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By *inky and the brain 1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

near Halesowen

Advice please - we have a vanilla female friend who has gone through a several year self imposed 'dry spell' due to previous relationship after affects, but is ready to have a fwb /essentially to get her carnal desires fulfilled and walk away...so how do we inform her that Cham's is really near and it really wouldn't be a problem to get what she wants ,or that we could assist in fulfilling herurges???

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Not sure of the question, just tell her?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Advice please - we have a vanilla female friend who has gone through a several year self imposed 'dry spell' due to previous relationship after affects, but is ready to have a fwb /essentially to get her carnal desires fulfilled and walk away...so how do we inform her that Cham's is really near and it really wouldn't be a problem to get what she wants ,or that we could assist in fulfilling herurges???"

Are you wanting to be involved?

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By *inky and the brain 1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

near Halesowen


"Advice please - we have a vanilla female friend who has gone through a several year self imposed 'dry spell' due to previous relationship after affects, but is ready to have a fwb /essentially to get her carnal desires fulfilled and walk away...so how do we inform her that Cham's is really near and it really wouldn't be a problem to get what she wants ,or that we could assist in fulfilling her urges???

Are you wanting to be involved?"
I'd be happy to help if that's what she wants,tbh she just wants no strings attached sex with someone.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

I'd say swinging and clubs are more of a lifestyle. If she's interested in that aspect then Chams would be ideal, if not, it could be too much or a culture shock.

Talk to her and gauge where she's at. As ever communication is key.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Advice please - we have a vanilla female friend who has gone through a several year self imposed 'dry spell' due to previous relationship after affects, but is ready to have a fwb /essentially to get her carnal desires fulfilled and walk away...so how do we inform her that Cham's is really near and it really wouldn't be a problem to get what she wants ,or that we could assist in fulfilling herurges???"
without telling her you go or does she know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She may be a bit overwhelmed with going from no sex for years to essentially being surrounded by it for an evening.

As her friend, you should try to explain as best as you can what she can expect and how she doesn't need to push herself to get involved just because others are. She should take it at her own pace and trust her own instincts as who she likes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please - we have a vanilla female friend who has gone through a several year self imposed 'dry spell' due to previous relationship after affects, but is ready to have a fwb /essentially to get her carnal desires fulfilled and walk away...so how do we inform her that Cham's is really near and it really wouldn't be a problem to get what she wants ,or that we could assist in fulfilling her urges???

Are you wanting to be involved? I'd be happy to help if that's what she wants,tbh she just wants no strings attached sex with someone."

Why not respect her wishes then? No strings doesn't mean she wants to fuck her friends. Seems predatory.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Just say “look flower, there’s a club nearby where you could shag all night if you wanted” and see what she says.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think sex with someone means sex with anyone !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write a secret note and stick it thru her slot

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Tell her to join a gym She will pick a guy no problem after a short time

Though I would say if she is a close friend not the smartest move to fuck them going forward . Plus do you even know if she finds the male half attractive

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Why not introduce her to fab first,? Jumping straight in to a club can be daunting and not everyone who just wants sex is comfortable in a club setting. Let her choose her own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure she already knows how and where to get sex and likely doesn't need any help..

There's not many women around who struggle with this

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

A PowerPoint presentation will be the best way to get your point across. Don't forget to include your objectives, summarise at the end and include moving graphics, for instance a penis moving toward a vagina

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I'm sure she already knows how and where to get sex and likely doesn't need any help..

There's not many women around who struggle with this "

To be fair I never faired well outside of fab. Don't pull on nights out etc. Dating sites and fab is where the vast majority of my sexual experiences came from.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not sure wanting casual sex is the same as wanting to go to a swingers club or join fab.

If she's got leftover stuff from relationships I'm not sure the smoke blowing, territory marking and outright lying of the swinging world is the best place for her anyway. A good old fashioned meet in the pub/club/bar have a couple of drinks, a laugh back to his or her's for some casual shenanigans and everyone goes home happy would be my choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs can be very social places and there is never any expectation to play. There is however plenty of opportunities if she does decide to. I've never been to chams so not sure what rooms they have. As a swingle I've had the occasional nsa fun in a dark room or glory hole.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You could introduce the idea, whilst discussing places she could investigate for finding no strings but it doesn't sound like she's in this mindset. But, a seed sown may germinate, given time and analysis. I'd leave it to her, unless I was really sure a friend would be fully compatible with the lifestyle.

Some people also benefit from, or prefer to investigate alone

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