FabSwingers.com forum: Bad veris

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone else here take veris with a pinch of salt?

I have been here on and off for years and I know for a fact that some of my own veris in that time have said things that im like "huh, thats doesnt really fit me"

Also because we can pick and choose which veris we show we never see any bad veris.

Bad veris would help us to know who to avoid. I once had a guy come over for a meet and afterwards he refused to leave. The only thing that got him out of my house was when I showed him my husbands gun cabinet and told him my husband was due home any minute. I left him a true and accurate veri, but obviously he didnt show it on his profile. I have always wondered if he ever did something similar to another woman, and it could have been avoided if that veri had been shown on his profile.

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love bad verifications and this is what I strive to achieve

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think the system would get abused. Somebody won't chat to somebody so they leave them a bad verification.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Does anyone else here take veris with a pinch of salt?

I have been here on and off for years and I know for a fact that some of my own veris in that time have said things that im like "huh, thats doesnt really fit me"

Also because we can pick and choose which veris we show we never see any bad veris.

Thoughts? "

SkyRaven arranged to meet us but when she urned up she was actually a 70 y/o guy called Derek with a wooden leg and two glass eyes. Oh. And a prosthetic penis made from an old cat scratching post.

Now none of this is true of course but do you see the flaw in your theory?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nah it’s fine as it is. I wouldn’t stay if that happened. I don’t want folk knowing who I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you actually leave a bad one.

I've met some with great verifications and the meet has been a disaster for me (probably for others too)

Ots really just down to how you get along in person that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give them with a punch of salt…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone care to leave a bad veri for me and I'll return the favour?

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

A verification is a chance to verify / confirm that someone is who they say they are.

The system isn’t designed to be a review style trip advisor mechanism (sadly).

If I had problems with any aspect of dealing with another fab account, I’d use the report function (altho I accept it’s limited with what they can do).

I hope you are ok after the incident, those kind of things definitely can shake us and your desire to help others avoid a difficult situation is commendable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone care to leave a bad veri for me and I'll return the favour?

Only if you publish it…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone care to leave a bad veri for me and I'll return the favour?

Only if you publish it…"

Oh I'll publish it all right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet anyone with a WankAdvisor rating below three aubergine emojis out of five

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By *rincess1988Woman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I had meets where I thought… his verifications were surely fake or where I was tempted to leave a bad one. But since they can be hidden I choose to not verify bad meets at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can mostly read between the lines with veris.

Say, if one has a veri up but the other party doesn't. Possible red flag. Could be a simple reason, could be nothing, but it has a potential for difference of enjoyment there.

Lots of ways to use them or interpret them. Just have to be looking at who wrote it and such to get a proper impression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won't meet anyone with a WankAdvisor rating below three aubergine emojis out of five

It’s shag advisor

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CLOmqfc0qek

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

OP I hope you reported that profile. He put your safety at risk. You could even report him to the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris are bullshit really. People will always sing someone's praises so they can get another shag. People won't show bad veris.

I'd prefer to see no veris at all on a profile. I don't care about their sexual or coffee history and I don't want to read about it.

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By *hiskeyColaMan
over a year ago

Oswestry

"You can mostly read between the lines with veris.

Say, if one has a veri up but the other party doesn't. Possible red flag. Could be a simple reason, could be nothing, but it has a potential for difference of enjoyment there.

Lots of ways to use them or interpret them. Just have to be looking at who wrote it and such to get a proper impression"

Take my hat off to you - that's some advanced verification analysis right there

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

All you can ever hope to glean from a veri of any use is whether the person is genuine or not.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

On my old profile I had a verification from another forumite that said "run away and avoud at all costs" and it never ceased to amaze me that people would message me thinking it was serious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can mostly read between the lines with veris.

Say, if one has a veri up but the other party doesn't. Possible red flag. Could be a simple reason, could be nothing, but it has a potential for difference of enjoyment there.

Lots of ways to use them or interpret them. Just have to be looking at who wrote it and such to get a proper impression

Take my hat off to you - that's some advanced verification analysis right there

Has saved me a few wrong turns.

But there have been times it hasn't so there are no perfect strategies.

At the end of the day you go with your gut and your best guess

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

This is why you report people, although I'm never sure how much good that does.

I've met guys who haven't lived up to their veris, that's just disappointing

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By *rincess1988Woman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"This is why you report people, although I'm never sure how much good that does.

I've met guys who haven't lived up to their veris, that's just disappointing "

Yeah, often reporting people does nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's when you have a new local user and they have a veri in the first few hours. I have to go damn that was fast.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

No, I think it should be your choice what you do and don’t display.

There is too much scope for people abusing the system if you had to display them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even show my veris anymore and I rarely look at them on profiles anymore. I hate the over the top "treat her with respect" bollocks (apart from my friend, who said those words but she's my friend lol).

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I won't meet anyone with a WankAdvisor rating below three aubergine emojis out of five

I'm a solid 3.14

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I don't really read into varies too much. I think in a way what's more interesting is seeing the sort of people someone meets rather than what they had to say.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Veris are just a snapshot of someone's experience at that particular moment in time - truthful in their experience (possibly written through cock/cuntlust). I think forcing folk to display all could easily lead to abuse of the system, further fabrication if turned down etc.

You can report people OP if you've had an experience like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a story like this is worth report the member .

Sounds like a very abusive and scary identity .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a story like this is worth report the member .

Sounds like a very abusive and scary identity .

I don’t like verifications .

All they do is talk about detailed sexual activitivies

And she done this …. she done that

Hu La la

Off putting :/ so I gave up reading them . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you actually leave a bad one.

I've met some with great verifications and the meet has been a disaster for me (probably for others too)

Ots really just down to how you get along in person that matters"

Don’t see much point put a bad one.

The member is not gonna publish it is it ?

Is you who end with a block … Wich by the sound of it is not such a bad idea ^^

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I really hate veri's. For me, one will do to say you are who you say you are. Everything else is surplus to requirements. To me, they are a bit 'braggy'...if thats even a word!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can mostly read between the lines with veris.

Say, if one has a veri up but the other party doesn't. Possible red flag. Could be a simple reason, could be nothing, but it has a potential for difference of enjoyment there.

Lots of ways to use them or interpret them. Just have to be looking at who wrote it and such to get a proper impression"

Yes but the other side can be interested in discretion .

Like doesn’t want to publish a meet last Saturday

I think a verification you ask the person first if she would like or rather don’t be verified .

Me personally I’m not very friends of gossip and show off .

There’s nothing to hide . But I think is just a touch of respect and consideration .

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I think a story like this is worth report the member .

Sounds like a very abusive and scary identity .

I don’t like verifications .

All they do is talk about detailed sexual activitivies

And she done this …. she done that

Hu La la

Off putting :/ so I gave up reading them . . .

Do you expect women to have never had any sexual contact with anyone else?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've met numerous people over the years and we have never verified each other.

I've met numerous people over the years and we've verified each other and shortly after the mask has slipped and they've turned into raging bunny boilers and I've hidden those.

I've never understood the feeble excuse some people use to contact others and ask about someone they've verified.

If they were in anyway dodgy do they really think the other person would still display their veri and give them a different review when asked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a story like this is worth report the member .

Sounds like a very abusive and scary identity .

I don’t like verifications .

All they do is talk about detailed sexual activitivies

And she done this …. she done that

Hu La la

Off putting :/ so I gave up reading them . . .

That's the only good bit !

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve got some rather odd verifications from several ladies but that’s a reflection on them not me as the common denominator.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve got some rather odd verifications from several ladies but that’s a reflection on them not me as the common denominator. "

Total blast from the past in there.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I had meets where I thought… his verifications were surely fake or where I was tempted to leave a bad one. But since they can be hidden I choose to not verify bad meets at all."

Exactly this. Been utterly gobsmacked by how inaccurate verifications have been for a couple of guys I met. And like you, I either don't verify but if they insist I leave an extremely vague non verification that they don't publish anyway.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I’ve got some rather odd verifications from several ladies but that’s a reflection on them not me as the common denominator.

Total blast from the past in there.

Haha! Yes indeed. Awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve got some rather odd verifications from several ladies but that’s a reflection on them not me as the common denominator. "

Whenever I see someone say "no one ever posts bad verifications" I think of you.

Winston

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't pay a lot of notice to veris as one person's perfect meet will be another's nightmare.Veris just mean the person is who they are meant to be .

I use them more to see who they met and if it's someone who is known for drama on here I'll avoid meeting them as I can't be bothered being dragged into fab dramatics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take verifications with a pinch of salt, its just a tool I use to know whether a person is real or not

As for good or bad, different people like different things so what's good for one person maybe bad for another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the bad ones, the over the top sickeningly complimentary ones are just

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Speaking as a teacher who has to write reports, UCAS references etc for students who are perhaps less than stellar, but for whom one must strive to be positive, it would be fun to write a veri so beautifully ambiguous that readers couldn't be sure if the recipient were Aphrodite or Medusa.

Alomg the lines of those famous, probably apocryphal book reviews, 'fills a much-needed gap', and 'Thank you for your book, which I shall waste no time in reading'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speaking as a teacher who has to write reports, UCAS references etc for students who are perhaps less than stellar, but for whom one must strive to be positive, it would be fun to write a veri so beautifully ambiguous that readers couldn't be sure if the recipient were Aphrodite or Medusa.

Alomg the lines of those famous, probably apocryphal book reviews, 'fills a much-needed gap', and 'Thank you for your book, which I shall waste no time in reading'."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just read between the lines

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Alomg the lines of those famous, probably apocryphal book reviews, 'fills a much-needed gap', and 'Thank you for your book, which I shall waste no time in reading'."

UCAS applications

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Does anyone else here take veris with a pinch of salt?

I have been here on and off for years and I know for a fact that some of my own veris in that time have said things that im like "huh, thats doesnt really fit me"

Also because we can pick and choose which veris we show we never see any bad veris.

Thoughts? "

Not sure there's much of a need got them. An amazon 5 star system should suffice.

Did it arrive on time?

Was it well wrapped?

Did it meet your expectations?

Would you order it again or recommend to others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just read between the lies "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just read between the lies

Me too

I see what you did there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met good people and not left them. Take from that what you will.

Verifications Is a broken system.

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