroom - all very attractive traits - so I guess that’s a lot of the attraction of older women. "

Isn't that just a trope though?

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By *westUKguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

The older woman has always had that interest from younger guys from day dot, from 80s films, posters on the wall, lingerie catalogues or even your best mates hot mum

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Maturity brings a self assured confidence, thats attractive along with life experience and experience in the bedroom - all very attractive traits - so I guess that’s a lot of the attraction of older women.

Isn't that just a trope though?"

Possibly - and possibly driven by its accuracy it has become one? Although I have to say I don’t find many women older than me attractive as most women older than me are Dust!!

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By *ate888Man
over a year ago

London

To me there is this air of self assurance and confidence that older women possess. It has to be through life experience, and I think both men and women do have it.

This self confidence to me is innately sexy and attractive, and I think a lot of women aren’t aware that they have it, and this is where the confusion is when younger men approach them.

Like one example I can give was when my A-Level Biology teacher redirected me when I was going the wrong way, by grabbing my tie and pulling me back to where I should be. To her it was nothing, she probably did it completely by reflex. To me, I can still remember it 10 years later.

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire


"To me there is this air of self assurance and confidence that older women possess. It has to be through life experience, and I think both men and women do have it.

This self confidence to me is innately sexy and attractive, and I think a lot of women aren’t aware that they have it, and this is where the confusion is when younger men approach them.

Like one example I can give was when my A-Level Biology teacher redirected me when I was going the wrong way, by grabbing my tie and pulling me back to where I should be. To her it was nothing, she probably did it completely by reflex. To me, I can still remember it 10 years later. "

This doesn't make sense. You say "older women" are confident and experienced but are apparently too naive and delicate to understand when they're being hit on?

Women know when we're being hit on. We have to be constantly aware for safety reasons if nothing else.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

Young Lady, you've nowt to worry about. It is genuine.

Older women tend to have less teenage angst about them (which can last decades) and have learned to love the skin they are in. Confidence and a lack of mind games is very sexy.

Their tastes have changed and having your own place is always a plus.

Women have always looked up to the older guy, so why not turn the tables?

Nice arse on the staircase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always preferred older women.

I can't necessarily explain it, but from when I first started to look at women or girls in that way, I was more likely to fancy the teacher than a class mate.

I don't think older women are easier to get at all. I think it might be the opposite. Partly because they've heard all the BS before so none of the stuff guys usually try would work.

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By *ate888Man
over a year ago

London


"To me there is this air of self assurance and confidence that older women possess. It has to be through life experience, and I think both men and women do have it.

This self confidence to me is innately sexy and attractive, and I think a lot of women aren’t aware that they have it, and this is where the confusion is when younger men approach them.

Like one example I can give was when my A-Level Biology teacher redirected me when I was going the wrong way, by grabbing my tie and pulling me back to where I should be. To her it was nothing, she probably did it completely by reflex. To me, I can still remember it 10 years later.

This doesn't make sense. You say "older women" are confident and experienced but are apparently too naive and delicate to understand when they're being hit on?

Women know when we're being hit on. We have to be constantly aware for safety reasons if nothing else."

I think you need to read what I wrote again. The topic is of younger men messaging older women on fab. Of course women regardless of age are aware when they are being hit on, I never said anything to dispute that fact.

What I did say is there would be confusion about about “why are young guys messaging me/interested in me?”

I think that’s due to societal expectations, especially modern culture which fetishises youth above all else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me there is this air of self assurance and confidence that older women possess. It has to be through life experience, and I think both men and women do have it.

This self confidence to me is innately sexy and attractive, and I think a lot of women aren’t aware that they have it, and this is where the confusion is when younger men approach them.

Like one example I can give was when my A-Level Biology teacher redirected me when I was going the wrong way, by grabbing my tie and pulling me back to where I should be. To her it was nothing, she probably did it completely by reflex. To me, I can still remember it 10 years later.

This doesn't make sense. You say "older women" are confident and experienced but are apparently too naive and delicate to understand when they're being hit on?

Women know when we're being hit on. We have to be constantly aware for safety reasons if nothing else."

That's not how I read his comment. I took it as meaning some women aren't aware of their appeal to younger men which is pretty much what the original question was about too I think?

I don't think this is entirely a female thing either. As I've got older I don't really ever consider that much younger women might find me attractive and most likely they don't But my point being it's not even on the radar so if it were to happen it would be a surprise.

Having said that Ellen still gets plenty of appreciative looks from blokes of all ages but then perhaps she's more aware of it because of that female awareness you mention.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"The younger guy older woman is definitely about attraction rather than knowing the older woman is as you say "desperate ".

You have an amazing figure,51 jeez absolutely fantastic.

I had a thing for my aunt who was 25 years older than me, this simmered and bubbled for years and years with looks ,slight touches ,glances kisses then inevitably sex and was shit.

I'm kidding it was amazing wish I could turn back the clock

You fucked your aunt? damn right she's a hottie she was more of a 2nd cousin twice removed distantly related kind of a deal So "Auntie" was easier, don't call the police

"Alexa, play Sweet Home Alabama"

"

"Alexa, play Running in the Family"

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By *az87260Man
over a year ago

Cross inn

Myself personally is attracted to an older women always have been

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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As long as the only appeal isn’t age then I think it’s ok. Singled out to be a cougar or whatever is not at all appealing.

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By *lubchuckerMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Being of a more advanced age i find ladies of a similar age or older to be my preference, we have more in common i think and more able to understand each other.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

It’s definitely a thing.

It’s not my thing, but then I don’t really fetishise anything.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


"Being of a more advanced age i find ladies of a similar age or older to be my preference, we have more in common i think and more able to understand each other."

And obviously (but not exclusively) this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always been very attracted to older ladies and still am even at 52 !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally, it has nothing to do with thinking older women are desperate or a fetish.

I have always been attracted to older women. I'd say that it's the confidence and maturity that I like.

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By *aturingNicelyMan
over a year ago

The Valleys or DG5 area

Wish more younger women would want older men ..

I do miss being in my 30's when I first entered the swinging world, plenty of meets,some great people. No longer interested now I'm older.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

They are like schoolboys.

They think because you are older you will have pounded every fucker in sight and will have a wide ranging sexual repartee and will let them poke any orifice with their smooth untouched apparatus....

They also think you are low maintenance and will say yes to anything and are just DYING for a younger bloke cos they think they can pound away for hours and that is the mark of a good fuck .....

Oh ...and you won't ask for handbags and meals out and you have your own place to meet in ...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

ffs........... AN OLD THREAD

My hood has been winked again !

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"They are like schoolboys.

They think because you are older you will have pounded every fucker in sight and will have a wide ranging sexual repartee and will let them poke any orifice with their smooth untouched apparatus....

They also think you are low maintenance and will say yes to anything and are just DYING for a younger bloke cos they think they can pound away for hours and that is the mark of a good fuck .....

Oh ...and you won't ask for handbags and meals out and you have your own place to meet in ... "

Wait... Is this not true, Granny C?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I like to chat before meeting and I find that a lot of younger men lose interest fast. For some I think it's a tick box exercise. Others are convinced we know what we want. But every guy is different. I have definitely met very mature men in their mid 20s and very immature 50 year olds.

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Generally I prefer older women because they are much more forthright with you.

If they want something, they'll say so. If they don't want something, they'll say so.

No reading between lines and guessing hidden meanings.

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By *ogo1189Man
over a year ago

Rossendale


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

I’m miles away from you so assume I’m being honest. Too far to meet. I have a real thing for older women and your photos are definitely the kind which would catch my attention. Definitely boinkable

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By *annibal_LickedherMan
over a year ago

The Side of the Mersey

I have always had a thing for older women. Far from thinking of them as the easy option, I see them as being more likely to be selective about what they want.

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

I’ve only ever been with older women. I have sadly never had the pleasure of a younger one yet. But I will be trying a lady the same age as me this coming weekend but she’s still a month or two older so I’m not really breaking the habit of a lifetime!

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

When I was younger, I generally found that more mature women knew what gave them the most pleasure and didn't do things because they thought that's what men wanted regardless of if it actually was enjoyablefor them too. These combined meant the sex was better for us both.

That said its only a rule of thumb as some my age had it pegged (no pun) and some older would suggest things to do, that on deeper conversation didn't actually turn them on but 'all guys like that don't they?'

I knew some guys as we were heading into early 20s who had a mentality of wanting 'to bag a mature woman ' as some kind if tick box trophy or that 'older women are easier' and all basically failed due to having their bs sniffed out.

Apart from one lady who hung out at a particular uni bar, DD as she introduced herself, a swinger as I now know, married but had a thing for bedding younger guys and apparently didn't mind the motivation. A couger before I knew the term lol

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

Even some of my favourite celeb wanks are older women

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By *lagado19Man
over a year ago

Nomad

For me it was maturity level with regards to everything really. I’ve always been attracted to older women.

Women of all ages are obviously diamonds in their own way but at least the 45 plus mark doesn’t have the slightest hint of a love island mindset.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"For me it was maturity level with regards to everything really. I’ve always been attracted to older women.

Women of all ages are obviously diamonds in their own way but at least the 45 plus mark doesn’t have the slightest hint of a love island mindset."

I've never seen Love Island, what sort of mind set would that involve?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"For me it was maturity level with regards to everything really. I’ve always been attracted to older women.

Women of all ages are obviously diamonds in their own way but at least the 45 plus mark doesn’t have the slightest hint of a love island mindset.

I've never seen Love Island, what sort of mind set would that involve?"

Think Surf with Purf .... Essex. Bleach blondes , false boobs , vain and vacuous men ( mind you they all play a part for the camera ) It's everything you would not want for your own. To me is adult bodies housing the minds and behaviours of pubescents.

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By *niquemale17Man
over a year ago

Swindon

I have always preferred older women, the energy is different in a good way

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

In my youth there was a 'Grab a Granny' event every week at the local Palais. It was literally advertised as this. I was too young to attend.

Frank

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

44 weeks ago so you have probably moved on...

There's something so hot about a woman say 45 plus that still has an incredible body. There's a sexiness to a mature woman, whether that's life experience or just being raised better than damn Gen Z babies, who knows.

Nothing to do with easiness, though thankfully many hot older women do like attention from younger men and to be told that they pass for someone their own age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" to be told that they pass for someone their own age. "

We're old enough to know that this is utter bullshit though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Majority of my msgs are from younger guys. Many are more respectful than men of my own age & older & they’re refreshingly currently unjaded by life. Saying that, I don’t really take them seriously and take it for what is, fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like older women. I like women my own age and closer to my own age too. If I message any woman it’s pretty much nothing to do with her age at all.

I think on fab my age filters are broader than on any other site/ app I use to meet people which is reflective of the fact that on this site there are actually older women that like much younger men compared to other apps/ sites.

My older age limits are pretty flexible, I keep an open mind on connection and I know that them being older has no bearing on my attraction to them. I have lower limits of around 22 which I’m not going to budge on so I respect people having age boundaries. Just charge it to the game.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle


"So I’m 51 now and get a lot of messages from younger guys.

Can I ask; is it a genuine thing when they say they have a thing for older women? Or is it they think they’re more likely to get somewhere with us as we’re older and possibly more desperate ..? By the way I am definitely NOT saying older women are more desperate. Just wondering if that’s how mens minds work. Guys: please be honest with your replies"

My 2p worth is that some younger guys will think an older woman might not get as much attention on here as younger ones do so they are mire likely to be of interest as an older woman would be ‘flattered’ to get attention from a younger guy. So i think your original post is absolutely bang on the money! There will be some that find older women more attractive too ( im one!) but there will be lots that fall into your definition too xx

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By *az87260Man
over a year ago

Cross inn

I absolutely love older women there's many reasons too I believe

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I like it when yodas grandma wanks me off with her tiny 3 finger grip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define older?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may run out of time as the magic 175 approaches.

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