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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to? If not, why not? If you loved them would you fuck them? " Have I ever fucked someone who I wasn’t physically attracted to? Absolutely. Why? Because i fancied a shag and they were up for it. Is that my preferred plan? No. | |||
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"Yes I am easy " So there is hope for you hun #youknowwhoyouare | |||
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to? If not, why not? If you loved them would you fuck them? Have I ever fucked someone who I wasn’t physically attracted to? Absolutely. Why? Because i fancied a shag and they were up for it. Is that my preferred plan? No. " Us men can be a bit shallow. Rare I would turn down chance to fuck a pussy but sometimes | |||
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"Once you love someone I think physical and emotional attraction become inseperable. I mean I've had some baaaad haircuts but Mr N still fancied me . Otherwise I need to find someone attractive. I'm all about looks for casual sex " Mrs NC, you speak my mind so often | |||
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"Once you love someone I think physical and emotional attraction become inseperable. I mean I've had some baaaad haircuts but Mr N still fancied me . Otherwise I need to find someone attractive. I'm all about looks for casual sex Mrs NC, you speak my mind so often " | |||
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"Yeah, it's a bit like asking if you'd go for a pint with someone you don't fancy." Is it though? Cause I mean I'd go for a pint with family | |||
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"Yeah, it's a bit like asking if you'd go for a pint with someone you don't fancy. Sex doesn't have to be anything more than pure physical enjoyment at times. Obviously very different about having a relationship. Clearly there are varying levels, not finding attractive does not equal finding someone unattractive. " Really! I'll take your word that it is for you but physical enjoyment *for me* starts with my eyes. | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it " Not even if they turned up in full military attire? | |||
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"Surely we all have at some point? When I was younger, a fair share of my conquests were down to drink (probably on both our parts) and the lowering of standards/inhabitions/caring* that usually goes hand in hand with d*unkenness. *delete as appropriate" Nope. Until 2yrs ago, I'd had sex with precisely 3 guys, all of whom I could either visit in person or get on the phone straightaway. Or I'm married to right now. | |||
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"I’m sure people do. I’m sure people also have sex with people they do find physically attractive but their personality stinks." Fab is populated with (mainly) chaps who have no interest in the person it’s just a mechanical operation and individual satisfaction. Additionally I see repeated gang bang meets offered as part of the recreational sex genre and I am pretty sure for the most part aesthetic attraction in not of great importance. | |||
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"Surely we all have at some point? When I was younger, a fair share of my conquests were down to drink (probably on both our parts) and the lowering of standards/inhabitions/caring* that usually goes hand in hand with d*unkenness. *delete as appropriate Nope. Until 2yrs ago, I'd had sex with precisely 3 guys, all of whom I could either visit in person or get on the phone straightaway. Or I'm married to right now." Seems like you have sex with lots now? Do you find all attractive?? | |||
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"Surely we all have at some point? When I was younger, a fair share of my conquests were down to drink (probably on both our parts) and the lowering of standards/inhabitions/caring* that usually goes hand in hand with d*unkenness. *delete as appropriate Nope. Until 2yrs ago, I'd had sex with precisely 3 guys, all of whom I could either visit in person or get on the phone straightaway. Or I'm married to right now. Seems like you have sex with lots now? Do you find all attractive??" I don't know what makes you think that. Other than with one FWB, I've only had sex with my husband since March 2020. | |||
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"I wouldn't now, but when I was young and didn't have firm boundaries I did on 2 occasions. Being taught that you must be polite at all costs and never do anything to hurt anyone's feelings was the most damaging lesson my parents ever taught me. Thank God for therapy!" I must be bad as done often. Sorry for being shallow | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it " The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. | |||
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"I have because I'd kinda agreed to it in advance and felt bad. I wouldn't again. " Reading how many men would "have the pussy" regardless of attraction - I have even less trust in men now. | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. " I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. | |||
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"No. If I loved them, I'd be attracted to them. " ^ this x | |||
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"I have because I'd kinda agreed to it in advance and felt bad. I wouldn't again. Reading how many men would "have the pussy" regardless of attraction - I have even less trust in men now. " Haha same. I’m hard to meet so even those guys who might think I’m easy to meet because I’m fat and not that physically attractive have to work really hard to get me to meet them in the first place. | |||
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"I have because I'd kinda agreed to it in advance and felt bad. I wouldn't again. Reading how many men would "have the pussy" regardless of attraction - I have even less trust in men now. Haha same. I’m hard to meet so even those guys who might think I’m easy to meet because I’m fat and not that physically attractive have to work really hard to get me to meet them in the first place." Obviously I wouldn’t meet knowing they didn’t find me attractive but nobody will tell you that. | |||
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"I have because I'd kinda agreed to it in advance and felt bad. I wouldn't again. Reading how many men would "have the pussy" regardless of attraction - I have even less trust in men now. " Same! I’m not a quick or easy fuck. I’m very picky, so hopefully that puts these types off! | |||
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"Had sex with a guy who really should had a paper bag on his head but he had a huge cock I was drooling over " Good Heavens.........beggars belief | |||
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"Once you love someone I think physical and emotional attraction become inseperable. I mean I've had some baaaad haircuts but Mr N still fancied me . Otherwise I need to find someone attractive. I'm all about looks for casual sex " I think this sums it up for me too...I've even had those bad hair cuts and been loved regardless | |||
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"Had sex with a guy who really should had a paper bag on his head but he had a huge cock I was drooling over Good Heavens.........beggars belief " At least there was a massive attraction to his cock | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. " I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes. Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with. | |||
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"Had sex with a guy who really should had a paper bag on his head but he had a huge cock I was drooling over " Any need for such derogatory language about another human being? I’m guessing you look like a supermodel then? | |||
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"No, I'd never be able to bring myself to go through with it. I'm not one of those people who ugly people become more attractive to the more I get to know them and my d*unk self still knows what's hot and what's not " Not being physically attracted to someone doesn't mean you find them ugly. Most people I feel physically neutral about upon first meeting them. | |||
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"Had sex with a guy who really should had a paper bag on his head but he had a huge cock I was drooling over Any need for such derogatory language about another human being? I’m guessing you look like a supermodel then?" He was the first to admit it! Nah far from a model | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes. Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with." I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them. | |||
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"Surely we all have at some point? When I was younger, a fair share of my conquests were down to drink (probably on both our parts) and the lowering of standards/inhabitions/caring* that usually goes hand in hand with d*unkenness. *delete as appropriate Nope. Until 2yrs ago, I'd had sex with precisely 3 guys, all of whom I could either visit in person or get on the phone straightaway. Or I'm married to right now." Fair enough, everybody's different. I wouldn't jump into bed with just anyone now, but in my teens and twenties, I did. However, nowadays I find attraction a lot more nuanced than simply hot or not. I met a lady years ago who I didn't find immediately attractive but she was a cracking lass and funny as hell. We ended up in a year long relationship and sexually we were insanely compatible. I never base anything solely on looks - I ain't exactly model material! - but it's a combination of things that makes me attracted to someone | |||
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"One of the core aphrodisiacs, for a bloke (ok, this bloke) is sexual availability. Do you need to look like a supermodel to turn me on? No. It doesn’t have to be an overt availability. Just a willingness to flirt and an openness to the possibility. I do love to flirt even when I know that’s all it will ever be. I’d draw the line at Ann Widdicombe though. Even if she threw herself at me. Yeah, I am shallow. But no more shallow than those who insist on an aesthetic connection before contemplating a physical one." ? So it's shallow to want to find someone attractive before I fuck them? Did I read that right? | |||
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"Attraction is a weird one. I have been very physically attracted to one man who I thought was aesthetically ugly. It was strange but what a mind he had!" I am often physically attracted to men who aren't attractive in the conventional sense. | |||
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"Had sex with a guy who really should had a paper bag on his head but he had a huge cock I was drooling over Good Heavens.........beggars belief At least there was a massive attraction to his cock " Yes you’re correct and we should be thankful for small mercy’s ...............or large ones in this case | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes. Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with. I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them. " For sure I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks. Looks don't determine chemistry for me | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes. Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with. I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them. For sure I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks. Looks don't determine chemistry for me" I am physically attracted for sure if can say | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes. Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with. I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them. For sure I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks. Looks don't determine chemistry for me" Absolutely the same. I guess for people who do know if they're physically attracted straight away, it's hard to imagine being any different, just as I can't imagine being the way they are either. | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes. Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with. I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them. For sure I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks. Looks don't determine chemistry for me Absolutely the same. I guess for people who do know if they're physically attracted straight away, it's hard to imagine being any different, just as I can't imagine being the way they are either. " Same here! I thrive on connection so whilst I’ll be attracted by looks, I need to be equally attracted to their personality/mind. | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes. Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with. I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them. For sure I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks. Looks don't determine chemistry for me Absolutely the same. I guess for people who do know if they're physically attracted straight away, it's hard to imagine being any different, just as I can't imagine being the way they are either. " Definitely this. I was saying to a friend recently, I had a bit of anxiety over an unsolicited face pic... like, what do I do, I'm supposed to say something to this stranger that is nice, aren't I? Shit, where's my bloke dictionary? | |||
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to? If not, why not? If you loved them would you fuck them? " No I wouldn’t and no I haven’t. There isn’t anything that makes me want to get naked with a person if I’m not attracted to them in some way. If I love the person then I will be attracted to them. | |||
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"I have to be attracted to the face. The body isn't so important. I've had sex with obese men and very thin men. Men don't seem too bothered about my big stomach because it comes with big boobs, a big bum and an ok face. I couldn't fuck a dick head though, no matter how pretty he was." Even if i said please?? | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes. Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with. I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them. For sure I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks. Looks don't determine chemistry for me Absolutely the same. I guess for people who do know if they're physically attracted straight away, it's hard to imagine being any different, just as I can't imagine being the way they are either. Definitely this. I was saying to a friend recently, I had a bit of anxiety over an unsolicited face pic... like, what do I do, I'm supposed to say something to this stranger that is nice, aren't I? Shit, where's my bloke dictionary? " It's such a minefield Say too much you're maybe leading them to believe you're more keen at that point than you are. Say too little they can be put off. Aggghhhhh | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it The question was physically attracted. Physical attraction doesn't come very easily to me. It tends to be something that grows over time. Annoyingly, the rare occasion that physical attraction has been quick for me, it tends to fade. It may not dissappear completely but it's not as strong as at first. When I'm in love with someone it's the opposite and they seem to become more attractive to me the longer I'm with them, even if I wasn't physically attracted to them at all at first. I’ve definitely become attracted to someone I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to at the first instance. As I’ve got to know them over time they’re become more attractive to me. I don't have a type as such in so far as looks, it's all about chemistry for me.... from how they move and act, their character, sexual presence and likes. Definitely not a simple straightforward thing for me being attracted to a guy in a sexual sense. Some guys who I think are hot and have a great body I'd not want to have sex with. I can definitely relate to that. There's definitely a difference between being able to appreciate aesthetics and being physically attracted. It's about the effect it has on you and any desire it sparks. Just like how heterosexual women can still recognise another woman as beautiful but not be physically attracted to them. For sure I find it hard to get guys to believe me that it's too soon to decide attraction, like if they send pics and I say something along the lines of 'we'll see how things play out'. They think I'm just being polite and it's actually a no thanks. Looks don't determine chemistry for me Absolutely the same. I guess for people who do know if they're physically attracted straight away, it's hard to imagine being any different, just as I can't imagine being the way they are either. Definitely this. I was saying to a friend recently, I had a bit of anxiety over an unsolicited face pic... like, what do I do, I'm supposed to say something to this stranger that is nice, aren't I? Shit, where's my bloke dictionary? " It makes online dating really hard . People ask why I match with them if I don't fancy them. I wouldn't match with anyone if I had to already fancy them . | |||
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"No, I'd never be able to bring myself to go through with it. I'm not one of those people who ugly people become more attractive to the more I get to know them and my d*unk self still knows what's hot and what's not Not being physically attracted to someone doesn't mean you find them ugly. Most people I feel physically neutral about upon first meeting them. " Perhaps I do...just because you see the world your way it doesn't mean I do too | |||
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"No, I'd never be able to bring myself to go through with it. I'm not one of those people who ugly people become more attractive to the more I get to know them and my d*unk self still knows what's hot and what's not Not being physically attracted to someone doesn't mean you find them ugly. Most people I feel physically neutral about upon first meeting them. Perhaps I do...just because you see the world your way it doesn't mean I do too" I was referring to your reference of "one of those people". | |||
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"One of the core aphrodisiacs, for a bloke (ok, this bloke) is sexual availability. Do you need to look like a supermodel to turn me on? No. It doesn’t have to be an overt availability. Just a willingness to flirt and an openness to the possibility. I do love to flirt even when I know that’s all it will ever be. I’d draw the line at Ann Widdicombe though. Even if she threw herself at me. Yeah, I am shallow. But no more shallow than those who insist on an aesthetic connection before contemplating a physical one. ? So it's shallow to want to find someone attractive before I fuck them? Did I read that right? " It’s shallow to filter on physical appearance. Attractiveness is more than that. | |||
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"No, I'd never be able to bring myself to go through with it. I'm not one of those people who ugly people become more attractive to the more I get to know them and my d*unk self still knows what's hot and what's not Not being physically attracted to someone doesn't mean you find them ugly. Most people I feel physically neutral about upon first meeting them. Perhaps I do...just because you see the world your way it doesn't mean I do too I was referring to your reference of "one of those people"." Ohh OK yer I totally get that! | |||
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"I have done. I’m easily laughed into bed so if they’re funny, in my eyes it makes them attractive to me. " Wanna hear a joke... Lol | |||
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to? If not, why not? If you loved them would you fuck them? " yes... I have done frequently.. in a group situation I don't need that physical attraction.. ( although still have things that would make me say no) 121 is totally different. Then yes I do. | |||
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"I have done. I’m easily laughed into bed so if they’re funny, in my eyes it makes them attractive to me. " There's a Scotsman, and English man and an Irishman... | |||
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"I don't fancy Gal Gadot at all but I'd give her a ride if she bought the chips after. " Common as muck, I knew it | |||
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to? If not, why not? If you loved them would you fuck them? yes... I have done frequently.. in a group situation I don't need that physical attraction.. ( although still have things that would make me say no) 121 is totally different. Then yes I do. " I find that fascinating. | |||
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"I have done. I’m easily laughed into bed so if they’re funny, in my eyes it makes them attractive to me. " There was a stunning lady from Atlantis Who was really a preying mantis Whose victims rarely escaped her charms As they fell headlong into her arms But not to be seduced would be remiss | |||
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"When meeting as a 4some have occasionally 'taken one for the team' but don't any more " That did make me giggle! Team players rock! | |||
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to? If not, why not? If you loved them would you fuck them? " Yes! | |||
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"Attraction isn't purely aesthetical that's the whole point ... is multilayered for most people and a combination of things at least " Yip | |||
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"No. If I loved them, I'd be attracted to them. " This | |||
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"Why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted too? I couldn't do it " If I’m horny, fancy a shag, and an opportunity arises … | |||
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"If the verification say she sucks like a dyson where do I register my interest " ... I thought I'd deleted that one | |||
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"I have to be attracted to the face. The body isn't so important. I've had sex with obese men and very thin men. Men don't seem too bothered about my big stomach because it comes with big boobs, a big bum and an ok face. I couldn't fuck a dick head though, no matter how pretty he was. Even if i said please?? " Depends how hot you are | |||
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"Yeah. Got to scratch that itch sometimes. " #YouKnowWhoYouAre | |||
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"Yeah. Got to scratch that itch sometimes. " Have you tried flea powder? | |||
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"Yeah. Got to scratch that itch sometimes. #YouKnowWhoYouAre" #IDo | |||
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"Yeah. Got to scratch that itch sometimes. #YouKnowWhoYouAre #IDo" #NowWeDoToo | |||
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"Yeah. Got to scratch that itch sometimes. #YouKnowWhoYouAre #IDo #NowWeDoToo" #MelisIndiscreetScratchingPost | |||
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"Yeah. Got to scratch that itch sometimes. #YouKnowWhoYouAre #IDo #NowWeDoToo #MelisIndiscreetScratchingPost" #IdontKnowWhatToSay | |||
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"Yeah. Got to scratch that itch sometimes. #YouKnowWhoYouAre #IDo #NowWeDoToo #MelisIndiscreetScratchingPost #IdontKnowWhatToSay" See A Vet | |||
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"I have to be attracted to the face. The body isn't so important. I've had sex with obese men and very thin men. Men don't seem too bothered about my big stomach because it comes with big boobs, a big bum and an ok face. I couldn't fuck a dick head though, no matter how pretty he was. Even if i said please?? Depends how hot you are " Im like David Hasselhof n his prime - after a serious fire in which his face got melted - he lost all hus hair and put on 3 stone… oh and ends up 7 inches shorter in height!! - you just got a flutter didnt you?? | |||
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"Yeah. Got to scratch that itch sometimes. #YouKnowWhoYouAre #IDo #NowWeDoToo #MelisIndiscreetScratchingPost #IdontKnowWhatToSay See A Vet " | |||
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"Would you fuck someone you're not physically attracted to? If not, why not? If you loved them would you fuck them? " I masterbate daily, so yes! | |||
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"Yeah. Got to scratch that itch sometimes. #YouKnowWhoYouAre #IDo #NowWeDoToo #MelisIndiscreetScratchingPost #IdontKnowWhatToSay See A Vet " brilliant Mrs KC. | |||
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