FabSwingers.com forum: University “Mates”

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many friends from university did you stay in touch with or stayed in touch with you? (Or if you didn’t go to uni… from school)…

Personally - very few and made me wonder if some close friendships at university were genuine or not and not something of convenience to not be left out/lonely…

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

We didn't go to uni, but are still friends with people we went to school with. We're going on holiday with some of them soon

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

My two closest friends are from school. We were inseparable then and still are now

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

A few, but it was over twenty years ago. We’ve made other new friends and lost touch with them also since then…time marches on, and people’s lives change.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I'm still good friends with the guys I shared a house with at uni 20 years on.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one friend from uni I'm still close to. I don't see anyone from school, not for many many years. My oldest friend is my ex-husband who I've known since I was 17.

Nell

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

They are all social media friends now, we all split apart and moved across the country and made families

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My main group of friends are all from school with a few random people we’ve picked up over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i didnt even want to finish high school

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

We're friends with people we went to high school with, from the first year. I met my best mate on the induction day! We went to uni together too, as well as school. I have one uni friend but I don't think Mr KC has any. We know people who met spouses at uni though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two friends from school that i see regularly, one of them i regularly stay with

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

No one from school

But one from university days who I visit and stay with often. One who lives close by, I regularly go out with him snd his wife. 5 others dotted around the country snd abroad who I keep in touch with via text and Facebook etc

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I have friends I'm in touch with from each period of my education from pre school to PhD. I don't see them as much as I once did, as we've moved had families etc. But they're an important part of what makes me me. Our joint memories I treasure. Friendship as much as any other relationship is down to a commitment to put the effort in.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

On my Facebook, I have “friends” from school, university and places I worked.

I rarely use FB and never post so it’s a bit moot.

This may sound sad to you all but I don’t have any friends, not people I pursue hobbies with, go out for meals or drinks with. Sometimes I think, did I actively choose this life, or am I just a c@£t? often deciding on the latter. Now this all sounds rather melancholy doesn’t it? It isn’t, I’m cool honest

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

School friends, plenty, as most live within a few miles of me and I can see them often enough.

Uni friends, they're all scattered across the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont keep in touch with any mates from school i tried to not have mates back then it was just people i hung out with the res only 3 mate mates iv always had and one of them died of covid prompting me to keep mates at arms length so i dont have to watch em die

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm still in touch with all 3 housemates from uni & my best mate is from school.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Lost contact with them years ago though we did used to meet up for a good few years after finishing. Distance, jobs, new friends meant a gradual drift.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

o o OO o o

"On my Facebook, I have “friends” from school, university and places I worked.

I rarely use FB and never post so it’s a bit moot.

This for me too. I was in touch with and saw some School friends up until my mid 20’s but then I moved away from my home town and don’t do things like School reunions etc so lost touch, but they’re on my hardly used Facebook should I want to nose.

I’m more of a loner anyway, I’m not good at keeping up contact with folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very few from school or uni

Was bullied in both so would not want to have kept in touch and also did not fit in with the uni crowd, esp with not being a drinker

Two days after uni I was in England and almost did not go back for uni graduation

About a year ago met up with one guy for a drink but not since

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"How many friends from university did you stay in touch with or stayed in touch with you? (Or if you didn’t go to uni… from school)…

Personally - very few and made me wonder if some close friendships at university were genuine or not and not something of convenience to not be left out/lonely… "

None.

It doesn't mean we were false.

It just means we were friendly at university.

People have other groups/people in their lives.

People move across country after uni. They get new jobs, start families, extend their family in more ways than one.

Life changes.

Im interested in how many people from university you have contacted ? Not them contacting you ....... how many did you make any effort to stay in touch with?

I know I never made any effort. They were people I went to uni with.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm on contract with those who were outstanding friends but it's standard that as lives change context, that you will diverge.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Not uni but I am still in contact with mates from my first school and those beyond.

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