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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

anyone else dislike it when a man opens with an overtly sexual message about what he wants to do to you before any conversation has taken place? Or just me? Puts me right off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I just shake my head and think why did someone this that was a good opener

it’s like would you walk up to someone stranger in a bar

And say here love I want to ram my cock in your ass

Probably not would probably result in a slap around the lugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don’t fancy a fuck then?

Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it when her anus stops bloing kisses after one i know that much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send them straight to block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like it but I'm not surprised. The site is full of gapping fannies, spunky cocks, naked tits, sex reviews/ sex menus of what sex acts are offered.

They assume the site is primarily about sex so why would they chat about the weather in a first message....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv just made a cock profile just so i can be filthy too damn it

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Instadelete.

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By *ames5169Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"anyone else dislike it when a man opens with an overtly sexual message about what he wants to do to you before any conversation has taken place? Or just me? Puts me right off.

"

FAF ? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block single guys, that's what I did.

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...


"Yes I just shake my head and think why did someone this that was a good opener

it’s like would you walk up to someone stranger in a bar

And say here love I want to ram my cock in your ass

Probably not would probably result in a slap around the lugs

"

I've always thought this... Why would you open with getting your cock out in the pub and displaying it with the style and finesse of a peacock??

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By *ames5169Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I’m always polite and try to relate the message to something in the profile. It still fails on most occasions!!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Crap erotic fiction... Ugh, no thanks

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

I really dislike it too.

I ignore, but if they then come back with another similar message or one whining about the fact I haven’t replied, I think fuck it, if seeing my pics is making you like this, then I’ll take that privilege away.

BLOCK.

It does feel like you have to treat some people like small children and just remove them from the situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't like it but I'm not surprised. The site is full of gapping fannies, spunky cocks, naked tits, sex reviews/ sex menus of what sex acts are offered.

They assume the site is primarily about sex so why would they chat about the weather in a first message....

"

Not asking them to talk about the weather but a “Hi, I’m … and I liked xyz on your profile. How’s your day so far” yes we’re here for sex but let’s have some manners about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you send face pics before agreeing to a social op?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really dislike it too.

I ignore, but if they then come back with another similar message or one whining about the fact I haven’t replied, I think fuck it, if seeing my pics is making you like this, then I’ll take that privilege away.

BLOCK.

It does feel like you have to treat some people like small children and just remove them from the situation "

Don’t get me started on the tantrums over not getting a reply. Straight block. You’re a grown adult, act like one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you send face pics before agreeing to a social op? "

Yes. Face pics and socials are non negotiable for me. Won’t interact further without face pic and won’t engage in sexual activity without a social first

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

So this is where I’m going wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like it but I'm not surprised. The site is full of gapping fannies, spunky cocks, naked tits, sex reviews/ sex menus of what sex acts are offered.

They assume the site is primarily about sex so why would they chat about the weather in a first message....

"

Ah yes, the ‘I’ll send you a message about objectifying you because you have your boobs out’ mentality of men. It is genuinely a classic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't like it but I'm not surprised. The site is full of gapping fannies, spunky cocks, naked tits, sex reviews/ sex menus of what sex acts are offered.

They assume the site is primarily about sex so why would they chat about the weather in a first message....

Ah yes, the ‘I’ll send you a message about objectifying you because you have your boobs out’ mentality of men. It is genuinely a classic. "

Telling me to sit on your face when I’ve never seen said face and you could look like a bridge troll. No thanks.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford


"anyone else dislike it when a man opens with an overtly sexual message about what he wants to do to you before any conversation has taken place? Or just me? Puts me right off.

"

With a name like GeorgiaPeach i bet you get all the 'eaten out' one liners

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Generally just block them.

Had one earlier. Said 'i know you aren't looking for men, but I'd love to fuck you etc etc 'and accompanied by a dick pic.

Straight to block

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Generally just block them.

Had one earlier. Said 'i know you aren't looking for men, but I'd love to fuck you etc etc 'and accompanied by a dick pic.

Straight to block

"

Ugh, this irritates the life out of me. “I know you aren’t looking for men” bugger off then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"anyone else dislike it when a man opens with an overtly sexual message about what he wants to do to you before any conversation has taken place? Or just me? Puts me right off.

With a name like GeorgiaPeach i bet you get all the 'eaten out' one liners "

Too many to count at this point

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Peaches come in a can, they were put there by a man.

I would love to be the man to cum in your can!

Sorry, couldn't resist it

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yep hate it

Instant delete & block

Or if I'm feeling sarky I'll reply back about it & then block.

They've never seen a face in most cases just bits of a body makes me think anyone would do.

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By *rincess1988Woman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

Yeah it’s a “no” from me too. I either ignore or block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like it but I'm not surprised. The site is full of gapping fannies, spunky cocks, naked tits, sex reviews/ sex menus of what sex acts are offered.

They assume the site is primarily about sex so why would they chat about the weather in a first message....

Ah yes, the ‘I’ll send you a message about objectifying you because you have your boobs out’ mentality of men. It is genuinely a classic.

Telling me to sit on your face when I’ve never seen said face and you could look like a bridge troll. No thanks. "

True that. Would you entertain a face mask if the dudes body is a 10?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Instant delete from me no matter if they seem my type or not x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't like it but I'm not surprised. The site is full of gapping fannies, spunky cocks, naked tits, sex reviews/ sex menus of what sex acts are offered.

They assume the site is primarily about sex so why would they chat about the weather in a first message....

Ah yes, the ‘I’ll send you a message about objectifying you because you have your boobs out’ mentality of men. It is genuinely a classic.

Telling me to sit on your face when I’ve never seen said face and you could look like a bridge troll. No thanks.

True that. Would you entertain a face mask if the dudes body is a 10? "

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike them full stop.

Unless we've actually met, then just no.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I don't like it but I'm not surprised. The site is full of gapping fannies, spunky cocks, naked tits, sex reviews/ sex menus of what sex acts are offered.

They assume the site is primarily about sex so why would they chat about the weather in a first message....

Ah yes, the ‘I’ll send you a message about objectifying you because you have your boobs out’ mentality of men. It is genuinely a classic.

Telling me to sit on your face when I’ve never seen said face and you could look like a bridge troll. No thanks. "

What if it was a bridge troll with a penis shaped nose and a very long tongue?

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like it but I'm not surprised. The site is full of gapping fannies, spunky cocks, naked tits, sex reviews/ sex menus of what sex acts are offered.

They assume the site is primarily about sex so why would they chat about the weather in a first message....

Ah yes, the ‘I’ll send you a message about objectifying you because you have your boobs out’ mentality of men. It is genuinely a classic.

Telling me to sit on your face when I’ve never seen said face and you could look like a bridge troll. No thanks.

What if it was a bridge troll with a penis shaped nose and a very long tongue?

A"

If you wanna get the boys hole, you gotta pay the troll toll.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"anyone else dislike it when a man opens with an overtly sexual message about what he wants to do to you before any conversation has taken place? Or just me? Puts me right off.

"

Puts me off but that might be due to my neurodivergent brain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I just shake my head and think why did someone this that was a good opener

it’s like would you walk up to someone stranger in a bar

And say here love I want to ram my cock in your ass

Probably not would probably result in a slap around the lugs

I've always thought this... Why would you open with getting your cock out in the pub and displaying it with the style and finesse of a peacock??"

Same here I look at a open message the same was as someone approaching me in a bar / night club

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I probably open 1% of messages. I can tell by the first line I won’t be interested.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

It gets a from me

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

I read the title as sexual opening massages first

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By *tar25Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"I’m always polite and try to relate the message to something in the profile. It still fails on most occasions!!"

Never sent a dick pic, still no replies. I'm just fugly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read the title as sexual opening massages first "

Now that I can get behind

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville


"I read the title as sexual opening massages first

Now that I can get behind"

Any chance I can get behind you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m always polite and try to relate the message to something in the profile. It still fails on most occasions!!

Never sent a dick pic, still no replies. I'm just fugly "

I don't send them anymore either. (SARCASM)

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I generally ignore, but have occasionally sent sarcastic replies back letting them know that it sounds great and we can get round to it just as soon as I've finished rogering them with the spiky end of the biggest pineapple I can find, and asking when we can meet. Strangely it's them that usually do the blocking after that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I generally ignore, but have occasionally sent sarcastic replies back letting them know that it sounds great and we can get round to it just as soon as I've finished rogering them with the spiky end of the biggest pineapple I can find, and asking when we can meet. Strangely it's them that usually do the blocking after that "

Ahahah, yeah depending on my mood I either immediately block or give a sarcastic reply. But half of them are so dim, they don’t pick up on the sarcasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could send you a face now but its too soon to ruin the weekend for you. Face pic Friday?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I dislike it when a man does that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a couple in my inbox earlier send a completely sexual first message… I blocked then deleted. Don’t understand how they think sending filth will get an instant positive reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I had a couple in my inbox earlier send a completely sexual first message… I blocked then deleted. Don’t understand how they think sending filth will get an instant positive reply."

If anything it just shrivels me up, gets like the Sahara. It’s never the lookers either, not that it would be any better if it was

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It makes me toll my eyes . Total turn off.

Ruby

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

‘I walk into your room as you lay naked on the bed….’ etc etc.

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By *mallButMightyMan
over a year ago

mansfield


"Iv just made a cock profile just so i can be filthy too damn it"

And the award for the best profile picture goes too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big turn off.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

[Removed by poster at 13/10/22 20:31:46]

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"anyone else dislike it when a man opens with an overtly sexual message about what he wants to do to you before any conversation has taken place? Or just me? Puts me right off.

"

Damn filters, I was going to send you a message of all the PG ways I would romance thee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't open it

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

This is the reason we blocked single guys. To much abuse when we first joined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never do that always start as if you wanted to be talked to and make sure there ok etc

On the flip side hate the women that think it’s ok to say want a face and or a dick pick with first message ffs if your that shallow to make a judgement from that then your defo not going to be nice to talk to

Just be nice people we all want to be talked to nicely even if you don’t like someone just say no thank you it’s just manners

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Usually an immediate delete if they can't even be bothered to say hello or introduce themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy myself I find it absolutely disrespectful to open a message such as that how any male thinks that's ok let alone think it will work is beyond me

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It does strike me as ridiculous. I have to wonder if they go up to strangers in real life and say "I'd like to fuck your slut wife up the arse".

Most of the messages we get that extend past "Hi" are this way.

Most messages we receive go straight in the bin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"‘I walk into your room as you lay naked on the bed….’ etc etc.

"

God, it’s so cringe isn’t it??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It does strike me as ridiculous. I have to wonder if they go up to strangers in real life and say "I'd like to fuck your slut wife up the arse".

Most of the messages we get that extend past "Hi" are this way.

Most messages we receive go straight in the bin. "

It’s one extreme to the other isn’t it. Either incredibly basic or absolute filth

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Usually an immediate delete if they can't even be bothered to say hello or introduce themselves "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely anus on you. Keep eating fibers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely… Guys don’t do that please…

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

The 600 word cut and paste erotic story messages don't even have the first line read. Straight to delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone else dislike it when a man opens with an overtly sexual message about what he wants to do to you before any conversation has taken place? Or just me? Puts me right off.

"

What’s the point in that ?

Reminded me the very first time I joined in fabs

Couple years ago

Very first message from a man straight away

I barely opened my profile :

“Any women to share ?”

Fuck in hell , want some pork chops as well ? No ?

Jizz manizz

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By *ynda1978Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Liverpool


"anyone else dislike it when a man opens with an overtly sexual message about what he wants to do to you before any conversation has taken place? Or just me? Puts me right off.

"

I agree with you,it puts me off too. They get my standard reply that predicted text picks up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike them with a passion, I don't get them often but while I want more than "how's you", going into detail (that they sent to at least 20 other women) really doesn't do it for me.

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By *exymilf2203Couple
over a year ago

Farnborough

Finger just goes straight to delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Just delete and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The 600 word cut and paste erotic story messages don't even have the first line read. Straight to delete. "

I just reply I didn't bother to read any of it because they didn't bother reading my profile.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I always send individualised and carefully crafted messages designed to entice, engage and delight. Although since last week I decided to scrap all that and do a load of “GIZZASHAG!” messages instead.

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By *lackhammer117Man
over a year ago

Candyland

Speaking as a single guy, the guys that do it are clearly only able to do it on here i.e keyboard warriors. I guarantee they would never say a majority of the shit i hear that they say to women they would like to have sex with in person! They wouldnt have the bollocks to do so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very relieved to hear this.(previous comment)

When we see those ridiculous crude type posts,we wonder if they realise everyone knows they're pathetic loners, probably virgins!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone else dislike it when a man opens with an overtly sexual message about what he wants to do to you before any conversation has taken place? Or just me? Puts me right off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone actually sent their first message to us with a simple "oi" the other night. The next message was "got any face pics " After telling this so called couple that they should maybe try a different approach, they "he" blocked us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone actually sent their first message to us with a simple "oi" the other night. The next message was "got any face pics " After telling this so called couple that they should maybe try a different approach, they "he" blocked us. "

Time wasters. It takes seconds to attach a picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the ones that just say "are you free" from so called members 200 miles away!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone actually sent their first message to us with a simple "oi" the other night. The next message was "got any face pics " After telling this so called couple that they should maybe try a different approach, they "he" blocked us.

Time wasters. It takes seconds to attach a picture "

When you say "Time wasters"

Who are you meaning?

Us or them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I just shake my head and think why did someone this that was a good opener

it’s like would you walk up to someone stranger in a bar

And say here love I want to ram my cock in your ass

Probably not would probably result in a slap around the lugs

"

Ha ha I'm sure that happens at times

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It shouts that they probably won't be putting my needs as their priority in all likelihood, if at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Someone actually sent their first message to us with a simple "oi" the other night. The next message was "got any face pics " After telling this so called couple that they should maybe try a different approach, they "he" blocked us. "

It really goes from one extreme to the other. Honestly. No manners, just want to quickly get inside some pussy. Then the excuse is “well this is a sex site” get a grip ya loser

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