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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

No, if I feel dissatisfaction, I'm likely to know why

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sometimes, yeah. I tend to break it all down and deal with it piece by piece.

After I've catharted and/or slept it off

(Is cathart a verb? It is now)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv done similar only 3 or 4 times in my life one when i was 8 grandad died

And 3 times in the last 3 years i completely broke down to dangerous lows now i have made a point of trying to cut off all emotion good and bad to try and stay out of danger zones anything i now feel i turn to rage and unleash on rugby opponents

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I should stress, I don’t cry. I don’t do that anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m lucky that I’m pretty resilient, I can let most things wash over me. And if something is destructive in my life I tend to move on from it. I’ve done that with jobs I don’t like and even when I’m bored of Fab! I appreciate though that not everyone is able to do that, and it’s tough.

I absolutely understand the importance of looking after your mental health and making sure you open up about problems and don’t bottle them up, and what I’m about to say might sound cold and uncaring, but I do get the impression that these days people aren’t really built with much resilience and buckle at the slightest setback. I’m not sure our education system these days is properly preparing our youngsters for the harsh realities of life that they will encounter when they get out into the real world.

I *know* that’s going to make me sound properly gammony, and that’s not my intention.

Whatever you do don’t let things bottle up and be destructive and make sure you share your issues! I’m lucky that I have a good support network around me, again not everyone will be so lucky in that respect.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Never.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes. "

OP.. are you ok?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes.

OP.. are you ok?

I actually am.

Just tired

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes when I have PMS

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

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Ok...just checking x

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We all get those moments..we are not invincable.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Not these days! Did when I was with an abusive partner life was difficult back then hope u are OK op x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Hope you are ok OP.

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By *igNick1381Man
over a year ago

BRIDGEND

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes. "

I think feelings of nihilism are natural. Sometimes it's easy to feel a kind of 'whats the point' even when everything seems A ok

And there's nothing wrong with having a cry if it's a way to get over something. I rarely do, but when my rescue dog died I cried like a twat, even though he was a palliative care case when I took him on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m lucky that I’m pretty resilient, I can let most things wash over me. And if something is destructive in my life I tend to move on from it. I’ve done that with jobs I don’t like and even when I’m bored of Fab! I appreciate though that not everyone is able to do that, and it’s tough.

I *know* that’s going to make me sound properly gammony, and that’s not my intention.

Basically, Dan, what I’m reading is, you’re built different

Don’t worry you’re not a gammon, you’re just you.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I *know* that’s going to make me sound properly gammony, and that’s not my intention.

I think there's a super tiny line between providing systemic support for people's mental health, and then just going overboard and not building that resilience as you say

- Xeno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I've curled up and cried fairly recently actually. Not because I was dissatisfied with stuff but because I was overwhelmed and had PMT. I cry at least once a month. There's no shame in having a good cry, it's good for the soul. Sending a hug Steve

Pxx

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes. "

No but I've felt and am actually alone..no one in this country except me only two UK numbers in my phone and nearest person who'd stop everything to just give me a hug us 5000 miles away. So I understand TRUE loneliness. I do t dwell on it. I chose this path so I just focus on things I can change or make better.

It's hard but choosing what we spend or waste thoughts on is part of life and may not always be blissful living...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes. "

Yes

Like you just want to hide in a corner or under something and curl into the smallest ball you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it really difficult to cry. My AD's have blocked that ability to release emotion through tears and it's frustrating as hell.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't cry because something isn't satisfying me.

I have periods of melancholy and sadness, along with paranoia and fear.

During those times I sometimes cry, but I stay on my feet or stay sitting up.

It passes.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I *know* that’s going to make me sound properly gammony, and that’s not my intention.

How do you know if these people have been battling something, or more than one thing, for years and it's broken them?

I didn't see my breakdown coming until it happened and I was carrying my whole family, house, dog, car, bills etc on my own, while being severely abused.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find it really difficult to cry. My AD's have blocked that ability to release emotion through tears and it's frustrating as hell. "

Same. I hate them sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some of you get it. And I just want to say, I see you

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes. "

Yes. I have BPD with neurodivergent traits. Better out by myself under my weighted blanket than out uncontrolled when other people are around.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes.

Yes. I have BPD with neurodivergent traits. Better out by myself under my weighted blanket than out uncontrolled when other people are around."

BPD is tough. But understanding it is important. And I hope you have people that try to understand it and you!

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

Sorry to hear that Steve, throwing a lot of love your way

I can't remember the last time I had a cry but do feel pangs of emptiness where everything feels like I'm spinning my wheels, craving something more. I eventually snap out of it though but it can be tough to manage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I *know* that’s going to make me sound properly gammony, and that’s not my intention.

How do you know if these people have been battling something, or more than one thing, for years and it's broken them?

I didn't see my breakdown coming until it happened and I was carrying my whole family, house, dog, car, bills etc on my own, while being severely abused.

That’s sure to be the case with some, which is why I stressed the importance of not bottling feelings and seeking help and support. Sorry to hear about your situation and I hope you are doing well now xxx

I was talking about those people (and I see it in my own family sometimes) that (for example) can’t comprehend not getting their own way all the time, or if someone challenges their views or opinions or politics etc.

Whilst there may indeed be a more complex backstory to some of them, in many cases I genuinely do think it’s because they’ve simply never been told ‘no’. (*Gammon klaxon!! Gammon klaxon!!*)

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Maybe you are just searching for something more significant in life ?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Not usually, but I have this week, numerous times... It's been a shocker.

Usually I pull myself together and know that it will pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes. "

The last 3 weeks have been like that for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah definitely, but then again I'm clinically depressed lol. Trust me if it's starts happening regularly see a professional for help.

Always here to talk to anyone if you need it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very lucky with what I have, but I've realised that will never be a cure for my mental health. I'm just happy for the good moments and love I am blessed to have. I feel guilty sometimes for feeling so low when I'm surrounded by so much good and beautiful souls.

I'm rambling here. Does that even make sense? It's just what I wanted to say when I read your post.

Sending you a virtual hug. And better days.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm very lucky with what I have, but I've realised that will never be a cure for my mental health. I'm just happy for the good moments and love I am blessed to have. I feel guilty sometimes for feeling so low when I'm surrounded by so much good and beautiful souls.

I'm rambling here. Does that even make sense? It's just what I wanted to say when I read your post.

Sending you a virtual hug. And better days.

You always make perfect sense to me weirdly. Even when you’re talking about butt stuff.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

For some reason my other comment didn't bloody post. Extending so much love your way mister, you are absolutely not alone with this and hopefully this thread has shown that

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes. "

Yes.

And I get it more and more as I see this country being r@ped by a government that doesn’t care for its people !

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes. "

No, I get it from sensory overload, but not dissatisfaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it really difficult to cry. My AD's have blocked that ability to release emotion through tears and it's frustrating as hell. "

My AD's? what are those may I ask?

For me, I tend to get to a point where I so badly want to cry and curl up in a ball that I just have a little weep and a shouty session with myself. And if anyone p##ses me off, whilst I am feeling like that then I tend to, not so much lash out at them but say something to upset them just because.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it really difficult to cry. My AD's have blocked that ability to release emotion through tears and it's frustrating as hell.

My AD's? what are those may I ask?

Fluoxetine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Plenty of tough times but I try and crack on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was a kid maybe. I’m grown up now and try not to

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes. "

Yes every so often, I can never put a finger on the cause and it goes eventually but sucks in the moment.

Hope your ok op.

Mrs

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Hugs OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get something. dissatisfaction? I’m not sure I’ve ever felt that, but I’m dealing with something daily, and it’s easier somedays than others.

Roll up in a ball? No, I just fight the tears and the anger I have for myself. I’m tough like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Do you ever?

Or do you ever just randomly come over with waves of this sort of dissatisfaction with almost everything? Like you know how lucky you are to have what you have but can’t seem to feel happy?

I’m not gonna lie, I get that sometimes.

Yes. I have BPD with neurodivergent traits. Better out by myself under my weighted blanket than out uncontrolled when other people are around.

BPD is tough. But understanding it is important. And I hope you have people that try to understand it and you!"

Thanks. It's taking me about 20 years to understand it and there are always new surprises. I can't complain that my life is boring.

I have people...they are called professionals. lol! Everyone else spazes out at me spazing out.

I radically accept it.

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