FabSwingers.com forum: Boosting confidence

By *uchess_BBW OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Hey there Fabbers.

Need help. I'm looking to boost my confidence to play again after a prett bad experience and a prolonged period of no play, as a consequence.

Fake it till I make it?

Baby steps? (If so what?)

Thanks

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Baby Steps.

If its not a hell yes its a no. If its a maybe its a no.

Work on yourself; identify any triggers and be clear in your boundaries. It will help you and any potential partner.

Figure out what you are looking for (1 to 1 or club meets) and work towards them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Baby Steps.

If its not a hell yes its a no. If its a maybe its a no.

Work on yourself; identify any triggers and be clear in your boundaries. It will help you and any potential partner.

Figure out what you are looking for (1 to 1 or club meets) and work towards them."

What kind of confidence issues OP? Can you make a man friend who understands you need to take things slow?

Or upload a cleavage pic as your profile pic, tick the 'Looking for men' box and sit back as your inbox fills up with compliments.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Confidence mostly comes from how you feel about yourself and what you’ve done , achievements , decisions you’ve made etc rather than how you look. You can fake it with clothes and make up and compliments on your appearance from others to a degree but it’s very short lived and often reduces your confidence long term because deep down you know it’s fake

Do things you are proud of and make decisions you are happy with, start small , day by day

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Get out there and kiss some more frogs ..socials only til you find one you like

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

You may find your duke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who struggles with confidence issues all i can say is do fab on your terms. Don't just meet a guy or girl because they give you attention, if your not attracted to them your not attracted to them. It's just not worth it.

I haven't played with anyone ininths and I get very disheartened on here at times but now I'm just enjoying the social side, have gone years without sex and intimacy and have tried the casual sex for the sake of getting the ride its just not worth it.

As for self confidence it's a matter of building yourself up, knowing your worth, stop caring yourself to others and love yourself ( this is a journey that we have to do everyday) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may find your duke

Nice one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Baby steps

Go at your own pace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just remember and say to yourself

I AM ENOUGH

others opinions and thoughts that knock you go in the fuckit bucket

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By *uchess_BBW OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Thank you. All of these comments and suggestions are great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t fake it until you make it, I think it will make everything worse.

I believe that you first have to pinpoint where this confidence issue has arisen from and trying to understand how it can be avoided.

Once you know, avoid triggers and work on rationalising your thoughts around it.

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