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By *igblueyam OP   Man
over a year ago

Dundalk

Jeez. Been on here ages, why is it so hard to get a meeting? Us there a problem with my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm. No comment.

However, put yourself in the place of the ladies you’re seeking to attract.

If you viewed and read your profile, would you be interested in meeting you? Does it stand out over and above the other profiles you see?

If the answer is yes, then the profile clearly isn’t the issue.

If the answer is no, then what would you need to see changed on the profile to make it appeal to you?

And if it’s not the profile, how do you message people? If you were a lady getting lots of messages do yours stand out?

Good luck in your endeavours!

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

How honest an answer do you want?

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

It’s called free market economics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeez. Been on here ages, why is it so hard to get a meeting? Us there a problem with my profile. "

Have you filled out the required form at The office for official meetings?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

You mention your wife, does she know that you're on here?

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"You mention your wife, does she know that you're on here? "

Discreet day time meets implies not.

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Be patient..women gett flooded with mesages ..try to stant out..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard if you don't put the effort in

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH


"You mention your wife, does she know that you're on here?

Discreet day time meets implies not. "
ouchhhh

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

We all struggle OP ... you're not the only one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You mention your wife, does she know that you're on here?

Discreet day time meets implies not. "

He's the popular type on here then, he won't struggle at all....yeah right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all struggle OP ... you're not the only one "

I got cake...what time you free?

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"We all struggle OP ... you're not the only one

I got cake...what time you free?

"

Ah now see, that's the bait needed ... on way!

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all struggle OP ... you're not the only one

I got cake...what time you free?

Ah now see, that's the bait needed ... on way! "

We all struggle? (theory blown)

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws."

Take a bow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws."

Burnt and left in a pile of smouldering ash

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws."

Be still, my beating heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knew this was gonna be a guy before I even clicked on it lol

So many of these types of posts recently.

Put in the effort, take some decent pictures and if your cheating don't be surprised alot of people aren't wanting to meet you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says you’re 48 but your account says you’re 50. Your newest verification was years ago. You’re based in ireland which has much less people than the UK. You hint strongly that your partner doesn’t know you’re on here so you’re doing it behind her back. “Have my own teeth and hair” isn’t a selling point.. also the obvious one- for every girl on fab, there’s a hundred guys messaging her.

Your profile screams “I need a paid worker”, not “I want to get into swinging”.

Sorry to be harsh, but better to be direct and actually answer your question instead of bullshitting you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws."

Why are you sitting on the fence, say what you really think..!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As well as the reasons above, your profile pretty much implies that all you want is wank chat when the wife isn't around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have too many meetings

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Simple economics supply out weights demand in order words men outnumber women

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"Simple economics supply out weights demand in order words men outnumber women "

very doubtful that plays a factor here...

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

The fact that you're cheating will put some women off op,plus the looking for oral as your wife won't give it isn't a turn on.whats in it for the ladies you meet ?

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


"Simple economics supply out weights demand in order words men outnumber women

very doubtful that plays a factor here..."
and how do you come up with than. If it didn't we would all be getting meets and everyone would be happy. But its a known fact men outnumber women on here

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

[Removed by poster at 10/10/22 00:58:55]

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"Simple economics supply out weights demand in order words men outnumber women

very doubtful that plays a factor here...and how do you come up with than. If it didn't we would all be getting meets and everyone would be happy. But its a known fact men outnumber women on here "

Now we both know that's not how it was meant, but actually in relation to OPs profile. Please don't project.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


"Simple economics supply out weights demand in order words men outnumber women

very doubtful that plays a factor here...and how do you come up with than. If it didn't we would all be getting meets and everyone would be happy. But its a known fact men outnumber women on here

Now we both know that's not how it was meant, but actually in relation to OPs profile. Please don't project."
you disagreed with what I said and that's how it looked to me. And I didn't look at his profile because I don't be looking at fellas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine being a woman in a club getting approached numerous times by average looking men with cliché lines and average personalities.

Now multiply that 1000 fold, magnified by the safety of the Internet, and there's your answer.

I've been on this site and left this site a few times -- it does get frustrating, but I accept I have little patience and cannot be arsed trying to make myself stand out.

Ultimately it's the collective fault of men clamouring for a crumb of attention, using copy and paste messages and treating women like objects for their pleasure -- and without any thought of the competition they are up against -- and then feeling like victims when the women get so overwhelmed they can no longer filter out the attention.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws.

Burnt and left in a pile of smouldering ash "

Dracarys

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Jeez. Been on here ages, why is it so hard to get a meeting? Us there a problem with my profile. "

I prefer single guys or meeting a married couple.

Attached guys without the partner...not really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple economics supply out weights demand in order words men outnumber women

very doubtful that plays a factor here...and how do you come up with than. If it didn't we would all be getting meets and everyone would be happy. But its a known fact men outnumber women on here

Now we both know that's not how it was meant, but actually in relation to OPs profile. Please don't project.you disagreed with what I said and that's how it looked to me. And I didn't look at his profile because I don't be looking at fellas. "

Don’t worry, it won’t make you gay. I just looked at yours and if anything I love Tits even more…

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


"Simple economics supply out weights demand in order words men outnumber women

very doubtful that plays a factor here...and how do you come up with than. If it didn't we would all be getting meets and everyone would be happy. But its a known fact men outnumber women on here

Now we both know that's not how it was meant, but actually in relation to OPs profile. Please don't project.you disagreed with what I said and that's how it looked to me. And I didn't look at his profile because I don't be looking at fellas.

Don’t worry, it won’t make you gay. I just looked at yours and if anything I love Tits even more…"
you don't say but as I said why would I look at his profile and even worse he's from dundalk

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By *ripodius WillyusMan
over a year ago

Here and there

Good god fella the amount of posts like this get on my nerves. For a minute thought i heard violins.

If you been on here ages you will know you are one of many unable to get meets.

These oh woah is me posts are daily.

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By *ripodius WillyusMan
over a year ago

Here and there


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws.

Burnt and left in a pile of smouldering ash

Dracarys "

Dracarys is excellent comment

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws."

This reply wins the day for me

This must be one of the reasons you're on my list

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By *ockney wopMan
over a year ago

Ealing

Mate, I've been on here and the previous site for years, sent many messages and always polite but had little to no responses - it's just the way it goes, the ladies get inundated with messages so you can't expect them to reply to them all.

I think this is actually the first time I've ever posted in the forum, certainly on this site though maybe once a long time ago under another name on the previous site - I might just make it a regular thing

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Think about how you are talking to the lovely women on Fab! You ‘want to meet one of these girls that like to go down’ and mention twice about being ‘clean’.

You live in Ireland which limits your potential meets and with the attitude on your profile you’ll turn many away.

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By *am450Man
over a year ago

North Kent/Greater London


"Good god fella the amount of posts like this get on my nerves. For a minute thought i heard violins.

If you been on here ages you will know you are one of many unable to get meets.

These oh woah is me posts are daily."

This -to their credit (possibly)people take the time to reply/post fair play to them but I do wonder why? (My Bad!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't lie , l Saw the heading of this post , raised my eyes and said " oh boy " ..my answer to this is Welcome to the Jungle , it's not the first , won't be the last of these kinds posts but oh boy do they get tedious ..a person may feel a certain way etc but please think about the other people here , maybe lm wrong but l don't think they want to see posts like this every time , if a person finds it hard to get a meet there's a reason why.. people may not be interested in doing so , believe it or not it's that simple,but in saying that the best of luck but please if you can't get a meet don't take the fun out of it here for other people, people log on here for a bit of fun , they may not get a meet but they don't go to the forums to complain about it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly you have 3 pictures, one of which was taken in 2014, I know I've changed a huge amount in 8 years so probably try and take new photos.

Secondly, stop harping on about how bad your wife is in the bedroom department, not a good look at all.

Thirdly, use paragraphs!

You've clearly been here since 2014 at least, you've got a verification at least, which is more than some of the chaps on here.

Based on your profile and if you sent me a message, even a lovely one, I would be unlikely to meet you because of how badly you rate your wife's abilities.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

To be blunt your profile reads as if you want a free blowjob.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just needs more cock pictures.

Sky remote, over a toilet and from underneath up close. All the standards.

Good luck.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

Why do you need a meet? If it's just sex you're after go to a club is the usual stock answer.

Don't worry about being married either lots of posts on here about married guys being better than singles (something to do with less drama etc).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeez. Been on here ages, why is it so hard to get a meeting? Us there a problem with my profile. "

What problem with your profile? It looks great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It just needs more cock pictures.

Sky remote, over a toilet and from underneath up close. All the standards.

Good luck. "

You missed out the obligatory can of Lynx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look through Amazon most morning and never buy anything.

Fab could be like that for a lot of people op. Don’t worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look through Amazon most morning and never buy anything.

Fab could be like that for a lot of people op. Don’t worry about it. "

Same, though I do tend to have a little buying spree before Xmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look through Amazon most morning and never buy anything.

Fab could be like that for a lot of people op. Don’t worry about it.

Same, though I do tend to have a little buying spree before Xmas. "

Are you talking about fab or Amazon ?

*looks on Amazon for a 6ft box and price to send a person by post …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look through Amazon most morning and never buy anything.

Fab could be like that for a lot of people op. Don’t worry about it.

Same, though I do tend to have a little buying spree before Xmas.

Are you talking about fab or Amazon ?

*looks on Amazon for a 6ft box and price to send a person by post …"

I'm thinking both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look through Amazon most morning and never buy anything.

Fab could be like that for a lot of people op. Don’t worry about it.

Same, though I do tend to have a little buying spree before Xmas.

Are you talking about fab or Amazon ?

*looks on Amazon for a 6ft box and price to send a person by post …

I'm thinking both. "

I’m for sale. And cheap.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

Don’t worry, it won’t make you gay. I just looked at yours and if anything I love Tits even more…

you don't say but as I said why would I look at his profile and even worse he's from dundalk "

...................

The OP is asking for advice on his profile, hence you need to look at it his profile!

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Simple economics supply out weights demand in order words men outnumber women

very doubtful that plays a factor here...and how do you come up with than. If it didn't we would all be getting meets and everyone would be happy. But its a known fact men outnumber women on here "

Even if there were only 100 men on here, a high percentage of women wouldn't meet with guys that don't fit what they are looking for.

If there were much less men on here, if their profiles are crap and they put in no effort whaso ever they may find still they are no more likely to get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws."

This all of this.

You seem to bash your wife. Lots of went won't see married men. Espically those with the "it's sexless, she won't do this, poor me" trope

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"Jeez. Been on here ages, why is it so hard to get a meeting? Us there a problem with my profile. "

In the words of Paloma Faith, do you want the truth or something beautiful?

LA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just going to sit here for a bit

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

Cheating on wife

50 (or 48, you can't seem to decide) and looking for for teens - get in the bin.

Tedious bio

Forgettable pictures.

Zero morals.

I could have been nicer, I agree but it's early and, I refer you to point 2!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just going to sit here for a bit "

I'll sit with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating on wife

50 (or 48, you can't seem to decide) and looking for for teens - get in the bin.

Tedious bio

Forgettable pictures.

Zero morals.

I could have been nicer, I agree but it's early and, I refer you to point 2!

"

It feels like you're holding back a tad

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Thank you everyone who has posted.

I have enjoyed the popcorn...

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

People are just so busy these days with work and food shopping

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By *onningtonplumberMan
over a year ago

Donnington

As in life its the women that get to choose. Men on fab out number women and couples by many many times so truth is its a lottery and similar odds, you probably need to get to some clubs if your able look in The meets section. Then you'll get some in person verifications then maybe just maybe you'll get in person meets

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

This went well.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I wouldn’t meet you because you don’t have the body type I am attracted to.

And there would be many other reasons other women may have for not offering their lussies instantly to you to shag.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"I wouldn’t meet you because you don’t have the body type I am attracted to.

And there would be many other reasons other women may have for not offering their lussies instantly to you to shag. "

^pussies I meant… or mouths to blow you

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws."

This nails it! You’re not looking for NSA you’re looking for free anything and everything in the bedroom! I think your moral compass needs a good kicking and realignment OP

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By *onningtonplumberMan
over a year ago

Donnington


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws."

Ouch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Memo to me

Never create a post about not getting meets

I've seen less savage behaviour on safari

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Lots more men than women o/p. Join in with forum and camroom chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeez. Been on here ages, why is it so hard to get a meeting? Us there a problem with my profile. "

I've got a work meeting in 5 mins, you can take my place if you want

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

Because the ratio of this site is like 75-80 percent men Vs the small amount of women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Physically you're completely forgettable, your profile conveys all the personality of a pencil eraser and your morals are clearly in the toilet. Good news is it's possible to work on any or all of these flaws.

Ouch "

I know

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