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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously, stop looking for attention, again, this is pathetic.

Do better, be better.

But, in answer to your question, it's the littering of the Internet with endless threads trying to drum up interest across a wide menagerie of conversational filler, that riles.

However, you can't take it too seriously, just noise you choose to listen too, or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends on how often and how blatant they are.

Like you say most posts are going to be attention seeking in some way, aren’t they?

I can skip over the ones I don’t like .. I don’t mind the generic Fab a pic or message someone posts if they’re inclusive.

It’s the “I’ve posted a new pic, what do you think” ones that are specifically about them that become irksome if the individual overdoes it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess it depends on how often and how blatant they are.

Like you say most posts are going to be attention seeking in some way, aren’t they?

I can skip over the ones I don’t like .. I don’t mind the generic Fab a pic or message someone posts if they’re inclusive.

It’s the “I’ve posted a new pic, what do you think” ones that are specifically about them that become irksome if the individual overdoes it. "

I completely agree.

I think for me it's the ones that say they have low confidence or Not having much luck on the site but then bite at any advice they've been given. Those ones I often think are just courting compliments if that makes sense. Again I wouldn't say they irritate or bother me but I do wonder sometimes what people want to get out of that kind of post.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No because I can just ignore them and look for the posts that I have an opinion on or interest me in other ways.

We are all looking for attention in one way or another be it posting photos, writing little status updates etc. We are all crying out for that little bit of attention and to get ourselves noticed.

Now look at me, please do, pretty please don't make me beg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in need of attention today only sympathy

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No , not at all. Sane reason I don’t get annoyed by Love Island or politics - if they don’t interest me, I barely notice them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don’t get any attention, I’m gonna flounce of out of here with a twirl and a shower of glitter all over you lot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I don’t get any attention, I’m gonna flounce of out of here with a twirl and a shower of glitter all over you lot. "

OK but please come back and sweep up after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I completely agree.

I think for me it's the ones that say they have low confidence or Not having much luck on the site but then bite at any advice they've been given. Those ones I often think are just courting compliments if that makes sense. Again I wouldn't say they irritate or bother me but I do wonder sometimes what people want to get out of that kind of post. "

Ah yeah, agree with you on that.

The “can I get feedback” but then don’t actually want to listen to or act on any feedback threads!

Then a week or two later go again.

Yep, what’s that all about?

Each to their own I guess!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I completely agree.

I think for me it's the ones that say they have low confidence or Not having much luck on the site but then bite at any advice they've been given. Those ones I often think are just courting compliments if that makes sense. Again I wouldn't say they irritate or bother me but I do wonder sometimes what people want to get out of that kind of post.

Ah yeah, agree with you on that.

The “can I get feedback” but then don’t actually want to listen to or act on any feedback threads!

Then a week or two later go again.

Yep, what’s that all about?

Each to their own I guess! "

Those posts in themselves are not a problem but you can often see the OP's getting increasingly wound up and I just think why would they put themselves through that every few weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind. .. I dip in and out depending on my level of boredom

Sometimes people just need that interaction more than the answer to the actual question

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't mind. .. I dip in and out depending on my level of boredom

Sometimes people just need that interaction more than the answer to the actual question "

That's true and I think there is a big difference between those deliberately attention seeking and those just trying to start a conversation but sometimes it's worded badly and can cause confusion as to the intention of the post if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just realised my comment had already been covered above. Carry on.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Waves at everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

There are a few that start threads that are in essence thinly disguised ‘look at me’ posts. Or carry on commenting on a thread so people don’t forget them.

But like a lot of situations on FAB they are a filter so doesn’t really bother us.

We find not taking this place seriously helps us just enjoy FAB and not get involved too much.

K

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

If something doesn't interest me I just stay away from it

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By *hiskeyColaMan
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?"

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

They don't bother me at all. Here we are with pictures of our naked body* seeking attention a few lines of text seeking the same thing are just an extension of that.

*I know not everyone has naked snaps

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By *hiskeyColaMan
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Waves at everyone "

Hahaha! Oh, THAT'S an attention seeking post/pic!

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

I often think the what’s classed as hung ones are an attempt to make people look at them often started by men with an above average cock I have to admit I do have a peek check out the competition but often tin eye catches the buggers out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ooze attention and sex appeal the minute I walk in to a room ha ha

It dose not bother me at all I just leave alone

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't look at posts or threads and think someone is attention seeking.

I don't understand why people throw out that accusation on a forum, on a site where people are looking for attention.

Am I seeking attention purely for replying on this thread?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

From random people I've never spoken to, it can go either way.

If it's their USP and they are a one trick pony when posting it's a major eyeroll and a silent wtf!

If it's a one off I'll probably ignore it.

From people I do know it's more annoying because nine times out of ten its the exact opposite of what they claim in private.

I've seen people comment in private about something or someone and within minutes their inbuilt fomo kicks in and they do or say something to reinforce how shallow they really are.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..? "

That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.

Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate.

"

I started a thread on here 6 months ago about something that was apt at the time but I can't remember the subject now. I do remember though that it got single figure replies.

Exactly 24 hours later a woman asked the same question and the thread was filled and closed within a few hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate.

I started a thread on here 6 months ago about something that was apt at the time but I can't remember the subject now. I do remember though that it got single figure replies.

Exactly 24 hours later a woman asked the same question and the thread was filled and closed within a few hours. "

Power of the pussy innit

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Ok I’m one of those not meeting so attention seeking isn’t my thing. However, for those that are meeting I guess they want attention so surely attention seeking is a prerequisite. I don’t think the attention seeker necessarily does it correctly and starts to look a little desperate on occasions or even alienates their target audience. It certainly doesn’t annoy me. If it helps them get meets then crack on. If they’re still not attracting what they want they might want to have a rethink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love attention and making everything about me so yes it deeply upsets me when I see others trying to take the lemonlight.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate.

I started a thread on here 6 months ago about something that was apt at the time but I can't remember the subject now. I do remember though that it got single figure replies.

Exactly 24 hours later a woman asked the same question and the thread was filled and closed within a few hours. "

What's your point caller?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Are we classing carcrash threads as attention seeking? We are all aware of marmite posters starting those over and over again and creating some of the nastiest threads ever seen on here under the guise of wearing their hearts on their sleeves.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every thread is attention seeking in someway.

As is every photo.

Every status.

Every verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it is threads are like the telly.

If you don’t like what’s on, change the channel.

And if you don’t like the post, no need to reply.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate.

"

There were quite a few users that used to post thought provoking threads or fun threads, a lot of them aren’t around anymore or rarely post now. There were threads that had several parts and ran and ran as opposed to having a few replies so I understand what you mean

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Booo!

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I think it is the sheer number of threads started by some people what I sometimes find slightly irritating…

Like dude/dudette, the forum doesn’t revolve around you…. but I just scroll past.

And comment when asked like now, haha

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By *hiskeyColaMan
over a year ago

Oswestry


"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate.

I started a thread on here 6 months ago about something that was apt at the time but I can't remember the subject now. I do remember though that it got single figure replies.

Exactly 24 hours later a woman asked the same question and the thread was filled and closed within a few hours. "

Did she have her tits out in her profile pic?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Oh I don't mind it too much. It's harmless for the most part really isn't it? I post crap for some attention. Whether that's from friends or because I think my opinion should be read by someone sitting on the toilet.

Yes, the fora right now doesn't quite have the same threads as it did once but there are some gems amongst them. I don't want to watersports all over newer posters parades by halcyon daying it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't mind the odd one, but several by the same person does bug me a little.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I don't mind it too much. It's harmless for the most part really isn't it? I post crap for some attention. Whether that's from friends or because I think my opinion should be read by someone sitting on the toilet.

Yes, the fora right now doesn't quite have the same threads as it did once but there are some gems amongst them. I don't want to watersports all over newer posters parades by halcyon daying it. "

How did you know I was sat on the toilet? Yes I washed my hands before you ask.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?"

We all look for it some way of course but the blatant " look at me I'm such an amazing person " sycophantic bullshit does annoy me .. But that's probably my issue so who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry guys, I will try and post less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only get slightly annoyed by the people who post half a dozen threads in half an hour. And none of them are actually interesting but fill up page 1. I reserve my wrath for those who deliberately light a fuse and exit.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

"

Correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd question why one is on the forums if one gets annoyed by people posting threads.

I come here because I'm feeling lonely or bored sometimes and want some conversation or to start up a discussion. If that's attention seeking then so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only LAM strategy which mildly irks is people repeatedly bumping their own threads.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'll be honest ,sometimes they do annoy me ,but I just avoid that thread if that's the case.

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By *ritIndianCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"I'd question why one is on the forums if one gets annoyed by people posting threads.

I come here because I'm feeling lonely or bored sometimes and want some conversation or to start up a discussion. If that's attention seeking then so be it. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?

That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.

Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here."

I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

"

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every thread is attention seeking in someway.

As is every photo.

Every status.

Every verification."

Yeah that's my thoughts too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The only LAM strategy which mildly irks is people repeatedly bumping their own threads."

I do that but normally only with my social threads.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

the only post that gets to me sometimes are the advice threads people asking and people giving ... i think to myself if you cant sell yourself then how do you expect others to do so for you ... then their is those who give advice its the same advice every time therefor there a whole loads of profiles that look and sound the same

i think advice on profiles should be banned lol (joking)

a profile is a window for that person for others to make a choice from if its bad then its bad for a reason

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it. "

No, it definately happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens "

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?

That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.

Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.

I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster."

I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only LAM strategy which mildly irks is people repeatedly bumping their own threads."

It’s the first thing I do every morning if I posted one the night before .. new audience and all that

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Doesn't want the attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?

That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.

Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.

I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.

I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.

"

I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster. "

More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....

It's plain to see

And I stand my original point also it very much happens.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?

That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.

Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.

I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.

I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.

"

100% true

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?

That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.

Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.

I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.

I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.

I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you. "

Yes, that's what makes them the popular people. They get away with attention seeking because they have people on here who say support them. Which to me means they'll get a pass to do pretty much whatever they want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.

More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....

It's plain to see

And I stand my original point also it very much happens. "

You say it's in plain sight but then you say "not everyone sees it" so like I said maybe it isn't in plain sight at all. I have also stated bullying absolutely happens but if you are just going to sit back and watch it and not do anything about it then you Should report it rather than moaning about it and that nothing happens. Nothing happens when we do nothing about things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?

That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.

Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.

I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.

I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.

I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you.

Yes, that's what makes them the popular people. They get away with attention seeking because they have people on here who say support them. Which to me means they'll get a pass to do pretty much whatever they want.

"

That's exactly my point being a regular poster doesn't automatically make you popular.

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over a year ago

I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention.

At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No I don't get annoyed by anyone posting for attention or otherwise.

1. They do it for themselves

2. Sometimes when they are accused of doing it it's just jealousy on the accusers side.

But the main reason I don't care is cos they don't do it to spite me or anything else about me......... I'm in charge of my own feelings and reactions.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.

More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....

It's plain to see

And I stand my original point also it very much happens. "

And not everyone wants to be the one who does the reporting.

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By *iss MaverickWoman
over a year ago

Porthcawl

Not at all. Live and let live

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster. "

A woman started a "be kind" thread on another forum a couple of years ago.

I asked on the thread if people were really planning on being kind or if it was all lip service.

I only knew the woman from her posts and we had never spoken.

Within minutes I got messages from 2 other women at opposite ends of the country thanking me for asking that question because this woman had been harassing and bullying numerous women in various groups for a long time and her ironic post was giving two fingers to all those women.

Once again I only knew these other women from their forum posts and we had never spoken until that moment but it proved that everything should be taken with a pinch of salt and not everything is as it seems on the surface.

Most people reading that thread would assume she was a lovely lady while the other two ladies at least felt differently and read every word she said as vindictive and a continuation of the drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t irritate or annoy but the ones asking for profile advice (attention seeking) which is then completely ignored are a waste of time.

We usually just tell them to add more cock pictures.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?

That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.

Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.

I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.

I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.

I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you.

Yes, that's what makes them the popular people. They get away with attention seeking because they have people on here who say support them. Which to me means they'll get a pass to do pretty much whatever they want.

"

Not if they’re breaking the rules they don’t

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention.

At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock "

Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?

That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.

Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.

I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.

I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.

I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you.

Yes, that's what makes them the popular people. They get away with attention seeking because they have people on here who say support them. Which to me means they'll get a pass to do pretty much whatever they want.

That's exactly my point being a regular poster doesn't automatically make you popular. "

By regular user I mean the popular ones. Sorry for the confusion. The long term, regular users are mostly popular. Like an old chair in the corner you become accustomed to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I reckon if you get annoyed by random strangers on the internet then you probably need to log off and go be outside with nature or something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.

More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....

It's plain to see

And I stand my original point also it very much happens.

And not everyone wants to be the one who does the reporting.

"

Then sit back and let it happen but don't moan about it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I don't look at posts or threads and think someone is attention seeking.

I don't understand why people throw out that accusation on a forum, on a site where people are looking for attention.

Am I seeking attention purely for replying on this thread?"

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

It doesn’t annoy me or bother me. I think some people like the sound of their own voice - in written form on here obviously I don’t see a need to post 10 threads a day about any and every thought that pops into my head but that’s why I don’t do it. If others want to then that’s fine. Is it attention seeking? Yes, it’s a form of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only LAM strategy which mildly irks is people repeatedly bumping their own threads.

I do that but normally only with my social threads. "

That one gets a pass! I also bump Socials if I'm going to them.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.

More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....

It's plain to see

And I stand my original point also it very much happens.

And not everyone wants to be the one who does the reporting.

Then sit back and let it happen but don't moan about it. "

No one moans on fab surely......thats left to the experts on here

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.

More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....

It's plain to see

And I stand my original point also it very much happens.

And not everyone wants to be the one who does the reporting.

Then sit back and let it happen but don't moan about it. "

I don't.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I don’t think it’s so much about ‘attention seeking’ posts Lorna, the whole drift of threads has dramatically changed over recent times. Threads are often banal, attracting less than 20 replies and often less than 10 replies. It just seems that some users like to see their name up in lights all the time, continually and without having bothered to make them interesting enough for users to participate.

I started a thread on here 6 months ago about something that was apt at the time but I can't remember the subject now. I do remember though that it got single figure replies.

Exactly 24 hours later a woman asked the same question and the thread was filled and closed within a few hours.

Power of the pussy innit "

Not necessarily. Different people will have been in and it will have been competing with different posts for attention. It's too easy to look at the single factor of gender with no evidence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.

A woman started a "be kind" thread on another forum a couple of years ago.

I asked on the thread if people were really planning on being kind or if it was all lip service.

I only knew the woman from her posts and we had never spoken.

Within minutes I got messages from 2 other women at opposite ends of the country thanking me for asking that question because this woman had been harassing and bullying numerous women in various groups for a long time and her ironic post was giving two fingers to all those women.

Once again I only knew these other women from their forum posts and we had never spoken until that moment but it proved that everything should be taken with a pinch of salt and not everything is as it seems on the surface.

Most people reading that thread would assume she was a lovely lady while the other two ladies at least felt differently and read every word she said as vindictive and a continuation of the drama."

I personally think the people out of order there are the 2 that privately messaged you. They weren't prepared to have it out with the woman on the post however quite happy to talk about her behind her back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?

What qualifies as an "attention seeking" post? Sincerely, I'm not sure I've seen one..?

That will depend on the reader, and sometimes who is posting.

Regular forum users tend to have a get out of jail free card on here.

I don't agree with that. Some posters do appear to have a group of people that always support them but I don't think it's to do with being a regular poster.

I've been here many, many years and seen threads by the popular people get different reactions, where attention seeking is called out, than threads by new or not so vocal forum users.

I do agree it absolutely happens I don't however agree that just being a regular poster gives you a free pass, like I said I think it very much depends whether you have a group of people that will defend and support you.

Yes, that's what makes them the popular people. They get away with attention seeking because they have people on here who say support them. Which to me means they'll get a pass to do pretty much whatever they want.

That's exactly my point being a regular poster doesn't automatically make you popular.

By regular user I mean the popular ones. Sorry for the confusion. The long term, regular users are mostly popular. Like an old chair in the corner you become accustomed to."

Thank you for that and yes there is a big difference between being a regular poster and being what others would perceive as popular.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.

More often than not people don't bother to report the posts guilty of doing it because the posts are by the "popular" people of fab .....

It's plain to see

And I stand my original point also it very much happens.

And not everyone wants to be the one who does the reporting.

Then sit back and let it happen but don't moan about it.

No one moans on fab surely......thats left to the experts on here "

Sorry I misunderstood I thought you were moaning about people that bully others and get away with it but don't do anything about it. Also you have assumed people post threads to cause an argument but we all can choose to engage in it or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The only LAM strategy which mildly irks is people repeatedly bumping their own threads.

I do that but normally only with my social threads.

That one gets a pass! I also bump Socials if I'm going to them. "

Thank you for your approval

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I don't think "attention seeking" posts are the bad ones on here.

It's more the ones that:

Always post a subject they know will cause arguments (what do you achieve from that)

Won't listen to other people's opinions or points of view, even when they asked for them and insist they are correct, usually when they're not.

Bullying posts, not everyone sees it for some reason but it has been obvious to others on the wrong side of it numerous times.

Those are the posts that are awful to see, but continue to happen.

Maybe not everyone sees it Because it isn't happening it's just the perspective of the person reading it.

No, it definately happens

If it's not being seen by mods when reported then I would suggest it probably isn't happening unless of course people are senior and sitting back and not reporting it.

I have seen obvious bullying posts that have been reported and then removed. If that is not the case then I stand by what I said and it could be the perspective of the person reading it as you have no way of knowing the intention of the poster.

A woman started a "be kind" thread on another forum a couple of years ago.

I asked on the thread if people were really planning on being kind or if it was all lip service.

I only knew the woman from her posts and we had never spoken.

Within minutes I got messages from 2 other women at opposite ends of the country thanking me for asking that question because this woman had been harassing and bullying numerous women in various groups for a long time and her ironic post was giving two fingers to all those women.

Once again I only knew these other women from their forum posts and we had never spoken until that moment but it proved that everything should be taken with a pinch of salt and not everything is as it seems on the surface.

Most people reading that thread would assume she was a lovely lady while the other two ladies at least felt differently and read every word she said as vindictive and a continuation of the drama.

I personally think the people out of order there are the 2 that privately messaged you. They weren't prepared to have it out with the woman on the post however quite happy to talk about her behind her back. "

I didn't respond to them because I had no interest in their drama but I have since discovered that everything they said was true and she has been asking around looking for personal information on close friends of mine.

There is without doubt a certain element in the forums who are comfortable giving a pass to popular fabbers regardless of what they do.

They are happy to enable the bullies because it suits their own agenda and desire to be in those circles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever encountered an attention seeking individual yet, But if I did it wouldn't bother me in the least.

I'm here for the same reason everyone else is, that is to have clean adult fun with a likeminded person(s).

I enjoy a great life with a huge loving family, so sex plays a secondary role for me, I either find it or I don't, and if I don't it's no big deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do they bother you?

On the whole I don't get bothered by them because in one way or another any post we write is for attention of some sort. But I have seen a few comments on threads over the last few months that suggest people get irritated by them so I was just wondering if you get irritated or annoyed by attention seeking posts why or why not?"

Depends on who it is and how they respond to other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention.

At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock

Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing. "

Because they're not the ones getting the attention.

Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.

Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention.

At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock

Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.

Because they're not the ones getting the attention.

Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.

Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker. "

You raise an interesting point, but I think there is a difference between attention, connection and interaction.

Whilst at the most basic form, they're all a ploy for attention, they are very different in their own way.

I think it's usually pretty easy to spot the difference between them, and if people aren't attuned to that distinction, well, that's fine, plenty of room for everyone to figure it out.

Those on the similar wavelengths will be drawn to one another, the opposite end of that spectrum repelling it. That's fine, that's normal, but what isn't is the toys, prams, finger pointing and accusations.

Will it stop, of course not, people will be shitty to each other everywhere, but once again, they'll attract other shitty people and waltz off believing their own hype.

Let them. Keeps them away from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention.

At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock

Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.

Because they're not the ones getting the attention.

Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.

Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker.

You raise an interesting point, but I think there is a difference between attention, connection and interaction.

Whilst at the most basic form, they're all a ploy for attention, they are very different in their own way.

I think it's usually pretty easy to spot the difference between them, and if people aren't attuned to that distinction, well, that's fine, plenty of room for everyone to figure it out.

Those on the similar wavelengths will be drawn to one another, the opposite end of that spectrum repelling it. That's fine, that's normal, but what isn't is the toys, prams, finger pointing and accusations.

Will it stop, of course not, people will be shitty to each other everywhere, but once again, they'll attract other shitty people and waltz off believing their own hype.

Let them. Keeps them away from me. "

It only takes a quick glance at some of these responses to show that a substantial number of people think of those wanting connection and interaction as attention seekers.

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over a year ago


"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention.

At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock

Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.

Because they're not the ones getting the attention.

Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.

Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker.

You raise an interesting point, but I think there is a difference between attention, connection and interaction.

Whilst at the most basic form, they're all a ploy for attention, they are very different in their own way.

I think it's usually pretty easy to spot the difference between them, and if people aren't attuned to that distinction, well, that's fine, plenty of room for everyone to figure it out.

Those on the similar wavelengths will be drawn to one another, the opposite end of that spectrum repelling it. That's fine, that's normal, but what isn't is the toys, prams, finger pointing and accusations.

Will it stop, of course not, people will be shitty to each other everywhere, but once again, they'll attract other shitty people and waltz off believing their own hype.

Let them. Keeps them away from me.

It only takes a quick glance at some of these responses to show that a substantial number of people think of those wanting connection and interaction as attention seekers. "

We can't all get on, that's impossible and honestly, unpalatable.

Active filtration innit

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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention.

At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock

Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.

Because they're not the ones getting the attention.

Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.

Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker.

You raise an interesting point, but I think there is a difference between attention, connection and interaction.

Whilst at the most basic form, they're all a ploy for attention, they are very different in their own way.

I think it's usually pretty easy to spot the difference between them, and if people aren't attuned to that distinction, well, that's fine, plenty of room for everyone to figure it out.

Those on the similar wavelengths will be drawn to one another, the opposite end of that spectrum repelling it. That's fine, that's normal, but what isn't is the toys, prams, finger pointing and accusations.

Will it stop, of course not, people will be shitty to each other everywhere, but once again, they'll attract other shitty people and waltz off believing their own hype.

Let them. Keeps them away from me. "

Everything that's ever been posted in here is just words on a page.

Attention seeking, or drama seeking, or whining and moaning, or arse kissing, or whatever.

They're just words.

Most of the time really not worth worrying about and on the occasions that you do feel it is worth responding to then (as many of us will know) it's often best to type a long winded reply and then hit delete before you post it.

That step is cold.

A

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"I think people should remember that there are users who sometimes don't have anyone readily available to talk to and give them attention.

At least on here there's a pool of people who are ready to post and chat pretty much around the clock

Yes definitely. This isn't a post bashing people that "seek attention" This is more about what do people consider an attention seeker and why it bothers them. The thought that popped in to my mind that triggered me starting the thread was I've seen people saying those that get pictures in hot pics are attention seekers. Well yes of course they are but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's kind of my point really why is attention seeking seen as a bad thing.

Because they're not the ones getting the attention.

Everyone loves attention; it's human nature. Not being on hot pics, or seeing the same people all the time, might feel like rejection to those who check those pages and don't see themselves. And rejection is a Bad Feeling. No one likes to feel left out.

Look at how miffed people get when they feel their posts aren't being replied to and then start throwing out clique accusations. Everyone is, on some level, an attention seeker.

You raise an interesting point, but I think there is a difference between attention, connection and interaction.

Whilst at the most basic form, they're all a ploy for attention, they are very different in their own way.

I think it's usually pretty easy to spot the difference between them, and if people aren't attuned to that distinction, well, that's fine, plenty of room for everyone to figure it out.

Those on the similar wavelengths will be drawn to one another, the opposite end of that spectrum repelling it. That's fine, that's normal, but what isn't is the toys, prams, finger pointing and accusations.

Will it stop, of course not, people will be shitty to each other everywhere, but once again, they'll attract other shitty people and waltz off believing their own hype.

Let them. Keeps them away from me.

Everything that's ever been posted in here is just words on a page.

Attention seeking, or drama seeking, or whining and moaning, or arse kissing, or whatever.

They're just words.

Most of the time really not worth worrying about and on the occasions that you do feel it is worth responding to then (as many of us will know) it's often best to type a long winded reply and then hit delete before you post it.

That step is cold.

A"

Lol the ranty rant followed by the "what am I even doing" moment of clarity.

Too true hahaha.

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