FabSwingers.com forum: Is age gap an issue

By *rotic days OP Man
over a year ago

oxford

just curious if age gap is an issue. I was going out with a 20 year old when I was 45 and we got on amazingly. but often got disapproving looks and comments. have any other fibbers had similar issues? or is age just a number?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"just curious if age gap is an issue. I was going out with a 20 year old when I was 45 and we got on amazingly. but often got disapproving looks and comments. have any other fibbers had similar issues? or is age just a number?"

A got asked if I was buying wine for my daughter at Asda last year.

Fox pissed herself laughing. She foesnt look her age and I guess I'd had a particularly rough night the day before........

To me age will always just been a number but others will be along soon to state it's of great importance.

Age gaps are like cocks. If they're too big it puts some off whereas to others the size is unimportant.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

An adult is an adult.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

For some it will be a problem, others not. Sometimes in the relationship it can become a problem. People judge. Hopefully not too many impose that judgement onto others, but some cannot help themselves

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Not for me. Look at my verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People just love pick on you .

Rather then worry if u feel ok .

If is not because your lover is older

Is because u where weird shoes or your hand bag is grosse

Fuck them all .

Is your freedom .

U know what I say :

I’m jealous . I would love to meet a younger lover .

I had a 25 year old for new year this year

Sadly didn’t last long

She had Columbian’s priorities

Don’t let other touch your freedom

As long you happy no one cares x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it works for you and everyone is above 18 then everyone else’s opinion shouldn’t matter. It wouldn’t work for me. If you want to tickle my balls you have to know how to rewind a cassette with a pencil.

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By *rooMan
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

14yrs older than my gf and we are great together always have been

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend

No, age gap shouldn't matter in the slightest so long as both parties are of legal age, consenting and happy then what right does anyone have to say that is in any way wrong.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

An age gap has caused me to break off a relationship in the past. We adored each other and the sex was incredible, but we were in totally different places in our lives. The day-to-day side of things just didn’t work out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't work for me personally, what others want to do is their business so long as nobody is getting hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a parent, I'd be less than thrilled if one of my 20 somethings were in a relationship with someone closer in age to me, I would feel there was a probable imbalance of power and life experience, and that my child might encounter difficulties in relation to these.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I tend to see women in their 20s and 30s. Never had any issues other than sometimes they are a bit nervous about meeting my daughters

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"As a parent, I'd be less than thrilled if one of my 20 somethings were in a relationship with someone closer in age to me, I would feel there was a probable imbalance of power and life experience, and that my child might encounter difficulties in relation to these."

This has happened to me. One of my daughters only dates older guys , but I respect her choices, she’s smart and even when dating guys twice her age she’s the one in control. In general women and much more mature than men , often by 10 or 20 years.and make decisions about having sex very differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people will think differently based on gender. But I think yours and your partner’s happiness is more important than the thoughts or looks of others.

One of my longer term partners is 27 years older than me. And I was dating someone 15 years older than me earlier this year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, age isn’t just a number. There’s a correlation between message content and age for me on here and the ones who’ve been most likely to persuade me to loosen my preferences or message relentlessly after a no response have been the sub 30 single men.

I like guys around my own age. Hence I have age filters on now.

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

He’ll no I would say my self the older the better the sex personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, age isn’t just a number. There’s a correlation between message content and age for me on here and the ones who’ve been most likely to persuade me to loosen my preferences or message relentlessly after a no response have been the sub 30 single men.

I like guys around my own age. Hence I have age filters on now."

Should say *try to persuade me

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Age gaps are a big no for me. I’m speaking in terms of relationships - I want to grow old at the same time.

I’ve always felt the same way too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only my experience but the men I've known around my age (50) who go after much younger women tend to be a little insecure and emotionally immature. It seems to be the opposite for younger men who date older women, they seem to be more mature for their years.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I've been doing some quick maths in my head OP, it's not as quick as I'd like this time of the morning.

Generally I'd say I'm all for age gaps because they're the relationships that tend to work best for me. I've only dated long term one man who was less than 15 years older than me.

But that being typed, it's situational isn't it? There's no doubt there can be negative power dynamics in play at times, different places in life etc. The most important thing is how you and your partner feel about it. If it's healthy, you're genuinely happy, go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the person my last relationship he was 18 years older than me. You can be the same age as someone and people will still judge. If the make you happy who cares, you're the one seeing them not other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number for me. But obviously like you found op, some people judge and have their own opinions. Some of those o opinions are justified, some are just filled with cliché remarks.

If you’re both mature and of a legal age for sexy things, what’s wrong with falling for each other and having a relationship?

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By *ust me 999Man
over a year ago

near you

No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not.

I’m 52 and my wife is 34

I play with someone on here and she’s 26.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

If its not an issue for you personally no its not though others will always have disapproval

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all....each to their own...I'm 8 years older than my wife not much really but I started dating her when I was 25

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

For me it is, if she is younger than 25

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it is, if she is younger than 25"

I think my filter is 25. That just sounds right more than anything else for some reason. It’s odd, 24 no…25 yes.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

If you connect mentally and physically, enjoy each other’s company and make each other’s life better by being in it, why care what others think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everything for some it won’t be for some it will…

Personally it’s not an issue for me, I’ve pretty much always been with women older than myself.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Not a problem for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it is, if she is younger than 25"

Yep 10 years younger would be the absolute lowest I’d go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you got an issue heres a tissue

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Not particularly, if it works for them, it works for them. I think the biggest issue I'd have doing it myself would be conversationally, especially with someone much younger, I don't know how much I'd have in common to talk about

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss independent has to be 23+

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

20 year age gap between me and my last LTP, 5 years of bliss, then lockdown and it all went to shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like an age gap. I would date women my age but I really want to have sex with women 20+ years older than me. Even better if they're married and their Husband is present.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

"For me it is, if she is younger than 25

I think my filter is 25. That just sounds right more than anything else for some reason. It’s odd, 24 no…25 yes.

Approximately 25 is reported age the human brain reaches maturation. Also as a number it is nice and square

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy that took time to understand women, I get to chat to and date a few ladies of all ages with ease.

At present I get to have time with a sweet and beautiful young lady of 22 year old and I'm 67.

She gets from me what she doesn't get from guys her own age and that is total respect, maturity and someone that allows her to be in her feminine, knowing that as I'm the man, I have everything under control in a calm and confident manner and make her feel safe and comfortable.

I've actually met her parents, both are happy as long as their daughter is safe and happy, that is all that matters.

We both know it would be foolish to start anything serious, so it's just a mutual fun time together, not exclusively confined to the be_room.

Being fit as I am, I am capable of doing anything a younger guy can, all without the stress to her of doing things together without her thinking I have an ulterior motive, which is how younger guys behave towards her.

So yes, age is just a number, ignore the strange looks and occasional snide comments, it can work if you are totally in your masculine element

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it is, if she is younger than 25

I think my filter is 25. That just sounds right more than anything else for some reason. It’s odd, 24 no…25 yes.

Approximately 25 is reported age the human brain reaches maturation. Also as a number it is nice and square

5^^2 to be precise

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Age gap doesn’t really bother me- prefer older than younger in general though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it’s not about legal age. I think if they’re both over 25 then they’re both (meant to be) fully matured and less likely to be manipulated but I’m still judging. I don’t understand why someone in their 50’s wants to date a teenager or someone in their early 20’s.

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By *emptedbCouple
over a year ago

guildford

18 years between us. Incredibly happy always have been married for many years!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I used to prefer older guys when I was younger because they seemed more mature, experienced and just more interesting.

Nowadays I find they cannot keep up with me and I am not just talking sexually but in terms of drive, energy and the motivation to continue life long learning.

No hard and fast rule, I guess, but I prefer about 10 to 20 years younger these days - there are some exceptions though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same age or older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t mind "

Great input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An age gap has caused me to break off a relationship in the past. We adored each other and the sex was incredible, but we were in totally different places in our lives. The day-to-day side of things just didn’t work out."

^^ this is my issue with it.

Have to be realistic with differences in life stages.

Not looking to be a mum figure even if it's subconscious.

Also, need a guy who adds value to my life not one who makes the load heavier or harder to manage. Which is not necessarily age dependent but can be.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"I used to prefer older guys when I was younger because they seemed more mature, experienced and just more interesting.

Nowadays I find they cannot keep up with me and I am not just talking sexually but in terms of drive, energy and the motivation to continue life long learning.

No hard and fast rule, I guess, but I prefer about 10 to 20 years younger these days - there are some exceptions though.

This! I never thought I'd be regularly having sex with guys 15/20 yrs younger than me, but now I love it! I suppose it helps that I've a got a lot of younger friends & don't act or mentally feel my age

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I used to prefer older guys when I was younger because they seemed more mature, experienced and just more interesting.

Nowadays I find they cannot keep up with me and I am not just talking sexually but in terms of drive, energy and the motivation to continue life long learning.

No hard and fast rule, I guess, but I prefer about 10 to 20 years younger these days - there are some exceptions though.

I think the same about women

I think the constant pursuit of learning, adventure , novelty and just being curious and open minded is much more important than sex. Younger women are by no means better at sex

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By *vanabeusedTV/TS
over a year ago

somewhere

I just wish I was 25 years younger and know what I know now x

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By *orksguy1965Man
over a year ago

Howden

More mature lady for me any day

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By *nly the lonelyMan
over a year ago

Ely

I agree , age is just a number . We are all on here for sex, and if there is a mutual attraction to then age won't get in to to the way. .

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By *oody HuddsonMan
over a year ago

sexy town

I met a friend of a friend with other mutual friends at a climbing wall. She was 23 im 47, she also looked younger.

I was asked how long my daughter had been climbing. My reply was I don’t have a daughter but my sons been climbing since he was 2. I then got told I was a lucky dirty old man ??????

Age matters to some

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

My kids don't like me dating men in their 20s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My kids don't like me dating men in their 20s."

My son is 20 and he thinks 30 is too young for me

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Generally across to board age is not an issue, both consenting adults of course. The issues and limits to that are soley personal based. If somebody needs a specific age range that's fine, nothing wrong with that either.

If it works it works, it's just not for everyone.

The fact that there are a good number of large age gap relationships going strong shows its a none issue. It works regardless of what each individual feels should be appropriate.

For me personally I don't think I'd have a large age gap issue, if I get on well with somebody and I think they are attractive then so be it. More often than not though, I often struggle to relate to certain age groups. So it's down to the individual on if I'm attracted physically and mentally. To them, be they 18 or 99 - extremes I know but the further out from my own age the less likely it would be, though I'd never be able to say I'd dismiss somebody on the number of their age alone.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yep. It’s an issue to me

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason "

What makes that inappropriate though? Attraction is attraction, both physical and mentally.

I'm not saying we should all be in to that age gap, but what is the part that is inappropriate?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason

What makes that inappropriate though? Attraction is attraction, both physical and mentally.

I'm not saying we should all be in to that age gap, but what is the part that is inappropriate? "

A 65 year old man with an 18 year old girl doesn’t make you go ewwwwwwww?

Well it does me I’m afraid. Rightly or wrongly

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By *togMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

I'm 48 and my playmate is 26, best sex I have ever had by a long way. As long as its legal and makes you both happy then age is just a number, life is too short to worry about other people's unwanted opinions.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We don’t think so but we probably aren’t going to go looking for 20 somethings. If they message us and there’s a connection then great.

Age isn’t the issue - it’s the connection regardless of age that’s important…

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason

What makes that inappropriate though? Attraction is attraction, both physical and mentally.

I'm not saying we should all be in to that age gap, but what is the part that is inappropriate?

A 65 year old man with an 18 year old girl doesn’t make you go ewwwwwwww?

Well it does me I’m afraid. Rightly or wrongly "

But again what specifically is inappropriate about it?

There may be questions why etc but an adult is an adult. Their choices to do so. If they get along and are attracted and are both consenting, and it works then I have no problem with that. Their choice has no effect on my own life or choices, and nobody is being harmed or in danger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I am 36 he is 56 we been together 10 years.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason

What makes that inappropriate though? Attraction is attraction, both physical and mentally.

I'm not saying we should all be in to that age gap, but what is the part that is inappropriate?

A 65 year old man with an 18 year old girl doesn’t make you go ewwwwwwww?

Well it does me I’m afraid. Rightly or wrongly

But again what specifically is inappropriate about it?

I know. It’s legal etc. Still ewwww in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason

What makes that inappropriate though? Attraction is attraction, both physical and mentally.

I'm not saying we should all be in to that age gap, but what is the part that is inappropriate?

A 65 year old man with an 18 year old girl doesn’t make you go ewwwwwwww?

Well it does me I’m afraid. Rightly or wrongly

But again what specifically is inappropriate about it?

I know. It’s legal etc. Still ewwww in my opinion. "

I agree it would be ewwwww to me too! I have a son not much older than that! Just because something is legal doesn’t mean I can’t be grossed out by it.

Lots of things are legal that I find unsavoury!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason

What makes that inappropriate though? Attraction is attraction, both physical and mentally.

I'm not saying we should all be in to that age gap, but what is the part that is inappropriate?

A 65 year old man with an 18 year old girl doesn’t make you go ewwwwwwww?

Well it does me I’m afraid. Rightly or wrongly

But again what specifically is inappropriate about it?

I know. It’s legal etc. Still ewwww in my opinion.

I agree it would be ewwwww to me too! I have a son not much older than that! Just because something is legal doesn’t mean I can’t be grossed out by it.

Lots of things are legal that I find unsavoury! "

Exactly. I think it would be to most people to be honest. But god forbid someone saying they find something unsavoury on here if it’s legal

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By *eckard2019Man
over a year ago

North West Durham

For me personally, not sure if a long term relationship would work with a really big gap (10 years plus), due to a likely lack of things in common. Basically I don't understand the young people if today and arrogantly think older people don't get me.

But I find older and younger women attractive and as long as everyone is a consenting adult I will play with much older/younger.

As far as anyone else goes I do not care. Whatever makes you happy as long as its legal and not hurting anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's great about Fab regarding age gaps is that everyone looks and acts younger than they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To reduce pair bonding to the simplistic is never helpful.

Age is just a number, meh, no, it really isn't.

But age isn't always the sole indicator of maturity, perspective, personality etc etc.

Everything is relative and subjective to the individuals involved, their wants, needs and future.

Sometimes it's a little close to the bone and raises serious eyebrows. But whatever, circus, monkeys, blah blah blah.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason

What makes that inappropriate though? Attraction is attraction, both physical and mentally.

I'm not saying we should all be in to that age gap, but what is the part that is inappropriate?

A 65 year old man with an 18 year old girl doesn’t make you go ewwwwwwww?

Well it does me I’m afraid. Rightly or wrongly

But again what specifically is inappropriate about it?

I know. It’s legal etc. Still ewwww in my opinion.

I agree it would be ewwwww to me too! I have a son not much older than that! Just because something is legal doesn’t mean I can’t be grossed out by it.

Lots of things are legal that I find unsavoury!

Exactly. I think it would be to most people to be honest. But god forbid someone saying they find something unsavoury on here if it’s legal

I didn't say it can't be liked, I asked where is the inappropriateness of it. What specifically makes it inappropriate?

Questionable, yes. Unconventional, yes. Inappropriate, I don't see anything inappropriate about a connection between 2 consenting adults with an attraction. So long as no power plays or manipulation have taken place. So I'm asking where is the actual inappropriateness of it outside of personal (and perfectly fine) dislike of the age gap?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason

What makes that inappropriate though? Attraction is attraction, both physical and mentally.

I'm not saying we should all be in to that age gap, but what is the part that is inappropriate?

A 65 year old man with an 18 year old girl doesn’t make you go ewwwwwwww?

Well it does me I’m afraid. Rightly or wrongly

But again what specifically is inappropriate about it?

I know. It’s legal etc. Still ewwww in my opinion.

I agree it would be ewwwww to me too! I have a son not much older than that! Just because something is legal doesn’t mean I can’t be grossed out by it.

Lots of things are legal that I find unsavoury!

Exactly. I think it would be to most people to be honest. But god forbid someone saying they find something unsavoury on here if it’s legal

I didn't say it can't be liked, I asked where is the inappropriateness of it. What specifically makes it inappropriate?

Maybe ask whoever said it was inappropriate. I’ve no idea who it was I didn’t go back that far.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I think if one of my children came home with a partner more than 15 years or so their senior/ junior, I would question it in my mind and watch how it unfolded.

It has more to do with compatibility of life stages and expectations but I would not be overly enthusiastic with a relationship and a more than 15 years gap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason

What makes that inappropriate though? Attraction is attraction, both physical and mentally.

I'm not saying we should all be in to that age gap, but what is the part that is inappropriate?

A 65 year old man with an 18 year old girl doesn’t make you go ewwwwwwww?

Well it does me I’m afraid. Rightly or wrongly

But again what specifically is inappropriate about it?

I know. It’s legal etc. Still ewwww in my opinion.

I agree it would be ewwwww to me too! I have a son not much older than that! Just because something is legal doesn’t mean I can’t be grossed out by it.

Lots of things are legal that I find unsavoury!

Exactly. I think it would be to most people to be honest. But god forbid someone saying they find something unsavoury on here if it’s legal

I didn't say it can't be liked, I asked where is the inappropriateness of it. What specifically makes it inappropriate?

You just answered your own questions right there...

And questionable is basically the same as inappropriate.

There's a massive difference between legal age and maturity and the glaring issue is what you say, taking advantage of immaturity and using their life experience to influence or entice and enthrall.

No teenager that I have ever known would seek out a person old enough to be their grand parent or even great grand parent. The stories you see in the media always have an underlying issue.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I prefer guys younger than me, they seem to have a better energy and outlook on life.

Anywhere between around 28-40 is good.

Current friends are 30/32. Pretty ideal, younger but reasonably mature.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Kind of in answer to the question... As long as no one is taking advantage of the other person, which works both ways, then there shouldn't be an issue.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

For other people....it's none of my business who they marry, fuck or get in a relationship with.

For me: I look young so that might put some people off. And I struggle to connect with people far outside of my age range but that might just be the neurodivergent in me.

My limits are 15 years older and 5 years younger.

That said if it was just a one-off at a club/bar, I don't really ask people their age.

I work with men half my age and younger(people try to hook me up with them) and I know straight away that they wouldn't be able to handle the adult responsibilities that I have to deal with. They panic at work when we are all there to help each other. I've had a 46-year-old man panic over a pregnancy scare which evolved into a cancer scare and can't put those things on a young person.

As for significantly older men, a lot of them just work and sleep and I'm not ready for that yet!

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over a year ago

"No unless it appears hugely inappropriate like a 18 year old with a 65 year old I just wouldn’t be able to understand that for some reason

What makes that inappropriate though? Attraction is attraction, both physical and mentally.

I'm not saying we should all be in to that age gap, but what is the part that is inappropriate?

A 65 year old man with an 18 year old girl doesn’t make you go ewwwwwwww?

Well it does me I’m afraid. Rightly or wrongly

But again what specifically is inappropriate about it?

I know. It’s legal etc. Still ewwww in my opinion.

I agree it would be ewwwww to me too! I have a son not much older than that! Just because something is legal doesn’t mean I can’t be grossed out by it.

Lots of things are legal that I find unsavoury!

Exactly. I think it would be to most people to be honest. But god forbid someone saying they find something unsavoury on here if it’s legal

I didn't say it can't be liked, I asked where is the inappropriateness of it. What specifically makes it inappropriate?

You just answered your own questions right there...

And questionable is basically the same as inappropriate.

There's a massive difference between legal age and maturity and the glaring issue is what you say, taking advantage of immaturity and using their life experience to influence or entice and enthrall.

No teenager that I have ever known would seek out a person old enough to be their grand parent or even great grand parent. The stories you see in the media always have an underlying issue."

Well I don't take advantage of the young lady I see occasionally, it is guys her own age that do that.

Buy her flowers, chocs, take her somewhere nice, spend a little money on her and automatically assume it's paid back with be_room antics.

She has no underlying issues, she's as bright and level headed as a button.

Just wanted to experience a much older guy and now that she has, she is much more knowledgeable to the fact not all guys think with their cocks.

Currently she has found a guy her own age, but not happy because he doesn't know his arse from his elbow. Cannot make a decision on his own, cannot lead, cannot even get her a drink unless he wants one too, yet still asks if she wants to spend the night with him.

Sometimes being older, much older, with all of lifes experiences and behaving like a decent and proper guy, can actually help younger ladies to prosper and flourish into something that can assist her to make the right choices in the future, hopefully without the customary divorce that seems prevailent these days

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over a year ago

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"I met a friend of a friend with other mutual friends at a climbing wall. She was 23 im 47, she also looked younger.

I was asked how long my daughter had been climbing. My reply was I don’t have a daughter but my sons been climbing since he was 2. I then got told I was a lucky dirty old man ??????

Age matters to some "

I had this with a 28 year old, we couldn't go out incase his mum saw us,(she was very disapproved with our 16 year age gap) all his mates were settling down and starting families and she wanted him to do the same. That's what split us in the end way too much pressure.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

"I met a friend of a friend with other mutual friends at a climbing wall. She was 23 im 47, she also looked younger.

I was asked how long my daughter had been climbing. My reply was I don’t have a daughter but my sons been climbing since he was 2. I then got told I was a lucky dirty old man ??????

Age matters to some

That's such a shame that other peoples prejudice ruined your relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything up to 15 years older for me, but no more than 10 younger or preferably less (5 to 7 years). I have found more than that too much of a generational gap in terms of mentality and activity levels and the long term just wouldn't work for me.

Our age gap is 12 years. It's perfect. He is a mischievous 5 year old trapped in a 54 year old body, and I am more like a 12 year old bouncing off the walls than dignified 42 yo

A_together, we are both "old souls" who connect well on many levels. Makes sense to us. And that's enough.

Tones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My bf is 54 and I am 31 I am expecting our second child. Sometimes it does work. Sometimes it doesn’t. We don’t care what people think anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if one of my children came home with a partner more than 15 years or so their senior/ junior, I would question it in my mind and watch how it unfolded.

It has more to do with compatibility of life stages and expectations but I would not be overly enthusiastic with a relationship and a more than 15 years gap"

Ditto.

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over a year ago

My bf is 54 and I am 31 I am expecting our second child. Sometimes it does work. Sometimes it doesn’t. We don’t care what people think anymore. "

I think it has more impact if the younger person is 25 or less.

Also, if the female is older then expectations or wishes for wanting to have a family are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with most items just depends. Its more about maturity for me, especially if we're talking relationship.

Just sex? Well there's always the gag!

Usually my men are younger but that's because I'm old!!

Missy x

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We don't play with anyone the same age as our mid twenties children..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My kids don't like me dating men in their 20s.

My son is 20 and he thinks 30 is too young for me

Bless ^^

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I remember that look and that feeling. When I was in sixth form I looked about 24, like a proper man. But I was dating a girl at school also the same age from my class but she looked more like 15. I can remember the really horrible looks people would give me when we were out and about holding hands. It wasn't a nice feeling at all.

In terms of age in this scene I'm realty not intrested, there is either chemistry or there isn't and that's what I seek.

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