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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "
hey don't be bothered by him you can only be you and as long as you are the best person you can be that's what counts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that .. there’s nowt as fragile as the male ego

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge

Those messages to the mutual friend reveal a lot more about him than they do about you.

Shoulders back, get in there and smash it, as Troy Hawke might say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs you should never feel like that for injoying things

Do what I do flip it around and don’t care

My best saying when someone calls my

“Easy” for a better term is

Is yes I am easy so what but

Hi at least us easy ones have all the fun and I never be lonely at night

Flip someone’s negativity in to a positive and throw it right back at them

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By *ndiiiMan
over a year ago

Paisley Scotland

Sorry to hear this.

Your the better person always remember that.

Males tend to have finishing relationship problems, unless it’s them that finish.

How they handle themselves speaks volumes on their character and it seems his true colours shine through. Good escape I’d say.

.He has the problem not you don’t let anyone else tell you different xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fragile ego of the spurned male. Just pissed what he saw as the gravy train has departed without him, leaving him to hope there's a bus sometime soon. Guy was and is a cock. Doubly so for sharing it. Triply so for sharing it with someone you're friends with. And they're a star for letting you know, unless of course they were giving it the old 'there there' to him by reply....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fragile ego of the spurned male. Just pissed what he saw as the gravy train has departed without him, leaving him to hope there's a bus sometime soon. Guy was and is a cock. Doubly so for sharing it. Triply so for sharing it with someone you're friends with. And they're a star for letting you know, unless of course they were giving it the old 'there there' to him by reply...."

Yes she was giving him the there there reply it was 100% to show me she was moving in on him. Thankfully she is well and truly out of my life.

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By *dventurous biMan
over a year ago

tesside

Men can be such dicks.

We’re not all like that though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Men can be such dicks.

We’re not all like that though"

Oh i know all men aren't like that, i have a few male friends who have shown me over and over that there are still lovely caring men out there.

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By *amseMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Wish more people would just love and enjoy the sex without putting any weight to either of the person. For me it is great fun and enjoyment with fantastic satisfaction!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fragile ego of the spurned male. Just pissed what he saw as the gravy train has departed without him, leaving him to hope there's a bus sometime soon. Guy was and is a cock. Doubly so for sharing it. Triply so for sharing it with someone you're friends with. And they're a star for letting you know, unless of course they were giving it the old 'there there' to him by reply....

Yes she was giving him the there there reply it was 100% to show me she was moving in on him. Thankfully she is well and truly out of my life."

Sounds like they deserve each other. Have some soup and a sarnie and do normal stuff, you dodged a bullet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fragile ego of the spurned male. Just pissed what he saw as the gravy train has departed without him, leaving him to hope there's a bus sometime soon. Guy was and is a cock. Doubly so for sharing it. Triply so for sharing it with someone you're friends with. And they're a star for letting you know, unless of course they were giving it the old 'there there' to him by reply....

Yes she was giving him the there there reply it was 100% to show me she was moving in on him. Thankfully she is well and truly out of my life.

Sounds like they deserve each other. Have some soup and a sarnie and do normal stuff, you dodged a bullet."

I do i continue to move forward.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Sorry to hear about this. I've nothing to add what others above haven't already given in support....other than I've had to 'Google' Troy Hawke.

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "
don't take any notice of them it doesn't mean you are easy because you love sex xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The messages tell us he is a douche. Nothing more.

He is fragile because you broke it off men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear that .. there’s nowt as fragile as the male ego"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

Hello , good evening .

Because a woman who fucks a lot of men is a slag .

And a man who fucks a lot of women is an hero .

That’s their mentality . . .

I don’t get why people love to bastardise and humiliate the others .

They need to take your values to make them selfs feel better . ( drama queens )

Is how much “ nothing “ they are .

Who texted you that is pure cruel towards you

And jealous , envy being brave as you and envy having as much fun n freedom as you .

So then U a slag .

They need to destroy your happiness because they can’t build their own .

I’m sick tired of having people always trying to destroy what you have .

Every time I fall in love there’s always a cunt or more trying to destroy it .

And even more the ones who just want to take her from you .

Can you have the princess you love in peace ? Doesn’t matter what you do ?

Never . Why ? Why is always someone slagging you off ?

Fuck them swertheart . Fuck them all .

don’t let any cunt touch your freedom

Don’t let any cunt touch your confidence .

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By *lassic guyMan
over a year ago

my bed to your just ask

Unfortunately op some people are just born stupid and can't be fix but never let anyone put you down

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge


"Sorry to hear about this. I've nothing to add what others above haven't already given in support....other than I've had to 'Google' Troy Hawke. "

Shame on you Sir!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

There's a thing where men put other women down to try to make the women they're knocking feel they're better.

Doesn't work with me, I assume they're saying it to keep me sweet.

Erase him from your mind.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It sounds a bit like sour grapes to me ,if this was after you finished things .

People can be nasty , especially behind others backs.You know the truth ,hope he's now blocked .

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"There's a thing where men put other women down to try to make the women they're knocking feel they're better.

Doesn't work with me, I assume they're saying it to keep me sweet.

Erase him from your mind."

Knocking?? I wrote knobbing

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

I define most men as slags as they try often to sleep with as many ladies as possible.

men are easy lays the wording should be

both terms are used often as i tend to say it as it is.

yes you do get the odd one thats not though.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Patriarchy, misogyny, male entitlement combined with fragile pathetic male ego.

Bullet dodged not just with him but her too - and I was thinking that from the first - a true friend would have told him to pack in sending her messages like that and acting all butt hurt and arse hole cos you ended things!

Block them both and move on you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. Pathetic that some still do the “slut shaming” crap it’s 2022 ffs

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Hopefully you'll find better friends in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

Try and ignore this the best you can

The fact that he kept sleeping with you for 3 years while claiming that he doesn't find you attractive says more about him than it does about you

I think the more likely situation is that he is just saying that cause he is hurt that you dejected him and he's just lashing out because what kind sociopath sleeps with someone they don't find attractive for 3 years????

As for seeing you as easy, unfortunately this is the mindset and mentality of alot of men which again you have to ignore.

I see men make these kind of comments on the forum and it amazes me that they are on the same site in the same situation as the women in question yet the misogyny in them is so strong that they some how see what they're doing as different to what women on here are doing.

Chin up, not all men are like this (fortunately) you just have to chalk this idiot up as a bad experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're all cunts. Him for saying that and her for sharing information that was supposed to private.

Cunts, avoid the pair of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hopefully you'll find better friends in the future "

Yes my friend circle is very small now and will be staying that way

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

tell him to f off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those messages to the mutual friend reveal a lot more about him than they do about you.

Shoulders back, get in there and smash it, as Troy Hawke might say! "

Agree with the top half.

No clue who Troy is.

Away to Google..

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By *nelife100Man
over a year ago

Audley


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

Because they are assholes , double standards nearly all men are sluts I don’t like that term , but you know where I’m coming from . They probably wouldn’t think that if you met them . They give the decent guys a bad rep . Sorry you get that shit .

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By *nelife100Man
over a year ago

Audley


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this.

Because they are assholes , double standards nearly all men are sluts I don’t like that term , but you know where I’m coming from . They probably wouldn’t think that if you met them . They give the decent guys a bad rep . Sorry you get that shit . "

Oops you did meet him well an absolute asshole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck to the pair of them they sound well suited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those messages to the mutual friend reveal a lot more about him than they do about you"

What this gent said. I'd block the guy that slated you and move on - he's an ass. Don't apologise for being you, you know what you want and like/enjoy - try not to take on board his comments about you. He feels shitty about himself and clearly feels the need to belittle others. Huge hugs and rise above x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Patriarchy, misogyny, male entitlement combined with fragile pathetic male ego.

Bullet dodged not just with him but her too - and I was thinking that from the first - a true friend would have told him to pack in sending her messages like that and acting all butt hurt and arse hole cos you ended things!

Block them both and move on you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. Pathetic that some still do the “slut shaming” crap it’s 2022 ffs "

Ye they are both out of my life.

I agree i don't understand why it is still happening in this day an age.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Well, you are singe and he's a cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh who wants easy

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Patriarchy, misogyny, male entitlement combined with fragile pathetic male ego.

Bullet dodged not just with him but her too - and I was thinking that from the first - a true friend would have told him to pack in sending her messages like that and acting all butt hurt and arse hole cos you ended things!

Block them both and move on you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. Pathetic that some still do the “slut shaming” crap it’s 2022 ffs

Ye they are both out of my life.

I agree i don't understand why it is still happening in this day an age."

We seem to be backsliding on equality in certain ways I’m afraid

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Well, you are singe and he's a cheat"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Patriarchy, misogyny, male entitlement combined with fragile pathetic male ego.

Bullet dodged not just with him but her too - and I was thinking that from the first - a true friend would have told him to pack in sending her messages like that and acting all butt hurt and arse hole cos you ended things!

Block them both and move on you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. Pathetic that some still do the “slut shaming” crap it’s 2022 ffs

Ye they are both out of my life.

I agree i don't understand why it is still happening in this day an age.

We seem to be backsliding on equality in certain ways I’m afraid "

Yes and its just not on, it can do some serious damage.

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By *reenlanerCouple
over a year ago

bournemouth


"Patriarchy, misogyny, male entitlement combined with fragile pathetic male ego.

Bullet dodged not just with him but her too - and I was thinking that from the first - a true friend would have told him to pack in sending her messages like that and acting all butt hurt and arse hole cos you ended things!

Block them both and move on you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. Pathetic that some still do the “slut shaming” crap it’s 2022 ffs

Ye they are both out of my life.

I agree i don't understand why it is still happening in this day an age.

We seem to be backsliding on equality in certain ways I’m afraid

Yes and its just not on, it can do some serious damage. "

What age are people living in, thought we are all equalled now,

I hate hearing women being called names, but I suppose i was brought up respect is king

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

Good on you op ..I like sex too

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

He was married and not honest with his wife he was never going to be honest with you..the guy is a twat of the highest order. He will move on to somebody else if he hasn't already. His wife will still never know him for the scum that he is.

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

There is nothing at all wrong with anyone of any gender enjoying sex and not being timid about it. I hear this so many times from women that guys have made them feel ashamed and dirty because they expressed their needs and desires. The guys who do that are morons of the highest order!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

I am in a very very similar position with someone right now. It’s bloody horrible yet I can’t seem to stay away from him

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Because you are being stereotyped.

Men tat sleep with a lot of people, are studs.

Women who sleep with a lot of people, are either easy or a slut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He was married and not honest with his wife he was never going to be honest with you..the guy is a twat of the highest order. He will move on to somebody else if he hasn't already. His wife will still never know him for the scum that he is."

To be fair OP also states she's attached in her profile... But everyone has their own stuff going on so who are any of us to judge? If they were both upfront and on the same page it doesn't make it right that he upped the anti by screen shitting their personal conversations to get into her mates pants

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

He's bitter because you ended it. His problem not yours.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"The fragile ego of the spurned male. Just pissed what he saw as the gravy train has departed without him, leaving him to hope there's a bus sometime soon. Guy was and is a cock. Doubly so for sharing it. Triply so for sharing it with someone you're friends with. And they're a star for letting you know, unless of course they were giving it the old 'there there' to him by reply...."

I didnt read it that way, i dont think he shared anything.

Its the OPs friend, who he was messaging, shared these messages with the OP via screen grab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this.

Hello , good evening .

Because a woman who fucks a lot of men is a slag .

And a man who fucks a lot of women is an hero .

That’s their mentality . . .

I don’t get why people love to bastardise and humiliate the others .

They need to take your values to make them selfs feel better . ( drama queens )

Is how much “ nothing “ they are .

Who texted you that is pure cruel towards you

And jealous , envy being brave as you and envy having as much fun n freedom as you .

So then U a slag .

They need to destroy your happiness because they can’t build their own .

I’m sick tired of having people always trying to destroy what you have .

Every time I fall in love there’s always a cunt or more trying to destroy it .

And even more the ones who just want to take her from you .

Can you have the princess you love in peace ? Doesn’t matter what you do ?

Never . Why ? Why is always someone slagging you off ?

Fuck them swertheart . Fuck them all .

don’t let any cunt touch your freedom

Don’t let any cunt touch your confidence .

"

Can I just say that maybe some men are of the opinion that a woman who sleeps with men is a slag and a guy who does it is a hero. This isn’t a thing I’d ever consider to be true.

People are allowed to enjoy whoever they want when they get the chance.

I am many things but I am not misogynistic

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Patriarchy, misogyny, male entitlement "

Well done, youve hit the cliche jackpot. Full house

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this.

I am in a very very similar position with someone right now. It’s bloody horrible yet I can’t seem to stay away from him "

Ye it is, i found myself questioning the red flags and ignoring them because i just wanted him in my life. Now i remind myself every time i think of him (which is more than i would like to admit) how it felt when i seen those messages.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"He was married and not honest with his wife he was never going to be honest with you..the guy is a twat of the highest order. He will move on to somebody else if he hasn't already. His wife will still never know him for the scum that he is.

To be fair OP also states she's attached in her profile... But everyone has their own stuff going on so who are any of us to judge? If they were both upfront and on the same page it doesn't make it right that he upped the anti by screen shitting their personal conversations to get into her mates pants "

I dont read it that way at all. I read it as her female friend sent her screenshots of messages he was sending her. No?

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

It's because BOYS have not---can not and -- do not accept a sexually secure woman. They have not seen it in society and they can't handle that sex should be mutually pleasing FOR ALL adults Involved. They will forever think they are the giver and we are obligated to receive on their terms timing.

If you dare give yourself permission to ask seek and receive what you want without apologies for wanting that same desire they loose their shit and their poor lil egos have to resort to calling you names. They can't handle it.. It's a rare honour to be sexually secure so stand proud in it..

These same guys will call the woman who waits the same terms if she waits past his expectations so don't take it personal. Just embrace your desire, your choice, and your circumstances for the decisions that YOU CONTROL. Because end of the day waiting 1 hour our 1 week won't matter if they aren't mature enough to accept that SEX with an adult should be mutually enjoyable and not a derogatory term/time for ANY women wanting the same outcome as them.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I see words like 'honest' and 'trust' in the OP...and yet all i can see is cheating which makes me feel for those who are being cheated on

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Double standards!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well? "

No I'm not.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not. "

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful "

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile. "

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They always tell me that

Mandy xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy. "

That is 100% what it is about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy.

That is 100% what it is about "

Unfortunately The minute you mention anything about one of the parties being married or have anything on your profile that suggests you might be here without the knowledge of a partner people will go for that and jump to conclusions. Thing is as women if we enjoy sex and are open about our sexuality we are also then open to judgement and abuse. This is completely unfair and should not be tolerated so I totally understand you feeling miffed to say the least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy.

That is 100% what it is about

Unfortunately The minute you mention anything about one of the parties being married or have anything on your profile that suggests you might be here without the knowledge of a partner people will go for that and jump to conclusions. Thing is as women if we enjoy sex and are open about our sexuality we are also then open to judgement and abuse. This is completely unfair and should not be tolerated so I totally understand you feeling miffed to say the least. "

Are those M&S socks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy.

That is 100% what it is about

Unfortunately The minute you mention anything about one of the parties being married or have anything on your profile that suggests you might be here without the knowledge of a partner people will go for that and jump to conclusions. Thing is as women if we enjoy sex and are open about our sexuality we are also then open to judgement and abuse. This is completely unfair and should not be tolerated so I totally understand you feeling miffed to say the least.

Are those M&S socks?"

Posh socks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy.

That is 100% what it is about

Unfortunately The minute you mention anything about one of the parties being married or have anything on your profile that suggests you might be here without the knowledge of a partner people will go for that and jump to conclusions. Thing is as women if we enjoy sex and are open about our sexuality we are also then open to judgement and abuse. This is completely unfair and should not be tolerated so I totally understand you feeling miffed to say the least.

Are those M&S socks?

Posh socks? "

Nah! Primark.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy.

That is 100% what it is about

Unfortunately The minute you mention anything about one of the parties being married or have anything on your profile that suggests you might be here without the knowledge of a partner people will go for that and jump to conclusions. Thing is as women if we enjoy sex and are open about our sexuality we are also then open to judgement and abuse. This is completely unfair and should not be tolerated so I totally understand you feeling miffed to say the least. "

I wish i only felt miffed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

He is an utter cunt. Move on love life and enjoy pleasure.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

.

What an absolute dick!

What’s so wrong with women having lots of sex? Wanting sex?

If that’s his opinion on women he can get in the bin.

The outdated opinions on women enjoying and wanting sex are infuriating.

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By *inkyfuckery69Couple
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

We are easy! ....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are easy! ....lol "

Good Lord never ever met an easy woman as you so crassly describe and if I did I would run from the scene!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy.

That is 100% what it is about

Unfortunately The minute you mention anything about one of the parties being married or have anything on your profile that suggests you might be here without the knowledge of a partner people will go for that and jump to conclusions. Thing is as women if we enjoy sex and are open about our sexuality we are also then open to judgement and abuse. This is completely unfair and should not be tolerated so I totally understand you feeling miffed to say the least.

Are those M&S socks?

Posh socks?

Nah! Primark."

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"What an absolute dick!

What’s so wrong with women having lots of sex? Wanting sex?

If that’s his opinion on women he can get in the bin.

The outdated opinions on women enjoying and wanting sex are infuriating.

"

!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy.

That is 100% what it is about

Unfortunately The minute you mention anything about one of the parties being married or have anything on your profile that suggests you might be here without the knowledge of a partner people will go for that and jump to conclusions. Thing is as women if we enjoy sex and are open about our sexuality we are also then open to judgement and abuse. This is completely unfair and should not be tolerated so I totally understand you feeling miffed to say the least. "

To be absolutely frank I get that completely, and I'm absolutely of the none judgement crowd. But... And it's a but.. If one party starts getting over emotionally involved as OP stated she did. Then clearly its a no brainer to withdraw, as she did. Now her ex friend is jumping on this guy (he must be special!)... But the logics do tell that if you play with someone married it'll end in an outcome that may not always suit... Same can be said for singles of course, but it's not the same fallout I personally feel... Absolutely not on you OP that he turned out to be a twat. But... We can't all be everyone to anyone I get that... And him starting something with your 'friend' isn't exactly the indignation hill to get upset about either possibly (all adults an all that)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy.

That is 100% what it is about

Unfortunately The minute you mention anything about one of the parties being married or have anything on your profile that suggests you might be here without the knowledge of a partner people will go for that and jump to conclusions. Thing is as women if we enjoy sex and are open about our sexuality we are also then open to judgement and abuse. This is completely unfair and should not be tolerated so I totally understand you feeling miffed to say the least.

To be absolutely frank I get that completely, and I'm absolutely of the none judgement crowd. But... And it's a but.. If one party starts getting over emotionally involved as OP stated she did. Then clearly its a no brainer to withdraw, as she did. Now her ex friend is jumping on this guy (he must be special!)... But the logics do tell that if you play with someone married it'll end in an outcome that may not always suit... Same can be said for singles of course, but it's not the same fallout I personally feel... Absolutely not on you OP that he turned out to be a twat. But... We can't all be everyone to anyone I get that... And him starting something with your 'friend' isn't exactly the indignation hill to get upset about either possibly (all adults an all that) "

I understand that I just think it sounds like you all got a bit messy. I can totally understand why the op is upset by The message has been sent to her. This problem is a lot of men feel if they slag a woman off to another woman We will swoon. You see it on here quite a lot one body type or hair colour for example or boob size being slated while another is celebrated. It's the myth that women don't like other women and are jealous.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"There's a thing where men put other women down to try to make the women they're knocking feel they're better.

Doesn't work with me, I assume they're saying it to keep me sweet.

Erase him from your mind."

When they start bad-mouthing other women, that's when it really turns me off. It's just like when women get rejected or angry and tell a guy he has a small penis. I keep people who like to slag people off at arms length.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

My dear, I'm sorry that you have had this experience. As a multiple trauma survivor and with being neurodivergent, I've come to the conclusion that the world is cruel to me in particular.

I radically accept ( through therapy) that people will be nasty. There is no way of getting around nasty people unless you are some sort of hermit on an island by yourself.

It's a case of what other people think of me is none of my business especially if they are no longer in my life and that they have no power over my life.

I'm not and have never been a very warm person and I think some people view that as an invitation to push my buttons or lash out at me. Because on the outside I seem like a very in-control person but underneath I'm very chaotic in my feelings.

It's possibly a mask I wear as many neurodivergent people do. When other people can't get what they want out of you, they attack you to make themselves feel better because that's the only way they know how to make themselves feel better.

There is an emotional and mental toll when it comes to swinging and casual sex that many people are not ready for especially when things stop being fun and turn ugly.

As they say, it's all fun and games until someone gets hurt.

Hopefully, you can build your confidence and contentment back up and just chalk it down to some people just being dicks for what ever reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

He’s just butt-hurt because you no longer were available for sex.

Forget about the fool he’s shown his true colours. Think of it as a lucky escape.

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

Hey Reece

Just wanted to chime in in solidarity on the "easy" niggle, I think it's a sticky path many of us sexually curious, pleasure seeking ladies contend with. And as much as its societal norm bullshit, doesnt mean it doesnt get swang at you in many ways in this journey for you to have to justify... even if not to others, to yourself and i hate it.

Pleasure is allowed ladies, be unapologetic, it is yours, it is beautiful, it is body fuelling and it in itself hurts no one (open communication and honest venture choices aside)

Re this chap, i can only agree with the majority that say his behaviour is more of a reflection on him than you. Deep breath, you owned the original step away from him and you can own this next one x

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

Nothing wrong playing straight away most guy's try and do it all the time in all honesty it sounds like you hurt him by calling it of so he's being a dick..

Don't pull your self down because you sleep with people on your own terms it makes you a strong women to be able to decide and call things off when your ready to..

We've been playing on and off for many years we started off in club's then we decided to meet alone female half did the getting to no a guy to play it all boiled down to the guy some she would chat some she'd meet then go back to theres.. chin up..

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"OP just read your profile, are you cheating on someone as well?

No I'm not.

You might want to make that clear on your profile, as it indicates you are being unfaithful

I have my reasons for that being on my profile.

You don't have to justify yourself because from the way I have read your opening post this isn't so much about the person being married. This is more about where he has treated you slating you to someone else and calling you easy.

That is 100% what it is about

Unfortunately The minute you mention anything about one of the parties being married or have anything on your profile that suggests you might be here without the knowledge of a partner people will go for that and jump to conclusions. Thing is as women if we enjoy sex and are open about our sexuality we are also then open to judgement and abuse. This is completely unfair and should not be tolerated so I totally understand you feeling miffed to say the least.

To be absolutely frank I get that completely, and I'm absolutely of the none judgement crowd. But... And it's a but.. If one party starts getting over emotionally involved as OP stated she did. Then clearly its a no brainer to withdraw, as she did. Now her ex friend is jumping on this guy (he must be special!)... But the logics do tell that if you play with someone married it'll end in an outcome that may not always suit... Same can be said for singles of course, but it's not the same fallout I personally feel... Absolutely not on you OP that he turned out to be a twat. But... We can't all be everyone to anyone I get that... And him starting something with your 'friend' isn't exactly the indignation hill to get upset about either possibly (all adults an all that)

I understand that I just think it sounds like you all got a bit messy. I can totally understand why the op is upset by The message has been sent to her. This problem is a lot of men feel if they slag a woman off to another woman We will swoon. You see it on here quite a lot one body type or hair colour for example or boob size being slated while another is celebrated. It's the myth that women don't like other women and are jealous. "

I dont think thats entirely a myth. Ive gotten many a message in here from women slagging off other women who I've been in a forum discussion with

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

He is moaning because he can't get what he wants. Wonder what his wife will say when she finds out which she will seekngbas he can't keep his mouth shut.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I think you’re better off without him. And more fool her for getting involved with a man who has plainly showed his unpleasant side to her so openly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

He says things like this because (and let’s be fair to him) he’s a twat.

Don’t waste your emotional energy on him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t worry about the ‘easy’ bit.

It’s historically imposed.

Enjoy your body and use it as you wish.

Any detractors are either jealous because you’re not shagging them, or jealous because they’re to scared to do the same!

Best wishes

xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don’t worry about the ‘easy’ bit.

It’s historically imposed.

Enjoy your body and use it as you wish.

Any detractors are either jealous because you’re not shagging them, or jealous because they’re to scared to do the same!

Best wishes

xx"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey Reece

Just wanted to chime in in solidarity on the "easy" niggle, I think it's a sticky path many of us sexually curious, pleasure seeking ladies contend with. And as much as its societal norm bullshit, doesnt mean it doesnt get swang at you in many ways in this journey for you to have to justify... even if not to others, to yourself and i hate it.

Pleasure is allowed ladies, be unapologetic, it is yours, it is beautiful, it is body fuelling and it in itself hurts no one (open communication and honest venture choices aside)

Re this chap, i can only agree with the majority that say his behaviour is more of a reflection on him than you. Deep breath, you owned the original step away from him and you can own this next one x"

Thanks x

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"He was married and not honest with his wife he was never going to be honest with you..the guy is a twat of the highest order. He will move on to somebody else if he hasn't already. His wife will still never know him for the scum that he is.

To be fair OP also states she's attached in her profile... But everyone has their own stuff going on so who are any of us to judge? If they were both upfront and on the same page it doesn't make it right that he upped the anti by screen shitting their personal conversations to get into her mates pants "

No you are right he shouldnt have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What an absolute dick!

What’s so wrong with women having lots of sex? Wanting sex?

If that’s his opinion on women he can get in the bin.

The outdated opinions on women enjoying and wanting sex are infuriating.

"

I do agree with the above. Outdated and frankly insulting behaviour to call a woman a slut just because she enjoys sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘Friend’ - aka Thundercunt, sounds like you’re better off without him in your life

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By *omethingfun96Couple
over a year ago

greater london


"Hugs you should never feel like that for injoying things

Do what I do flip it around and don’t care

My best saying when someone calls my

“Easy” for a better term is

Is yes I am easy so what but

Hi at least us easy ones have all the fun and I never be lonely at night

Flip someone’s negativity in to a positive and throw it right back at them "

Love this attitude it’s the best way to.

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By *ngusLaddieMan
over a year ago

angus

Firstly i'd like to say that this lady is one in a million. I have recently hooked up with her, a few times now and every time has blown my mind, she is fantastic to get on with, you know where you stand and has a great personality. Not sure about slagging her off, she is one hot lady, wow. A gem and we are hoping to meet again very very soon xx

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By *ngusLaddieMan
over a year ago

angus

And also guy sounds like a belter, absolutely no need for that kinda behaviour theae days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this. "

That says so much more about him than you.

Chin up chuckle

Fuck em all!

Missy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do men think its ok to call us easy for wanting to enjoy sex and have the experiences we want?

I had a male "friend" that I seen on an off over three years we got on good i thought, we spoke daily. I got to a point that I was looking for his messages an I knew that I needed to stop that as he was married an I knew nothing more could ever come from it, I told him this and said we needed to stop. He seemed to understand.

Fast forward and I get messages from someone we both knew, it was screen grabs from him to her slating me calling me easy because we had sex on the first meet (but yet he isn't classing himself easy just me, the woman). That I was just an easy ride for when he couldn't see other "friends" of his. He commented on my looks saying some quite nasty things. I have insecurities like most and those comments have caused them to deepen further. I took some time away and tried to work on that. I get this is a hook up site but again why say stuff like that rather than being honest with the person. His words have caused me to really pull back. 

I know it takes all sorts to make the world we live in but why do we keep seeing this sort of behaviour when someone doesn't like an outcome of a situation / relationship they turn cruel.

I love sex and I love new experiences I won't apologise for that, I know what I like and want I have done for a number of years, I have always chosen people I trusted but its a real kick in the teeth when one turns out like this.

That says so much more about him than you.

Chin up chuckle

Fuck em all!

Missy x"

Thanks x

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Firstly i'd like to say that this lady is one in a million. I have recently hooked up with her, a few times now and every time has blown my mind, she is fantastic to get on with, you know where you stand and has a great personality. Not sure about slagging her off, she is one hot lady, wow. A gem and we are hoping to meet again very very soon xx "

Thats not weird at all...

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