FabSwingers.com forum: How to mention to mrs about sharing

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone hope

All is well

Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,

How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

drop a few hints chat to her,, be careful thow no means no

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Well, that's because she's got more to worry about than sex now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re adults.

Have a conversation about it.

Or how about have a bit of patience with your partner who’s spent a whole heap of time growing this small person. Respect what that’s done to her body and mental state.

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By *_Love_CandyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Maybe not put it like that! Ha!

How old is your baby? It could be that is taking all of her time and energy....

You could start it gently, start sharing stories, see about watching porn together. Discuss fantasies, again, starting slowly and building up to swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

5 years old now , we have time but seems not much sex ,

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Bingo!

What prize do I get for this thread as I called it…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bingo!

What prize do I get for this thread as I called it…

Some of my Minstrels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell her she got another cock to play with

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

My heart just fucking broke for her.

What tends to happen is when women have babies, the baby becomes the priority and everything else gets put on the back burner for a good while. Many many women have no idea who they even are anymore as the toll taken on the mind and body is enormous, especially if there have been any complications or illness.

I don't know how old your child is but I imagine your mrs will be looking to you for support and partnership.

Talk to her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

5 years old

We are happy just not much sex

We both support each other

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"5 years old

We are happy just not much sex

We both support each other "

What may not seem like much to you may be plenty for her. Do you talk openly about things?

Also, these last few years have been an absolute head fuck of worry. Might be worth finding out if she's stressed or carrying worry and concern. That can hugely impact sex drive.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

Next time you cook for her, ask if she’d like a side of cream of sum yung guy.

Or maybe next time you take her out, see if she fancies going to a swingers club.

Or next time you’re stripping her clothes off and telling her how much you fancy her and how amazing she looks, tell her you want to show her off to all the men and watch whilst nature takes it’s course.

Or with some of the extra time you have whilst you’re not having sex, run her a lovely candlelit bath and you look after your child and let her have some chill time and then see how good the sex is once she feels less tired?

Opening up a relationship isn’t a cure for a poor sex life. Work on your own situation first, improve it, then see if you want to share that with anyone or not.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Show her ya profile

but make sure she hasn’t got any scissors handy as she may remove you’re testicles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"5 years old

We are happy just not much sex

We both support each other "

I just can't...

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Communication is key

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Asking bunch of folk about someone they don’t know is definitely the way to go

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By *r SteelhammerMan
over a year ago

belfast

Best thing is definitely not do it behind her back more important having a family isn't all about sex now you have a kid make memories she will come around or she probably doesn't want more children or wait until your child is asleep then ask her if you can do it like rabbits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know a big part of swinging is about trust and communication right?

Firstly do you think you are trustworthy? (Just a little observation but the fact you have a year old profile she most likely doesn't know about points me to believe you aren't)

Secondly have you even sat down with her and had the conversation about the lack of sex you are having with her?

You need to find out here wants and needs and she probably needs to know yours, before you even think about taking to her about swinging. Being in a long term relationship with or without kids, there is always a high possibility of dry spells but if you talk things through try and understand what it is that is causing it and work on that then maybe just maybe some time in the future she might be open to the Idea of swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you

I think it’s fantasy aswell

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

You're only young. Forget swinging, concentrate on your relationship and your child. Those are what matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has made my heart ache

Op for gods sake talk to her , help her , romance her . I suspect she wants you to want her, not some other bloke in her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this was me I would want him to focus on me after just having a baby but that’s just my opinion

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Is that because "you need some pussy" OP???

Try showing her your profile, I'm sure she'll jump at the chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you

I think it’s fantasy aswell "

It was aways a fantasy of mine and I was happy just leaving it as such and then one day the the wife suggested it to me after about 4 years of thinking about it and occasionally talking about it we set the wheels in motion, her we are a year later her with a BF and me attending a club nearly every other week.

I might just have to add, are 20 year plus relationship is still going as strong as ever it's just a little different to what it once was

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Thank you

I think it’s fantasy aswell

I might just have to add, are 20 year plus relationship is still going as strong as ever it's just a little different to what it once was

You had an advantage though.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Keep replies to the forum OP thanks.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Have you told your partner that you're bi? Seems a lot she isn't aware of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it should have been something to talk about before joining fab

They could have been open to it

But I don’t think it will go down well

And she finds out you all ready been here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you

I think it’s fantasy aswell

I might just have to add, are 20 year plus relationship is still going as strong as ever it's just a little different to what it once was

You had an advantage though. "

Possibly, possible not for all OP knows it might be a fantasy of hers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You know a big part of swinging is about trust and communication right?

Firstly do you think you are trustworthy? (Just a little observation but the fact you have a year old profile she most likely doesn't know about points me to believe you aren't)

Secondly have you even sat down with her and had the conversation about the lack of sex you are having with her?

Another observation is the profile is at least 6+ years old as pics from 2015 so pre-dates even the child.

OP I feel like you want to validate your cheating. A great deal of people on here have no time for that. I feel sorry for your poor partner honestly

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Another observation is the profile is at least 6+ years old as pics from 2015 so pre-dates even the child.

OP I feel like you want to validate your cheating. A great deal of people on here have no time for that. I feel sorry for your poor partner honestly "

Oh wow... That poor woman

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Sit and actually have an adult conversation with your partner op

If the sex has gone there's generally a reason ,having a child and all the day to day things can be exhausting .

You need to communicate and get yourselves back on track before you introduce anyone else in ,even if by some small chance she'd want to.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

how about "i've been thinking of buying you a budgie or a parrot to keep you entertained- but think you might prefer a cock-or-two?"

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"how about "i've been thinking of buying you a budgie or a parrot to keep you entertained- but think you might prefer a cock-or-two?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"My heart just fucking broke for her.

I don't know how old your child is but I imagine your mrs will be looking to you for support and partnership.

Talk to her."

Women: Get married and lose your surname and become Mrs Thingy.

Have kids: lose you primary id and become Thingy's mum

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

You could do some chores for her and then steal the kids baby oil and give her the full massage.

At least you'll be making her relaxed and you'll be having some sexual contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say ffs woman stop hogg8ng the maltesers

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Sorry if it comes across as harsh but my advice on this particular thread is show her this thread and your profile and give her the chance to get the fuck out whilst she’s still young enough. If she chooses not to then maybe try the subject of bringing other people into the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has she ever expressed an interest in this lifestyle? Or are you living in fantasy land?

If you're here without her knowing that's not my issue, but to be bad mouthing your wife like she's the problem to a bunch of strangers is pretty shitty.

If you're having issues, the best thing is to communicate. If you can't communicate with her then leave her or carry on doing what you're doing behind her back. I would say it's best to not try and convince yourself she needs to be more adventurous to satisfy you. O.o

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Hi everyone hope

All is well

Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,

How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "

If you are wanting to improve your sex-life maybe don't start with, "I want to see another man in you."

Start with role-play and fantasies, porn, etc. And maybe ask what *she* would like. (But don't get upset if the answer is "more sleep.")

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Sorry if it comes across as harsh but my advice on this particular thread is show her this thread and your profile and give her the chance to get the fuck out whilst she’s still young enough. If she chooses not to then maybe try the subject of bringing other people into the bedroom.

Harsh yes, but just as fair. My thoughts are very similar indeed and in truth, would be the advice I would give my son if he was in this situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try by txt....

You can then make sure you are at a safe distance before asking

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Thanks everyone "

You had a baby at 19!! Crikey.... unless you are not really 24?!

You are going to have to talk to her. I'm 41 with a low libido...I can't imagine having a low libido at 24... It's depressing now...It would have devastated me at 24.

But I talk about it as it's the big fat elephant in the room.

I talked about it with my FWB and we were able to get it to ignite. The only problem he live 4000 miles away.

It's nerve-wracking to feel unsexy....which is probably what she might be going through.

Try going away without your child ( who is not a baby by the way) to a day, overnight or weekend spa.

I haven't heard what romantic, relaxing and sexy things you have done for her. What did you do last Valentine's day?

Or do you just poke her in the back with your todger every morning and night and hope she will give it up?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Wow ~ 24 with a young family and talking like that already. Give your head a wobble and get your priorities right

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think you have the wrong objective. Your goal should be to ensure her wellbeing and happiness, then to find what she may need and want.

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Lay the table for 3 at dinner with romantic candles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone hope

All is well

Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,

How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "

You had a baby together, there was someone else in your wife!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty sure she’ll have another man in her real soon.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Arrange for some guy from here to randomly bump into you both while out and chat your Mrs up , then all have an impromptu 3-some. It seems a popular way based on the requests I get

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By *elsh_naturist_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Newport

"Hi everyone hope

All is well

Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,

How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "

Maybe try putting yourself in her shoes for a month.

Taking responsibility for a new life, making sure the baby is being properly taken care of. Doubting herself if she is doing everything properly, wondering if everything she is doing is enough.

Then making sure your still cared for, food is on the table, house looking straight. Then if she's got time looking after herself, sleepless nights .

Then ask yourself why your sex life might not be as good as it was.

You might also want to let her know you got a profile on here. I'm sure that will kill off any chance of sex for a long time!

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By *enfleetMaleMan
over a year ago

Hadleigh

Find a list of kinks online. Print out 2 copies and ask her to score them all . 10 for wanting to do and 1 for not wanting. Then swap the list and talk about the results.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

So, instead of making it about what you want, why don't you spice things up yourself ? I love the adventurous life style but the absolute last thing I want is 'another cock'..

What about buying her something nice ? Ask her if she'd like some new underwear - for no reason but to make her feel sexy.

Introduce toys ? Or different places to have sex ? Do not be that husband that thinks after a long hard week your beautiful tired wife can just push a button to become all sexy when you want sex.. Grr.. She's your Queen - treat her accordingly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"…..Grr.. She's your Queen - treat her accordingly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s an awkward subject to broach. Do you watch telly together? Have you tried flicking though some C4 documentaries, accidentally come across the ones about swinging, which then leads to a discussion about the pros and cons of the lifestyle.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

Where to begin? So many profiles on here where the sex has gone out of the relationship, for whatever reason, so on here purporting to be a swinger.

Do you even consider your wife's needs or is it just about you; given you've been on here for over a year.

Initially I'd suggest talking in general terms about your sex life. Get that right and maybe, just maybe, down the line when she's the centre of your life see if you can take things further.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Hi everyone hope

All is well

Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,

How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "
don't do it you'll lose her....... Remember I told you this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone hope

All is well

Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,

How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "

I'd start by watching one of the many swinging documentaries that are out there and see how she reacts to that

Then if she's intrigued maybe later in bed or a few days later ask her what she thought of it and that you've been horny since watching it and thinking about another bloke fucking you... etc

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Hi everyone hope

All is well

Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,

How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs

I'd start by watching one of the many swinging documentaries that are out there and see how she reacts to that

Then if she's intrigued maybe later in bed or a few days later ask her what she thought of it and that you've been horny since watching it and thinking about another bloke fucking you... etc"

I suspect she'd rather watch something different on the telly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone hope

All is well

Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,

How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs

I'd start by watching one of the many swinging documentaries that are out there and see how she reacts to that

Then if she's intrigued maybe later in bed or a few days later ask her what she thought of it and that you've been horny since watching it and thinking about another bloke fucking you... etc

I suspect she'd rather watch something different on the telly "

Would depend on what she's like but it's an idea

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Hi everyone hope

All is well

Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,

How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs

I'd start by watching one of the many swinging documentaries that are out there and see how she reacts to that

Then if she's intrigued maybe later in bed or a few days later ask her what she thought of it and that you've been horny since watching it and thinking about another bloke fucking you... etc

I suspect she'd rather watch something different on the telly

Would depend on what she's like but it's an idea"

Naked Attraction and Sex Love and Goop are actually quite good. I actually learnt things from Sex Education. Lol!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

The whole swinging thing for me is about trust as well as the sex, it's amazing to have that amount of trust in someone both ways.

I think if your doing this behind her back then your not going to work as a swinging couple (just my opinion)

Starting this on lies and deceit is not the way to start it.

Mrs

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I'd say that a time when your sex life is not so good is completely the wrong time to introduce swinging.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"Hi everyone hope

All is well

Since having our baby sex life bit dull ,

How have people gone about asking there mrs to try swinging or wife swapping ? I would love to see another guy in my mrs "

First of all find a way to tell her your on fab haha then go from there

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

Best to suggest sharing while fucking her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say that a time when your sex life is not so good is completely the wrong time to introduce swinging."

also good advice.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

We just starting dropping hints about it. Next minute we started shagging with others in the chat rooms. Then the all important first meet lol. Never been so nervous but absolutely loved it. And most importantly, understood it. Remember, it’s ONLY sex!

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