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By *ilverfox for you OP   Man
over a year ago

Hull

would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *immyGGMan
over a year ago

South Cheshire

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yes

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

Yes.

The only way I cheat is with codes.

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating regardless of the circumstances.

Any time a partner has no knowledge, is cheating.

It’s pretty simple really.

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

Yes - note the capital Y

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well yes it is.

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By *igDickSubMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it bollocks live your life

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"[Removed by poster at 09/10/22 15:01:54]"

"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

Anything you do that you do not want your partner to KNOW about including sending sexy messages etc is cheating by definition, OP.

Opinions on this forum, on whether it is ok to do so when in a relationship vary a great deal.

Personally, I would not knowingly meet an attached person but equally I would not judge them as I do not know the circumstances.

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By *ociable-NottmCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Cheating is cheating regardless of the circumstances.

Any time a partner has no knowledge, is cheating.

It’s pretty simple really. "

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100%

Even is a rescue mission cause is sexless

Or

Just pure selfish cunt .

Once the couple put the cards on table

And open the relation or end it .

Then ain’t cheating . May taste the same

Tho .

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent


"[Removed by poster at 09/10/22 15:01:54]

Anything you do that you do not want your partner to KNOW about including sending sexy messages etc is cheating by definition, OP"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeeez let me think for a minute ...

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By *immyGGMan
over a year ago

South Cheshire


"Is it bollocks live your life "

Why isn't it? Adultery is adultery, end of.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Is what cheating?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes O.P. it is cheating.

Your needs matter. If they matter enough to you then you need to gently tell your partner that but you will be getting sex elsewhere.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Is what cheating?"

Cheating! Is cheating cheating

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Of course it is, cheating is cheating no matter the excuse given.

Mrs

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is what cheating?"

Was just going to ask this too.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Absolutely

Sex outside of a relationship is cheating unless you have both agreed for it to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it bollocks live your life

Why isn't it? Adultery is adultery, end of."

Is he married?

Are there reasons? Which could be plenty

Not for me to judge an individual hence my flippant answer and not for anybody to judge unless they know the circumstances

Saintly replies don’t help nobody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

You're 60 years of age, you know the answer so I'm not sure why you're asking on a swinging forum unless you don't understand what swinging is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes..mend it or End it... its not the act of sex itself that is wrong it is the lies, dishonesty, deception and breach of trust that hurts and if you are fucking others without your partner knowledge you are guilty of all the above crimes

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

It's a lot more complicated than a simple yes or no, and unless you've been there then I don't think you fully understand.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Is what cheating?

Was just going to ask this too. "

Read it with the thread title ......eg.

CHEATING is it cheating if you don't get your end away at home ?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It doesn't need to boil down to sex for it to be cheating sexting whilst in a relationship is also cheating

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It's a lot more complicated than a simple yes or no, and unless you've been there then I don't think you fully understand. "

I never tire of the 'you don't understand trope ' ........

No one is judging cheaters...... we are answering a simple question

Is cheating cheating ? Yes it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It doesn't need to boil down to sex for it to be cheating sexting whilst in a relationship is also cheating "

In my book it is.

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"Is it bollocks live your life

Why isn't it? Adultery is adultery, end of.

Is he married?

Are there reasons? Which could be plenty

Not for me to judge an individual hence my flippant answer and not for anybody to judge unless they know the circumstances

Saintly replies don’t help nobody "

Regardless of any reasons, if he's sticking his nob in someone else while he has an unaware partner it's cheating.

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By *eekin NSAMan
over a year ago

Ireland /Kilkenny areas

Yes totally ?? It’s impossible to move away from That’s why we all here for similar reasons no harm done

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is what cheating?

Was just going to ask this too.

Read it with the thread title ......eg.

CHEATING is it cheating if you don't get your end away at home ?

"

I can read. Perhaps you read it again. He could just be chatting on here. Doesn’t say he’s had sex.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Is what cheating?

Was just going to ask this too.

Read it with the thread title ......eg.

CHEATING is it cheating if you don't get your end away at home ?

I can read. Perhaps you read it again. He could just be chatting on here. Doesn’t say he’s had sex. "

I did ..... Then it would read CHATTING .... is it cheating?

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


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Any time a partner has no knowledge, is cheating.

"

It's still cheating even if you tell your partner you're cheating

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?"

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Doing something behind an unsuspecting partner's back, whether it is "just" a little snog, a sexy text, a phone call with somebody... there are no circumstances on this planet whereby this would not be cheating, whatever euphemism you choose to use.

I am not saying that there are not a number of explanations (not excuses) why people cheat, but a lie remains a lie no matter how you dress it up.

Calling it what it is does not mean you are necessarily being judged.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is what cheating?

Was just going to ask this too.

Read it with the thread title ......eg.

CHEATING is it cheating if you don't get your end away at home ?

I can read. Perhaps you read it again. He could just be chatting on here. Doesn’t say he’s had sex.

I did ..... Then it would read CHATTING .... is it cheating?

"

He doesn’t specify what he’s done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, deffo not cheating.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"

Any time a partner has no knowledge, is cheating.

It's still cheating even if you tell your partner you're cheating "

Plot thickens....... Do you think the partners consent is required first ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

Anything you do that you do not want your partner to KNOW about including sending sexy messages etc is cheating by definition, OP.

Opinions on this forum, on whether it is ok to do so when in a relationship vary a great deal.

Personally, I would not knowingly meet an attached person but equally I would not judge them as I do not know the circumstances."

Yes . True , try to flirt is cheating . Make profiles is cheating .

Not just sex ….

Taking drugs behind her back .

Spending money behind her back

Gambling

Secret gangster activities

Any thing behind a partner back hiding is cheating .

Anything ….

Only nick sultanas 2:30 am from the cupboard is allowed .

And hide her used knickers for a few days max

Rather then that is cheating .

I seriously recommend couples in situations

Mostly stuck financial with kids n mortgage

Think ,,, if u don’t want to fix your dream romance that got u married in first place

If u can’t or don’t want to bring back that beautiful bubble

Please talk . There must be a way you people can carry on with out slaving each other on circumstances . . .

I’m a seperate single dad . No one has idea how much it hurts I had to leave that house

My baby girl was 2 . No one has idea of the daily broken heart …

Is shit . Hurts so much

But if I could stay being treated the way I was . It would be worse

And would be not fair on my daughter

So …. Even is shit now , at list is better even it hurts . Cause was hurting much more already .

I suggest to think and talk . Ideally fix things and go back where it was

If not possible … in mutual respect claim your freeedoms back .

Cause when it gets to this stage is obviously a massive need of claim your freedom back

Fuck cheating . Really can’t see it . No logic , no sense .

Maybe easy way for many cases

Life’s is complicated as it is .

“ we don’t have sex , is have sex with others cheating ? Are we allowed ?

Would u like too ? “

This is what you have to ask each other .

With respect

It may even tease u and u both want each other more then ever

No sex but the love doesn’t let u move on ?

Talk .

I believe . Is what I would do

I couldn’t live like that .

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Is what cheating?

Was just going to ask this too.

Read it with the thread title ......eg.

CHEATING is it cheating if you don't get your end away at home ?

I can read. Perhaps you read it again. He could just be chatting on here. Doesn’t say he’s had sex.

I did ..... Then it would read CHATTING .... is it cheating?

"

Chatting is cheating in my world if it is something you would want to keep from your partner.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Is what cheating?

Was just going to ask this too.

Read it with the thread title ......eg.

CHEATING is it cheating if you don't get your end away at home ?

I can read. Perhaps you read it again. He could just be chatting on here. Doesn’t say he’s had sex.

I did ..... Then it would read CHATTING .... is it cheating?

He doesn’t specify what he’s done! "

I know ! He doesn't say whether he farted or ran a marathon but he does ask if CHEATING is cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a lot more complicated than a simple yes or no, and unless you've been there then I don't think you fully understand. "

I've been the cheater, I was in a sexless marriage, my husband wasn't aware at the start (it all came out, wasnt pleasant, completely my fault) so it was cheating, it was that simple.

With my new husband, who is also on here, we both agree we don't want to live our marriage just having sex with each other for the rest of our life, so we see other people, it's not cheating because we are all aware, it would be cheating however if we wasn't honest to each other about who we are talking to etc, there is complete transparency, that said we aren't in a sexless marriage we just like sex with other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get everyone will say don't judge blah blah blah and everyone's circumstances are different.

Which yeah they are.

But if sex means that much to you, have the balls to talk to your partner about it first. Can't agree? Leave.

If people knew what it actually does to someone to be lied and cheated on then you wouldn't do it.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?"

This is why you always test drive first. The importance of sexual compatability in relationships is hugely under estimated. If society and people were more open to accepting that sex isn't a bonus in a relationship, but is a fundamental part of it, divorce rates would be a fraction of what they are.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Is what cheating?

Was just going to ask this too.

Read it with the thread title ......eg.

CHEATING is it cheating if you don't get your end away at home ?

I can read. Perhaps you read it again. He could just be chatting on here. Doesn’t say he’s had sex.

I did ..... Then it would read CHATTING .... is it cheating?

Chatting is cheating in my world if it is something you would want to keep from your partner."

In some circumstances, not all.

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By *r SteelhammerMan
over a year ago

belfast

If you loved your partner would you care about sex more or the memories you have created there is a hell of a lot of horny people out there but memories is the most important thing but back to topic yes it's cheating from sexual message contact to intercourse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone is unsure whether something is cheating or not, it's best to ask your partners opinion, after all, they are the one who gets to decide in the end, no matter what folks say on any Internet forum

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

This is why you always test drive first. The importance of sexual compatability in relationships is hugely under estimated. If society and people were more open to accepting that sex isn't a bonus in a relationship, but is a fundamental part of it, divorce rates would be a fraction of what they are. "

Unless a couple vow specifically to provide regular sex come what may ...... it is a bonus

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is what cheating?

Was just going to ask this too.

Read it with the thread title ......eg.

CHEATING is it cheating if you don't get your end away at home ?

I can read. Perhaps you read it again. He could just be chatting on here. Doesn’t say he’s had sex.

I did ..... Then it would read CHATTING .... is it cheating?

He doesn’t specify what he’s done!

I know ! He doesn't say whether he farted or ran a marathon but he does ask if CHEATING is cheating "

And I’m asking what he’s done or thinking of doing before I give my answer. I don’t just assume.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity."

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"It doesn't need to boil down to sex for it to be cheating sexting whilst in a relationship is also cheating

In my book it is. "

Typo error : just need to was what I meant to say

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Is what cheating?

Was just going to ask this too.

Read it with the thread title ......eg.

CHEATING is it cheating if you don't get your end away at home ?

I can read. Perhaps you read it again. He could just be chatting on here. Doesn’t say he’s had sex.

I did ..... Then it would read CHATTING .... is it cheating?

Chatting is cheating in my world if it is something you would want to keep from your partner.

In some circumstances, not all. "

Do you have an example when this would possibly not be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?"

Is this for real?

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

If you are engaging with someone without your partner knowing, its cheating. Yes.

That's not a judgement, just a fact.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"If you are engaging with someone without your partner knowing, its cheating. Yes.

That's not a judgement, just a fact."
Precisely this last statement!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

The person to ask would be the partner of a person in that position, be they make or female..

The reasons for a 'sexless relationship' will if course vary and some no doubt live like that and either choose to look the other way or consent to a partner seeking that physical contact discretely..

Asking random strangers who can't know the whys and wherefores a simple question will mainly return the answer of yes it is cheating but there's usually more of a story behind such things ..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?"

When did the asexual partner come into it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?"

It’s a hypothesis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis "

It's a dick hypothesis

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

There are very many asexual couples that get married.

There are many that have sex as often as they can but not as often as they'd like

There are changes within both or one partner throughout relationships.

Anyone who went into a relationship based solely on getting regular sex is going to find themselves wanting out when the sex stops .....

It's not a solid foundation without everything else that is required for a good relationship

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?"

Not dishonest if illness etc causes one person to lose their libido etc, shit happens in life which can't often be predicted or imagined..

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

If you hurt somebody - you have hurt the person, whether accidental or not.

If you are hiding something from your partner who would not expect you to, then you are lying/ cheating.

It sounds like semantics and hair splitting etc and I really am not at all judgmental of people who cheat but let's call the act of cheating what it is.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


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Unless a couple vow specifically to provide regular sex come what may ...... it is a bonus"

My point is people don't put enough importance into their sexual compatibility when choosing a partner.

The vast majority of people wouldn't date or marry someone with significantly different political or religious views for example, why the would you date or marry someone with significantly different sexual needs or desires.

The fact is that in most instances, the sexual side is only discovered once its too late.

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By *r SteelhammerMan
over a year ago

belfast

Make a romantic night with her you will thank me later

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"If you are engaging with someone without your partner knowing, its cheating. Yes.

That's not a judgement, just a fact.Precisely this last statement!"

100%

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"

Unless a couple vow specifically to provide regular sex come what may ...... it is a bonus

My point is people don't put enough importance into their sexual compatibility when choosing a partner.

The vast majority of people wouldn't date or marry someone with significantly different political or religious views for example, why the would you date or marry someone with significantly different sexual needs or desires.

The fact is that in most instances, the sexual side is only discovered once its too late. "

Agreed. They still need more than being a great bonk tho...... to sustain a relationship

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?"

Do you think people know how they're going to feel about sex sometime in the future?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis "

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?"

No but there are ways other than cheating

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"

Unless a couple vow specifically to provide regular sex come what may ...... it is a bonus

My point is people don't put enough importance into their sexual compatibility when choosing a partner.

The vast majority of people wouldn't date or marry someone with significantly different political or religious views for example, why the would you date or marry someone with significantly different sexual needs or desires.

The fact is that in most instances, the sexual side is only discovered once its too late.

Agreed. They still need more than being a great bonk tho...... to sustain a relationship"

Absolutely.

Relationships are a huge package of different things. Incompatability and love can definitely co-exist. The issue is the incompatibility breeds resentment which leads to forum threads like this.

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By *uckyNineMan
over a year ago

prescot

It most certainly is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?"

If they're that committed,they'll be creative and make it work?

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?"

There is a lot of middle ground between having a sexless existence and cheating.

Paying services, fab, etc, but without agreement, it's cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

"

The part that hides and does things behind the back .

Is a shank in the back . Is cheating .

Have something to say ? Talk . cards on table .

The bed doesn’t work

U make a deal and both hold the empire as a team .

Is what kings and queens used to do to join houses for business . Of course they fuck others and both know it

They don’t fancy each other from day one

Cheat to hold the empire is not excuse .

yes is complicated . Kids , stress

Maybe the key to happiness is find why the other part gone down in interest .

Is not cheating cause is not giving sex . Failing to the deal .

Depression fucks yiur drive . Stress . Sleep deprivation .

Maybe something missing . Attention

Me personally even a shit comment can be enough to destroy my rock solid erection .

Not joking .

If she cares it on my hear hole , frying my brain she may not see it for a week .

Is real . I been there . . .

Sometimes can be a little thing not so hard to fix ….

Talk . Open the game . Then no one is a cheater any more .

Cards on table . Cheating stands no chance

Simple .

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Is it bollocks live your life

Why isn't it? Adultery is adultery, end of.

Is he married?

Are there reasons? Which could be plenty

Not for me to judge an individual hence my flippant answer and not for anybody to judge unless they know the circumstances

Saintly replies don’t help nobody "

He didn't ask if it was good or bad he just asked if it was cheating and the majority say yes it is without passing judgement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

Is what cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If anyone is unsure whether something is cheating or not, it's best to ask your partners opinion, after all, they are the one who gets to decide in the end, no matter what folks say on any Internet forum "

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Definitely cheating

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?

Is what cheating?"

Well ..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it bollocks live your life

Why isn't it? Adultery is adultery, end of.

Is he married?

Are there reasons? Which could be plenty

Not for me to judge an individual hence my flippant answer and not for anybody to judge unless they know the circumstances

Saintly replies don’t help nobody

He didn't ask if it was good or bad he just asked if it was cheating and the majority say yes it is without passing judgement "

That’s fine then let the thread close or do we debate???

Plenty judgement has been passed plenty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?

Is what cheating?

Well .......... "

He might have bought a ready meal and claimed that he cooked it.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

Is what cheating?

Make your question a bit clearer than ‘vague’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

Absolutely

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By *omethingfun96Couple
over a year ago

greater london

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave attention , love and sex to married wifes

Before .

Frustrated stuck in financial sexless marriages

No attention form husband . Sad cause he has no interest .

Situations that u understand , and after talking you decide to give share that but of love …

A bit of beauty in the dark .

Yes . Is technically cheating . Even the love is dead and no way hopes …

Is complicated …. Is hard work .

Me personally cheating ? I couldn’t do it . I just can’t .

Since I was 16 . I just can’t . It hurts a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?"

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?

Is what cheating?

Well ..........

He might have bought a ready meal and claimed that he cooked it....."

In that case..................

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?

Is what cheating?

Make your question a bit clearer than ‘vague’.

"

Uhmmmmmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it. "

Exactly

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The question asked is

"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

The interpretations of this question are quite interesting.

To me living in a sexless marriage is not cheating. Who are you cheating by doing that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question asked is

"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

The interpretations of this question are quite interesting.

To me living in a sexless marriage is not cheating. Who are you cheating by doing that?"

Assuming it's done without the partner's knowledge or consent, then it's certainly cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it. "

They have discussed it, He would be devastated if she sought sex elsewhere. She still craves sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating

Some people put it only as sex

Right ? I shoot one now that gives the hump to a lot of people .

Your team mate passes the ball to the other team so they score . Big cup final x everyone has been working of it for years .

He had a payment under the table .

How do u feel ?

Cheating is not just sex

Your friend that nicks £20 note of your bedroom draw . You 100% sure was there .

Cheating x x

Anything behind your back is cheating .

- Oh but u don’t mind give yourself to a frustrated house wife .

No I don’t . And I’m happy to share the love I have to give and the sex I have to offer and I 100% would do it again . And proud of it .

Tho if is a slag who pretends is everything ok , nothing going on , being a bitch to a loving guy who treats her right and loves her , like happened to me

I propbabrly pull my trousers back up and leg it . I done before I will do it again .

Feeling sorry for the poor bloke . And their son.

It hurts man … u can’t do that …

Is not shag others that is cheating

Is the lie . The fake .

So …. Talk . End off .

I really need a drink now

Is my excuse

Who is in ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it.

They have discussed it, He would be devastated if she sought sex elsewhere. She still craves sex."

If they can't agree, it ends.

Then they can do what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question asked is

"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

The interpretations of this question are quite interesting.

To me living in a sexless marriage is not cheating. Who are you cheating by doing that?"

That’s how I read it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The question asked is

"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

The interpretations of this question are quite interesting.

To me living in a sexless marriage is not cheating. Who are you cheating by doing that?

Assuming it's done without the partner's knowledge or consent, then it's certainly cheating"

What is?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Different question around the same topic:

Why is it important to ask other people's opinion on this topic?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The question asked is

"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

The interpretations of this question are quite interesting.

To me living in a sexless marriage is not cheating. Who are you cheating by doing that?

That’s how I read it. "

Assuming that it's sexless by mutual agreement.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

Yup...it sure is...unless she knows your on it and have no problems with it.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Different question around the same topic:

Why is it important to ask other people's opinion on this topic?

"

Actually I meant to ask why would other people's opinion on the topic even matter to the person who is thinking about doing it?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it.

They have discussed it, He would be devastated if she sought sex elsewhere. She still craves sex.

If they can't agree, it ends.

Then they can do what they want.

"

He leaves her. She goes into some awful home to be cared for. This is why no situation is ever the same and I just cannot go with the “all cheaters are scumbag” thing.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Different question around the same topic:

Why is it important to ask other people's opinion on this topic?

Actually I meant to ask why would other people's opinion on the topic even matter to the person who is thinking about doing it?"

I always think this too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question asked is

"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

The interpretations of this question are quite interesting.

To me living in a sexless marriage is not cheating. Who are you cheating by doing that?

Assuming it's done without the partner's knowledge or consent, then it's certainly cheating

What is? "

The activity of "cheating". If the other person didn't agree to it or doesn't know about it, then it's cheating, I'd say

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Unfortunately OP They will slate you on here but happily shag your wife. Strange world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating is cheating regardless of the circumstances.

Any time a partner has no knowledge, is cheating.

It’s pretty simple really. "

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Unfortunately OP They will slate you on here but happily shag your wife. Strange world "

That is a bit of a generalisation. There are plenty of people who call it what it is but do not slate or judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it.

They have discussed it, He would be devastated if she sought sex elsewhere. She still craves sex.

If they can't agree, it ends.

Then they can do what they want.

He leaves her. She goes into some awful home to be cared for. This is why no situation is ever the same and I just cannot go with the “all cheaters are scumbag” thing.

"

I just don't think there's ever a reason to hurt the person you're meant to love.

I don't think the original OP is anything like this, this is an extreme example.

Even so, you should still talk to each other and either come to an agreement or leave.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Unfortunately OP They will slate you on here but happily shag your wife. Strange world "

Yep and he hasn't even said he's cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh OP you’ve started yet another debate on sex:

Yes in my eyes it’s cheating I never had sex for 2 years with my ex husband and then found out in that time he was cheating so that led to me divorcing him so YES it is as I was in a sex less marriage towards the end !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Different question around the same topic:

Why is it important to ask other people's opinion on this topic?

"

Point I loved this question .

What do you think ?

Is it to use others acceptance as a last hope of redemption ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately OP They will slate you on here but happily shag your wife. Strange world

Yep and he hasn't even said he's cheating. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Different question around the same topic:

Why is it important to ask other people's opinion on this topic?

Point I loved this question .

What do you think ?

Is it to use others acceptance as a last hope of redemption ?

"

Precisely, for validation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh OP you’ve started yet another debate on sex:

Yes in my eyes it’s cheating I never had sex for 2 years with my ex husband and then found out in that time he was cheating so that led to me divorcing him so YES it is as I was in a sex less marriage towards the end ! "

Sorry hear that love . No need for that

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Different question around the same topic:

Why is it important to ask other people's opinion on this topic?

Point I loved this question .

What do you think ?

Is it to use others acceptance as a last hope of redemption ?

"

You know, I do not honestly know.

I would not take other people's opinion on an important question such as this - if anyone I would ask my closest friends or family.

Perhaps it is about wanting to feel better, but then it could also just be curiosity?

And let s face it, it has become an interesting thread after all.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Theirs never a reason that would satisfy everyone, somebody always gets hurt or sees another angle to it all but ultimately you have to live the one life you have however and whatever the solution, it's right for you nobody else can make that decision for you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

[Removed by poster at 09/10/22 16:52:19]

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By *ovebjsMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

This has been asked so many times and the answer is predictable

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The question asked is

"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

The interpretations of this question are quite interesting.

To me living in a sexless marriage is not cheating. Who are you cheating by doing that?

Assuming it's done without the partner's knowledge or consent, then it's certainly cheating

What is? "

cheating

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it is cheating to live in a sexless marriage if you haven't both discussed and agreed to it being sexless

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Different question around the same topic:

Why is it important to ask other people's opinion on this topic?

Actually I meant to ask why would other people's opinion on the topic even matter to the person who is thinking about doing it?"

A few reasons could be valid.

There is no one else to ask or they hope to get validation for their intentions or actions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The question asked is

"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"

The interpretations of this question are quite interesting.

To me living in a sexless marriage is not cheating. Who are you cheating by doing that?

Assuming it's done without the partner's knowledge or consent, then it's certainly cheating

What is?

cheating"

Right...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once someone has indicated on a message that they're married or attached I'm out.. Even though I wouldn't be the one cheating I don't want to be part of the what goes around situation..

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yes unless your partner is OK with you playing outside the relationship. If you maybe approach the subject with honesty of via counselling maybe the issues that are causing the lack of sex can be found

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it.

They have discussed it, He would be devastated if she sought sex elsewhere. She still craves sex.

If they can't agree, it ends.

Then they can do what they want.

"

Who knew it was so simple?

Hey kids, mum’s gagging for it and my cock’s broke and I’m not happy about her playing away so we are breaking up our little family. Soz about all the dysfunctional family and mental trauma thing, but hey….

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over a year ago

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it.

They have discussed it, He would be devastated if she sought sex elsewhere. She still craves sex.

If they can't agree, it ends.

Then they can do what they want.

Who knew it was so simple?

Hey kids, mum’s gagging for it and my cock’s broke and I’m not happy about her playing away so we are breaking up our little family. Soz about all the dysfunctional family and mental trauma thing, but hey…."

Or the person with the broken cock could allow their partner sexual fulfilment with just a simple change of how they perceive their own reality, their relationship and family.

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By *ociable-NottmCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Different question around the same topic:

Why is it important to ask other people's opinion on this topic?

Point I loved this question .

What do you think ?

Is it to use others acceptance as a last hope of redemption ?

Precisely, for validation "

Mr

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Yes. No excuse fir cheating. If its not working get out of the relationship and move on. Both me and john moved on when past relationships did not work out. Now we have both found out twin in each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it.

They have discussed it, He would be devastated if she sought sex elsewhere. She still craves sex.

If they can't agree, it ends.

Then they can do what they want.

Who knew it was so simple?

Hey kids, mum’s gagging for it and my cock’s broke and I’m not happy about her playing away so we are breaking up our little family. Soz about all the dysfunctional family and mental trauma thing, but hey….

Or the person with the broken cock could allow their partner sexual fulfilment with just a simple change of how they perceive their own reality, their relationship and family. "

Of course. Also, they might not. The point I am trying, rather clumsily, to make is that these aren’t always straightforward, cut and dried. Life just isn’t like that for everyone.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It’s only cheating if they don’t fancy you. If you’re ‘the one’ then they fully understand your situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"It's a lot more complicated than a simple yes or no, and unless you've been there then I don't think you fully understand.

I never tire of the 'you don't understand trope ' ........

No one is judging cheaters...... we are answering a simple question

Is cheating cheating ? Yes it is."

Totally agree

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it.

They have discussed it, He would be devastated if she sought sex elsewhere. She still craves sex.

If they can't agree, it ends.

Then they can do what they want.

Who knew it was so simple?

Hey kids, mum’s gagging for it and my cock’s broke and I’m not happy about her playing away so we are breaking up our little family. Soz about all the dysfunctional family and mental trauma thing, but hey….

Or the person with the broken cock could allow their partner sexual fulfilment with just a simple change of how they perceive their own reality, their relationship and family.

Of course. Also, they might not. The point I am trying, rather clumsily, to make is that these aren’t always straightforward, cut and dried. Life just isn’t like that for everyone."

Correct. But on the original Q ...... is cheating cheating there is only one answer.......

YES ..... as sure as eggs is eggs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You go into a relationship which becomes a partnership with regular sex. Over time one party becomes less and less interested in sex until they totally withdraw and admit they never really liked it, and won’t do it anymore. The partnership is tied up with life, home, children, all the usual stuff. In frustration the sexually active half looks elsewhere. Who is cheating?

I think the problem is more likely that one half of the couple see the other as existing to provide them with sex....... like a commodity.

Certainly one perspective. Or the asexual partner was dishonest about how the relationship was going to be?

Is this for real?

It’s a hypothesis

It's a dick hypothesis

How about a committed young couple with all the same social and life trappings. Through illness or injury he can no longer have sex. Is she doomed to a sexless life?

Have they been left unable to communicate with each other? Why do people find it so hard to talk to the person they are supposedly in love with?

It's not fucking hard is it.

They have discussed it, He would be devastated if she sought sex elsewhere. She still craves sex.

If they can't agree, it ends.

Then they can do what they want.

Who knew it was so simple?

Hey kids, mum’s gagging for it and my cock’s broke and I’m not happy about her playing away so we are breaking up our little family. Soz about all the dysfunctional family and mental trauma thing, but hey….

Or the person with the broken cock could allow their partner sexual fulfilment with just a simple change of how they perceive their own reality, their relationship and family.

Of course. Also, they might not. The point I am trying, rather clumsily, to make is that these aren’t always straightforward, cut and dried. Life just isn’t like that for everyone.

Correct. But on the original Q ...... is cheating cheating there is only one answer.......

YES ..... as sure as eggs is eggs"

Eggs with calcium carbonate shells or just ovum?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Just eggs from a chicken's arse.......

Or fried......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it’s cheating do something about it she may have the same kinks as you cx

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

BTW cheating is also a thrill seeker's idea of a "trip" and the fear of being caught is often part of the risk and also addictive. In a fantasy situation it may be seen as OK but I'd suggest you may benefit from relationship counselling of individual 1 to 1 that can stop it being an issue. I've seen so many people's lives ruined on the cheaters and victims side.

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By *ecret_Passion777Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"It's a lot more complicated than a simple yes or no, and unless you've been there then I don't think you fully understand. "

Still cheating though

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

It is, but so what. Sex is very important to some people. You only get one life don't waste it by being frustrated and miserable. I don't see why someone should have to be celibate just because their partner decides they no longer want to have sex with them. It's not so black and white as to just leave, people have built lives together with shared finances, property and family and when they've tried to talk about not being happy with the lack of sex their partner makes them out to be a pervert or turns it round on them with "why are you making me feel bad just cos I don't want to have sex anymore?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Whether or not you're having sex while married, you're still cheating x

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat."

Sorry no it's not. If it is not working then leave and move on. If you found out the reason your wife was not having sex with you is because she found a guy who was a better fuck than you how would you feel? When they find out you cheated the hurt is so painful and damaging it destroys your trust in people of the opposite sex. I gave my ex hubby the best sexlife he could wish for as i am very experimental and will give anything a try. But even an amazing sexlife still did not stop him from cheating in me and leaving me for a woman who dumped him within a year. Some people male or female are simpley born cheaters and nothing will ever change that ever!!!

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By *ociable-NottmCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat."

There isn't a reason or excuse to cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat."

I think in fact you'll find that that's a good reason to either accept it, fix it, or end it

And THEN go get yourself all the sex you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat.

Sorry no it's not. If it is not working then leave and move on. If you found out the reason your wife was not having sex with you is because she found a guy who was a better fuck than you how would you feel? When they find out you cheated the hurt is so painful and damaging it destroys your trust in people of the opposite sex. I gave my ex hubby the best sexlife he could wish for as i am very experimental and will give anything a try. But even an amazing sexlife still did not stop him from cheating in me and leaving me for a woman who dumped him within a year. Some people male or female are simpley born cheaters and nothing will ever change that ever!!! "

It's not usually the sex itself for that kind of person, it's the adrenaline rush from the secrecy and threat of discovery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some great opinions here , but my opinion is IF you are married, attached , in a relationship .. whatever..any form of anything without the other person knowing is cheating in that area, there are solutions of course but to answer the question asked ..it is cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat.

I think in fact you'll find that that's a good reason to either accept it, fix it, or end it

And THEN go get yourself all the sex you can"

I ended it and joined up to fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat.

I think in fact you'll find that that's a good reason to either accept it, fix it, or end it

And THEN go get yourself all the sex you can

I ended it and joined up to fab "
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You did the right thing for yourself by ending it , if it's ended then it's not cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat.

I think in fact you'll find that that's a good reason to either accept it, fix it, or end it

And THEN go get yourself all the sex you can

I ended it and joined up to fab .

You did the right thing for yourself by ending it , if it's ended then it's not cheating "

He was the one cheating so yeah divorced the fucker

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington


"Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat.

I think in fact you'll find that that's a good reason to either accept it, fix it, or end it

And THEN go get yourself all the sex you can

I ended it and joined up to fab .

You did the right thing for yourself by ending it , if it's ended then it's not cheating

He was the one cheating so yeah divorced the fucker "
show him ya profile on here show him what he’s missing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat.

I think in fact you'll find that that's a good reason to either accept it, fix it, or end it

And THEN go get yourself all the sex you can

I ended it and joined up to fab .

You did the right thing for yourself by ending it , if it's ended then it's not cheating

He was the one cheating so yeah divorced the fucker show him ya profile on here show him what he’s missing "

Nah sod that he’d join if I did

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

If you're keeping it a secret from a partner cause it would hurt them; then it's cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it’s cheating. But a completely sexless marriage is a good reason to cheat.

I think in fact you'll find that that's a good reason to either accept it, fix it, or end it

And THEN go get yourself all the sex you can

I ended it and joined up to fab "

Great minds

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By *ourtoyboy1Man
over a year ago

local

yes you didn't just marry for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your partner..he/she..has no clue what you’re up to behind their back then yes..hurts like hell when they find out too

Not worth the heartache in my humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if you repent afterwards

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree


"Not if you repent afterwards "

If only there was a FAB church to repent at . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not if you repent afterwards

If only there was a FAB church to repent at . . "

what a fantastic idea

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"would you say its cheating if you live in a sexless marriage ?"
if it's with your partners full consent and knowledge then no it is not.. If they don't know then yes it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, would never do it myself. But won't judge those who do. But I know of I ever realised my partner was on a site like this while in a relationship she would be gone in a heartbeat.

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Is it cheating if I allow him to watch lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hail ma… nvm

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By *immyGGMan
over a year ago

South Cheshire


"Is it cheating if I allow him to watch lol"

Nope, that's all good

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Great cheating thread everyone

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"Great cheating thread everyone "

^^ this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many replies before a thread closes?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Hi, I'm Tina Titz and I thought I'd just post before the thread was locked

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By *urga2076Woman
over a year ago

London


"Yes O.P. it is cheating.

Your needs matter. If they matter enough to you then you need to gently tell your partner that but you will be getting sex elsewhere.

"

Spot on. If she/ he loves you and wants the best for you, then you will work on finding a solution together or apart. Talking and getting sex therapy is truly the best way forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep going lads and lasses

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