FabSwingers.com forum: Why say you can travel?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

They didn't want to waste their time travelling to you

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting! "
was it a guy? Guys are fickle

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting! "

I think it's more likely they weren't that into you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that OP. Not being party to the conversation I can only surmise a few things.

Maybe they don’t like visiting peoples houses so would prefer a more neutral venue like a hotel?

Maybe they felt rushed or not ready to meet so it was a way out of saying they’d meet if they didn’t quite feel the vibe ..

Or maybe they are indeed a time waster and playing a game …

Or something else?

Can you travel to near them and accommodate in a hotel there? I know there’s a cost etc

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Maybe you live many miles away and as times are tough they couldn't afford the fare/petrol.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Maybe you live many miles away and as times are tough they couldn't afford the fare/petrol."
this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting! "

Are they in Scotland?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No travel? I guess that relationship was going nowhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they don’t travel that far. Or just don’t want to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because a person can travel doesn't mean they will travel... to meet you. That's not time-wasting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What distance would they have to travel to you OP?

The answer to that is probably the reason

Just cause someone says they travel, that doesn't mean they want to travel 8+ hours to meet a stranger from the internet.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

They just don’t want to travel to you. Move on

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

How far was the journey ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How far was the journey ?"

Less than 20 miles

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting!

I think it's more likely they weren't that into you. "

Even though they said they were into me….? Hmmmm no rocket scientist but that’s just wrong

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"How far was the journey ?

Less than 20 miles"

Maybe the travel they do is on public transport and they don't have a car?

If you feel the distance is small why not offer to pick them up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting!

I think it's more likely they weren't that into you.

Even though they said they were into me….? Hmmmm no rocket scientist but that’s just wrong"

Why didn't you travel to hers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting! "

Their program ??

I don’t travel and wouldn’t travel miles to meet someone ! Maybe she just didn’t want to travel to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting!

Their program ??

I don’t travel and wouldn’t travel miles to meet someone ! Maybe she just didn’t want to travel to you

Program = sex menu. Sex services offered. Sex reviews. Etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The audacity of some people! Thoughts and prayers are with you OP

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"They didn't want to waste their time travelling to you"

In a nutshell, this.

When people understand that when someone says “no” is is plain and simple- they are not intererested or attracted to you in the slightest. They are not timewasters, they are protecting their time by not wasting it in meeting you, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting!

Their program ??

I don’t travel and wouldn’t travel miles to meet someone ! Maybe she just didn’t want to travel to you

Program = sex menu. Sex services offered. Sex reviews. Etc.

Seriously as I’ve never seen anyone mention ‘program’ in all the years I’ve been on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They didn't want to waste their time travelling to you

In a nutshell, this.

Understand the concept of no…there’s no issue there, my issue is why talk a good game, say you’re interested then say that you’re not travelling?

Even though the profile says cannot accommodate can travel….

This is why this site is more miss than hit….I’m sure you’ve had the time wasters yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting!

Their program ??

I don’t travel and wouldn’t travel miles to meet someone ! Maybe she just didn’t want to travel to you

Program = sex menu. Sex services offered. Sex reviews. Etc.

Seriously as I’ve never seen anyone mention ‘program’ in all the years I’ve been on here "

Was a typo…meant to say profile! My bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting!

Their program ??

I don’t travel and wouldn’t travel miles to meet someone ! Maybe she just didn’t want to travel to you

Program = sex menu. Sex services offered. Sex reviews. Etc.

Seriously as I’ve never seen anyone mention ‘program’ in all the years I’ve been on here "

Some people see it that way.

Some people just use different words to describe things. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting!

I think it's more likely they weren't that into you.

Even though they said they were into me….? Hmmmm no rocket scientist but that’s just wrong

Why didn't you travel to hers? "

They don’t accommodate but would have happily travelled if requested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting!

Their program ??

I don’t travel and wouldn’t travel miles to meet someone ! Maybe she just didn’t want to travel to you

Program = sex menu. Sex services offered. Sex reviews. Etc.

Seriously as I’ve never seen anyone mention ‘program’ in all the years I’ve been on here

Was a typo…meant to say profile! My bad"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Car broke down, it needed an MOT, not enough petrol, roads blocked, chauffeur off that day ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting! "

Time wasters and pic collectors,

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Complete timewaster - I was chatting to a woman in Florida and she said she thought it was unlikely we would meet because if the distance - talk about lack of commitment!!!

people like that are killing the site!!

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting! "

My twopennies worth... She wanted you to pay for her to travel... She could travel, just wanted you to stump up for it. Could be wrong, but just a thought...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I was on here I did decide too travel too the Midlands too meet someone .spoke too them for months on phone .Suppose too stay 2 nights and that weekend he got a call saying short staffed and he had too go in .I no things happen,bit I'd never travel .People learn by what's happened in passed .Maybe same thing happened too her .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Any preferences are conditional on many contextual things. Right date/time included, as well as safety and not feeling pressured.

If your kids are with you at home, you're probably not going to rush to having anyone around or leaving them home alone.

You have to learm to walk, before you can run OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe you live many miles away and as times are tough they couldn't afford the fare/petrol."

Yeah, there's travel.... and then there's a 5hour drive and overnight costs

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

As I live in the arse end of Tameside, and, if someone doesn't drive and uses public transport it can be a bugger to get to.

Did you actually ask if they had their own transport.

I can travel, but at the moment, don't have a car, so it's public transport for me, not the best, but as I have a railway station literally at the bottom of the road, it's easy for me to go further afield and I don't have issues with that

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though. "

You really are the gift that keeps giving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

You really are the gift that keeps giving."

Like a recurrent infectious boil.

Oh look, a different kind of sex scab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though. "

????? SHOULD forumites be casting hard words at an unknown person purely because they are female who exercised their right to politely and delicately exit a chat?

Nothing to be said imho... but you could try obv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

????? SHOULD forumites be casting hard words at an unknown person purely because they are female who exercised their right to politely and delicately exit a chat?

Nothing to be said imho... but you could try obv"

Well, honestly, no, its poor form and not exactly cricket.

It does however give a lot of people the heads up to peoples behaviour when they don't get what they want.

So that's useful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the ones that put up meets but have can't accommodate and can't travel

limits options somewhat IMHO and before some smart arse says get a hotel - they'd have to travel there surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

????? SHOULD forumites be casting hard words at an unknown person purely because they are female who exercised their right to politely and delicately exit a chat?

Nothing to be said imho... but you could try obv

Well, honestly, no, its poor form and not exactly cricket.

It does however give a lot of people the heads up to peoples behaviour when they don't get what they want.

So that's useful. "

It's actually perfect form and what every fabber, both male and female, should be doing.

Noone should EVER be coerced in to a meet because they chatted for any length of time. No matter how long or short.

Seriously, bad form

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

????? SHOULD forumites be casting hard words at an unknown person purely because they are female who exercised their right to politely and delicately exit a chat?

Nothing to be said imho... but you could try obv

Well, honestly, no, its poor form and not exactly cricket.

It does however give a lot of people the heads up to peoples behaviour when they don't get what they want.

So that's useful.

It's actually perfect form and what every fabber, both male and female, should be doing.

Noone should EVER be coerced in to a meet because they chatted for any length of time. No matter how long or short.

Seriously, bad form"

Lol I think I've crossed some wires and possibly come across wrong.

Of course people can reject at any point whatsoever. Perhaps the only point requiring explanation or at least warning might be before a pre arranged social or meet as a courtesy.

I was referencing however, that having it fall through very early doors, then proceeding to air it publicly is not cricket.

It is though, useful for others to perhaps add them to the "no" pile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

????? SHOULD forumites be casting hard words at an unknown person purely because they are female who exercised their right to politely and delicately exit a chat?

Nothing to be said imho... but you could try obv

Well, honestly, no, its poor form and not exactly cricket.

It does however give a lot of people the heads up to peoples behaviour when they don't get what they want.

So that's useful.

It's actually perfect form and what every fabber, both male and female, should be doing.

Noone should EVER be coerced in to a meet because they chatted for any length of time. No matter how long or short.

Seriously, bad form

Lol I think I've crossed some wires and possibly come across wrong.

Of course people can reject at any point whatsoever. Perhaps the only point requiring explanation or at least warning might be before a pre arranged social or meet as a courtesy.

I was referencing however, that having it fall through very early doors, then proceeding to air it publicly is not cricket.

It is though, useful for others to perhaps add them to the "no" pile."

If you mean a no for the OP then I'd agree.

Quite possibly they are using the forum to have a dig.

Not cool

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

????? SHOULD forumites be casting hard words at an unknown person purely because they are female who exercised their right to politely and delicately exit a chat?

Nothing to be said imho... but you could try obv

Well, honestly, no, its poor form and not exactly cricket.

It does however give a lot of people the heads up to peoples behaviour when they don't get what they want.

So that's useful.

It's actually perfect form and what every fabber, both male and female, should be doing.

Noone should EVER be coerced in to a meet because they chatted for any length of time. No matter how long or short.

Seriously, bad form

Lol I think I've crossed some wires and possibly come across wrong.

Of course people can reject at any point whatsoever. Perhaps the only point requiring explanation or at least warning might be before a pre arranged social or meet as a courtesy.

I was referencing however, that having it fall through very early doors, then proceeding to air it publicly is not cricket.

It is though, useful for others to perhaps add them to the "no" pile.

If you mean a no for the OP then I'd agree.

Quite possibly they are using the forum to have a dig.

Not cool"

How many post on here about men who do the same? Why is it ok for women to have a dig at men and not vice versa? ….leading someone on and then turning round and saying no is poor form and should be called out.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

May be there scared of travel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuels expensive you know.

People change their mind. People piss people about. Some never intended to do anything anyway. Get used to it op.

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By *anny Boy31Man
over a year ago

Belfast all over the Uk and Ireland

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting! "

I would call it time wasting if you travel there and then get ghosted.

If a few text exchanges is all you lost it will be grand.

Put it down as not interested and go again with someone else.

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

According to your profile you joined 2 weeks ago. Assuming the person who "wasted your time" has been here longer it may just be a case of they could travel when they joined, but can't at the moment.

Or, it could be that they were keen to start with and then became less keen as you chatted.

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By *anny Boy31Man
over a year ago

Belfast all over the Uk and Ireland

Joined 2 weeks ago??

You will learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would travel within reason but gotta think about time / fuel costs etc etc

I probably wouldn’t travel more than 30/40 mins but that’s just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Traveling can mean a lot ie

I travel but wouldn’t travel to someone home

When I say I can travel it means

I can book a hotel in my name in some area

Travel to that area and have the meet in my hotel room

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Perhaps they had a puncture...or not enough petrol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love what constitutes time wasting these days.

Any kind of rejection, god dam time waster!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love what constitutes time wasting these days.

Any kind of rejection, god dam time waster!!!"

Didn’t reply after “u ok” … time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

????? SHOULD forumites be casting hard words at an unknown person purely because they are female who exercised their right to politely and delicately exit a chat?

Nothing to be said imho... but you could try obv

Well, honestly, no, its poor form and not exactly cricket.

It does however give a lot of people the heads up to peoples behaviour when they don't get what they want.

So that's useful.

It's actually perfect form and what every fabber, both male and female, should be doing.

Noone should EVER be coerced in to a meet because they chatted for any length of time. No matter how long or short.

Seriously, bad form

Lol I think I've crossed some wires and possibly come across wrong.

Of course people can reject at any point whatsoever. Perhaps the only point requiring explanation or at least warning might be before a pre arranged social or meet as a courtesy.

I was referencing however, that having it fall through very early doors, then proceeding to air it publicly is not cricket.

It is though, useful for others to perhaps add them to the "no" pile.

If you mean a no for the OP then I'd agree.

Quite possibly they are using the forum to have a dig.

Not cool

Anyone has a right to say no/change their mind at any point in time, whatever the circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

????? SHOULD forumites be casting hard words at an unknown person purely because they are female who exercised their right to politely and delicately exit a chat?

Nothing to be said imho... but you could try obv

Well, honestly, no, its poor form and not exactly cricket.

It does however give a lot of people the heads up to peoples behaviour when they don't get what they want.

So that's useful.

It's actually perfect form and what every fabber, both male and female, should be doing.

Noone should EVER be coerced in to a meet because they chatted for any length of time. No matter how long or short.

Seriously, bad form

Lol I think I've crossed some wires and possibly come across wrong.

Of course people can reject at any point whatsoever. Perhaps the only point requiring explanation or at least warning might be before a pre arranged social or meet as a courtesy.

I was referencing however, that having it fall through very early doors, then proceeding to air it publicly is not cricket.

It is though, useful for others to perhaps add them to the "no" pile.

If you mean a no for the OP then I'd agree.

Quite possibly they are using the forum to have a dig.

Not cool

It was just made clear that that wasn't his point. That isn't what happened here.

And, for the record, a no is a no is a no.... at any stage and is not bad form.

Reasons for a no can be varied but they are valid for, and the business of, the person themselves

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By *anny Boy31Man
over a year ago

Belfast all over the Uk and Ireland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

????? SHOULD forumites be casting hard words at an unknown person purely because they are female who exercised their right to politely and delicately exit a chat?

Nothing to be said imho... but you could try obv

Well, honestly, no, its poor form and not exactly cricket.

It does however give a lot of people the heads up to peoples behaviour when they don't get what they want.

So that's useful.

It's actually perfect form and what every fabber, both male and female, should be doing.

Noone should EVER be coerced in to a meet because they chatted for any length of time. No matter how long or short.

Seriously, bad form

Lol I think I've crossed some wires and possibly come across wrong.

Of course people can reject at any point whatsoever. Perhaps the only point requiring explanation or at least warning might be before a pre arranged social or meet as a courtesy.

I was referencing however, that having it fall through very early doors, then proceeding to air it publicly is not cricket.

It is though, useful for others to perhaps add them to the "no" pile.

If you mean a no for the OP then I'd agree.

Quite possibly they are using the forum to have a dig.

Not cool

Leading someone on? So talking to them then?

FFS I need to go back and fuck all those guys I've chatted to and "lead on". Poor form indeed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As others said, it was a rejection with a mild excuse to soften the blow.

But that time has passed after posting it here.

No softness for you.

No hardness for her though.

????? SHOULD forumites be casting hard words at an unknown person purely because they are female who exercised their right to politely and delicately exit a chat?

Nothing to be said imho... but you could try obv

Well, honestly, no, its poor form and not exactly cricket.

It does however give a lot of people the heads up to peoples behaviour when they don't get what they want.

So that's useful.

It's actually perfect form and what every fabber, both male and female, should be doing.

Noone should EVER be coerced in to a meet because they chatted for any length of time. No matter how long or short.

Seriously, bad form

Lol I think I've crossed some wires and possibly come across wrong.

Of course people can reject at any point whatsoever. Perhaps the only point requiring explanation or at least warning might be before a pre arranged social or meet as a courtesy.

I was referencing however, that having it fall through very early doors, then proceeding to air it publicly is not cricket.

It is though, useful for others to perhaps add them to the "no" pile.

If you mean a no for the OP then I'd agree.

Quite possibly they are using the forum to have a dig.

Not cool

It was just made clear that that wasn't his point. That isn't what happened here.

And, for the record, a no is a no is a no.... at any stage and is not bad form.

Reasons for a no can be varied but they are valid for, and the business of, the person themselves"

A no is a no…yet if roles were reversed (and I’ve read a few on here where women on their profile publicly call out time wasters or those that can’t make it) words would be said…..double standards.

How dare men call out women who waste time or lead them onto believing that they will meet them say no….yet it’s ok for women to do that?……

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Was chatting to someone and on their program they said they could travel, but not accommodate. So I said about coming to mine…..they turn round and say I don’t travel…wtaf?

Why state you can travel then say you can’t travel? Jeeze talk about timewasting! "

I travel around London. Outside of London is a stretch for me. Maybe they only travel like an hour away but you live 2 hours away.

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over a year ago

How dare men call out women who waste time or lead them onto believing that they will meet them say no….yet it’s ok for women to do that?……"

No, not if roles were reversed, I hold the same standard for all in life. I have not seen the double standards you are claiming exist on here.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

How dare men call out women who waste time or lead them onto believing that they will meet them say no….yet it’s ok for women to do that?……

Mate it happens to us all. We just have to get used to it and change our tactics to protect ourselves.

I for one don't allow myself to be "lead on" so I don't engage in any kind of sex talk before I meet the person face to face. therefore I'm not creating a fantasy in my head before the logistics of actually meeting are worked out.

I've had people cancel dates and socials who sent me messages of undying love and excellent sexual proficiency but when it actually comes down to putting work in for a relationship or putting the p in the V...they are no-shows...In more ways than one. (the d*unk ones/the ones who can't get and keep it up)

People talk good game but talk is cheap...I'm sure you have heard this before being around my age.

Personally, I limit my expectations and I don't put all my eggs in one basket and I know I'm perfectly capable of entertaining myself alone. See my post on rejection. her loss and move on. Most people on here are not looking for long conversations that you would expect from a committed relationship so don't treat Fab like that.

Be polite and courteous but straight facts about where do you live/work, how are you going to get here and which day and time can you meet for social, club, hotel, my home or yours and how many times a week/month are you available.

You can talk face to face.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"No travel? I guess that relationship was going nowhere. "
I thought it was funny, anyway.

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