FabSwingers.com forum: Help please..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don’t know what we are doing wrong but we just cannot find any single ladies that are willing to chat let alone meet..

It’s really dropping my confidence in this swinging scene. Wanted to experience FFM with my partner but just doesn’t look great unfortunately

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’re called unicorns for good reason it seems

Keep plugging away at it like the single guys have to unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried putting more effort into your first messages?

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Not sure why exactly without knowing your situation, but there is a reason such women are called unicorns.

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By *ucks Couple UKCouple
over a year ago

Bucks

You only joined 6 weeks ago. Be patient.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I am way out of your age range, but photos of both you together will help… get out to a social or a club

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

From my perspective i cant see anything not to like on your profile. Its great that you have pics of both of you, maybe some more of him?

Great that youre going to a club soon, you can meet plenty of people there, and maybe get a veri too?

But single women who join couples are called unicorns for a reason, very rare!

You look like a lovely couple, so just perservere and please dont let it affect you. Have a great time at the club and chat to loads of people. X

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I can see 2 possible reasons you haven't found one yet:

1. You only joined 6 weeks ago

2. You are both quite young (some people have children your age)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't really advise you with only knowing a general statement of frustration from your op. So a bit more detail maybe of the approach you take.

Also, before we can give any kind of profile advice you need to specifically ask for it. Otherwise we could face a forum timeout

NBVN x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Going to a club will help.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What's in it for the single woman?

I'd suggest having a rethink about how you come across in your profile.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"What's in it for the single woman?

I'd suggest having a rethink about how you come across in your profile."

This, also the fact that you're bi curious to me, would ring alarm bells.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll give you that same advice I’d give anyone else. If you were a single woman would you meet you?

Yes your pics are ok but your profile isn’t exactly friendly or welcoming.

Also go to clubs. You’ll have a better chance meeting people in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely understand as I had a couples profile here back in the day. It’s brutal but worth the wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's in it for the single woman?

I'd suggest having a rethink about how you come across in your profile.

This, also the fact that you're bi curious to me, would ring alarm bells."

As a bi curious guy, why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok… so I’ve changed the profile bio to ‘friendly’ although we are the most genuine friendliest of couples you could meet.

It’s bi-curious as I’ve never had any experience with a woman yet to know if I could put ‘bisexual’ so I thought it would make more sense to put curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely having an equal mix of pics of both of you.

It does take time, takes alot of "work" sometimes and more often than not, it's the couple who will have make the first move, without knowing what kind of female you are both attracted too might put some ladies off, I prefer a profile that states "requirements" but that's my personal preference.

You will get there, clubs open so many doors as do socials (have a look at the rest of the forum, lots around).

Good luck x

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"What's in it for the single woman?

I'd suggest having a rethink about how you come across in your profile.

This, also the fact that you're bi curious to me, would ring alarm bells.

As a bi curious guy, why? "

I'm bi sexual, I've found that on here it's sometimes the man wanting a MFF more than the woman. This is why I personally don't meet bi curious women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok… so I’ve changed the profile bio to ‘friendly’ although we are the most genuine friendliest of couples you could meet.

It’s bi-curious as I’ve never had any experience with a woman yet to know if I could put ‘bisexual’ so I thought it would make more sense to put curious.

We all started somewhere, I started off as curious and now I am fully. You could prehaps mention in your profile that you haven't but that's completely up to you x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Danish is right, we do all start from somewhere. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with being bi-curious. You're open about it - it might put some women off but then others it won't matter.

Think about if you were meeting a couple as a woman - what would you like to see? I'm guessing photos from you both. A rough idea of what they're looking for, whether you could be compatible. Going to clubs is a good idea because women get to approach you having seen you (saw you were planning on visiting hence mentioning it).

Try and not be disheartened OP, it might take some time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's in it for the single woman?

I'd suggest having a rethink about how you come across in your profile.

This, also the fact that you're bi curious to me, would ring alarm bells.

As a bi curious guy, why?

I'm bi sexual, I've found that on here it's sometimes the man wanting a MFF more than the woman. This is why I personally don't meet bi curious women. "

Ahhh ok, I couldn’t work out why. Thankyou

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Don't be discouraged, as others have said it's only been 6 weeks.

As others have also said, if you were reading your profile as a single female what is there to interest you.

I would personally need more than you say to wet my appetite to even engage.

I am too old for you anyway but even so my reasoning still stands.

Good luck...give it time..

Before I even read a message I check out the profile. If that doesn't capture my imagination in any way I usually don't even read the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's tough, but don't look on it as a holy grail type thing, just enjoy finding out what it is you both want.. at your age you have loads of time, we only started this two years ago. Enjoy and take care

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I meant to add, try not to let it affect your confidence. I'm sure with a bit of tweaking you will find a like minded lady x

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