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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Surely I’m not the only one finding this site really difficult now? Don’t get me wrong it’s always been tough for single guys, but it’s near impossible now….. or it’s just me!

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Your verifications say otherwise Unless you're expecting a meet every weekend or something

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can be difficult for couples too not just singletons

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Can be difficult for couples too not just singletons "

This and finding single men to meet isn't as easy as people think either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a guy, I have checked, but is it really that hard?? You are on a site full of women that are horny to some degree, yet it amazes me how many guys just don't get how to act on here.

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

That’s fair! The verifications have been over quite a few years though. I do seem to send out an awful lot more messages now than I used to in trying to find a meet. Please don’t get me wrong I’m very aware people may not be attracted to me at all, which I totally respect. I’m just finding it more and more difficult to even get a conversation going on here

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I’m sorry to hear that. I know there’re a lot more fake profiles on here than there used to be, but it seems nobody even wants to talk anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Photos

Username

Bio

Tells me if a guys for me or not.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"I’m sorry to hear that. I know there’re a lot more fake profiles on here than there used to be, but it seems nobody even wants to talk anymore"

People generally don’t have the time just to chat if it’s not going to lead anywhere.

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I totally understand what you’re saying about how some people act. I’ve heard some bad stories, and I’ve seen some of the things people say in the chat rooms. Maybe the art of conversation has gone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally understand what you’re saying about how some people act. I’ve heard some bad stories, and I’ve seen some of the things people say in the chat rooms. Maybe the art of conversation has gone? "

Op-use reply+quote so people know you’re responding to them

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Surely I’m not the only one finding this site really difficult now? Don’t get me wrong it’s always been tough for single guys, but it’s near impossible now….. or it’s just me! "
its just you sorry but I do OK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've had four meetings this year according to your veris. What's your definition of success?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely I’m not the only one finding this site really difficult now? Don’t get me wrong it’s always been tough for single guys, but it’s near impossible now….. or it’s just me! "

I’m finding that. Been here before but because I’m back and now unverified it’s absolutely impossible

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"You've had four meetings this year according to your veris. What's your definition of success? "
5 I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a guy, I have checked, but is it really that hard?? You are on a site full of women that are horny to some degree, yet it amazes me how many guys just don't get how to act on here.

"

How should a man act on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can be difficult for single women also

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Diificult for everyone !! especially if you do have to work and can't do the last minute type of meets or even offer "Sex" on a plate ?? and like 99.9% of everything it's down to simple math's in the end ...

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By *herry_BlossomsWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley


"That’s fair! The verifications have been over quite a few years though. I do seem to send out an awful lot more messages now than I used to in trying to find a meet. Please don’t get me wrong I’m very aware people may not be attracted to me at all, which I totally respect. I’m just finding it more and more difficult to even get a conversation going on here"

Are you sending messages to profiles that suggest you are what they are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread made me chuckle

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I try not to take this place too seriously. I used to send out loads of messages and get very little back, so now I just troll the forums and let the ladies come to me

OK I just troll the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve had more meets than us this year and we think we’ve done alright.

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

That’s fair, though personally I’m aiming for it to lead somewhere. I just like to get a feeling for people first

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Ha ha! Love that response!

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I do read peoples profile first before messaging so I’d like to think I could be what they’re looking for….. though I could be mistaken at times

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

That’s a fair point!

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

My definition would be not sending dozens of messages to arrange one meet. In general I put effort into a message so it gets pretty time consuming

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"That’s fair, though personally I’m aiming for it to lead somewhere. I just like to get a feeling for people first"

So are you looking for a relationship?

If that’s the case, it’s going to be harder. Speaking for ourselves, it’s only important that people we meet are genuine and we get along on some level. That they’re not complete dickheads.

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"I totally understand what you’re saying about how some people act. I’ve heard some bad stories, and I’ve seen some of the things people say in the chat rooms. Maybe the art of conversation has gone?

Op-use reply+quote so people know you’re responding to them "

Thank you! Shows my lack of use of the forums!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must seem ridiculous to al the single guys that struggle to get meets but as a couple we also find it very rare to actually get halfway decent guys to meet with us.

Usual routine..

Yous lookin to meet.

Not immediately.

Time wasters!!

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"That’s fair, though personally I’m aiming for it to lead somewhere. I just like to get a feeling for people first

So are you looking for a relationship?

If that’s the case, it’s going to be harder. Speaking for ourselves, it’s only important that people we meet are genuine and we get along on some level. That they’re not complete dickheads.

Not looking for a relationship just looking for it to lead to a social or more. Like yourselves I like to get along with people on some level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That they’re not complete dickheads "

That’s me out then

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"It must seem ridiculous to al the single guys that struggle to get meets but as a couple we also find it very rare to actually get halfway decent guys to meet with us.

Usual routine..

Yous lookin to meet.

Not immediately.

Time wasters!!"

but don't you think sex is a momentary thing you're either in the mood or indifferent?

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"It must seem ridiculous to al the single guys that struggle to get meets but as a couple we also find it very rare to actually get halfway decent guys to meet with us.

Usual routine..

Yous lookin to meet.

Not immediately.

Time wasters!!"

I’ve heard a lot of people say this. That’s kind of what I mean about the art of conversation been dead. I find it fun getting to know people and flirting

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"That they’re not complete dickheads

That’s me out then "

Haha have you got a big nose though??? I’m shallow like that

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I think it *should* be tough for single men. As someone once said, men are scared women will laugh at them; women are scared men will kill them. Women are inundated with offers from unsuitable men and owe it to themselves to choose carefully.

Having said that, I've been here less than a month and have already had some beautiful interactions with delightful women, so it's not impossible.

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"Surely I’m not the only one finding this site really difficult now? Don’t get me wrong it’s always been tough for single guys, but it’s near impossible now….. or it’s just me!

I’m finding that. Been here before but because I’m back and now unverified it’s absolutely impossible "

I feel for you on that one as you’re caught between a rock and a hard place. My best suggestion is go to a club if you can and gain verifications there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That they’re not complete dickheads

That’s me out then

Haha have you got a big nose though??? I’m shallow like that "

Debatable. You’ve seen my face. You can decide

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"I think it *should* be tough for single men. As someone once said, men are scared women will laugh at them; women are scared men will kill them. Women are inundated with offers from unsuitable men and owe it to themselves to choose carefully.

Having said that, I've been here less than a month and have already had some beautiful interactions with delightful women, so it's not impossible."

Well put and fair play to you!

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"I think it *should* be tough for single men. As someone once said, men are scared women will laugh at them; women are scared men will kill them. Women are inundated with offers from unsuitable men and owe it to themselves to choose carefully.

Having said that, I've been here less than a month and have already had some beautiful interactions with delightful women, so it's not impossible.

Well put and fair play to you! "

Thank you, but I did very carefully say 'interactions'. Pretty sure no one is going to actually have sex with me, but some great conversations have made me feel very lucky.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"That they’re not complete dickheads

That’s me out then

Haha have you got a big nose though??? I’m shallow like that

Debatable. You’ve seen my face. You can decide "

I can’t remember

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"I think it *should* be tough for single men. As someone once said, men are scared women will laugh at them; women are scared men will kill them. Women are inundated with offers from unsuitable men and owe it to themselves to choose carefully.

Having said that, I've been here less than a month and have already had some beautiful interactions with delightful women, so it's not impossible.

Well put and fair play to you!

Thank you, but I did very carefully say 'interactions'. Pretty sure no one is going to actually have sex with me, but some great conversations have made me feel very lucky."

Haha! Love the response. I’m sure if you’ve got the interactions going then the action will soon follow….. I’ve got my fingers crossed for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That they’re not complete dickheads

That’s me out then

Haha have you got a big nose though??? I’m shallow like that

Debatable. You’ve seen my face. You can decide

I can’t remember "

I’ll pretend to be all mysterious now. Does that do it for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It must seem ridiculous to al the single guys that struggle to get meets but as a couple we also find it very rare to actually get halfway decent guys to meet with us.

Usual routine..

Yous lookin to meet.

Not immediately.

Time wasters!!but don't you think sex is a momentary thing you're either in the mood or indifferent? "

You might do. Lots of people don't want to have sex with a stranger on the spur of the moment. Personally I don't open my legs at the drop of a hat because some guy is horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It must seem ridiculous to al the single guys that struggle to get meets but as a couple we also find it very rare to actually get halfway decent guys to meet with us.

Usual routine..

Yous lookin to meet.

Not immediately.

Time wasters!!but don't you think sex is a momentary thing you're either in the mood or indifferent? "

It certainly is for a lot of guys.

The trouble is that if you said yes meet us in an hour they’d probably have a quick wank then lose all interest anyway.

Fantasists with the immediacy of children.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I’m sorry to hear that. I know there’re a lot more fake profiles on here than there used to be, but it seems nobody even wants to talk anymore"

Yesterday I got a msg from a guy telling me to fuck off and I shouldn't have a list of "demands" on my profile. Now, as much as that's a rare occurrence, and I'm not going to tar everyone with the same brush... You do kind of wonder what's the point some days!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Treat fab as a social club and join in with forum/cam room chat.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"It must seem ridiculous to al the single guys that struggle to get meets but as a couple we also find it very rare to actually get halfway decent guys to meet with us.

Usual routine..

Yous lookin to meet.

Not immediately.

Time wasters!!but don't you think sex is a momentary thing you're either in the mood or indifferent?

You might do. Lots of people don't want to have sex with a stranger on the spur of the moment. Personally I don't open my legs at the drop of a hat because some guy is horny. "

me neither but sex is a thing of the moment for many eg the mood your in, how much time you have, how you look, where you are etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m sorry to hear that. I know there’re a lot more fake profiles on here than there used to be, but it seems nobody even wants to talk anymore

Yesterday I got a msg from a guy telling me to fuck off and I shouldn't have a list of "demands" on my profile. Now, as much as that's a rare occurrence, and I'm not going to tar everyone with the same brush... You do kind of wonder what's the point some days!"

I'm not meeting and a few men have messaged just to tell me off for it. FFS how does it affect them if you have demands or I'm not meeting?!

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"That they’re not complete dickheads

That’s me out then

Haha have you got a big nose though??? I’m shallow like that

Debatable. You’ve seen my face. You can decide

I can’t remember

I’ll pretend to be all mysterious now. Does that do it for you? "

A man of mystery with a big nose is exactly what I’m looking for

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By *erynaughtyman1979 OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"I’m sorry to hear that. I know there’re a lot more fake profiles on here than there used to be, but it seems nobody even wants to talk anymore

Yesterday I got a msg from a guy telling me to fuck off and I shouldn't have a list of "demands" on my profile. Now, as much as that's a rare occurrence, and I'm not going to tar everyone with the same brush... You do kind of wonder what's the point some days!"

Sorry to hear that. Some people just cannot play nicely. Plus I’ve just read your profile and i cannot see what he’s complaining about

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By *hiskeyColaMan
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Surely I’m not the only one finding this site really difficult now? Don’t get me wrong it’s always been tough for single guys, but it’s near impossible now….. or it’s just me! "

Don't despair! I've got a meet tomorrow with a lady who hit me up out of the blue last week! It can happen as suddenly as that mate

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