FabSwingers.com forum: Leave or not

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't know what to do I have been on here now for 5 months and I just don't know what to do whether to stay or leave fab Please help

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day the only person who can make the decision is yourself!

Do what you want to do and not what you think other people want you to do!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Up to you.

I would suggest hiding your profile and give it a break first.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Why do you feel it's time to go? Is it boring you, have you had a bad experience, are you looking for more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it's time to go? Is it boring you, have you had a bad experience, are you looking for more?"
+1 - you haven't said 'why' you are thinking of going, OP.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just got a lot of personal problems going on at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got a lot of personal problems going on at the moment "
Then take a break, if you feel you need to. You don't have to delete your profile - just hide it. Then you can come back whenever you're ready. It happens to all of us, one way or another, sometimes.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

As the other me says, just take a time out, hide you profile, forget about it.

No need to delete or leave anything really it's just website, visit it or don't

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"As the other me says, just take a time out, hide you profile, forget about it.

No need to delete or leave anything really it's just website, visit it or don't

I/we talk a lot of sense at times don't you/me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got a lot of personal problems going on at the moment "

We had major family problems earlier this year, so we just hid our profile for a while until we were ready to join in again!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

hide your profile and do your stuff

come back and do your stuff

leave and do your stuff

rejoin and do your stuff

only you know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As the other me says, just take a time out, hide you profile, forget about it.

No need to delete or leave anything really it's just website, visit it or don't

I/we talk a lot of sense at times don't you/me?

Have we I can't remember hun lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

youve had lots of meets so why leave?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

leave. Will stop you posting stupid look at me threads you have loads verification do obviously just looking. For compliments

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I don't think the number of meets or verifications she has I'd relevant to the question really, just jealous guys wishing they had that many meets

OP if it's due to personal reasons you are the only one who can decide. Just because you are on the site doesn't mean you have to meet. You can enjoy the chatrooms and forums for a bit of an escape.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"leave. Will stop you posting stupid look at me threads you have loads verification do obviously just looking. For compliments"

Apt user name

I pressed the green arrow next to the OP's name and this is the only thread she's contributed to so your vitriolic response does kinda smack of jealousy

OP, as others have said, only you can decide, but if it was me I'd hide my profile for a while and then decide

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"leave. Will stop you posting stupid look at me threads you have loads verification do obviously just looking. For compliments

Apt user name

I pressed the green arrow next to the OP's name and this is the only thread she's contributed to so your vitriolic response does kinda smack of jealousy

OP, as others have said, only you can decide, but if it was me I'd hide my profile for a while and then decide "

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know what to do I have been on here now for 5 months and I just don't know what to do whether to stay or leave fab Please help

xxx"

Your membership, your choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 06/12/12 17:44:29]

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon

All the lady wanted was some advice from people in the world of Fab. She wasn't after compliments, neither was she seeking people to boost her ego.

All she wanted was some advice weather she should leave or not. She clearly states 'in a later post' that she is going through some personal problems at the moment.

Some people can be so nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the lady wanted was some advice from people in the world of Fab. She wasn't after compliments, neither was she seeking people to boost her ego.

All she wanted was some advice weather she should leave or not. She clearly states 'in a later post' that she is going through some personal problems at the moment.

Some people can be so nasty"

She asked my opinion by posting. I gave it. Simple

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon

It isn't a look at me thread though. If she said she was leaving because she wasn't getting meets or replies to messages things would be different. All she wanted was some kind advice, no more no less

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang on a sec I've ran out of popcorn...be right back

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

[Removed by poster at 06/12/12 18:12:50]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't feed the trolls

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"leave. Will stop you posting stupid look at me threads you have loads verification do obviously just looking. For compliments"

What a strange thing to say....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Looks like not everyone was in a good mood on feel good Thursday.

To the OP, I have also taken breaks from Fab. I hide my profile, private my pics, and put all the filters on. Also, changing your password helps too. This place can be addictive so just taking a break helps us get our priorities straight.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

If you feel like leaving don't delete your profile. Just don't use it or hit it. If you feel like coming back after a few months you still have your profile and don't have to start over again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just mothball it and come back again when you're ready to. It'll all still be here when you do...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Up to you.

I would suggest hiding your profile and give it a break first. "

This is good advice, I made the error of deleting an old profile and its been a bugger getting my new one how my old one was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks like not everyone was in a good mood on feel good Thursday.

I too do exactly this, hide my profile and pics, filters up and change password so I forget it.

Means OP you don't have to start all over again with friends and verifications etc. plus you can return to posting in the forums without waiting a couple of weeks.

Whatever you decide, good luck and I hope your problems get smaller day by day.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I agree with the others just take a break and then come back.

I did it earlier when I had my lunch. Think I may do it again in a minute.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"I agree with the others just take a break and then come back.

I did it earlier when I had my lunch. Think I may do it again in a minute. "

Ryan, don't do it...please...we miss you too much

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I agree with the others just take a break and then come back.

I did it earlier when I had my lunch. Think I may do it again in a minute.

Ryan, don't do it...please...we miss you too much

It's ok will only be 20 mins maybe 25 if I have one of them apple pies as well

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"I agree with the others just take a break and then come back.

I did it earlier when I had my lunch. Think I may do it again in a minute.

Ryan, don't do it...please...we miss you too much

It's ok will only be 20 mins maybe 25 if I have one of them apple pies as well "

Phew, think I can survive that long

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I don't know what to do I have been on here now for 5 months and I just don't know what to do whether to stay or leave fab Please help

xxx"

If there was a good reason to stay you would know it... rather than not knowing what to do.

It's not a life changing choice... it's just a free website that you can join again at any time.

If you don't know what you are doing here it's probably best not to be. That sort of confusion can only lead to a dark place.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"leave. Will stop you posting stupid look at me threads you have loads verification do obviously just looking. For compliments

What a strange thing to say....

yes, inarticulate and innacurate..

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

You need help with this really?

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"I don't know what to do I have been on here now for 5 months and I just don't know what to do whether to stay or leave fab Please help

xxx"

Why would you want to leave?? dont follow really loads of meets ..what is the problem?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I don't know what to do I have been on here now for 5 months and I just don't know what to do whether to stay or leave fab Please help

xxx"

I think a lot of people sometimes go through a phase when they wonder whether they want to be on here, be part of the scene. And to be fair sometimes the time is not right. I would suggest to talk to a couple of your closer friends and if you still feel the same way, hide your profile for a while and see how that is. Then, when you feel different you might want to come back? Either way - all the best

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I don't know what to do I have been on here now for 5 months and I just don't know what to do whether to stay or leave fab Please help

xxx"

You started this post 9 hours ago. If you've left, you won't get to read this.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

What a difference a gender makes

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

no offence.. but when blokes start "should i stay" threads, people arent as generous......

so i will say the same as i say to guys who start them....

no one is holding a gun to your head to stay.... and if you are not having fun and you don't have to be doing what you are... whats the reason for staying?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"What a difference a gender makes

damn... beat me to it by a minute!!! but it is interesting to see how peoples opinions are depending on which way the wind blows so to speak

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"What a difference a gender makes

I've just read this thread and was about to post something similar.

OP - I have nothing new to add. Hide for a while and think what you want. Delete and return if you want and you will have the 'joy' (

) of being bombarded by every man in your area.

I hope your problems are sorted out soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be the same regardless of gender:

If unsure, hide profile and take a break from FAB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left for a bit left my profile on went throu a rough time in my personal life have come back and enjoying the chats on here. I needed the break to find what I wanted. Glad I'm back and hope to make some good friends who I can relate to and enjoy the banter.

Only you can make the choice good luck in what ever you decide xxx

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I was just thinking about the gender thing and I can see where that idea is coming from. I do think that perhaps the way the OP phrased her statement may have something to do with the fact she had more sympathetic responses... she sounded like she was genuinely asking for help and support?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

sometimes the gender difference is staggering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sometimes the gender difference is staggering"

I was just thinking exactly the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your help and advice xx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Thanks for all your help and advice xx"

just checking that you realise that when your profile is hidden, people can still _iew your public pics.

all the best

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