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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Suggestion very much welcome. Not a very popular Fabber it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi. Fancy a fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you been rapping? If not, try rapping.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Hi. Fancy a fuck?"

Yes please. Do you know where I can get one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you been rapping? If not, try rapping."

So glad you didn't make a typo there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, didn't seem to work though - weirdly.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Suggestion very much welcome. Not a very popular Fabber it seems. "
Hello darling I'm so and so I'm here for sex with like minded people then show em your pic

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Yer cock pic obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, this is where your approach will fail.

Adapt to the individual, what does their profile say, how do they come across, what can you offer.

It's not like a secret phrase that must be uttered.

It's your mentality that has to be on point. And that requires more than a good opener.

RIP this thread though, they'll be loads of attempts at humour.

Some might even work.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hi Mum,

Never knew you used this site.

How's things ?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Cracking tits on you luv; wanna suck my cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prove you have read their profile (comment on something they have said, provide a photo if that is what they request).

Tell them why you have contacted them (location, interests etc - what aspect of their profile appeals).

Give them a reason to respond (ask a question, provide a next step).

But before you contact them, make sure your profile is working for you and what you are seeking - be honest, provide details, add up to date photos.

There is no magic formula when it comes to messaging. Treat others as you would like to be treated (works in life, works on Fab )

Have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘Hi’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of the messages we get are "nice pussy.."

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I would not know as they rarely work for me. Most of my recent meets have been the result of the lady sending the first message. So my advice is to sit back and let the ladies flock to you my friend

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

"hi u ok"

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield


"Suggestion very much welcome. Not a very popular Fabber it seems. "

It will differ with every single person you message. We all like different things.

If I get a message from someone new I look at their profile before the message. Your profile is pretty good in my opinion (I can’t say here what I don’t like unless you specifically ask for feedback) so I’d then look at your message. I’d be looking for signs that you had read my profile and that you could offer what I am looking for. Because you say you like funny ladies I’d like to see that you have a sense of humour too that hopefully works well with mine ie not just banter, so some element of displaying that would be good

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

O.P.

Read their profile.

Send a message saying :- hello , I'm do dah, I read your profile and I'm interested. Take a look at my profile and pics and if you are interested in speaking more get in touch....

the best of luck to you o.p.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"A lot of the messages we get are "nice pussy.." "
what to the guy..... I mean rude or what

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Hey do you need help with your energy bill..

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield


"Prove you have read their profile (comment on something they have said, provide a photo if that is what they request).

Tell them why you have contacted them (location, interests etc - what aspect of their profile appeals).

Give them a reason to respond (ask a question, provide a next step).

But before you contact them, make sure your profile is working for you and what you are seeking - be honest, provide details, add up to date photos.

There is no magic formula when it comes to messaging. Treat others as you would like to be treated (works in life, works on Fab )

Have fun!"

Agree, especially about giving a reason to respond

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Hi read your profile and you look the type of witty, smart , articulate, attractive and discerning cum gargling cock crazed harlot Im looking for - if you’d like a coffee sometime??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find your niche and be original, but always make it as personal to there profile...if they don't respond then so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be sleezy, read theor profile and try and come up with something on their profile that might get a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there is no “easy” message that will work

That you can copy from here and paste

As ever message should be tallerd to suit that person and they profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Prove you have read their profile (comment on something they have said, provide a photo if that is what they request).

Tell them why you have contacted them (location, interests etc - what aspect of their profile appeals).

Give them a reason to respond (ask a question, provide a next step).

But before you contact them, make sure your profile is working for you and what you are seeking - be honest, provide details, add up to date photos.

There is no magic formula when it comes to messaging. Treat others as you would like to be treated (works in life, works on Fab )

Have fun!

Agree, especially about giving a reason to respond "

Have also done this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"O.P.

Read their profile.

Send a message saying :- hello , I'm do dah, I read your profile and I'm interested. Take a look at my profile and pics and if you are interested in speaking more get in touch....

the best of luck to you o.p. "

Have done this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I hear your chair is broken, fancy using my face as a replacement?"

What the worst that can happen

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By *uddlesXXXCouple
over a year ago

Huddersfield area

The only few messages that I have been inclined to reply to, were those that addressed us as people and not just a play thing. Those who actually read the profile that we can't meet at the drop of a hat, drop a face pic and we're more likely to respond. Pick up on little parts of the profile and make comments on that.

None of that copy and paste shit, we can generally see right through messages like that

I need the social side to be flowing before I could even consider a meet, let alone have my clothes taken off

Mrs.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I generally wait until the person I want to message is ‘online’ before I send. That way they will see the new message notification, and if your message is good then they are likely to reply then and there.

There is little point in messaging someone that has not been on the site for days as their inbox will be heaving with other messages and yours will just get lost in the pile.

Of course, this doesn’t negate the possibility that the recipient will consider you not her type or the message dull and uninspiring.

Good luck

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By *elight 99Woman
over a year ago

richmond

One with out a cock in it…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One with out a cock in it… "

I never do, no one wants to see that

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By *untogetherCouple
over a year ago

Malaga, Spain, Not in U. K.


"Prove you have read their profile (comment on something they have said, provide a photo if that is what they request).

Tell them why you have contacted them (location, interests etc - what aspect of their profile appeals).

Give them a reason to respond (ask a question, provide a next step).

But before you contact them, make sure your profile is working for you and what you are seeking - be honest, provide details, add up to date photos.

There is no magic formula when it comes to messaging. Treat others as you would like to be treated (works in life, works on Fab )

Have fun!"

I agree with this as well!

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Don't be sleezy, read theor profile and try and come up with something on their profile that might get a response."

Sleezy guys need love too, no discrimination against sleezy people, sleezy lives matter.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"One with out a cock in it… "

That would be me, not on the profile, not on the public pics, specifically noted on the bio.

Am I shy? Fuck no, if people are that curious I'll send you a download link for a fleshlight session with a rope that goes halfway across the room. But, I totally get that people should only get to see that if they want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone telling you what to say isn’t you then…

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Very lengthy, extremely verbose homegrown erotica always does it for me. Joyce-esque punctuation dodging is a must, even better if you've got a Dickensian vocabulary. And if you make sure it takes me days to get to the end of it then you've got me hooked and coming back for more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, guy to guy... Don't bother. You can write the best, most personal message related to the profile, ask a good question to open conversation, compliment them on their pictures and it'll still go unread and deleted and all that effort was for nothing and you'll end up disheartened and rather bitter. Best thing would be to work on your own profile and let them come to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. Fancy a fuck?"

Forgot the erect cock pic

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe


"Very lengthy, extremely verbose homegrown erotica always does it for me. Joyce-esque punctuation dodging is a must, even better if you've got a Dickensian vocabulary. And if you make sure it takes me days to get to the end of it then you've got me hooked and coming back for more."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Suggestion very much welcome. Not a very popular Fabber it seems. "

You've been here the grand total of 6weeks. Bit premature to be bemoaning.

If you want feedback on your profile you need to specifically ask for it or just check out the few dozen older threads for tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very lengthy, extremely verbose homegrown erotica always does it for me. Joyce-esque punctuation dodging is a must, even better if you've got a Dickensian vocabulary. And if you make sure it takes me days to get to the end of it then you've got me hooked and coming back for more."

If only you were 18 and a fresher.

Never mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone telling you what to say isn’t you then…"

This.

I like humour, sarcastic humour and a slight couldn't give a fuck attitude.

But that's just who someone is, it's not someone you can pretend to be.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Hey up Duck, how's about a bit o hows ya father int back o yur old mans van?

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire


"Very lengthy, extremely verbose homegrown erotica always does it for me. Joyce-esque punctuation dodging is a must, even better if you've got a Dickensian vocabulary. And if you make sure it takes me days to get to the end of it then you've got me hooked and coming back for more.

If only you were 18 and a fresher.

Never mind."

Hey, I may no longer be in the first flush however I *can* offer skint, naive and vulnerable - can you work with that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very lengthy, extremely verbose homegrown erotica always does it for me. Joyce-esque punctuation dodging is a must, even better if you've got a Dickensian vocabulary. And if you make sure it takes me days to get to the end of it then you've got me hooked and coming back for more.

If only you were 18 and a fresher.

Never mind.

Hey, I may no longer be in the first flush however I *can* offer skint, naive and vulnerable - can you work with that? "

Honestly, I'd probably be there with you. Just doing what everyone else is, hoping that the passing of ones family and the inevitable property price crash leave us with, something? Turnips maybe.

I mean, I'd have to be a literal sugar daddy, granulated, caster, demerara, confectioners and one with deep rich molasses.

Might even stretch to actual cubes if your lucky.

The one benefit is that ick feeling would just be the sugar on the fingertips, not, ya know, deeply concerning abuse.

Tomato po-tah-toe or horse's for different fish in the sea.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


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Hey, I may no longer be in the first flush however I *can* offer skint, naive and vulnerable - can you work with that? "

Depends, if you put the same profile on Christian Mingle do you think you would get more feedback or less?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"O.P.

Read their profile.

Send a message saying :- hello , I'm do dah, I read your profile and I'm interested. Take a look at my profile and pics and if you are interested in speaking more get in touch....

the best of luck to you o.p.

Have done this"

Do it more than once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet now then loads of ????????? Messages

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Just send your cock that's what most seem to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“What is your favourite type of potato?”

It has a 100% success rate.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London


"“What is your favourite type of potato?”

It has a 100% success rate."

This made me nearly spit my tea out! LOL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“What is your favourite type of potato?”

It has a 100% success rate.

This made me nearly spit my tea out! LOL! "

Told you it works.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

“Here’s me knob, here’s me face

I’ve read your profile I think it’s ace

You’ve got me thinking, you’ve got me stiff

So tip me a wink if you like this riff”

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

A good first message would be off 2 blonde lesbians from Sweden who want to try a cock for the first time whilst scissoring C

I still awaiting that message…

*refresh page

K

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Op be original read ther profile

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