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By *gent Coulson OP   Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

...oh damn, man.

I'm so sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So so sorry that happened to you. Virtual hugs and strength are coming your way x

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By *urvybeckiWoman
over a year ago

Enfield

That's really not good, sorry it happened to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sucks. Sympathies to you, I know how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit dude. Genuine feels for you. All I can suggest is take yourself into town, get a coffee and people watch while you vente…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh this is so upsetting to read after your post this morning

Is there any way you can salvage the day? Maybe take yourself to a nice lunch in Leeds, or visit some attractions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leeds? What a terrible place to be left alone

I'm sorry to learn of this.

Unfortunately, people can be shit, we all know that.

I hope your day improves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So annoying! I hope you make the most of the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Of your day

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By *hiskeyColaMan
over a year ago

Oswestry

Try a change of approach/change of tactics. I can't advise specifically cos I don't know what you be been doing exactly, but all I mean is Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Just switch it up! Try something new! If you've been chasing hard, try chilling for a while. If you've been playing hard to get, then try being a little more forthcoming.

Good luck to you brother

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
Oooopss!!!sorry to hear that.shit happens!

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "

Name and shame? Take the ban, itll be worth it

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Just chat shite and procrastinate, all I do here now

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By *heeks123Woman
over a year ago

North West

I'm so sorry they've done this.

I know it's a horrible feeling. Try and make the best of being in Leeds, get a nice lunch and a cocktail or a cream bun and coffee. Please don't let them keep you down.

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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Had you spoken to the woman on the phone?

You wouldn't be the first taken in by someone pretending to be someone else.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Sadly I think it's how done get their kicks wasting others time

Sorry you had to experience it though

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

Had a bit of that myself ,Karma will get them ,chin up ,crack on McDuff..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She probably got nervous too, but a simple "sorry, not coming to meet you", is all it would have taken. Even if she blocked you everywhere afterwards.

It's happened to loads of us and it'll happen to loads more. Some people huh? Try not to let it get to you too much. If you talk by phone and have hands free in the car, maybe chat while you're driving? Keep communication open on the way. My partner and I did that I think.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I'm sorry this has happened to you op, it is a horrible feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww no. I am terribly sorry to read this update.

Hugs to you from us all

NBVN x

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "

Oh yeah... You had another thread with how excited you were. What a pain. Still at least you tried. Onwards and upwards mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that! A little courtesy doesn't take much, and it can save a lot of bad feeling and wasted effort.

Hope your day picks up, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s happened to me a couple of times, get ready to go and meet someone and message to say I’m leaving, to find I’ve been blocked.

It’s not you, it’s them - I don’t know why, especially in my age group, people can’t just be honest and respectful. But some people are just inconsiderate.

Please don’t take it to heart, keep trying and keep positive, it’s the only way forward x

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

You were on cloud nine earlier this morning and we were all pleased for you.

We're still here for you.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Massive hugs mate. That's shitty on their part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s happened to me a couple of times, get ready to go and meet someone and message to say I’m leaving, to find I’ve been blocked.

It’s not you, it’s them - I don’t know why, especially in my age group, people can’t just be honest and respectful. But some people are just inconsiderate.

Please don’t take it to heart, keep trying and keep positive, it’s the only way forward x"

It's not only your age group, trust me

The worst thing is not even the waste of time and travel, it's the constant getting your hopes up and being disappointed; the roller-coaster of emotions. No wonder people turn bitter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s poor… sorry you went through the experience…

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done

Name and shame? Take the ban, itll be worth it "

Im still running with the name and shame course of action on OP

Playing devils advocate for one moment; assuming she was an actual human female with a verified back catalogue, and not a dude pretending, then I would suggest the earlier thread about how excited you were probably wasnt the best idea. Granted her profile name isn't disclosed, but she may still not want the attention created, such as people would be looking at your profile and then subsequently her profile after the verification is given.

She may not even use the forums, but its possible she also does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s happened to me a couple of times, get ready to go and meet someone and message to say I’m leaving, to find I’ve been blocked.

It’s not you, it’s them - I don’t know why, especially in my age group, people can’t just be honest and respectful. But some people are just inconsiderate.

Please don’t take it to heart, keep trying and keep positive, it’s the only way forward x

It's not only your age group, trust me

The worst thing is not even the waste of time and travel, it's the constant getting your hopes up and being disappointed; the roller-coaster of emotions. No wonder people turn bitter. "

I understand completely.

Someone filling you with compliments and you hit it off really well via text etc.

It’s worse when you don’t see it coming.

Get yourself to a club or two, you can have the fun, meet some great people and leave when you’ve had enough.

No let downs, no drama - Might be the way forward for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

circumstances change but it’s just common decency isn’t it to cancel in advance if that’s the case. Sorry to hear you’ve been mucked around OP

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Damn. I was really pleased for you when I read your earlier post. Sorry to hear this, here's a booby hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah noooo & I bet it took alot for you to go in the first place you were so nervous this morning you said in your earlier post

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I was going to send you a consolation pic, but filters, but you get the idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs sorry this happened to you

Just have to vet more careful

Everyone should ask them selfs the question off would that sex say something like that

If your answer is no in your head red flag it run for the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" circumstances change but it’s just common decency isn’t it to cancel in advance if that’s the case. Sorry to hear you’ve been mucked around OP "

Agree with this, I'd to cancel on Saturday but let him know by lunchtime I'd not just not show up its awful. However, might something have happened, I worry about that when seeing this kinda thing. If they have been back online fair enough they clearly are OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "

Thats awful OP, I'm sorry to here you've been ghosted. I've been in the same boat myself.

I hope the person contacts you with an apology and explanation.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Sorry to see you've been played like this.

I presume it was part of a plan by the other person and your 2 threads are giving them a massive ego trip.

Hope you report the profile to admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "

Damn I saw the thread earlier and felt happy for you. But I suspected this would happen

Sorry to hear that

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

Sorry to hear that AC, sucks that it happened when you were looking so forward to it. I still hope you can make a day of it to salvage some of it and try to move on quickly. It's a shame people can't have the decency to even let you know if plans have schanged

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By *gent Coulson OP   Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

This day is going from bad to worse, now stuck in Huddersfield as there has been an incident on the rail line near Mossley, with no indication of when or if it will be cleared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why you just ask for a social right away. Weeks wasted chatting to get ghosted. Ask early and get it over with

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Propper tossers on this site. We have also been let down before.

We only do local meets or host now.

Block them

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Had the same Sat night staring at 2 empty chairs - they’re pathetic- probably everything they told you was crap and pics probably weren’t even them - thats what i think of mine anyway… sorry you gad it too bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is why you just ask for a social right away. Weeks wasted chatting to get ghosted. Ask early and get it over with"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I've had some video calls where I've been so glad I've saved myself the time and effort of going to meet them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP. Going go Leeds is bad enough but being peed around is quite unnecessary.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I am very sorry for you Agent Coulson.

Yes it has happened to us all but that does not make it right or any less painful. I very much doubt it was last minute nerves, just cold hearted absolute disregard for the feelings of another human being. Still, pick yourself up and once more back into the breach!!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Happens to us all op. Block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There maybe a reasonable explanation...maybe give it a day or so. They may have been unavoidably delayed and unable to contact you. They may have been really keen but like you were nervous but from them it was too much.

It happens to the best of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There maybe a reasonable explanation...maybe give it a day or so. They may have been unavoidably delayed and unable to contact you. They may have been really keen but like you were nervous but from them it was too much.

It happens to the best of people."

If they were as nervous as yourself, the thread earlier might have tipped the balance and scared them off.

A message is always nice but no way of knowing for sure the why of it.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Aww no

So sorry to read this ,I don't know what the heck is wrong with some fab members

Hope you've reported it,have a hug x

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"There maybe a reasonable explanation...maybe give it a day or so. They may have been unavoidably delayed and unable to contact you. They may have been really keen but like you were nervous but from them it was too much.

It happens to the best of people."

If I was forced by circumstances to stand someone up I would contact them and apologise immediately, without delay, on here and on phone.

I believe therefore the lack of contact here means another manuplative, sociopathic, timewaster is in play.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm so sorry to read this. I hope your week gets better.

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

Sorry to read this, very bad start to the week solver lining hopefully it can’t get worse. Head up mate

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By *olakidd67Man
over a year ago

north lanarkshire

Sorry to read that bud , seem like a genuine guy just keep the head up and keep trying there’s plenty decent women on here aswell just ovb had a bad expeirence so far but it’ll come mate

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sorry, OP

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Maybe have a break from fab op and take stock I often find a break from here does you good in regards to being stood up that’s a pretty shit thing to do to someone try not let it affect your confidence who knows maybe it was unavoidable that they couldn’t make it

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

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I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dude. I’m so sorry that didn’t work out. I feel for you.

Don’t blame yourself mate, and don’t let someone else spoil it for you.

*this type of story and the things that I’ve experienced is the exact reason I am very reluctant to get exited about anything in here.

Coulson, you’re a good man, and someone took the piss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry, that's really not on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh gutted for you thats an absolutely shitty thing to do, even worse after you were so happy earlier onwards and upwards her loss x

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Gutted for you but don’t give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call "

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I feel for you mate, that's my worst nightmare on here. Don't give up though, you'll have a meet from here one day that will make up for it

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter "

I wouldnt do one. But someone is entitled to ask for it anyway, or make it a prerequisite for them. It just means the meet wont happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call "

If someone can't handle a 5 minute video call I'm sure as hell not trusting them enough to schedule a meet with them, and the conversation stops there.

My generation is always on camera so there's no excuse really.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Happens quite often I think I had 11 ghost arrangements in a row simple coffee at Nero but still. Had one message and say he had coffee at home was I fucking or not so no point in him wasting petrol or an overpriced coffee.

Just be thankful because if they didn't put the effort or decency in a reply consider what other std or sex safety they don't consider.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can't handle a 5 minute video call I'm sure as hell not trusting them enough to schedule a meet with them, and the conversation stops there.

My generation is always on camera so there's no excuse really. "

That's fair enough

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter "

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person."

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

That sucks but I'm sure she's sorry.

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Sadly happens. Often hub says has “wife” who wants sex but when turn up she is washing her hair or unwell. Mind you when is real lots of fun so don’t get too disheartened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "

Looks like you took the last train to Clarksville and won’t becoming home?

Perhaps it was just a brief encounter?

Feel for you bro!

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face? "

I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FFS . Not again

Where is the respect towards others .

Sorry hear that .

I had 5 last 6 weeks .

im not sure about this … but I’m trying to calculate … I’m watching in my experience …

I have the feeling that Quick chats and instantly meet up has a higher chance of stood up …

Tho … I was stood up by someone who has been on my WhatsApp on n off for over a year .

Sweet lovely BBW , FFM lover as well , I liked her … that one was specially a kick in the gutter …

Sorry to hear that is very bad . It really hurts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happens quite often I think I had 11 ghost arrangements in a row simple coffee at Nero but still. Had one message and say he had coffee at home was I fucking or not so no point in him wasting petrol or an overpriced coffee.

Just be thankful because if they didn't put the effort or decency in a reply consider what other std or sex safety they don't consider."

11 no shows in a row?

You have the patience of Job.

I am not clear as to the relevance of a no show and sexual health or personal safety?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?

I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!"

I’ll be honest, I know very few guys, that aren’t desperate, that would chat for weeks without even seeing a face

Whatever works for you, but I think that’s really odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That sucks but I'm sure she's sorry. "

Nah, people with no respect for others don't care.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face? "

And I also avoid at all costs guys requesting face pictures who've never spoken to me.. shows he could care less who I am as a person or if we had any common interests except his shallow looks desire. That's why people get catfished you got attracted to a picture and not the person

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?

I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!

I’ll be honest, I know very few guys, that aren’t desperate, that would chat for weeks without even seeing a face

Whatever works for you, but I think that’s really odd "

I'm not interested in the typical or what most do. So it's a plus for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to us all at some point in this funny ole game OP . We feel your pain but chin up & stiff upper lip fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?

I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!"

I’m exactly the same . I work with chemistry .

Sweetness is my biggest turn on . And I looooove the woman beauty .

An arrogant woman does nothing to me .

In fact in my scale is the worse type . I hate them . Just makes me feel like : what a waste of a beauty

Anyway …

Whatever will be will

Quem será Sarah …

Sarah Saaaaarah … where aaaaare youuuuu ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "

That is (Fab) for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?

And I also avoid at all costs guys requesting face pictures who've never spoken to me.. shows he could care less who I am as a person or if we had any common interests except his shallow looks desire. That's why people get catfished you got attracted to a picture and not the person"

This is a superficial environment where perceived physical attributes are sought above personality in most cases I would suggest?

You may have a magnetic personality but if you don’t fall into a persons requirements it counts for very little.

I would point out I have a large penis

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By *ougal part deuxMan
over a year ago

Sunderland

With stuff like that I try to see it more as a lucky escape/a blessing, if thats the kinda person they were. Easier said than done of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?

And I also avoid at all costs guys requesting face pictures who've never spoken to me.. shows he could care less who I am as a person or if we had any common interests except his shallow looks desire. That's why people get catfished you got attracted to a picture and not the person

This is a superficial environment where perceived physical attributes are sought above personality in most cases I would suggest?

You may have a magnetic personality but if you don’t fall into a persons requirements it counts for very little.

I would point out I have a large penis "

And forgot to add for those who are undecided that I can breathe via my Eustachian tube, ejaculate copious amounts have an ability for encore performances and smooth in all the right places?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I think lots of us have had this issue at some point. It's very hit and miss, this is why I no longer chat for weeks on end, you don't get attached or have expectations build up.

Are you sure she was genuine? I'm not one for doing video calls as others have suggested, but I think my veris give a very clear indication of the kind of person that I am.

I never get my hopes up until the person is right there in front of me, no matter how promising things look!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no it went wrong sorry its gone tits up its a real sod when that happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think lots of us have had this issue at some point. It's very hit and miss, this is why I no longer chat for weeks on end, you don't get attached or have expectations build up.

Are you sure she was genuine? I'm not one for doing video calls as others have suggested, but I think my veris give a very clear indication of the kind of person that I am.

I never get my hopes up until the person is right there in front of me, no matter how promising things look!"

Doesn’t that suck though? I’d love to get all excited about a meet or date. The anticipation building. It’s so sad we have to deny ourselves that because of the number of fakes and timewasters

There’s nothing worse than getting a little excited for a meet, then reminding yourself to calm down, there’s a good chance it won’t happen

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "

I read your positive post earlier and so sad to hear this happened to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?

I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!

I’ll be honest, I know very few guys, that aren’t desperate, that would chat for weeks without even seeing a face

Whatever works for you, but I think that’s really odd "

Attraction is key for the majority! I bet there’s barely any women on here who’d chat for a lengthy amount of time without a face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?

I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!

I’ll be honest, I know very few guys, that aren’t desperate, that would chat for weeks without even seeing a face

Whatever works for you, but I think that’s really odd

Attraction is key for the majority! I bet there’s barely any women on here who’d chat for a lengthy amount of time without a face pic."

Barely any? I think the vast majority wouldn’t even response to a message without one!

Whatever works I guess, but I don’t think I’m automatically shallow for wanting to put a face to the personality within 6 months

God, can you imagine? Talking for months, turn up to the social, they take one look at you and say “not my type, have a good day” and leave. Or imagine being the one turning up and not fancying them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happens quite often I think I had 11 ghost arrangements in a row simple coffee at Nero but still. Had one message and say he had coffee at home was I fucking or not so no point in him wasting petrol or an overpriced coffee.

Just be thankful because if they didn't put the effort or decency in a reply consider what other std or sex safety they don't consider."

Had you swapped face pics with any of these 11 people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.

How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?

I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!

I’ll be honest, I know very few guys, that aren’t desperate, that would chat for weeks without even seeing a face

Whatever works for you, but I think that’s really odd

Attraction is key for the majority! I bet there’s barely any women on here who’d chat for a lengthy amount of time without a face pic.

Barely any? I think the vast majority wouldn’t even response to a message without one!

Whatever works I guess, but I don’t think I’m automatically shallow for wanting to put a face to the personality within 6 months

God, can you imagine? Talking for months, turn up to the social, they take one look at you and say “not my type, have a good day” and leave. Or imagine being the one turning up and not fancying them

"

This isn’t dating! Nothing wrong with shallowness anyway! I wouldn’t fuck someone I didn’t find attractive, if that makes me shallow so be it!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.

They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.

They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!

"

She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.

Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!

The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.

They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!

She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.

Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!

The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way."

So, how about a white lie ...where is the harm in that. Better than making someone feel like shit

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.

They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!

She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.

Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!

The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way."

She should also have seen Cousins pics ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.

They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!

She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.

Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!

The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.

She should also have seen Cousins pics ..."

Sorry not with that?

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"

And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.

I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call

If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.

So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter

I wouldnt do one. But someone is entitled to ask for it anyway, or make it a prerequisite for them. It just means the meet wont happen"

I wouldn't do one either...and i'm no timewaster.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.

They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!

She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.

Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!

The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.

She should also have seen Cousins pics ...

Sorry not with that?"

Oh ok ...

"She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station."

Surely she would have seen his pics, on his profile and known exactly what a lovely guy he was

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"That sucks but I'm sure she's sorry. "

What are you basing that on exactly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah that's so shitty.

I wouldn't be able to forgive them unless it was a genuine emergency! It's such a waste of your time.

I hope you're OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.

They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!

She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.

Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!

The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way."

Nah, you can't excuse her behaviour. It's not OK leaving someone stood up like that after arranging a meet. I'm sure she was well aware of who she was meeting and what to expect, and if she wasn't then why bother to waste someone time if you're not 100% committed?

She's ignorant and rude. OP deserved more.

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By *ensualpleasures69Man
over a year ago

leeds

Sorry pal but this seems to be the way forward for some people, happened to me last week, drove 35 miles for nothing, it really pisses you off, but, your a day nearer your next meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.

They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!

She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.

Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!

The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.

She should also have seen Cousins pics ...

Sorry not with that?

Oh ok ...

"She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station."

Surely she would have seen his pics, on his profile and known exactly what a lovely guy he was "

She still has a right not go through with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear it

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.

They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!

She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.

Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!

The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.

She should also have seen Cousins pics ...

Sorry not with that?

Oh ok ...

"She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station."

Surely she would have seen his pics, on his profile and known exactly what a lovely guy he was

She still has a right not go through with it?"

Of course...as do we all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.

They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!

She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.

Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!

The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.

She should also have seen Cousins pics ...

Sorry not with that?

Oh ok ...

"She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station."

Surely she would have seen his pics, on his profile and known exactly what a lovely guy he was

She still has a right not go through with it?"

Respect…. The guy (or a girl) has traveled, and put faith and trust forward for someone to have the balls to say something direct to him.

Staying on a train (or ghosting) is pathetic and cowerdly. Disrespectful at best.

I do not defend it, and judge anyone who says that’s a right thing to do.

Just tell them, we live in a bad world where we think ignorance is a way to communicate.

I’m looking at you Fab rules!…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "

Really sorry that happened to you. Some people are wankers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear about that

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

That’s wanky.

Keep the faith pal, not all humans are so cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s shit. But OP you got a choice put yourself out there or give up. It says nothing about you.

Maybe arrange a meet with a back up plan next time?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Sorry to hear that OP. What a complete piss take. Sending hugs xx

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By *aturelover 69Man
over a year ago

Evesham


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "

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By *aturelover 69Man
over a year ago

Evesham


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
sorry bro

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By *aturelover 69Man
over a year ago

Evesham


"Leeds? What a terrible place to be left alone

I'm sorry to learn of this.

Unfortunately, people can be shit, we all know that.

I hope your day improves. "
what's wrong with Leeds ? Heard it's a great night out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s shit. But OP you got a choice put yourself out there or give up. It says nothing about you.

Maybe arrange a meet with a back up plan next time? "

Good Point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it happens a lot and I totally agree with you. If you can't make it, let them know on the day that they can't or changed their minds is not a big deal.

Report them as a no show. The chances are they have let others down as well. Eventually the site will suspend or delete the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.

Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.

I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.

I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done sorry bro"

Unfortunate I agree but no one died and there is always another day!

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