FabSwingers.com forum: Men pretending to me 'female' profiles

By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

On Fab last night with a friend who has a solo female profile so we opted to use hers rather than mine. And it caused me to ponder the following...

Fab is of course perpetually blighted by single men pretending to be couples and even more annoyingly single women. And it has also of course been asked in these Forums many times why they do this. And naturally everyone wades in with the "cheap thrill" and "satisfying fantasies" etc... type theories which are all undoubtedly valid.

However, seeing a single female's profile 'live' on here really hit it home to me just how much faster, more intense and livelier it is than being a bloke on a bloke's profile. I don't think I've ever had 50 'out of the blue' messages in all the time been on here. Yet here was my friend getting 50 an hour.... most likely more. And these Fabbers were sending her stories and jokes and confessions and private pics and private vids. It was engaging. It was entertaining. It was titillating. It was basically far more exciting! Far more so than me being on here just as me.

So I'll throw this into the mix too that, in addition to the standard reasons why men fake it on here, one of them is it is simply more 'fun' operating a 'female' profile.

Just my thoughts, feel free to add your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooo shes a lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To get social interactions and the like I guess ?

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"To get social interactions and the like I guess ? "

I think so. Yes. It had never occurred to me until I saw it from 'the other side' as it were.

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By *onglook83Man
over a year ago

happy town

As boring as it is sometimes, I’d rather be honest that get a cheap thill.

The real chat and thrills last a lot longer.

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"As boring as it is sometimes, I’d rather be honest that get a cheap thill.

The real chat and thrills last a lot longer.

Fully agree, I'm happy being me. But having 'outed' at least two dozen, likely more, blokes pretending to be women it has always puzzled me why they do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're on to something here.

I was originally here as a couple as we definitely had more interaction when compared to my single profile.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

So all the women who have single male profiles for "safety" reasons must use those for a little downtime then?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So all the women who have single male profiles for "safety" reasons must use those for a little downtime then? "

They do but then they ruin it by posing as gay men and fabbing all the pics.

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"So all the women who have single male profiles for "safety" reasons must use those for a little downtime then? "

That's news to me. I've never come across that before.

Very interesting too. I guess that's a post all of its own but do explain how that works please. Am genuinely intrigued.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Friends and I used to pretend to be a woman on a well known chat/cam site where guys get their dicks out, when I was an early teen. Any grown man doing that needs to give their head a wobble.

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"Friends and I used to pretend to be a woman on a well known chat/cam site where guys get their dicks out, when I was an early teen. Any grown man doing that needs to give their head a wobble. "

At least two 'fakes' I've outed confessed they were teens. One being a 16 year old lad. Sure, he could still have been lying but, due to road names on some pics he had on his profile, I'd 'found' his location and he was shit scared someone would come after him. He was so concerned I am sure he was then being being truthful.

So a certain % are definitely teens just dicking about.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"So all the women who have single male profiles for "safety" reasons must use those for a little downtime then?

That's news to me. I've never come across that before.

Very interesting too. I guess that's a post all of its own but do explain how that works please. Am genuinely intrigued. "

Some use them to browse on the site without hassle, some to keep an eye on guys they're interested in and some to chat to and befriend other women that they may see as direct competition.

I'm not going any further down that rabbit hole but I'm sure others can elaborate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men doing that probably also have some kind of deceit kink. In all honesty, I can’t see any innocence behind it. Just incredibly strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wank chat. It's nothing new.

Other men fall for it so they can happily wank chat together.

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"So all the women who have single male profiles for "safety" reasons must use those for a little downtime then?

That's news to me. I've never come across that before.

Very interesting too. I guess that's a post all of its own but do explain how that works please. Am genuinely intrigued.

Some use them to browse on the site without hassle, some to keep an eye on guys they're interested in and some to chat to and befriend other women that they may see as direct competition.

I'm not going any further down that rabbit hole but I'm sure others can elaborate. "

Well there you go. The 'browse the site without hassle' ties in directly with what I'm saying. A male profile gets precious little traffic whereas a female one is deluged. So it makes even more sense now which one - an individual actively seeking interaction - is going to opt for.

The only other point I would offer for women wishing to browse 'hassle free' (surely their prerogative to do so if they wish) is they can always use the filters in Privacy as well as toggling "Hide on looked at me" as well. But maybe they desire something even more covert?

I've learned something new too here!

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By *entonMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Wank chat. It's nothing new.

Other men fall for it so they can happily wank chat together.

I think you've just proved the OP's theory. Men wanting to do that on a men's profile don't get any replies. So they pretend to be a woman to get someone to interact with.

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"Men doing that probably also have some kind of deceit kink. In all honesty, I can’t see any innocence behind it. Just incredibly strange. "

Its always baffled me too

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

It's between this and couples profiles messaging asking if you down meet the male half as the females not about that weekend or what not just gay/bi dudes making fake profiles trying chance there luck to get a meet or just to see your private pics

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"It's between this and couples profiles messaging asking if you down meet the male half as the females not about that weekend or what not just gay/bi dudes making fake profiles trying chance there luck to get a meet or just to see your private pics "

Another good point!

Many couples on here are seeking that oft elusive single fem so will allow one access to their friends only pics and vids... normally off limits to single men.

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By *jfrenchMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Having never seen a female's profile from their side of things I admit I'd never really considered many of the points raised here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think women’s accounts are bad

You should see a tv/ts account

We get flooded with messages from guys who haven’t had any luck with woman and couples

And we seen as the next best thing

Or see us as a fantasy bang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you think women’s accounts are bad

You should see a tv/ts account

We get flooded with messages from guys who haven’t had any luck with woman and couples

And we seen as the next best thing

Or see us as a fantasy bang "

Well I’m certainly not getting flooded. But do sometimes wonder if the other points are true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you think women’s accounts are bad

You should see a tv/ts account

We get flooded with messages from guys who haven’t had any luck with woman and couples

And we seen as the next best thing

Or see us as a fantasy bang

Well I’m certainly not getting flooded. But do sometimes wonder if the other points are true "

Flooded was a figure off speech

But somewhat i find it’s mostly the guys who have straight and aren’t looking for tv/ts

I always ask why

And get one off two reasons

1st is the old woman / couples don’t meet bi guys or guys that meet tv/ts witch I know to be bs as I don’t have a problem in that regard so I take it as they tryed with woman or couples and no luck so heck I am the next best thing get a bang and leave site so it wasn’t a total waste off time

2nd is ooo I watched tv/ts porn always been a fantasy for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens quite a lot particularly on couple's profiles.

I think the main reason is they think any attention is better than none and also maybe they feel when they come clean they can convince you to meet them.

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

That ain't no lady.

That's my wife!

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I don't think that's the case for most female profiles

For most of us managing our account can feel like a full time job, as soon as your online your inbox starts pinging & don't get me wrong there's the odd decent message but most are boring one liners 'hi' 'how are you' 'nice tits' 'you meeting'

Id say it's less than once a month I get a message that makes me laugh or think yeah they've got something about them

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We were also once sat next to a "friend" with a single Female profile, and were shocked how many messages she got and also the content!

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By *jfrenchMan
over a year ago

Stockport

"If you think women’s accounts are bad

You should see a tv/ts account

We get flooded with messages from guys who haven’t had any luck with woman and couples

And we seen as the next best thing

Or see us as a fantasy bang

Well I’m certainly not getting flooded. But do sometimes wonder if the other points are true

Flooded was a figure off speech

But somewhat i find it’s mostly the guys who have straight and aren’t looking for tv/ts

I always ask why

And get one off two reasons

2nd is ooo I watched tv/ts porn always been a fantasy for me

Sorry to hear you get hassled too. But from what you are saying these are men with men's profiles yes??? What the OP is alluding to is there are countless of 'female' profiles on here that are in fact men. Admittedly it may only be tiny consolation to you but at least they are, pretty much, what they say on the tin.

I might be speaking for the OP wrongly here but I;m thinking he's really saying if we know WHY these people do it we can take steps to stop them doing it. Sure, here will never be perfect we accept that but if we are all AT THE VERY LEAST what our profiles describe us as its a start!

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"If you think women’s accounts are bad

You should see a tv/ts account

We get flooded with messages from guys who haven’t had any luck with woman and couples

And we seen as the next best thing

Or see us as a fantasy bang

Well I’m certainly not getting flooded. But do sometimes wonder if the other points are true

Flooded was a figure off speech

But somewhat i find it’s mostly the guys who have straight and aren’t looking for tv/ts

I always ask why

And get one off two reasons

2nd is ooo I watched tv/ts porn always been a fantasy for me

Er.. yeah! I guess I am. Is it wrong to want all profiles just to be the actual thing they say they are???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you think women’s accounts are bad

You should see a tv/ts account

We get flooded with messages from guys who haven’t had any luck with woman and couples

And we seen as the next best thing

Or see us as a fantasy bang

Well I’m certainly not getting flooded. But do sometimes wonder if the other points are true

Flooded was a figure off speech

But somewhat i find it’s mostly the guys who have straight and aren’t looking for tv/ts

I always ask why

And get one off two reasons

2nd is ooo I watched tv/ts porn always been a fantasy for me

I know I was just saying

The reason why is simple they want D pics secretly

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Lonely

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's definitely not always fun.

I don't get anywhere near that many messages, I don't think I could cope if I did!

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"Lonely "

Exactly. And on a man's profile they will likely stay lonely.

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"It's definitely not always fun.

I don't get anywhere near that many messages, I don't think I could cope if I did!"

She explained clearly how different setting can affect things. Particularly if she puts the MEET TODAY red and white flag up puts similar wording in her status update. Such actions cause her inbox to be deluged.

She uses the filters and has most of her pics set to friends only as that too makes it easier to cope with.

But yes I was maybe using colourful language but a make vs female is 'chalk and cheese' - you get a quantity of regular messages. Men in the main get none. And that's the point I was wishing to make.

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By *weedeldumbCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Leeds & Harrogate

Good points well made OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will you be meeting your friend for regular sessions with her profile?

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"Will you be meeting your friend for regular sessions with her profile?

We first met on here about 5 years ago and am sure we will continue to do so.

But no. I only needed to see her profile in action the once to tell me all I needed to know.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Who wants all that admin?

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By *artinMG4Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I fear you may have sussed it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve been watching my lady friend on fab and her inbox (hur! hur!) was constantly having messages from men pop up (ha!) and guess what? Almost all the messages were crap - cringeworthy, poorly written and didn’t stand an ice cream in hells chance of succeeding in what I assume were their purpose.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Noticing lots of men have lady friends on fab they meet up with to look at fab

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By *urga2076Woman
over a year ago

London

"So all the women who have single male profiles for "safety" reasons must use those for a little downtime then? "

You’ve given me a handy game plan. I can set up as a man, spend my days browsing knowing no one will write back. Sounds like bliss!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Tbh it’s just part of life. Some people will be dicks, some will be honest, some might even be who they say they are. Fab is no different it’s just making sure you know what you want from it and not taking it too seriously. Along the way there are many opportunities to spot the fakes. And just have fun with it

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By *ttmcdguyTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I honestly thought the thread was going to be another attack apon tv cd on fab

Is it ok to be a man pretending to be a woman but openly admitting he’s a man pretending to be a woman then ?

I don’t get that

It’s wasting everyone’s including their own time for a very cheap underhanded frill

Where as being honest about things you may just be lucky enough to score a genuine meet for the real thing

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"I’ve been watching my lady friend on fab and her inbox (hur! hur!) was constantly having messages from men pop up (ha!) and guess what? Almost all the messages were crap - cringeworthy, poorly written and didn’t stand an ice cream in hells chance of succeeding in what I assume were their purpose. "

Haha. I noticed that too. Messages like

"wuup2"

"Free 2nite"

Had to laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Noticing lots of men have lady friends on fab they meet up with to look at fab "

Sounds like a great night

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"Noticing lots of men have lady friends on fab they meet up with to look at fab "

If you get the chance try it. Its quite the experience if you've only seen Fab through the eyes of a single man as it were.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Haha. I noticed that too. Messages like

"wuup2"

"Free 2nite"

Had to laugh "

Yep. Not even a sentence.

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By *abluesbaby OP Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

"I honestly thought the thread was going to be another attack apon tv cd on fab

Is it ok to be a man pretending to be a woman but openly admitting he’s a man pretending to be a woman then ?

I don’t get that

It’s wasting everyone’s including their own time for a very cheap underhanded frill

Where as being honest about things you may just be lucky enough to score a genuine meet for the real thing "

No, as the post's author this is NOT intended to be negative in anyway to anyone from the TV/TS or CD community. Not at all. Which I'm glad you've realised.

No, my issue is purely with men operating profiles that purport to be women and why they feel the necessity to do that.

Nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you think women’s accounts are bad

You should see a tv/ts account

We get flooded with messages from guys who haven’t had any luck with woman and couples

And we seen as the next best thing

Or see us as a fantasy bang "

All too true!

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

"Noticing lots of men have lady friends on fab they meet up with to look at fab

If you get the chance try it. Its quite the experience if you've only seen Fab through the eyes of a single man as it were. "

I don't doubt it would be a experience I just prefer do away with technology when comes meeting hate when people are glued to phones and its hard get a conversation out them just my opinion though think I'm getting old

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"It's definitely not always fun.

I don't get anywhere near that many messages, I don't think I could cope if I did!

She uses the filters and has most of her pics set to friends only as that too makes it easier to cope with.

But yes I was maybe using colourful language but a make vs female is 'chalk and cheese' - you get a quantity of regular messages. Men in the main get none. And that's the point I was wishing to make. "

Thanks for mansplaining

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By *ommyknockazMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"It's definitely not always fun.

I don't get anywhere near that many messages, I don't think I could cope if I did!

She uses the filters and has most of her pics set to friends only as that too makes it easier to cope with.

But yes I was maybe using colourful language but a make vs female is 'chalk and cheese' - you get a quantity of regular messages. Men in the main get none. And that's the point I was wishing to make.

Thanks for mansplaining

I think this man is making some very valid observations in a very intelligent and polite manner. Shame people have to try and knock him for that.

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