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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So takeaway your sarcastic comments for a new dude/girl that joins fab.

How would you let a person know the vibe they’re getting into and all they. (Probably by sarcastic comments! haha)

But, what’s your serious answer if someone asked ‘what’s fab like?’ Or ‘got any tips?’

Mine.

Prepare for disappointment.

I used to feel sexy on here, I get an ego boost now and again but the thrill of talking to anyone nowadays is hindered by the experience that it fizzles to nothing when I ask to meet. You even lose (ghosted by) contact with people you start to consider as new friends just but proposing the notion.

What’s your FAB TOP TIPS?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it too seriously ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read profiles and if you are not what they are looking for don't message

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Just be yourself, relax and have a laugh.

Don’t take knockbacks to heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never assume and have no expectations

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Femmes, put your message filters on and do your own searching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Femmes, put your message filters on and do your own searching. "

Works for couples too if you know what you want

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

Understand that it's not "you" that's being ignored or rejected when it inevitably happens.

People don't know who you really are, this isn't real life, it's mostly down to attraction. It's not a reflection of who you are or what you're worth. Understanding the difference is essential, especially as a single male.

If you cant separate fab life from real life... get out before it has a negative effect and stops being fun

But if you can, relax, join in with the forums etc, be yourself and have enjoy yourself. Highlight your best features.

I should have finished my coffee before I came on, you caught me off guard with this "no sarcasm" request!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long post step by step guide

1. Would tell them to hide they profile till it was set up with a good bio and pics then un hide it

2 set your message filters to who you want to message you you can do your own hunting if you message a person first it will drop the filter for that person

3 don’t take stock in verifications photo or meet

Both can be easily “faked”

4 be ready for people to throw they toys out the pram if it isn’t going they way best bet just block those that do and lucky escape

5 if your a single guy tread fab as a way to stay connected to people you meet in real life

Unfortunately the amount off guys here it’s going to be hard so get your self to a club or social and get know

5 woman be ready to be bs I know crazy isn’t it that someone would rather a keyboard wank than do the things they talked about but it happens a lot be prepared for it don’t engage in sex chat or in less you meet the person in real life

6 stay safe always public settings

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"So takeaway your sarcastic comments for a new dude/girl that joins fab.

How would you let a person know the vibe they’re getting into and all they. (Probably by sarcastic comments! haha)

But, what’s your serious answer if someone asked ‘what’s fab like?’ Or ‘got any tips?’

Mine.

Prepare for disappointment.

I used to feel sexy on here, I get an ego boost now and again but the thrill of talking to anyone nowadays is hindered by the experience that it fizzles to nothing when I ask to meet. You even lose (ghosted by) contact with people you start to consider as new friends just but proposing the notion.

What’s your FAB TOP TIPS?

"

definitely don't get sucked into the fora.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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If you're feeling disheartened, step away. Take a break.

Don't follow fora advice on what photos to upload, what to type on your bio etc. Be you and let your freak flag fly rather than a dreary identikit profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Girls:

Sort out your filters.

Prepare to be overwhelmed with messages.

Guys:

Don’t take rejection personally.

Don’t be a dick if you are rejected.

Read profiles first!

‘Hi’ with a dic pick is as successful on here as in RL

Couples with hot wives:

Ignore everyone else and answer my messages will ya!?

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

Use the tools that are available to you. If you’re getting too many messages, instead of complaining about it, especially if you’re a woman. Just untick looking for men etc and you’ll get far less coming through. You can block all messages if that’s your preference.

Remember this is just the internet, so don’t take it too seriously. If you do it right, you can make some good friends on here, be it sexual or otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"….

I should have finished my coffee before I came on, you caught me off guard with this "no sarcasm" request! "

I know, it was unfair to post this early. I feel bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to Socials

Don't do lots of message tennis without meeting.

If it's not working for you, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely use all the filters that you can!

And hide profile when you don't have the time and/or the inclination.

Hiding also means that you can easily keep up with messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paddle your own canoe

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Don't take it too seriously ... "

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let anything about it consume you

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

It would depend who I’m giving advice to as I think it’s a very different for men than for women and couples. For men I would say, be yourself, unless you’re an asshole then just try to be nice instead. Don’t necessarily expect to ever meet anyone, then if you do it’s a bonus. Expect to be constantly overlooked, ignored, bypassed and ghosted. There are probably 50 women for every man and many men simply flood every woman on the site with copy and paste messages, so for every message you send there’s at least another 50 and probably way more messages in that woman’s inbox, if she’s not actually online and looking at mail when you send it then expect it to be so far down the list that it gets missed. If you think this is a way to get laid then don’t bother, if you can’t handle constant rejection then just leave, chances are that being on here won’t do anything positive for your ego, your confidence, or your sex/social life. Other than that have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If female: prepare to be inundated by guys who don’t bother to read your profile and that most guys think they are special and that your preferences don’t apply to them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d tell someone; It’s all about effort, time and being realistic with yourself - If you don’t understand that then it’s really not for you.

Another would be; Go to socials and clubs… seriously get out there. Build experience meeting people and being around others men and women with less clothes on (it’s not for everyone)

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Never reply to messages and never send messages yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take people's behaviour or responses personally

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By *aughtyboi11Man
over a year ago

northampton

Read profiles, be honest, be kind, dont be a cockwomble.

Send decent messages to people with banter, i somtimes like to ask an obscure question to engage the reader if theres something interesting to go on in there profile.

Be prepared to only recieve perhaps one or two replies from the 10 people you have contacted.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Take it with a huge pile of salt x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

From a couple's point of view, never assume your speaking to the Mrs, always speak to both.

We had a guy wank over the Mr's replies, don't think he was overly impressed when he realised.

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By *aughtyboi11Man
over a year ago

northampton


"It would depend who I’m giving advice to as I think it’s a very different for men than for women and couples. For men I would say, be yourself, unless you’re an asshole then just try to be nice instead. Don’t necessarily expect to ever meet anyone, then if you do it’s a bonus. Expect to be constantly overlooked, ignored, bypassed and ghosted. There are probably 50 women for every man and many men simply flood every woman on the site with copy and paste messages, so for every message you send there’s at least another 50 and probably way more messages in that woman’s inbox, if she’s not actually online and looking at mail when you send it then expect it to be so far down the list that it gets missed. If you think this is a way to get laid then don’t bother, if you can’t handle constant rejection then just leave, chances are that being on here won’t do anything positive for your ego, your confidence, or your sex/social life. Other than that have fun!"

Truth right there

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By *flkfunseekerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Don’t put your finger where you wouldn’t put your Willy.

Don’t eat yellow snow.

If it looks like a duck and sounds like a duck…. It’s a duck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would depend who I’m giving advice to as I think it’s a very different for men than for women and couples. For men I would say, be yourself, unless you’re an asshole then just try to be nice instead. Don’t necessarily expect to ever meet anyone, then if you do it’s a bonus. Expect to be constantly overlooked, ignored, bypassed and ghosted. There are probably 50 women for every man and many men simply flood every woman on the site with copy and paste messages, so for every message you send there’s at least another 50 and probably way more messages in that woman’s inbox, if she’s not actually online and looking at mail when you send it then expect it to be so far down the list that it gets missed. If you think this is a way to get laid then don’t bother, if you can’t handle constant rejection then just leave, chances are that being on here won’t do anything positive for your ego, your confidence, or your sex/social life. Other than that have fun!

Truth right there "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read profiles definitely and don't assume it will be easy.

You have to get to know people and put some effort in. As many say it is a swingers site but that doesn't mean everyone will meet after 1 message you have to give respect

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"So takeaway your sarcastic comments for a new dude/girl that joins fab.

How would you let a person know the vibe they’re getting into and all they. (Probably by sarcastic comments! haha)

But, what’s your serious answer if someone asked ‘what’s fab like?’ Or ‘got any tips?’

Mine.

Prepare for disappointment.

I used to feel sexy on here, I get an ego boost now and again but the thrill of talking to anyone nowadays is hindered by the experience that it fizzles to nothing when I ask to meet. You even lose (ghosted by) contact with people you start to consider as new friends just but proposing the notion.

What’s your FAB TOP TIPS?

"

Top tip based on your ‘prepare for disappointment’ - Be careful not to friend zone yourself. I’ve heard about this happening so many times. Seems to be to a particular type too. When I say ‘type’ I don’t mean that in a derogatory sense. It’s just unfortunate their traits good as they are put them in the friend zone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My top tip is just to make sure they know what they want, and if they are prepared to wait (Obviously, I am assuming I am talking to a guy like me, it's not quite the same for others for better to worse) to get it, because it's a long game, not a week in Ibiza with club 18-30....

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Top tip

Explore the site as it has plenty of helpful advice, technically you wouldn't need to ask as it's all available you just need to make the effort and search

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So takeaway your sarcastic comments for a new dude/girl that joins fab.

How would you let a person know the vibe they’re getting into and all they. (Probably by sarcastic comments! haha)

But, what’s your serious answer if someone asked ‘what’s fab like?’ Or ‘got any tips?’

Mine.

Prepare for disappointment.

I used to feel sexy on here, I get an ego boost now and again but the thrill of talking to anyone nowadays is hindered by the experience that it fizzles to nothing when I ask to meet. You even lose (ghosted by) contact with people you start to consider as new friends just but proposing the notion.

What’s your FAB TOP TIPS?

Top tip based on your ‘prepare for disappointment’ - Be careful not to friend zone yourself. I’ve heard about this happening so many times. Seems to be to a particular type too. When I say ‘type’ I don’t mean that in a derogatory sense. It’s just unfortunate their traits good as they are put them in the friend zone "

I’m now trying to get people in my Friendwithbenifits zone.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Tgirls, block single guys and message the ones that you like. It'll save you a lot of work

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I would say it’s whatever you want it to be - fulfil you’re wildest fantasies , make long term friends, lovers, partners…, but if you are insecure or impatient or easily annoyed it’s probably not going to be pleasant or easy

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"So takeaway your sarcastic comments for a new dude/girl that joins fab.

How would you let a person know the vibe they’re getting into and all they. (Probably by sarcastic comments! haha)

But, what’s your serious answer if someone asked ‘what’s fab like?’ Or ‘got any tips?’

Mine.

Prepare for disappointment.

I used to feel sexy on here, I get an ego boost now and again but the thrill of talking to anyone nowadays is hindered by the experience that it fizzles to nothing when I ask to meet. You even lose (ghosted by) contact with people you start to consider as new friends just but proposing the notion.

What’s your FAB TOP TIPS?

Top tip based on your ‘prepare for disappointment’ - Be careful not to friend zone yourself. I’ve heard about this happening so many times. Seems to be to a particular type too. When I say ‘type’ I don’t mean that in a derogatory sense. It’s just unfortunate their traits good as they are put them in the friend zone

I’m now trying to get people in my Friendwithbenifits zone. "

Do you think friendswithbenefitsreunited. Com would be a money spinner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat people with the same level of respect you would if you’d met them IRL.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Hide your profile once in awhile. It’s nice to be on here and no one knowing unless I make a comment on a thread.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Be nice.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Join in with forum and cam room chat. Lots of friendly banter, humour and a wide range of topics to discuss.

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