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40 and wanting to become pregnant?

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By *inag101 OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Galway

Ladies, if you were 40 with no children but you always wanted them, would you be anxious about your biological clock running out? Spoke to a friend about this earlier and she seems anxious about it, just look for positive feedback with positive experiences

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

There are always risks at that age, I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not what you asked as i have an 11 year old child and i seriously regret not having a sibling for him. That been said i wouldnt risk pregnancy at my age. Im 42. I thought pregnancy was tough at 31 so there is no way id put my body through it now.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I have s friend who had her first baby at 39 with no problems at all.

I would advise your friend not to wait but my gynaecologist told me that the oldest woman she'd seen who conceived naturally and carried the baby to term was 52. I also knew a guy whose mother had his youngest sibling at 52.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have s friend who had her first baby at 39 with no problems at all.

I would advise your friend not to wait but my gynaecologist told me that the oldest woman she'd seen who conceived naturally and carried the baby to term was 52. I also knew a guy whose mother had his youngest sibling at 52."

A 50 year old woman i worked with thought she was going through the menopause but instead found out she was pregnant with twins. She already had an 18 year old daughter in college from a previous relationship. What a shock she got but a good one non the less.

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"There are always risks at that age, I'm afraid "

Having said that my wife successfully gave birth to our second son at the age of 39. She was monitored for the possibility of Downes Syndrome

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have s friend who had her first baby at 39 with no problems at all.

I would advise your friend not to wait but my gynaecologist told me that the oldest woman she'd seen who conceived naturally and carried the baby to term was 52. I also knew a guy whose mother had his youngest sibling at 52.

A 50 year old woman i worked with thought she was going through the menopause but instead found out she was pregnant with twins. She already had an 18 year old daughter in college from a previous relationship. What a shock she got but a good one non the less."

yeah happened to me at 46. Its a huge shock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have s friend who had her first baby at 39 with no problems at all.

I would advise your friend not to wait but my gynaecologist told me that the oldest woman she'd seen who conceived naturally and carried the baby to term was 52. I also knew a guy whose mother had his youngest sibling at 52.

A 50 year old woman i worked with thought she was going through the menopause but instead found out she was pregnant with twins. She already had an 18 year old daughter in college from a previous relationship. What a shock she got but a good one non the less.

yeah happened to me at 46. Its a huge shock"

I can imagine

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

I have a friend that's 34 and currently panicking about not having had kids earlier. She has a lot of health conditions that never would have made it easy for her but add age on top? Sadly it's quite well documented that fertility does start to drop off in the 30s, hence her panic.

I didn't believe I wanted kids but my biological clock kicked in about age 22/23, I'm now very glad it did because pregnancy has proven exceptionally hard on me physically. I would hate to attempt this at a later age, especially having had a fair few miscarriages.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Sorry to be such a Debbie downer

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

I was pregnant at 38 after being told I'd never have children. It was hard work. I would dearly love to have been blessed with another child but the daddio disappeared early doors and I haven't had a relationship since. Once I got to 40 it was a conscious decision to not even think about carrying another child. All that said, every woman is different and, whilst fertility is compromised after 40 pregnancy can and does happen regularly. If you are a "geriatric mother" or wanting to become one then go for it it will be the best thing you ever did (and the hardest).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughter has a 15 year old and a 14 year old and a newborn she's nearly 37 I've been to all the births and this was very traumatic it was so awful seeing her in pain, she blames her age because her first two where very easy births

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Ladies, if you were 40 with no children but you always wanted them, would you be anxious about your biological clock running out? Spoke to a friend about this earlier and she seems anxious about it, just look for positive feedback with positive experiences "

I'm 41. I don't regret it but I'm strange..I don't have any regrets about my life. There is no way I could have had kids any earlier I had undiagnosed and untreated mental health conditions and any children I had before now would have suffered terribly and even been taken off me by social services. I have several friends who had their children young and are now in their late 30s battling to get their kids back. Meantime their kids are growing up resenting the fact that their parents lost them because kids ( and even adults) don't understand mental illness. It's not the parent's fault that they got sick.

That's just my story.

If your friend is anxious, just tell her to visit a fertility clinic. They will check her fertility and freeze her eggs if she wants them.

I always thought of adopting as a child and now as a single child-free adult, I've realised that I don't even have to adopt to help children in my community especially now that I have the tools to help people struggling with their mental health because I've walked at least a mile in their shoes.

Without shame and without Regret

Maverick.

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