FabSwingers.com forum: Am I that ugly

By *wagzBomb1192 OP Man
over a year ago

north acton

am I that bad no woman wants to chat what am I doing wrong haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might not be your looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s your opening line to the ladies when you message them?

You’re a LOT more young and handsome than me so it can’t be your looks.

It must be what you’re saying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *wagzBomb1192 OP Man
over a year ago

north acton

Hasn’t got to saying anything because of no replies lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hasn’t got to saying anything because of no replies lol "

To get a reply you have to send a message so you must be saying something. Maybe have a think of how your profile comes across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hasn’t got to saying anything because of no replies lol "

But are you getting no replies due to what you’re saying in your opener?

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By *wagzBomb1192 OP Man
over a year ago

north acton

Pretty much say.

Hello how are you or how’s your day been?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Search the forum there’s plenty of profile advice!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Op are you asking for profile advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Third time lucky!

I like a profile to tell me what kind of woman you are looking for, like on mine what kind man I would like, I like men (and women) but I don't like all kinds, so having it in your profile might help and you have to be patient x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty much say.

Hello how are you or how’s your day been? "

There’s your problem. Women get loads of those messages. Try saying something different.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Self deprecating won’t help your cause

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By *wagzBomb1192 OP Man
over a year ago

north acton

Appreciate all your comments. How do I even verify myself ?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

am I that bad no woman wants to chat what am I doing wrong haha"

I think you need to work on your profile.

There needs to be something that makes women want to respond to you rather than one of the others who messaged.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty much say.

Hello how are you or how’s your day been? "

There’s the issue then I think. An average lady will get a zillion* of those a day.

Try something unique to them, what do you like about their profile, how are you compatible, let them know what it is about THEM you like.

But shhhh, it’s bro code. Just between us!

(* approximately)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty much say.

Hello how are you or how’s your day been?

There’s the issue then I think. An average lady will get a zillion* of those a day.

Try something unique to them, what do you like about their profile, how are you compatible, let them know what it is about THEM you like.

But shhhh, it’s bro code. Just between us!

(* approximately)"

Exactly this, mention something in the profile, expand on it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am I that bad no woman wants to chat what am I doing wrong haha"

The next step is when you get to chat with women on fab. And then you wonder why they won’t meet up with you.

Welcome to fab op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard work on here for single men in general

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Your profile needs a lot of work. The blurb is general to the point of being useless. Put in something there that sells you, that gets to the essence of why someone should be interested in you instead of the 99 other guys messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty much say.

Hello how are you or how’s your day been? "

You should be charming and funny in your opener, go random, try unique, think about what you saying and always remember you have to stand out like a star in the night sky, if you don’t you will remain in the dark, good luck Op

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By *wagzBomb1192 OP Man
over a year ago

north acton

Thank you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just show the tarts the millions you have in your bank and the Lambo. you cruise around in and watch them cum flocking

truth is majority of women on here are more more interested in idle chit chat than getting down and sticky...!

just be you and don’t break any sweat with the chase since majority are simply not worth the effort...

you’ll know when the right person likes you for you and will look past the blurb etc.

best wishes...

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By *wagzBomb1192 OP Man
over a year ago

north acton

100%. I wouldn’t change for anyone some people are too picky what you see is what you get don’t like it do one I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100%. I wouldn’t change for anyone some people are too picky what you see is what you get don’t like it do one I say "

that’s the spirit

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By *ambi4uMan
over a year ago

Saint Helens

No cock pics on profile, that's why.

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By *wagzBomb1192 OP Man
over a year ago

north acton

I ain’t about that that’s why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm thinking his attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ain’t about that that’s why "

If you use “Reply +quote” you can see who you’re replying to, like I’ve done here.

Good luck my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ain’t about that that’s why

If you use “Reply +quote” you can see who you’re replying to, like I’ve done here.

Good luck my friend

Try again…,

No way!!!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Pretty much say.

Hello how are you or how’s your day been? "

Do you have any idea how many times in a day we get asked that?

Be imaginative. Read the profile. Put some effort in.

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By *wagzBomb1192 OP Man
over a year ago

north acton

"I'm thinking his attitude "

Sorry but haven’t got an attitude lol.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

1. Realistic expectations are missing

2. You need to sell yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're far from ugly OP ! But these 'ask for advice threads' are seldom productive and often a magnet for unpleasant digs. Good luck on Fab.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

OP, don't take too much to heart. Be a little more imaginative in your messages, add some more narrative to your profile (there are plenty of inspirational ideas on this thread and beyond), get yourself to a Fab organised social and engage a little more on the Fab Fora - every little helps.

Good luck

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Pretty much say.

Hello how are you or how’s your day been?

Do you have any idea how many times in a day we get asked that?

Be imaginative. Read the profile. Put some effort in."

Result: it still gets buried and you put all that effort in for nothing

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By *wagzBomb1192 OP Man
over a year ago

north acton

"OP, don't take too much to heart. Be a little more imaginative in your messages, add some more narrative to your profile (there are plenty of inspirational ideas on this thread and beyond), get yourself to a Fab organised social and engage a little more on the Fab Fora - every little helps.

Good luck

Top man. What’s OP by the way ??

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

am I that bad no woman wants to chat what am I doing wrong haha"

Profile is rubbish

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

OP = original poster. You.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck

Top man. What’s OP by the way ?? "

Opening / original poster. It’s next to your name when you start a thread

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"OP = original poster. You."

Not to be mistaken with OPP.

That’s an entirely different thing

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By *wagzBomb1192 OP Man
over a year ago

north acton

Good luck

Top man. What’s OP by the way ??

Opening / original poster. It’s next to your name when you start a thread

Gotcha taaaa lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am I that bad no woman wants to chat what am I doing wrong haha

Profile is rubbish

this is the pot calling the kettle black!

OP pay no attention to shite comments like these, there’s no one that special on fabswingers that deserves special treatment...!

remember that, you are special in your own way as are we all...!

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"100%. I wouldn’t change for anyone some people are too picky what you see is what you get don’t like it do one I say "

What does "too picky" mean? Are you not picky?

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"100%. I wouldn’t change for anyone some people are too picky what you see is what you get don’t like it do one I say

What does "too picky" mean? Are you not picky? "

'Some people are too picky' always feels, fairly or unfairly, as an incel red flag. It's perilously close to 'Women owe men sex'.

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

Definitely need more in the profile. In the kindest way possible you must have some idea what you’re looking for? Otherwise reading that (if I was looking as a single woman - which I’m not) I would read - “doesn’t care just wants a shag - or series of shags”.

I don’t respond to opening messages that say - Hi or how are you. I respond to a genuine (and nicely worded) compliment & questions about what our profile has attracted you. Find a common ground & go from there.

Don’t take things personally.

Good luck

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Think of yourself as an item in Greggs display case.

Are you the vegan sausage roll, or the sausage and bean bake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely need more in the profile. In the kindest way possible you must have some idea what you’re looking for? Otherwise reading that (if I was looking as a single woman - which I’m not) I would read - “doesn’t care just wants a shag - or series of shags”.

Don’t take things personally.

Good luck

Spoken eloquently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am I that bad no woman wants to chat what am I doing wrong haha"

I actually think your a good looking guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you are not.

Hope this helps

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Think of yourself as an item in Greggs display case.

Are you the vegan sausage roll, or the sausage and bean bake?"

Is the joke that both of these things are very bad?

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I know Im ugly but I know for sure Im not third world ugly

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird

Ahhh yes, because the silence after sending a face pic after chatting is definitely because I'm a stupid, dull, massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely...

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird

Ahhh yes, because the silence after sending a face pic after chatting is definitely because I'm a stupid, dull, massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely..."

The first sentence is the important bit... We never assume the other stuff... Just that we are ugly

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

We are all unattractive to the majority of people... All of us... It's ok

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird

Ahhh yes, because the silence after sending a face pic after chatting is definitely because I'm a stupid, dull, massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely...

The first sentence is the important bit... We never assume the other stuff... Just that we are ugly

Because unless you say something really abhorrent, the other stuff most likely won't come into play when you initially message someone. I do agree that you're not going to be attractive to everyone and that in itself doesn't make you ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all someone's idea of hot and someone's idea of not.

Accept it and move on

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird

Ahhh yes, because the silence after sending a face pic after chatting is definitely because I'm a stupid, dull, massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely...

The first sentence is the important bit... We never assume the other stuff... Just that we are ugly

It doesn't take saying something abhorrent for me to not be attracted to someone... Just something I don't like, or know them well enough for it to be said... Or something just doesn't sit right... Even if physical attraction is good,it doesn't take much for that to disappear... For me, at least

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Apparently so.

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Why do alot of people assume, because someone isn't attracted to them, it means they are ugly? They are never stupid, dull, a massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely... Weird

Ahhh yes, because the silence after sending a face pic after chatting is definitely because I'm a stupid, dull, massive twat, an arsehole or something else entirely...

The first sentence is the important bit... We never assume the other stuff... Just that we are ugly

Maybe that is the case for you, but it was kind of an extreme use of words to describe people when the OP was only talking about physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This was a strange thread to be unearthed

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