FabSwingers.com forum: Forum clarity is needed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If sex isn’t important, why are we “just here for the forums” on a sex site?

I genuinely like sex with the right person, but finding those I connect with is becoming a rarity on here, and then if it’s a sexual connection it might only be one way. (a connection is different to blowing smoke up your ass)

But I’m finding that I wait for each person like that to come and go and then they might be for me but I’m not for them.

I’m here in a chat room and flirt, but I could do that on twitter.

Is it time to venture to the ‘copy and paste’ word of fab away from the forums?

Is there any success story’s of that for the single guys who are over 40 and not ripped to fuck?

*not directed at women, because I hear you guys don’t need to send 1st messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I hear you , I am on here mainly for the forums and the flirting.

I am not actively looking and most of the time I don’t even reply to wink even though it could be a potential fuck so to speak.

I guess I stay on here because there is the only place I know where I can say lovely anus on you, keep eating fibers, without being branded as a Peugeot driver x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. You thus are likely to need to engage with many others, in order to find those with that mutual interest. You've probably got to explore and experiment with your tactics to refine this, so that it improves your results.

I think this is a part of what you asked. Clubs could be great for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me this site is a hobby, just like the other things I enjoy doing in my free time.

I like the diversity of the forum posters, and the people I chat to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me this site is a hobby, just like the other things I enjoy doing in my free time.

…"

I like the way you said you do things in your free time, I cringe when people say they do things to waste time. It feels I’m part of there negative activity. You know?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think this is a part of what you asked. Clubs could be great for you"

I know they probably would. I’m a person to person…person?!?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Do we meet? Yes. Infrequently because, well, life!

Do we go to clubs? Yes. Again Infrequently.

Do I send more time in here than on other social media? Yes. Because half of what I post on here would get censored elsewhere and I'd also have to explain myself to vanilla friends and family as to why I have an extensive knowledge of kink and non monogamous shenanigans.

There's nowt wrong with the bulk of your time spent on Fab being taken up by arseing around in here.

You don't have to meet.

It is fun though.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't use the forums to try and get meets from them, I genuinely like chatting on them, I was in a Kik room for years and got tired of the same old "orgy" "show your tits if you spell something wrong" amongst other topics that went round daily, here the (mostly) topics are varied and I can reply to what I fancy.

If I was to get anything from it, bonus but the forums is literally just somewhere I can chat to like-minded folk!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

There is a whole world of fab beyond the forums that I think is a lot more fun with a lot less fuss.

The forums are good for a giggle, the occasional eye roll but there’s so much more to the site.

You can flirt on Twitter?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I hear you , I am on here mainly for the forums and the flirting.

I am not actively looking and most of the time I don’t even reply to wink even though it could be a potential fuck so to speak.

I guess I stay on here because there is the only place I know where I can say lovely anus on you, keep eating fibers, without being branded as a Peugeot driver x

You’re nothing less than a Fiat or Renault to me

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"There is a whole world of fab beyond the forums that I think is a lot more fun with a lot less fuss.

The forums are good for a giggle, the occasional eye roll but there’s so much more to the site.

You can flirt on Twitter?

100% agree with this. There are two separate parts of fab and I would say the forum is the minority. The vast majority of people I meet never set foot in the forums so I take everything that is said here with a very large pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I hear you , I am on here mainly for the forums and the flirting.

I am not actively looking and most of the time I don’t even reply to wink even though it could be a potential fuck so to speak.

I guess I stay on here because this is the only place I know where I can say lovely anus on you, keep eating fibers, without being branded as a Peugeot driver x

You’re nothing less than a Fiat or Renault to me

I have been known to be a fiatophile but never as a Renaultophile. Except if it is a kangoo with a dirty matress at the back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is a whole world of fab beyond the forums that I think is a lot more fun with a lot less fuss.

The forums are good for a giggle, the occasional eye roll but there’s so much more to the site.

You can flirt on Twitter?

Twitter is the filled with it. So I heard.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

the main ''pot'' of people who meet are not on the forums and come nowhere near the forums ... the forums are a tiny part of fab and that makes the number of women and couple who use it a even smaller collection of people ...

people join or use fab for what ever reasons that is correct and perfectly fine alot of those women /couples who use fab to chat do meet just not via fab

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

I feel the same, and don't even bother sending messages now.

Honestly, I feel that I'm wasting my time trawling through profiles and even thinking about sending messages (which mostly remain unread) anymore.

I now spend a lot of my time on the forums...it's fun and yes, maybe a little addictive (not in a negative way).

In the meantime, I'm still meeting some very lovely ladies the way always have...on other sites, in shops, at work and so on. I've never had any problems there, but for some reason I've failed to fly on here.

It's not a problem...like I say, I meet plenty of really nice people elsewhere, so the forums are my sole focus on here now.

Best to not take issue with it. Like you say, maybe a club will be good for you. Shop around though...I was shocked when I saw what some of them charge for single males. I'm an emergency worker, so will be getting free membership with one.

Best of luck to you, mate

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"There is a whole world of fab beyond the forums that I think is a lot more fun with a lot less fuss.

The forums are good for a giggle, the occasional eye roll but there’s so much more to the site.

You can flirt on Twitter?

Exactly, the people I chat with mostly are not from the forums.

Perhaps people should branch out and explore the rest of fab, they might find someone they like

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If I was to get anything from it, bonus but the forums is literally just somewhere I can chat to like-minded folk!"

Same. But those bonus’s seem to come and go when people leave the forums, that’s kind of my feeling right now.

I agree with the varied things to comment/reply too, otherwise I’d have lost interest a long time ago.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"There is a whole world of fab beyond the forums that I think is a lot more fun with a lot less fuss.

The forums are good for a giggle, the occasional eye roll but there’s so much more to the site.

You can flirt on Twitter?

Twitter is the filled with it. So I heard. "

I once dabbled with Twitter. Everyone was so angry

it was scary.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"the main ''pot'' of people who meet are not on the forums and come nowhere near the forums ... the forums are a tiny part of fab and that makes the number of women and couple who use it a even smaller collection of people ...

people join or use fab for what ever reasons that is correct and perfectly fine alot of those women /couples who use fab to chat do meet just not via fab"

just to add been on fab since the site started (and other before fab was born) im a regular meet person i meet most weeks sometimes more in a week but ive never met a regular forum person for me its not the place to look for meets great for chats n debates but for me not meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel the same, and don't even bother sending messages now.

Honestly, I feel that I'm wasting my time trawling through profiles and even thinking about sending messages (which mostly remain unread) anymore.

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You’ve not promoted my idea of going off the forums very well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

people join or use fab for what ever reasons that is correct and perfectly fine alot of those women /couples who use fab to chat do meet just not via fab

We live too far away from each other? Maybe?

At least the search function lets you find people that live close enough to make things feasible if you got along. Maybe thats why a regular thing is possible.

Just a thought.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I'm here to chit chat in forums as well as to find potential meets! Show of in the chat rooms! Somewhere to upload my pics/vids! And have made some lovely friends along the way x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is a whole world of fab beyond the forums that I think is a lot more fun with a lot less fuss.

The forums are good for a giggle, the occasional eye roll but there’s so much more to the site.

You can flirt on Twitter?

Twitter is the filled with it. So I heard.

I once dabbled with Twitter. Everyone was so angry

it was scary. "

And there’s that!

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"I feel the same, and don't even bother sending messages now.

Honestly, I feel that I'm wasting my time trawling through profiles and even thinking about sending messages (which mostly remain unread) anymore.

LOL it was just my intention to give you another perspective, so that you can consider another viewpoint

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You’ve not promoted my idea of going off the forums very well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made lots of lovely friends on here posing as a single female on another account

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I can think of at least a couple of men on this site who are over 40, not ripped (but in good shape) who are extremely successful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can think of at least a couple of men on this site who are over 40, not ripped (but in good shape) who are extremely successful. "

A couple of men? Yay!!!

Not very positive today I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They might be fucking their way around Fab but just say they aren't meeting to avoid messages from Forumites.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. "

Yes!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I generally like the forums, we're not actively looking to meet at the moment because we are busy with well general life right now, but saying that it doesn't mean we wouldn't make time for the right person/persons.

But right now I'm just enjoying the forums.

Mrs

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Well I hear you , I am on here mainly for the forums and the flirting.

I am not actively looking and most of the time I don’t even reply to wink even though it could be a potential fuck so to speak.

I guess I stay on here because there is the only place I know where I can say lovely anus on you, keep eating fibers, without being branded as a Peugeot driver x

"
do you drive a Peugeot?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

The forumites can be a witty bunch. That and the opportunity to post a bit of rude filth when I’m feeling rude…..well it’s a heady mix!

And there’s far less bitching on these forums than on some other forums I’ve visited. So it’s all good.

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"The forumites can be a witty bunch. That and the opportunity to post a bit of rude filth when I’m feeling rude…..well it’s a heady mix!

And there’s far less bitching on these forums than on some other forums I’ve visited. So it’s all good."

Spot on...most people on the forums seem to be polite, friendly, humorous and good-natured.

Yes, there'll be an occasional bad potato, but they're generally handled quite well by the community.

Great profile, by the way...love someone that respects their own individuality

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people.

Yes!"
. This is life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I generally like the forums, we're not actively looking to meet at the moment because we are busy with well general life right now, but saying that it doesn't mean we wouldn't make time for the right person/persons.

But right now I'm just enjoying the forums.

Mrs "

This is where I end up finding myself. It’s those people that grab your attention that change me wanting to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The forumites can be a witty bunch. That and the opportunity to post a bit of rude filth when I’m feeling rude…..well it’s a heady mix!

And there’s far less bitching on these forums than on some other forums I’ve visited. So it’s all good."

You’re all good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They might be fucking their way around Fab but just say they aren't meeting to avoid messages from Forumites.

…. Erm. Yes. This is what I’m doing. Honest.

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

I like The Lounge & Games forums mostly. I read far more threads than I post on.

Not meeting at the moment, but I have plenty of friends here from over the years that I can have a laugh with and meet for tea and cake. They’ve been really supportive recently when I’ve suffered a bereavement.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm thinking it's more women saying sex isn't important and cynical me says it's because of their experiences on the site.

Forum users that is.

Sex is important for me but I'm not in great health at the moment so it's taken a back burner.

Last month I couldn't even cope with the forums that much.

Online activity is exhausting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. "

Like blood types?

There are some that like everyone, some that everyone likes,

some that don't like anyone and

Some that have to be a perfect match

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"If sex isn’t important, why are we “just here for the forums” on a sex site?

But I’m finding that I wait for each person like that to come and go and then they might be for me but I’m not for them.

I’m here in a chat room and flirt, but I could do that on twitter.

Is it time to venture to the ‘copy and paste’ word of fab away from the forums?

Is there any success story’s of that for the single guys who are over 40 and not ripped to fuck?

*not directed at women, because I hear you guys don’t need to send 1st messages

I'm 63, been around Fab for close to 10 years now i think. My old SM profile had 150+ meets.

Fab is what you make of it.

Messages, Forums, Clubs, Socials, got to use them all.

If an old git like me could do it, anyone can.

Winston

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