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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seriously considering getting in a lodger , any experience of sharing your house

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

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"Seriously considering getting in a lodger , any experience of sharing your house "

Same, would be great to hear the feedback also.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes. I hated every minute of it, but it helped me out of a tight spot and luckily he was only there Monday evening to Friday morning and went home at weekends (he worked away from home).

Did it for two years. Don’t let them cook kippers in your microwave because it stinks the fudging house out!

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Yes. I hated every minute of it, but it helped me out of a tight spot and luckily he was only there Monday evening to Friday morning and went home at weekends (he worked away from home).

Did it for two years. Don’t let them cook kippers in your microwave because it stinks the fudging house out! "

Is that a euphemism

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

It can be ok or a nightmare, I'm reasonably lucky with my current one. I have had some stressful times though. Get a thermostat/programmer that you can lock down so your lodger doesn't just wind the temp up when you're not at home

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Mine wanted to bring his wife to meet me and to look around the house beforehand before he agreed to it, all of which I had no problem with.

I had an evening job at that time as well as my day job so luckily we were like ships that pass otherwise I couldn’t have done it as I like MY space being my space.

I would say screen them well. You don’t want a raver if you like going to bed early. Also you need to make sure they are clear on any rules or strong no nos. Maybe type something up and get it agreed to by signing it off, including payments and payment days etc.

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By *SilentPMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I had a lodger years ago, nice girl 7 years younger than me with massive assets who got so comfortable that she would walk around most of the time almost naked or in just a tee shirt. Not a problem in the slightest for me as I do appreciate a great pair of tits but my ex wife didn't like it. It is one thing to look at them when they are covered in the street but another when they are out, loud and proud in the house.

I think the ex wife felt there was a threat there whereas I would have loved her to come and join us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a lodger years ago, nice girl 7 years younger than me with massive assets who got so comfortable that she would walk around most of the time almost naked or in just a tee shirt. Not a problem in the slightest for me as I do appreciate a great pair of tits but my ex wife didn't like it. It is one thing to look at them when they are covered in the street but another when they are out, loud and proud in the house.

I think the ex wife felt there was a threat there whereas I would have loved her to come and join us

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I shared houses of flats on and off in my youth. It's great if you get on.

Top tip think about house rules and explain them on day one with a paper copy. Also think about how you'll handle things if you want them to leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand the (financial) benefits of it but I’m at that stage in life I like my independence and wouldn’t want to share a house with a randomer.

I guess the key is “choose wisely” who you agree to let share your home! And good luck!

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Like most said here, vet them very carefully.

In my SpareRooms advert, I say "you need to be LGBTQ+" friendly. One caller once asked "what is LGBTQ+"? I knew we wouldn't get on so didn't take it any further than that.

Problems I've had is when their boyfriends start to move in and things so south.

I warn them of my swinging life as well. My lodger once locked my fuck buddy in my flat ... He was having a lie-in in my bed. That was an amusing morning...but to be expected...

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

I share my house with my wife definitely not to be recommended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are different rules in relation to tenants if you live in the same house as their landlord. It does give you more rights and quicker eviction if needed. If you don't want the commitment of having someone there full time depending on where you live a lot of colleges have what they call host families. They are all over the age of 16 and in most cases 18 so you are not there to be their parent or look after them. You do have to provide food but you don't have to provide the meal if that makes sense. That could be something worth looking into and you can choose who you have a friend of mine only has mature students.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be ok or a nightmare, I'm reasonably lucky with my current one. I have had some stressful times though. Get a thermostat/programmer that you can lock down so your lodger doesn't just wind the temp up when you're not at home"

That's actually against the law.

You have an obligation as a landlord even though you also live in the same place. I was actually reading about a court case recently where something very similar to this happened and the landlord had to pay the compensation of something like £5000 to the lodger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Form reading some of these comments I think you need to be aware that you have a legal obligation as a landlord. You can have House Rules but they also have to be reasonable and lawful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to be very comfortable having shared spaces - bathroom, kitchen, lounge.. The money is nice, but having someone 24/7 can be a nightmare, especially when you are winding down after a busy week

Of course you might become best friends!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I think the ex wife felt there was a threat there whereas I would have loved her to come and join us

Some women are funny like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t recommend. A few years ago a friend was going through a rough time so I let him stay with me. It was only supposed to be for a few weeks but it turned into 6 months. He’s still my best friend but by the end of the 6 months everything he did annoyed the life out of me.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Form reading some of these comments I think you need to be aware that you have a legal obligation as a landlord. You can have House Rules but they also have to be reasonable and lawful. "

This is true... However when my ex-lodger's boyfriend started threatening me with legal stuff, I calmly informed him the law for Tenants (which he was quoting) is different for Lodgers. I don't think he even understood the difference between the two.

To the OP... It might be worth your while to sign up to SpareRooms.co.uk where there are loads of advice and tips. For a small fee, you can download a Lodgers Agreement which is legal and only needs your and their signatures.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Form reading some of these comments I think you need to be aware that you have a legal obligation as a landlord. You can have House Rules but they also have to be reasonable and lawful.

Thanks very much for advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a lodger for a while.

I gave them their own cupboard, fridge space etc. Made it clear they were to do own dishes and keep own room clean, i would do the rest of the house.

Was clear on guests coming over.

Got rid if him after a month. Was sick of him not washing up. Having his gf stay all the time and helping herself to my stuff

I gave them a choice, either she lived there and paid rent, and had her own stuff, or move out

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

The only lodgers I like are the dogs I have been looking after whilst their owners go on holiday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Form reading some of these comments I think you need to be aware that you have a legal obligation as a landlord. You can have House Rules but they also have to be reasonable and lawful.

It is different and I did mention that further up. For example if you live in the same house as your lodger it is much easier and quicker to get them evicted. For example if a tenant in a private rented property commits a criminal offence you still have to go through the legal eviction process which can take months, if they do this in your home it can happen immediately depending on what has happened. My point was it's not just the same as letting and made stay for a few weeks if you are renting the property with a licence agreement you have legal responsibilities.

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