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Couples that lives separate lives.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I watched an interesting thing about it, it wasnt about swinging, it was about couples who lived separate lives, where they only lived together to have a house together, they did their own things, like meet other people for sex, whilst this type of arrangement is also good, my question is have you done it and how do you think it feels emotional?

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

It’s probably common for couples who want to separate or divorce but can’t afford to move out.

I’ve a friend who is in this very situation, she’d love to move out but can’t afford a home on her own. Plus, children are often the reason. It’s challenging emotionally and I imagine really difficult to move on!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I haven't done it. I suppose now easy it was would depend on the circumstances.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"It’s probably common for couples who want to separate or divorce but can’t afford to move out.

I’ve a friend who is in this very situation, she’d love to move out but can’t afford a home on her own. Plus, children are often the reason. It’s challenging emotionally and I imagine really difficult to move on! "
Yes. I think it is common too as it is also a way of saving money and yes, difficult to move on as well.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"I haven't done it. I suppose now easy it was would depend on the circumstances. "
Yes, it would depend on the circumstances as well

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Currently in this situation and it’s not good. What was the programme I’d be interested to watch see if they have any tips lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have friends who we call L.A.T’s “living apart together” , basically they have their own homes join up at weekends & holidays. But they don’t completely have separate lifestyles ( sex life) seems to work for them

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I'm still very friendly with my ex wife. We life 4 miles apart, Go out with friends together and weekends away.

We speak at least 3 times a week and see each other quite often. Even spend Christmas together At my sister's.

She cleans my house and helps me with domestic issues and I help help her with DIY, cars, laptop, etc.

I never wished to upset her, she's still a lovely lady and she even buys ne dresses etc for Christmas.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

My current domestic situation is pretty much like this.

I am away from home about 70% of the time, so that makes it easier.

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

Did this for 3 years my husband had a boyfriend and we lived separate lives he only moved out a couple of months ago it worked for us we are still married and good friends.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"We have friends who we call L.A.T’s “living apart together” , basically they have their own homes join up at weekends & holidays. But they don’t completely have separate lifestyles ( sex life) seems to work for them "

I have a friend with that type of arrangement. Her relationships never worked out until in her early fifties she met a guy who had no interest in living together and they get along like a house on fire

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Isn't that just a housemate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I split from my first husband I lived in the house for about three months, worked quite well until we both started talking about going on dates lol x

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Isn't that just a housemate?"
Yes it is, even if they still would be married

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"My current domestic situation is pretty much like this.

I am away from home about 70% of the time, so that makes it easier. "
That sounds good that it is working out for you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I watched an interesting thing about it, it wasnt about swinging, it was about couples who lived separate lives, where they only lived together to have a house together, they did their own things, like meet other people for sex, whilst this type of arrangement is also good, my question is have you done it and how do you think it feels emotional? "
I used to live separately from my ex husband. We realised very soon into our marriage that we made a terrible couple but were great friends and had kids..

We had a big enough house that we has our own rooms. We dated others and was all going well till I fell for someone utterly.. and then he flipped and got very jealous.. ended up with me being homeless

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By *orthsouthguyMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Very interesting thread, as I feel on the cusp of this right now.

It’s got a lot more distant the last two and a bit years, zero intimacy just like living with a friend..

no discussion on where we go from here as feels like in the to difficult box, and no green light to date others

It’s a very very frustrating position

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Myself and my wife have been living quite happily sleeping in seperate bedrooms for over five years now . Yes first thing of a morning it’s tough , you know what I mean guys) , she has a friend at work and I don’t ask any questions about him . It’s manageable.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"I watched an interesting thing about it, it wasnt about swinging, it was about couples who lived separate lives, where they only lived together to have a house together, they did their own things, like meet other people for sex, whilst this type of arrangement is also good, my question is have you done it and how do you think it feels emotional? I used to live separately from my ex husband. We realised very soon into our marriage that we made a terrible couple but were great friends and had kids..

We had a big enough house that we has our own rooms. We dated others and was all going well till I fell for someone utterly.. and then he flipped and got very jealous.. ended up with me being homeless "
Yes, that can also happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So house share? Sounds great. Share the bills, have some company and get to go about my days.

Cool. I’m in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We live together but have separate bedrooms and my wife encourages me to go out. This isn't because I am transgender (if anything the other way around) and in fact we are much happier since I became Lucy.

We live together as friends, and my wife is friendly with my new female friends who only know me as Lucy.

I met a lovely young woman who wanted to come home with me and shared my bed (no sex sadly, she is engaged too a young man!) and my wife was quite happy and liked her too when we had coffee together in the morning.

I would be quite happy if my wife wanted to have sexual fun with men or women but she doesn't.

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