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By *ackformore100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tin town

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

Yes, but they’re not everything.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Yes they don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keeping Up Appearances does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but not in silo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For footballers, yes.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Yes but not in silo! "
omg in a silo filling up with grain

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

They help... if you dont wash and turn up to a meet in scruffs then they definitely matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how sudden they are!

Boo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you mean facial looks . My experience is 100% yes.

Anyone who says not, I don’t believe.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes or my eyes would fall out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately yes….those of us not blessed with facial good looks are never really given a second look and have to rely on having nice personalities….quite sad but true

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By *ackformore100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"If you mean facial looks . My experience is 100% yes.

Anyone who says not, I don’t believe. "

Not just facial looks... Ones appearance in toto.

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By *ackformore100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Do you think appearance may help or hinder in a professional capacity? Perhaps with credibility.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ....lets be all flakey about it ,its the first thing you look at before looking further x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Somewhat but not the most important thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can only do so much to improve their looks but much for their appearance. Making an effort shows respect for themselves and others. Doesn't have to be posh gear. Most important is smelling sweet!

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

Absolutely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be more specific? In profile pics, how you dress, if your car is clean, how you talk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think appearance may help or hinder in a professional capacity? Perhaps with credibility.? "

I think body weight can hinder obese people in the workplace. Obesity discrimination is well documented.

There was a study done a few years ago that they are often seen as lazy, lacking in self-discipline, less competent, less conscientious and unmotivated.

Obese workers often have lower starting pay and less hiring success – 45% of employers admitted they were less inclined to recruit obese candidates.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Well given the amount of female profiles I read stating "exceptional males only"

Clearly for the women yes.

Blokes nahhh we will fuck anything with a hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do. Whether work or in personal matters. I work in a very “alpha personality” industry and am confident I would have progressed faster if I was taller for example.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Appearances appear to matter, or so it appears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately yes….those of us not blessed with facial good looks are never really given a second look and have to rely on having nice personalities….quite sad but true "

Well shit....who could be arsed with being nice

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By *ackformore100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Be more specific? In profile pics, how you dress, if your car is clean, how you talk?"

All of the above... And more.. Or less... Its deliberately open to interpretation... Piercings, tattoes, hair, clothes, posture, body language... Anything you want to put into one visual appearance.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Yes they do matter but important to remember ‘not all that glitters is gold’

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Consider the old saying, you don't get a second chance to make a good first imression, it can make or break a first meet. Dress smart, smell good and groom well and I know that sounds old school but I suspect it is still very important.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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I think yes….not even just physically but appearance in how someone is coming across when you look at them…I am struggling with words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The basics, yes. And there has to be physical attraction but some of us are attracted to people who aren't typically good looking. I find very good looking people intimidating. Appearance is worth nothing if I can't talk to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How someone presents themselves is super important, obviously. I'd absolutely be judging someone based on if they brushed their hair, are wearing clean clothes, smell OK, having got 4 days of pots in the sink, have a footwell full of pizza boxes, have brushed their teeth, clearly it depends on the situation here also. Essentially, I'd sum it up to effort. Did you make an effort to present yourself well, in terms of appearance and behaviour.

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By *SilentPMan
over a year ago

Leicester

As a guy I don't think taking that little extra time in your appearance before a meet does any harm. It shows that you have a little more respect for others and are willing to make the effort.

Turn up in your work gear smelly and dirty gives out all of the wrong signals.

I know I like most guys love the eye candy of seeing a woman dressed up and looking sexy, so why shouldn't we as guys return the compliment.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes I always made an effort for interviews etc and it shocks me how some rock up to interviews nowadays!

I always look tidy when I’m out and about, I look like I’m dragged through a bush at home, but I’m not one to judge someone else on what shoes they are wearing or whatnot because I have no clue.

Clean, tidy and presentable is fine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes they do. I do don't think you need to be classically good looking for your appearance to be appealing. As clean and as well dressed as your circumstances allow is important to me

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By *aturefun63Man
over a year ago

Belper

Yes needs to be some attraction

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes definitely.

Mrs

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Yes, someone carrying themselves well, being clean, tidy and well kept is more attractive to me than their physical features.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. It's all about personality.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I think yes….not even just physically but appearance in how someone is coming across when you look at them…I am struggling with words "

Stature and confidence matters in my industry , particularly in west Africa, even getting out the airports! I’ve learned over the years to dress a certain way , own my physical space, don’t hesitate and pretend to know exactly what you are doing, even if you don’t !

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Yes they do.

We have a lady at work who often has horrific body odour. Had she arrived at her interview that way she would never have got the job. She was clean and fresh for her interview. She got the job. Our nostrils often regret it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes they do.

We have a lady at work who often has horrific body odour. Had she arrived at her interview that way she would never have got the job. She was clean and fresh for her interview. She got the job. Our nostrils often regret it. "

Why don't the managers have a word with her? It would be pretty disgusting for the customers she serves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, of course they do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes they do.

We have a lady at work who often has horrific body odour. Had she arrived at her interview that way she would never have got the job. She was clean and fresh for her interview. She got the job. Our nostrils often regret it. "

That's awful. Has she got access to washing facilities and somewhere to do laundry?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Someone took me aside at work once and said they'd mistaken me for the most senior person rather than the one who actually was just by the way we were both dressed. . I was there in my capacity as the oily rag not the engineer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but that physical attraction doesn't necessarily mean sexual attraction and chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone took me aside at work once and said they'd mistaken me for the most senior person rather than the one who actually was just by the way we were both dressed. . I was there in my capacity as the oily rag not the engineer "

I really cannot ever picture you as "the oily rag" in any situation!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Someone took me aside at work once and said they'd mistaken me for the most senior person rather than the one who actually was just by the way we were both dressed. . I was there in my capacity as the oily rag not the engineer

I really cannot ever picture you as "the oily rag" in any situation! "

I have to admit that even when my role is oily rag I'm engineer in my head

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By *ackformore100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Someone took me aside at work once and said they'd mistaken me for the most senior person rather than the one who actually was just by the way we were both dressed. . I was there in my capacity as the oily rag not the engineer

I really cannot ever picture you as "the oily rag" in any situation!

I have to admit that even when my role is oily rag I'm engineer in my head "

Which is oilier, the rag or the engineer? One of life's questions.

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By *elight 99Woman
over a year ago

richmond

Absolutely

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Of course x

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

I knew we should have been putting doilies under the biscuits all this time, no wonder people never came back for a 2nd visit!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How someone presents themselves is super important, obviously. I'd absolutely be judging someone based on if they brushed their hair, are wearing clean clothes, smell OK, having got 4 days of pots in the sink, have a footwell full of pizza boxes, have brushed their teeth, clearly it depends on the situation here also. Essentially, I'd sum it up to effort. Did you make an effort to present yourself well, in terms of appearance and behaviour."

This

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By *hiskeyColaMan
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Depends how sudden they are!

Boo! "

Hahaha! Good one x

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Appearance can tell a lot on the surface level, but also can be deceptive. Everything is judged by appearance first however important to distinguish appearance from reality.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Appearances do matter in some situations for example the scene. I am not talking about a certain look but a clean and groomed look would be important for me.

It is not a judgment of the person or their circumstances.

It is however, an assessment of whether or not I want to be intimate with them. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone took me aside at work once and said they'd mistaken me for the most senior person rather than the one who actually was just by the way we were both dressed. . I was there in my capacity as the oily rag not the engineer

I really cannot ever picture you as "the oily rag" in any situation!

I have to admit that even when my role is oily rag I'm engineer in my head "

Too damned right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Absolutely

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

As long as they have made an effort. I always do and would expect the other person to do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do which is quite sad! I’d rather take a fantastic personality over most other attributes to be fair

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Yes they do.

We have a lady at work who often has horrific body odour. Had she arrived at her interview that way she would never have got the job. She was clean and fresh for her interview. She got the job. Our nostrils often regret it.

Why don't the managers have a word with her? It would be pretty disgusting for the customers she serves. "

Oh they have, multiple times. They've gone as far as providing a basket with deodorant (the mitchum one which should stop a fucking racehorse from stinking), body spray and sanitary towels for if any of us get caught short. All she does tho is spray masses of perfume which gets combined with the smell and we end up chewing it.

On days where she's niffy she gets put on the bar away from most of the customers. Far from ideal. I'm almost certain she's diabetic which I've been told (but not researched) can make you extra sweaty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if she has 3 ears id get confuse which one i put my willy in its hard enough knowing with 2

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By *angerous123Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they do, and anyone that says otherwise surely isnt being true.

Not the be all and end all though, for sure - but you at least have to find the other person physically attractive, surely?

Personality can help of course, but even if Bella Emberg had the nicest personality in the world, I'm still not going to fuck her.

Conversely if Kate Beckinsale was an absolute bitch then I wouldnt fuck her either.

Actually I probably would, but I wouldnt cuddle her afterwards. That'll learn her!

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