FabSwingers.com forum: Men want to be loved....

By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

but women prefer to be wanted.....true or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men want to be pleasures don't they?

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Men want to be pleasures don't they? "
Im just interested away from swinging what each gender prefers? I know as a woman( last time i looked) i love to be wanted...wondered if guys felt the same or prefer to be loved?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't anyone be both loved and wanted?

Or it only ever going to be an either/or?

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Can't anyone be both loved and wanted?

Or it only ever going to be an either/or?"
if you had to choose one...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

loved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if I want to be wanted but I like to be appreciated from time to time.

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By *hinaManMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

"I don't know if I want to be wanted but I like to be appreciated from time to time."

Really well said, being appreciated means a lot to me but of course being wanted is a nice feeling too!

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I don't know if I want to be wanted but I like to be appreciated from time to time.

Really well said, being appreciated means a lot to me but of course being wanted is a nice feeling too!"
Appreciated is nice....but id prefer wanted ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmm, well I have no idea what guys want, I never could be arsed to ask

I like to be wanted...but not 'needed'

Dunno about the love thing really, I think it makes me suspicious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luke says both, wanted and loved.... Some men just want it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Luke says both, wanted and loved.... Some men just want it all

Oh does he now

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"hmm, well I have no idea what guys want, I never could be arsed to ask

I like to be wanted...but not 'needed'

Dunno about the love thing really, I think it makes me suspicious

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ooooooh id forgotten about "needed" good point, away from swinging i like being needed on here id FREAK!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The men I have met seem to want to be adored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The men I have met seem to want to be adored."

Not me a cuppa and a chocolate digestive and I am happy.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Loved.... Not fussed to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the men I've known just want an easy life. For most that has included an expectation that a woman organise everything and wait on them.

I'm not saying all men are like that, but that's been my experience so far.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Most of the men I've known just want an easy life. For most that has included an expectation that a woman organise everything and wait on them.

I'm not saying all men are like that, but that's been my experience so far."
I have found the former to be untrue and the latter as i like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only a woman would even have thought of posing the question so that should tell you much - most men just aren't as emotionaly needy for either... men are more physically demanding ie. we dont't care how you feel about us as long as you give it up - a pity fuck will do for most

Not me tho, I'm sensetive, respectful and caring

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Only a woman would even have thought of posing the question so that should tell you much - most men just aren't as emotionaly needy for either... men are more physically demanding ie. we dont't care how you feel about us as long as you give it up - a pity fuck will do for most

Not me tho, I'm sensetive, respectful and caring

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lmao....love the last bit as an after thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me tho, I'm sensetive, respectful and caring

This rings discouragingly true.

Random observation:

The more comments from men I read on here (and a few other anonymous internet) sites, the less I feel I want to shag any man.

I may just go and join a convent.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Not me tho, I'm sensetive, respectful and caring

This rings discouragingly true.

Random observation:

The more comments from men I read on here (and a few other anonymous internet) sites, the less I feel I want to shag any man.

I may just go and join a convent."
would they have ya?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me tho, I'm sensetive, respectful and caring

This rings discouragingly true.

Random observation:

The more comments from men I read on here (and a few other anonymous internet) sites, the less I feel I want to shag any man.

I may just go and join a convent.would they have ya?

I'll let you know.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

the man in my life needs to be loved, appreciated and wanted

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Not me tho, I'm sensetive, respectful and caring

This rings discouragingly true.

Random observation:

The more comments from men I read on here (and a few other anonymous internet) sites, the less I feel I want to shag any man.

I may just go and join a convent.would they have ya?

I'll let you know."
sneak me a winple out and il be eternally grateful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the man in my life needs to be loved, appreciated and wanted"

Nothing at all wrong with that if you give it him.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

Everyone has the capability to want you,very few will be capable of loving you.

So i'm going for being loved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't anyone be both loved and wanted?

Or it only ever going to be an either/or?if you had to choose one..."

To be loved. Even if it were just for one moment. A moment of pure, honest love between two human beings. That stays with you forever.

Everyone can want or be wanted - not everyone can love or be loved.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Can't anyone be both loved and wanted?

Or it only ever going to be an either/or?if you had to choose one...

To be loved. Even if it were just for one moment. A moment of pure, honest love between two human beings. That stays with you forever.

Everyone can want or be wanted - not everyone can love or be loved. "
Succinctly put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id like to think the oh prefers to be loved ,as i know i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like the OP is a Sons Of Anarchy fan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i prefer to cuddle and hold for a bit.

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By *iker BullMan
over a year ago

leeds

Loved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to be loved and that's an everyday thing for most people in relationships, wanted seems the wrong word to me, sometimes is nice to be desired or lusted after,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't anyone be both loved and wanted?

Or it only ever going to be an either/or?if you had to choose one...

To be loved. Even if it were just for one moment. A moment of pure, honest love between two human beings. That stays with you forever.

Everyone can want or be wanted - not everyone can love or be loved. "

This for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore feeling wanted, and loved. I will always want and love my other half.

Justva soppy sod really xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This question is a tough one for me. As I feel that to be wanted by my partner is a sign of being loved. I guess in the past not having sex with my ex was a form of rejection, and made me feel unloved.

But now all great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being loved is necessary on many levels, I would be miserable without it

But being wanted fro the pleasure that I can give for the passion that burns within. To satiate a partners needs, perhaps an ego issue, is almost as important as being loved. Not being wanted would make me miserable too.

It is so good to be wanted so bad that you are used up to the point of exhaustion on a regular basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting that people have focused on the men wanting love part - I'm more interested in the women prefer to feel wanted part. I kind of disagree with that.

I don't think we are radically different in terms of wants and needs whether we have dangly bits up top or down below.

A lot of how people feel is defined by their personality and coloured by their experiences - so this by no means applies to all.

I think, in very general terms, both men and women want to feel love and the security and companionship that comes with that.

As for priorities, I'd say in a 'normal' (I hate that word) relationship I'd say you start off by wanting that person, then loving and wanting them.

On a site such as this - it's the want that is the driving force for both sexes in the vast majority of cases (though I am aware love does flower here).

It feels great to be loved (and secure in that knowledge) and equally, it feels nice to be wanted (so I'm told!).

I think in terms of men and women on here, being "wanted" comes at the top of a pretty steep sliding scale.

Starting at the top with Wanted - Liked - Appreciated - Noticed - Tolerated - Disliked and then Ignored.

My guess is though, men and women & couples would have a very different opinion as to which of these groupings they fit in.

Nice question though to start the grey matter working.

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