FabSwingers.com forum: Some peopke are So rude!

By *kivi Bi Male OP Man
over a year ago

North Shields

Ever try to give someone a compliment and have it thrown back in your face with an insult? Makes you want to give yo!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give yo?

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

Yo-yo?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Power to the peopke!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give yo? "

You know it’s a typo and he meant up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give yo?

You know it’s a typo and he meant up?

I get a sneaking suspicion you don't like me.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Ever try to give someone a compliment and have it thrown back in your face with an insult? Makes you want to give yo!!!"

Hugs. No need to be rude.... But I can attest to the fact that the things men think are compliments can be unpleasant triggers for women.

I always think with my neurodivergent brain to keep things formal until you get tonknow the person more.

Honestly I had no idea what went on in mens brains until I started reading more articles written by men and those male podcasts are enlightening!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give yo?

You know it’s a typo and he meant up?

I get a sneaking suspicion you don't like me. "

He doesn't like anyone, neither do you.

Now kiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give yo?

You know it’s a typo and he meant up?

I get a sneaking suspicion you don't like me.

He doesn't like anyone, neither do you.

Now kiss."

I do like some people.

Well 2, maybe 3.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it, if you say or do something with absolutely the best of intentions, you aren’t necessarily responsible if the other party misinterprets what you say or do.

So hold your head high and fuck ‘em (metaphorically) if they respond negatively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give yo?

You know it’s a typo and he meant up?

I get a sneaking suspicion you don't like me.

He doesn't like anyone, neither do you.

Now kiss.

I do like some people.

Well 2, maybe 3.

Hahaha

Oh please, make it 4.

I wanna do a Cilla!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give yo?

You know it’s a typo and he meant up?

I get a sneaking suspicion you don't like me.

He doesn't like anyone, neither do you.

Now kiss.

I do like some people.

Well 2, maybe 3.

Hahaha

Oh please, make it 4.

I wanna do a Cilla!"

Of the 40000 men on here I thought I did well finding 3. You're pushing it with 4.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo"

Now now, you know he meant up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up..."
but i dont watch cartoon films about old folks

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"The way I see it, if you say or do something with absolutely the best of intentions, you aren’t necessarily responsible if the other party misinterprets what you say or do.

So hold your head high and fuck ‘em (metaphorically) if they respond negatively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give yo?

You know it’s a typo and he meant up?

I get a sneaking suspicion you don't like me. "

Erm not really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give yo?

You know it’s a typo and he meant up?

I get a sneaking suspicion you don't like me.

Erm not really "
now thats out in the open whos bummin who

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect Respect Respect

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Ever try to give someone a compliment and have it thrown back in your face with an insult? Makes you want to give yo!!!"

There's compliments and then there's 'compliments' though. And a huge gulf between them.

What one sees as an innocent compliment the recipient may see as something different and having an ulterior motive.

Many compliments are lost in translation.

Many compliments aren't actually innocent and are intended to elicit a specific response, on Fab specifically they're often intended to encourage a reply to a message, or to boost the chances of a meet.

You can't blame the recipient for any misinterpretation any more than you can sympathise with the compliment giver without knowing the specific details.

And to be honest what's said should be kept between the two parties.

Put it down to experience, don't dwell or over analyse it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up..."

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Sometimes it happens, just got to pull up your big boy pants and say fuck it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads. "

You love me really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give yo?

You know it’s a typo and he meant up?

I get a sneaking suspicion you don't like me.

Erm not really now thats out in the open whos bummin who "

Good Heavens no, not my gig at all!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I used to love them yo-yo biscuits as a kid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really. "

Erm not really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yo what's going on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really "

He doth protest too much!!

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

"Power to the peopke!"

Back once again for the renegade master.

Yo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!"

Don’t call me I’ll call you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!"

I'm Cilla! Yays.

Someone get me a sequin jacket pronto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really "

You’re a charmer….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!

Don’t call me I’ll call you!"

Maybes don't just pick on all my comments in future and it won't be so obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

You’re a charmer…."

Hey hands off, I saw him first!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

You’re a charmer….

Hey hands off, I saw him first!! "

Ha ha ha ha charmer that I am!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!

Don’t call me I’ll call you!

Maybes don't just pick on all my comments in future and it won't be so obvious.

To be fair, it's not just you.

Hate to break it to you. It's everyone.

He's playing mad 4d 200iq chess here. Moves within moves.

You'll find out, soon enough, sat there pondering, how? How did that happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!

Don’t call me I’ll call you!

Maybes don't just pick on all my comments in future and it won't be so obvious.

Then don’t be obtuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!

Don’t call me I’ll call you!

Maybes don't just pick on all my comments in future and it won't be so obvious.

To be fair, it's not just you.

Hate to break it to you. It's everyone.

He's playing mad 4d 200iq chess here. Moves within moves.

You'll find out, soon enough, sat there pondering, how? How did that happen?

Are you and him related?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!

Don’t call me I’ll call you!

Maybes don't just pick on all my comments in future and it won't be so obvious.

Then don’t be obtuse "

See, it bugs me a little when guys tell me what to do.

So, I'll just carry on as I am thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!

Don’t call me I’ll call you!

Maybes don't just pick on all my comments in future and it won't be so obvious.

To be fair, it's not just you.

Hate to break it to you. It's everyone.

He's playing mad 4d 200iq chess here. Moves within moves.

You'll find out, soon enough, sat there pondering, how? How did that happen?

Are you and him related?"

I rather think not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!

Don’t call me I’ll call you!

Maybes don't just pick on all my comments in future and it won't be so obvious.

Then don’t be obtuse

See, it bugs me a little when guys tell me what to do.

So, I'll just carry on as I am thanks.

Yo"

Yo to sister!

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Sorry to hear you were insulted, OP.

Nobody deserves that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the fuck is this thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!

Don’t call me I’ll call you!

Maybes don't just pick on all my comments in future and it won't be so obvious.

To be fair, it's not just you.

Hate to break it to you. It's everyone.

He's playing mad 4d 200iq chess here. Moves within moves.

You'll find out, soon enough, sat there pondering, how? How did that happen?

Are you and him related?

I rather think not!"

Sorry, afraid not.

Just a special brand of minimal fucks given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

He doth protest too much!!

Don’t call me I’ll call you!

Maybes don't just pick on all my comments in future and it won't be so obvious.

To be fair, it's not just you.

Hate to break it to you. It's everyone.

He's playing mad 4d 200iq chess here. Moves within moves.

You'll find out, soon enough, sat there pondering, how? How did that happen?

Are you and him related?

I rather think not!

Sorry, afraid not.

Just a special brand of minimal fucks given

I'd say a special brand of something else but we'll go with yours.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"What the fuck is this thread?

A good example of people being rude?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

It’s a common occurrence but generally it can be avoided if you know your audience. However if we’re talking Fab……….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What the fuck is this thread?

A good example of people being rude?"

And a culmination of a fishing expedition that seems to be hooking up a couple of wahoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What the fuck is this thread?

A good example of people being rude?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this the lost script from breaking bad yo

Now now, you know he meant up...

Now now You need to read some of your posts in previous threads.

You love me really.

Erm not really

You’re a charmer….

Hey hands off, I saw him first!! "

But, my knickers fell right off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The way I see it, if you say or do something with absolutely the best of intentions, you aren’t necessarily responsible if the other party misinterprets what you say or do.

So hold your head high and fuck ‘em (metaphorically) if they respond negatively

Not how it's seen generally, that's a get-out-of-jail-free card right there.

'But it was a joke'

'But I like big asses, it was a compliment'

'I was trying to be nice'

A little bit of awareness and accountability goes a long way.

For example, if I am distracted in my head with work or life things I don't appreciate a strange man saying stupid childish crap like "smile love! It'll never happen"

I'll give my smiles to whom I choose tyvm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The way I see it, if you say or do something with absolutely the best of intentions, you aren’t necessarily responsible if the other party misinterprets what you say or do.

So hold your head high and fuck ‘em (metaphorically) if they respond negatively

Not how it's seen generally, that's a get-out-of-jail-free card right there.

'But it was a joke'

'But I like big asses, it was a compliment'

'I was trying to be nice'

A little bit of awareness and accountability goes a long way.

For example, if I am distracted in my head with work or life things I don't appreciate a strange man saying stupid childish crap like "smile love! It'll never happen"

I'll give my smiles to whom I choose tyvm

Only the OP knows what he meant with his compliment (and indeed what the compliment was), if it was given well intentioned and with no malice or sarcasm or misogyny etc intended then if it is PERCEIVED that way by the recipient then that’s sadly an unintended consequence.

Thing is we can’t all know what backstories or histories are of others and other than literally saying nothing at all, there’s always the possibility of misinterpretation.

While you have given one hypothetical example “smile love” I’ll provide another.

“Good morning Xx, oh I like your dress, it looks really nice on you”

Now provided the giver meant that sincerely, the recipient can either take that in the way it was intended, or they might take it negatively “oh are you implying I don’t normally dress nicely then?”

If they do take it the wrong way, then my advice stands, in my humble opinion. Hold your head high, you know you meant it sincerely.

Like I said earlier, you can otherwise choose to say nothing at all, but what a miserable world it would be if everyone becomes terrified to say anything in case someone takes it the wrong way and gets offended.

What I do agree with is to think through how or what you’re saying to internally sense-check it first in case it could easily be misconstrued.

Anyway, Just my 2p worth, like. I absolutely respect that you might disagree and that’s fine too

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