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Weekly Mental Health Check-in 10.10

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Good morning - it’s World Mental Health Day, how’s yours doing today?

I’m not doing too badly. My son’s surgery on Friday went well, but he’s been struggling with the pain at times. I’m still in the hospital with him but I’m swapping with my husband today (feel guilty for going though!) and going home so I can go to uni tomorrow (also can’t wait to see my other children and the dogs). I’m being careful not to push myself too hard though and intend to leave after the first afternoon session rather than pushing myself through to 5.45pm.

I’m aware I’m holding onto some big feelings around my mum’s health that I’ve pushed down whilst I got through the past few days, but I intend to contact a counsellor today about starting the personal therapy I have to have as part of my course anyway. It feels like this would be a good time to pursue it.

How are you feeling today?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone’s got a bucket and you can only deal with so much. Pushing things down the list is one way of coping with having too much at any one time and we all get that. Bucket maintenance is important though!!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’m not doing well to be honest, OP.

My anxiety is at a high and my depression has resurfaced too. It has the potential to be very damaging to my relationships and myself at times so I need to make changes, seek help, support and invest time in my own health.

It’s difficult at times to know what my ‘real’ feelings are and what are my anxiety talking. Whilst I’m like this, it’s hard to make choices and reactions to situations are flavoured by the anxiety toxins, so I tend to err on ‘flat’ which is it’s own problem.

I miss being confident and ‘me’, I wish that there was a switch to press where I could just stop the feeling of anxiety at every small thing.

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Everyone’s got a bucket and you can only deal with so much. Pushing things down the list is one way of coping with having too much at any one time and we all get that. Bucket maintenance is important though!!"

Absolutely, it’s something I’ve not been good at in the past but I’m much more self-aware now

(You should probably be careful how you go about talking to women about their buckets on Fab though )

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside (nr Oxford)

Morning Starfly.

I'm not a regular contributor to this but have stumbled in today.

It sounds like you have a lot going on so whilst feelings of guilt are natural, your rest and energy is equally as important as your maternal instincts at this time. Hope the conversation about personal therapy is productive!

As for me, I'm OK. Tired after a busy weekend, but I'm in a better place, mentally, than I was 10 days ago when I was very tired, very run down and still unbelievably busy.

We're gutted (and a little angry) that we've had to cancel date night on Friday and are feeling a little guilty for cursing our children's plans which have got in the way of our only adult night left this year.

(whispers internally) "I am not a bad parent for wanting a child free night'

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I’m not doing well to be honest, OP.

My anxiety is at a high and my depression has resurfaced too. It has the potential to be very damaging to my relationships and myself at times so I need to make changes, seek help, support and invest time in my own health.

It’s difficult at times to know what my ‘real’ feelings are and what are my anxiety talking. Whilst I’m like this, it’s hard to make choices and reactions to situations are flavoured by the anxiety toxins, so I tend to err on ‘flat’ which is it’s own problem.

I miss being confident and ‘me’, I wish that there was a switch to press where I could just stop the feeling of anxiety at every small thing.

"

That sounds really difficult, although your self-awareness seems excellent. It’s good that you can identify what needs to change, I hope you’re able to put those things in place before any of the potential damage you identified takes place.

It’s so difficult when you just don’t feel like yourself. Sending love x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Morning Starfly.

I'm not a regular contributor to this but have stumbled in today.

It sounds like you have a lot going on so whilst feelings of guilt are natural, your rest and energy is equally as important as your maternal instincts at this time. Hope the conversation about personal therapy is productive!

As for me, I'm OK. Tired after a busy weekend, but I'm in a better place, mentally, than I was 10 days ago when I was very tired, very run down and still unbelievably busy.

We're gutted (and a little angry) that we've had to cancel date night on Friday and are feeling a little guilty for cursing our children's plans which have got in the way of our only adult night left this year.

(whispers internally) "I am not a bad parent for wanting a child free night' "

Thank you, you’re right and it’s so hard feeling torn as a parent - as you identify at the end of your own problems this week!

I’m glad you’re feeling a little brighter, it makes such a difference xx

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"

We're gutted (and a little angry) that we've had to cancel date night on Friday and are feeling a little guilty for cursing our children's plans which have got in the way of our only adult night left this year.

(whispers internally) "I am not a bad parent for wanting a child free night' "

Being a divorced parent, now with 50% of my life child free, I often look at others and wonder how they cope with only a handful (if that) child free date nights a year.

There's nothing wrong at all for wishing to have child free time.

Not suggesting divorce, but....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good morning Lou & everyone.

I had a rubbish week last week with some news that affected my more than I thought it would as it made some past issues resurface. But I took time to wallow & reflect and am starting this week in a more positive frame of mind.

I’m glad your son is ok after his op and that you are taking steps to look after you as well Lou.

Sorry to those that are struggling.. take each day a step at a time & look out for the smallest positives if you can.

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

Sending love and hugs to all who need it today.

Im doing a bit better after deciding the other week to drop something work related that was super stressing me out. But i do still feel pangs of guilt and failure over it. Still waiting for an appointment to be seen for medication changes/support. Was planning on going into the office today but couldnt drag myself out of bed, so wfh it is. But i will actually get some work done today, which is progress. Have also managed to open up to some friends and family about how im struggling atm. So overall, im not in a great place but i am putting things in place for it to get better. X

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Good morning Lou & everyone.

I had a rubbish week last week with some news that affected my more than I thought it would as it made some past issues resurface. But I took time to wallow & reflect and am starting this week in a more positive frame of mind.

I’m glad your son is ok after his op and that you are taking steps to look after you as well Lou.

Sorry to those that are struggling.. take each day a step at a time & look out for the smallest positives if you can. "

Thank you

I’m glad you’re having a better start to the week, hope it continues through the week x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Sending love and hugs to all who need it today.

Im doing a bit better after deciding the other week to drop something work related that was super stressing me out. But i do still feel pangs of guilt and failure over it. Still waiting for an appointment to be seen for medication changes/support. Was planning on going into the office today but couldnt drag myself out of bed, so wfh it is. But i will actually get some work done today, which is progress. Have also managed to open up to some friends and family about how im struggling atm. So overall, im not in a great place but i am putting things in place for it to get better. X "

That all sounds like some positive steps in the right direction. I’m sorry you’re feeling guilt over something that was in your own self-interest, hopefully that will pass xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not doing well to be honest, OP.

My anxiety is at a high and my depression has resurfaced too. It has the potential to be very damaging to my relationships and myself at times so I need to make changes, seek help, support and invest time in my own health.

It’s difficult at times to know what my ‘real’ feelings are and what are my anxiety talking. Whilst I’m like this, it’s hard to make choices and reactions to situations are flavoured by the anxiety toxins, so I tend to err on ‘flat’ which is it’s own problem.

I miss being confident and ‘me’, I wish that there was a switch to press where I could just stop the feeling of anxiety at every small thing.

"

It’s like I could have written this. Sending hugs to you.

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside (nr Oxford)


"Morning Starfly.

I'm not a regular contributor to this but have stumbled in today.

It sounds like you have a lot going on so whilst feelings of guilt are natural, your rest and energy is equally as important as your maternal instincts at this time. Hope the conversation about personal therapy is productive!

As for me, I'm OK. Tired after a busy weekend, but I'm in a better place, mentally, than I was 10 days ago when I was very tired, very run down and still unbelievably busy.

We're gutted (and a little angry) that we've had to cancel date night on Friday and are feeling a little guilty for cursing our children's plans which have got in the way of our only adult night left this year.

(whispers internally) "I am not a bad parent for wanting a child free night'

Thank you, you’re right and it’s so hard feeling torn as a parent - as you identify at the end of your own problems this week!

I’m glad you’re feeling a little brighter, it makes such a difference xx"

Thank you. Stay strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things do get better but that’s a really annoying thing for people to say when you’re down. It’s kinda true though!!

I live by firm prioritising and if worrying won’t change the outcome / I can’t do anything about it then it goes to the bottom of the list. Probably slightly spectrum-my but it works for me!!

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside (nr Oxford)


"

We're gutted (and a little angry) that we've had to cancel date night on Friday and are feeling a little guilty for cursing our children's plans which have got in the way of our only adult night left this year.

(whispers internally) "I am not a bad parent for wanting a child free night'

Being a divorced parent, now with 50% of my life child free, I often look at others and wonder how they cope with only a handful (if that) child free date nights a year.

There's nothing wrong at all for wishing to have child free time.

Not suggesting divorce, but.... "

I've sometimes got no idea how we ever get free.

It seemed to take the stars to align in four different galaxies just for us to be able to think about going out alone. One small change and the whole thing crumbles. I seriously believe in the butterfly effect this week!

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside (nr Oxford)


"I’m not doing well to be honest, OP.

My anxiety is at a high and my depression has resurfaced too. It has the potential to be very damaging to my relationships and myself at times so I need to make changes, seek help, support and invest time in my own health.

It’s difficult at times to know what my ‘real’ feelings are and what are my anxiety talking. Whilst I’m like this, it’s hard to make choices and reactions to situations are flavoured by the anxiety toxins, so I tend to err on ‘flat’ which is it’s own problem.

I miss being confident and ‘me’, I wish that there was a switch to press where I could just stop the feeling of anxiety at every small thing.

"

Hope you can find something that brings you some sense of joy this week fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally want to give a big shout-out to all the people who might be struggling today, World Mental Health Day ??

To the people who wake up with a knot in their stomach that they just can’t explain.

To the people who ‘just don’t feel right’.

To the people who think they ‘should be’ happy, but can’t understand why they’re not.

To the people who suffer panic attacks.

To the people who can’t face talking to anyone today.

To the people who feel alone or sad or angry or scared or manic.

To the people who hate what they see in the mirror.

To the people who feel like they’re not good enough.

To the people who have upsetting thoughts.

To the people who dissociate or feel disconnected from the world.

To the people who just don’t understand why they feel like they do.

And to the people who need that extra bit of help.

You are not alone ??

It really is ok not to be ok

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I’m not doing well to be honest, OP.

My anxiety is at a high and my depression has resurfaced too. It has the potential to be very damaging to my relationships and myself at times so I need to make changes, seek help, support and invest time in my own health.

It’s difficult at times to know what my ‘real’ feelings are and what are my anxiety talking. Whilst I’m like this, it’s hard to make choices and reactions to situations are flavoured by the anxiety toxins, so I tend to err on ‘flat’ which is it’s own problem.

I miss being confident and ‘me’, I wish that there was a switch to press where I could just stop the feeling of anxiety at every small thing.

It’s like I could have written this. Sending hugs to you. "

Sending love and hugs to you too x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Things do get better but that’s a really annoying thing for people to say when you’re down. It’s kinda true though!!

I live by firm prioritising and if worrying won’t change the outcome / I can’t do anything about it then it goes to the bottom of the list. Probably slightly spectrum-my but it works for me!!"

It’s always a relief when you find something that works to ease your suffering! xx

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I personally want to give a big shout-out to all the people who might be struggling today, World Mental Health Day ??

To the people who wake up with a knot in their stomach that they just can’t explain.

To the people who ‘just don’t feel right’.

To the people who think they ‘should be’ happy, but can’t understand why they’re not.

To the people who suffer panic attacks.

To the people who can’t face talking to anyone today.

To the people who feel alone or sad or angry or scared or manic.

To the people who hate what they see in the mirror.

To the people who feel like they’re not good enough.

To the people who have upsetting thoughts.

To the people who dissociate or feel disconnected from the world.

To the people who just don’t understand why they feel like they do.

And to the people who need that extra bit of help.

You are not alone ??

It really is ok not to be ok "

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

Waving from the side and sending hugs to all in need x

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

frustration !!!that is what this site causes when you cant get a meet

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Great news about your sons surgery lou

To be self aware is a huge part of the battle and will help you with these feelings regarding your mum. I hope you can get some clarity with the personal therapy x

I am basking in positivity and have strength and love to give to others, it's surprising what balance can bring into your life

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"frustration !!!that is what this site causes when you cant get a meet "

I’m sorry to hear that Fab is affecting you negatively x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Waving from the side and sending hugs to all in need x "

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Great news about your sons surgery lou

To be self aware is a huge part of the battle and will help you with these feelings regarding your mum. I hope you can get some clarity with the personal therapy x

I am basking in positivity and have strength and love to give to others, it's surprising what balance can bring into your life "

I love this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good news re the surgery OP

Not too bad here

Trying a new form of therapy this week and have couple of appointments over next couple of weeks that may give me more info on my heart issues

Trying to be positive

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Good news re the surgery OP

Not too bad here

Trying a new form of therapy this week and have couple of appointments over next couple of weeks that may give me more info on my heart issues

Trying to be positive "

Hang on in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello all,I'm not sure if I shouldn't keep it to myself but sometimes if you don't let things out it eats away at you.

I haven't felt well or even right since having the first two of the covid vaccinations,nothing that I can say ,that's what wrong... just a feeling of living my life in a dreamworld.

Up days and down days so,one foot in front of the other.

Saw a post in the forums about how are people moving on and was just the day I needed to unload my feelings

Unfortunately, the op eventually admitted it was a "light hearted" thread and referred to my post as a rant.

Should really have known better than to share...took a big mental knock there.

End of the day people have much more important things to worry about than I have so best wishes to everyone troubled

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By *o againTV/TS
over a year ago

swansea

Life cant get any worse!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well my mental health is in tatters this week and I don’t think I can even start to explain if I’m honest. What I do know is I’m in for a very bumpy ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well my mental health is in tatters this week and I don’t think I can even start to explain if I’m honest. What I do know is I’m in for a very bumpy ride "

You have my utmost sympathy x

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Crap in all honesty, met someone nice and was seeing her for a bit until she caught feelings and got scared and decided best to stop seeing each other.

I can't get my head around it as we got on really well and sex was amazing but it just wasn't to be.

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By *o againTV/TS
over a year ago

swansea


"Well my mental health is in tatters this week and I don’t think I can even start to explain if I’m honest. What I do know is I’m in for a very bumpy ride "

Sorry to hear that. As the old saying goes.

"When you are going though hell. Keep going." It well get better.

Jo x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Hello all,I'm not sure if I shouldn't keep it to myself but sometimes if you don't let things out it eats away at you.

I haven't felt well or even right since having the first two of the covid vaccinations,nothing that I can say ,that's what wrong... just a feeling of living my life in a dreamworld.

Up days and down days so,one foot in front of the other.

Saw a post in the forums about how are people moving on and was just the day I needed to unload my feelings

Unfortunately, the op eventually admitted it was a "light hearted" thread and referred to my post as a rant.

Should really have known better than to share...took a big mental knock there.

End of the day people have much more important things to worry about than I have so best wishes to everyone troubled"

This thread is all about validating the way that people are feeling - it’s not a competition, if you’re struggling then you’re welcome to come and share how you’re feeling.

I’m sorry things have been difficult for you and that you got flack for opening up. It’s always tough when you take a chance and end up feeling bad about it. Sending love x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Life cant get any worse!!"

Sorry to hear that, sending lots of love to you xx

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Well my mental health is in tatters this week and I don’t think I can even start to explain if I’m honest. What I do know is I’m in for a very bumpy ride "

Try and be kind to yourself, even though it probably feels tough. Sending love xx

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Crap in all honesty, met someone nice and was seeing her for a bit until she caught feelings and got scared and decided best to stop seeing each other.

I can't get my head around it as we got on really well and sex was amazing but it just wasn't to be. "

Oh no, that’s rough sorry to hear things turned out that way xx

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Crap in all honesty, met someone nice and was seeing her for a bit until she caught feelings and got scared and decided best to stop seeing each other.

I can't get my head around it as we got on really well and sex was amazing but it just wasn't to be.

Oh no, that’s rough sorry to hear things turned out that way xx"

I'm really missing talking to her more than anything at the moment and this weekend will be hard as meant to have been with her Friday till Saturday.

I'll never understand how someone can say they really fancy someone and care about them and yet just cut them out in a instant because they get scared of feelings

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Ok. Weekend was difficult, found out one of the funerals had already taken place, no friends were allowed to attend... Haven't heard why yet. But saw a few old friends for drinks to celebrate that life.

Now have the date for the other funeral, next week, so that's going to be emotional.

Also this week is my sons birthday and the first one that we won't have been together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm feeling miserable, so much crap has happened and made me so low i was/am thinking there's no point in me being here although i want to be around for my grandchildren, such confusing feelings. So i contacted my GP, he doubled my meds and sent me a link to refer myself for mental health help. That was in august and despite me telling them and my GP that i feel it's pointless me being here i am still awaiting a phone call consultation with the MH people and my GP is phoning me back next week .... i can understand why people don't bother going to the NHS for mental health support.

My OH mostly works from home so that helps me and one of my children is around a lot and friends keep in contact .... that all helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Crap in all honesty, met someone nice and was seeing her for a bit until she caught feelings and got scared and decided best to stop seeing each other.

I can't get my head around it as we got on really well and sex was amazing but it just wasn't to be.

Oh no, that’s rough sorry to hear things turned out that way xx

I'm really missing talking to her more than anything at the moment and this weekend will be hard as meant to have been with her Friday till Saturday.

I'll never understand how someone can say they really fancy someone and care about them and yet just cut them out in a instant because they get scared of feelings "

It's utter rubbish, and it hurts like hell. Though I guess they do what they need to, it's just how they cope.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Crap in all honesty, met someone nice and was seeing her for a bit until she caught feelings and got scared and decided best to stop seeing each other.

I can't get my head around it as we got on really well and sex was amazing but it just wasn't to be.

Oh no, that’s rough sorry to hear things turned out that way xx

I'm really missing talking to her more than anything at the moment and this weekend will be hard as meant to have been with her Friday till Saturday.

I'll never understand how someone can say they really fancy someone and care about them and yet just cut them out in a instant because they get scared of feelings

It's utter rubbish, and it hurts like hell. Though I guess they do what they need to, it's just how they cope.

"

She could just be doing me still instead

Sorry but I couldn't resist that one

It does hurt though being thrown away because they have feelings, I'd rather she had met someone else so I could be angry at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually felt rather happy today for a change, being Monday and all, lots of people at work was saying "what are you on".

Most people at work today was stressed so was nice to be that person for a change that was quite chipper.

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By *immyGGMan
over a year ago

South Cheshire


"Waving from the side and sending hugs to all in need x "

*catches one of the hugs*

I don't normally suffer with poor mental health but I've been through the emotional mill a bit this weekend to the point where I've left work early today because I just couldn't handle it. I've been let down and lied too, both by people I cared about, and the cherry is it was my birthday weekend.

I'll bounce back I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all,I'm not sure if I shouldn't keep it to myself but sometimes if you don't let things out it eats away at you.

I haven't felt well or even right since having the first two of the covid vaccinations,nothing that I can say ,that's what wrong... just a feeling of living my life in a dreamworld.

Up days and down days so,one foot in front of the other.

Saw a post in the forums about how are people moving on and was just the day I needed to unload my feelings

Unfortunately, the op eventually admitted it was a "light hearted" thread and referred to my post as a rant.

Should really have known better than to share...took a big mental knock there.

End of the day people have much more important things to worry about than I have so best wishes to everyone troubled

This thread is all about validating the way that people are feeling - it’s not a competition, if you’re struggling then you’re welcome to come and share how you’re feeling.

I’m sorry things have been difficult for you and that you got flack for opening up. It’s always tough when you take a chance and end up feeling bad about it. Sending love x"

Thank you..that means a lot

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Crap in all honesty, met someone nice and was seeing her for a bit until she caught feelings and got scared and decided best to stop seeing each other.

I can't get my head around it as we got on really well and sex was amazing but it just wasn't to be.

Oh no, that’s rough sorry to hear things turned out that way xx

I'm really missing talking to her more than anything at the moment and this weekend will be hard as meant to have been with her Friday till Saturday.

I'll never understand how someone can say they really fancy someone and care about them and yet just cut them out in a instant because they get scared of feelings "

It can be really hard when we don’t understand other people’s motives for their behaviour xx

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Ok. Weekend was difficult, found out one of the funerals had already taken place, no friends were allowed to attend... Haven't heard why yet. But saw a few old friends for drinks to celebrate that life.

Now have the date for the other funeral, next week, so that's going to be emotional.

Also this week is my sons birthday and the first one that we won't have been together."

That sounds like a really tough couple of weeks . Make sure you look after yourself xx

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I'm feeling miserable, so much crap has happened and made me so low i was/am thinking there's no point in me being here although i want to be around for my grandchildren, such confusing feelings. So i contacted my GP, he doubled my meds and sent me a link to refer myself for mental health help. That was in august and despite me telling them and my GP that i feel it's pointless me being here i am still awaiting a phone call consultation with the MH people and my GP is phoning me back next week .... i can understand why people don't bother going to the NHS for mental health support.

My OH mostly works from home so that helps me and one of my children is around a lot and friends keep in contact .... that all helps."

Oh bless you, I’m sorry you’re feeling so low right now, that sounds completely draining. I also understand why people don’t reach out when things are so slow to happen. Are there any charities local to you that offer counselling and might be able to see you a bit sooner? There are some around that offer invaluable support.

I’m glad you’ve got a core support system, and please keep reaching out to us as you need to xx

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I actually felt rather happy today for a change, being Monday and all, lots of people at work was saying "what are you on".

Most people at work today was stressed so was nice to be that person for a change that was quite chipper."

I’m glad you had a positive Monday! Wishing you a lovely Tuesday too! x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Waving from the side and sending hugs to all in need x

*catches one of the hugs*

I don't normally suffer with poor mental health but I've been through the emotional mill a bit this weekend to the point where I've left work early today because I just couldn't handle it. I've been let down and lied too, both by people I cared about, and the cherry is it was my birthday weekend.

I'll bounce back I'm sure."

Aww, that sounds completely rubbish, no wonder you’ve felt affected by it. It’s good you recognised that you needed time out today and wishing you a very happy belated birthday xx

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over a year ago

I'm for once feeling pretty good. Think it's because I've been there for someone tonight, a friendly ear for a fellow fabber x

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Not good at the moment, full of self doubt and low self worth.

My confidence is in the shitter.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Good morning - it’s World Mental Health Day, how’s yours doing today?

I’m not doing too badly. My son’s surgery on Friday went well, but he’s been struggling with the pain at times. I’m still in the hospital with him but I’m swapping with my husband today (feel guilty for going though!) and going home so I can go to uni tomorrow (also can’t wait to see my other children and the dogs). I’m being careful not to push myself too hard though and intend to leave after the first afternoon session rather than pushing myself through to 5.45pm.

I’m aware I’m holding onto some big feelings around my mum’s health that I’ve pushed down whilst I got through the past few days, but I intend to contact a counsellor today about starting the personal therapy I have to have as part of my course anyway. It feels like this would be a good time to pursue it.

How are you feeling today? "

Spent all day in bed. Rejected by a few men. Failed in all the goals I had planned today... completing a b&nge. Sounds about right for a Monday!

I'm used to it. My mental health has been a disability for the last 10 years. I just count my blessings that I'm warm, fat and dry and I don't owe anyone any money.

Hugs to you hope you get to speak to a psychotherapist soon.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Waving from the side and sending hugs to all in need x

*catches one of the hugs*

I don't normally suffer with poor mental health but I've been through the emotional mill a bit this weekend to the point where I've left work early today because I just couldn't handle it. I've been let down and lied too, both by people I cared about, and the cherry is it was my birthday weekend.

I'll bounce back I'm sure."

Hugs I've taken to disappearing on my birthday. I turned 30 and ran off to Ibiza with club 18-30. I turned 31 and ran off to the spa for the day...no one knew where I was. I've been alternating between the spa, Sicily and the Caribbean for most of my 30s. I turned 40 and ran off to the Caribbean for a month and used covid as an excuse.

That way I only get disappointed if my flight is delayed. Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,m not doing good mentally at the moment. After a load of stuff had already gone tits up in my life.The bloke I was seeing rang up first thing in the morning to say he had randomly met someone from his past and they are "giving it a go". He's dumped me for the ex who cheated and broke his heart 25 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feeling rubbish. My husband died in Feb, 10 days after falling ill. Couldn't see him for the first 8 days because they still had Covid measures in place. I thought i was coping but as the months have gone on Im finding it harder and harder.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Crap in all honesty, met someone nice and was seeing her for a bit until she caught feelings and got scared and decided best to stop seeing each other.

I can't get my head around it as we got on really well and sex was amazing but it just wasn't to be.

Oh no, that’s rough sorry to hear things turned out that way xx

I'm really missing talking to her more than anything at the moment and this weekend will be hard as meant to have been with her Friday till Saturday.

I'll never understand how someone can say they really fancy someone and care about them and yet just cut them out in a instant because they get scared of feelings

It can be really hard when we don’t understand other people’s motives for their behaviour xx"

Yes it's strange to me, if I really like someone I wouldn't push them away and cut them off. Neither of us were looking for a relationship but we both felt strong about each other and I think we would have made it work but it's one of those what if moments in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm feeling miserable, so much crap has happened and made me so low i was/am thinking there's no point in me being here although i want to be around for my grandchildren, such confusing feelings. So i contacted my GP, he doubled my meds and sent me a link to refer myself for mental health help. That was in august and despite me telling them and my GP that i feel it's pointless me being here i am still awaiting a phone call consultation with the MH people and my GP is phoning me back next week .... i can understand why people don't bother going to the NHS for mental health support.

My OH mostly works from home so that helps me and one of my children is around a lot and friends keep in contact .... that all helps.

Oh bless you, I’m sorry you’re feeling so low right now, that sounds completely draining. I also understand why people don’t reach out when things are so slow to happen. Are there any charities local to you that offer counselling and might be able to see you a bit sooner? There are some around that offer invaluable support.

I’m glad you’ve got a core support system, and please keep reaching out to us as you need to xx"

Thank you x

I will look into local charities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feeling rubbish. My husband died in Feb, 10 days after falling ill. Couldn't see him for the first 8 days because they still had Covid measures in place. I thought i was coping but as the months have gone on Im finding it harder and harder. "

Sending hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good morning - it’s World Mental Health Day, how’s yours doing today?

I’m not doing too badly. My son’s surgery on Friday went well, but he’s been struggling with the pain at times. I’m still in the hospital with him but I’m swapping with my husband today (feel guilty for going though!) and going home so I can go to uni tomorrow (also can’t wait to see my other children and the dogs). I’m being careful not to push myself too hard though and intend to leave after the first afternoon session rather than pushing myself through to 5.45pm.

I’m aware I’m holding onto some big feelings around my mum’s health that I’ve pushed down whilst I got through the past few days, but I intend to contact a counsellor today about starting the personal therapy I have to have as part of my course anyway. It feels like this would be a good time to pursue it.

How are you feeling today? "

Sending hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not too great. It's been 6 weeks since we last did anything with the lifestyle because my mental health surround gaining 10lbs has made me lose my entire drive for anything sexual with people I don't know, followed by 3 awful meets with gents we had to respectfully block,

It's a soup of anxiety for something I actualy love. The fallout has made me even worse as it puts strains on my sex life. Hopfuly a positive diet will help clear my head and get on it x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I'm for once feeling pretty good. Think it's because I've been there for someone tonight, a friendly ear for a fellow fabber x"

How lovely you were able to do that for somebody x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Not good at the moment, full of self doubt and low self worth.

My confidence is in the shitter."

I’m sorry to hear that. Sending love x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Good morning - it’s World Mental Health Day, how’s yours doing today?

I’m not doing too badly. My son’s surgery on Friday went well, but he’s been struggling with the pain at times. I’m still in the hospital with him but I’m swapping with my husband today (feel guilty for going though!) and going home so I can go to uni tomorrow (also can’t wait to see my other children and the dogs). I’m being careful not to push myself too hard though and intend to leave after the first afternoon session rather than pushing myself through to 5.45pm.

I’m aware I’m holding onto some big feelings around my mum’s health that I’ve pushed down whilst I got through the past few days, but I intend to contact a counsellor today about starting the personal therapy I have to have as part of my course anyway. It feels like this would be a good time to pursue it.

How are you feeling today?

Spent all day in bed. Rejected by a few men. Failed in all the goals I had planned today... completing a b&nge. Sounds about right for a Monday!

I'm used to it. My mental health has been a disability for the last 10 years. I just count my blessings that I'm warm, fat and dry and I don't owe anyone any money.

Hugs to you hope you get to speak to a psychotherapist soon."

Thank you x

I hope Tuesday is gentler with you x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I,m not doing good mentally at the moment. After a load of stuff had already gone tits up in my life.The bloke I was seeing rang up first thing in the morning to say he had randomly met someone from his past and they are "giving it a go". He's dumped me for the ex who cheated and broke his heart 25 years ago. "

That sounds like a huge disappointment, I’m sorry you’ve had so many things going wrong lately. Hang on in there xx

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Feeling rubbish. My husband died in Feb, 10 days after falling ill. Couldn't see him for the first 8 days because they still had Covid measures in place. I thought i was coping but as the months have gone on Im finding it harder and harder. "

What a huge shock that must have been for you, and doubly hard with not being able to see him . Grief can be a strange thing. If you feel able, have a look at The Good Grief Project’s Facebook page - 3 days ago they posted a really informative video by Brené Brown talking about how long grief lasts.

Sending lots of love to you

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Not too great. It's been 6 weeks since we last did anything with the lifestyle because my mental health surround gaining 10lbs has made me lose my entire drive for anything sexual with people I don't know, followed by 3 awful meets with gents we had to respectfully block,

It's a soup of anxiety for something I actualy love. The fallout has made me even worse as it puts strains on my sex life. Hopfuly a positive diet will help clear my head and get on it x"

I’m feeling the emotion in this massively after spending far too much time eating my feelings! Hope you can manage to make the positive changes you want to to get back on track for your mental well-being xx

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over a year ago

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Good morning Lou! I'm a month on from returning from Italy and the trauma of a sudden death on the trip. This brought lots of grief flooding back about my brother as well. I needed time, and a bit of space. Have now had that. I recognise my own mental health more than ever these days and know that I am more resilient than I give myself credit for. I've decided to become a mental health first aider at work and have a course to complete next month.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I'll also add it's the funeral later this week and am glad that work have let me take the day off.

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By *immyGGMan
over a year ago

South Cheshire


"Waving from the side and sending hugs to all in need x

*catches one of the hugs*

I don't normally suffer with poor mental health but I've been through the emotional mill a bit this weekend to the point where I've left work early today because I just couldn't handle it. I've been let down and lied too, both by people I cared about, and the cherry is it was my birthday weekend.

I'll bounce back I'm sure.

Aww, that sounds completely rubbish, no wonder you’ve felt affected by it. It’s good you recognised that you needed time out today and wishing you a very happy belated birthday xx"

Thankyou, it's really appreciated x

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By *immyGGMan
over a year ago

South Cheshire


"Waving from the side and sending hugs to all in need x

*catches one of the hugs*

I don't normally suffer with poor mental health but I've been through the emotional mill a bit this weekend to the point where I've left work early today because I just couldn't handle it. I've been let down and lied too, both by people I cared about, and the cherry is it was my birthday weekend.

I'll bounce back I'm sure.

Hugs I've taken to disappearing on my birthday. I turned 30 and ran off to Ibiza with club 18-30. I turned 31 and ran off to the spa for the day...no one knew where I was. I've been alternating between the spa, Sicily and the Caribbean for most of my 30s. I turned 40 and ran off to the Caribbean for a month and used covid as an excuse.

That way I only get disappointed if my flight is delayed. Lol!"

I might consider that plan in the future

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Ok. Weekend was difficult, found out one of the funerals had already taken place, no friends were allowed to attend... Haven't heard why yet. But saw a few old friends for drinks to celebrate that life.

Now have the date for the other funeral, next week, so that's going to be emotional.

Also this week is my sons birthday and the first one that we won't have been together.

That sounds like a really tough couple of weeks . Make sure you look after yourself xx"

I've found some very welcome distractions, and planned some things to look forward to which is helping

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Good morning Lou! I'm a month on from returning from Italy and the trauma of a sudden death on the trip. This brought lots of grief flooding back about my brother as well. I needed time, and a bit of space. Have now had that. I recognise my own mental health more than ever these days and know that I am more resilient than I give myself credit for. I've decided to become a mental health first aider at work and have a course to complete next month."

Good for you! That sounds really worthwhile. I’m sorry you’ve gone through those difficulties, it’s good you recognised you needed time to process x

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Waving from the side and sending hugs to all in need x

*catches one of the hugs*

I don't normally suffer with poor mental health but I've been through the emotional mill a bit this weekend to the point where I've left work early today because I just couldn't handle it. I've been let down and lied too, both by people I cared about, and the cherry is it was my birthday weekend.

I'll bounce back I'm sure.

Hugs I've taken to disappearing on my birthday. I turned 30 and ran off to Ibiza with club 18-30. I turned 31 and ran off to the spa for the day...no one knew where I was. I've been alternating between the spa, Sicily and the Caribbean for most of my 30s. I turned 40 and ran off to the Caribbean for a month and used covid as an excuse.

That way I only get disappointed if my flight is delayed. Lol!

I might consider that plan in the future "

Nothing so far has stopped me from disappearing or disappointed me. This year I threw up in the taxi to Heathrow so I asked them to put me on the next day's flight and went and sat in a Heathrow hotel tub until I felt better. Lol!

I've been disappointed too often by people so I put my trust in myself more...and a pilot. Lol!

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