FabSwingers.com forum: Genuine single guys

By *eordie4u OP Man
over a year ago

Amesbury

Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Albert Camus said "man is the only creature who refuses to be what he is".

Therefore, you need to become a liar and/or a cheat as you think they have the most fun.

And if it all goes tits up, blame Camus.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?"

Have a great online presence; profile pictures, forum and chat room banter.

Have a great offline presence; attend club events, organised socials and other events....

Make the effort to be present, be seen, be noticed...

The swinging world will begin to open its doors.

Amelia

Ps the "don't be a dick" is also really really REALLY important....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a species man is not manganous so restricting yourself to 1 mate is going against millions of years of genetic hard wiring so if you marry then it's your own fault....

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Here's the thing though no one ruins it for anyone else.It's and excuse that people use to make it seem like that's the reason they don't have any luck on here.

And the old 'I'm one of the good guys most of the others are bad 'threads usually doesn't work in the person's favour really. It's just virtual signalling really and a turn off.I have never been a fan of those who put others down to try and big themselves up.

There are plenty of reasons people have no luck on here. Some are pretty obvious at times but it's easier to blame others for lack of success I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t call yourself genuine and don’t blame others for your lack of success.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

No one spoils it for anyone. The word genuine is thrown around so much on fab. There are lots of popular guys on fab with great profiles, that make an effort to get to socials, clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?"

Oh ffs.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?"

The simple answer is be yourself. If you are what other people want you will stand out.

Too many guys try to make themselves out to be something that they think other people are looking for.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

The genuine guys are simply running faster and harder to get ahead of the lions and tigers and bears, oh my!

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Go to forum search and type in "genuine". You will find that there is lots of genuine in fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody ruins it for anyone! If anything the cheats and liars make the decent ones stand out more!

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Go to forum search and type in "genuine". You will find that there is lots of genuine in fab..."

This.

And if you add 'discrete', 'discreet' or even a cheeky 'descrate' after the word 'genuine', you unlock the platinum ticket to the BoneZone

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Make yourself as appealing as you can op,public pics would help,they don't have to show your face,but most of us will delete messages from shadows.

As others said socials and joining in on the forums can help you get known.

If you create a good profile and sell yourself you will stand out ,the good ones tend to .

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By *eordie4u OP Man
over a year ago

Amesbury

"Don’t call yourself genuine and don’t blame others for your lack of success."

I have had plenty of success on other sites. It’s just this one that I am being told about married men and others ruining it. I can only go off what I am being told that is all.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Don’t call yourself genuine and don’t blame others for your lack of success."

Exactly this

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?

Have a great online presence; profile pictures, forum and chat room banter.

Have a great offline presence; attend club events, organised socials and other events....

Make the effort to be present, be seen, be noticed...

The swinging world will begin to open its doors.

Amelia

Ps the "don't be a dick" is also really really REALLY important....

This! Solid advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t call yourself genuine and don’t blame others for your lack of success.

I have had plenty of success on other sites. It’s just this one that I am being told about married men and others ruining it. I can only go off what I am being told that is all."

Who told you? Was it Brigitte? You can take anything she says with a large pinch of sel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t call yourself genuine and don’t blame others for your lack of success.

I have had plenty of success on other sites. It’s just this one that I am being told about married men and others ruining it. I can only go off what I am being told that is all."

If they’re that bad it should make it easier for you. The only person that is responsible for you not being successful is you.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Don’t call yourself genuine and don’t blame others for your lack of success.

I have had plenty of success on other sites. It’s just this one that I am being told about married men and others ruining it. I can only go off what I am being told that is all."

We hear this all the time

If other sites are so much better for you why persist here if it's not working out?

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"Don’t call yourself genuine and don’t blame others for your lack of success.

I have had plenty of success on other sites. It’s just this one that I am being told about married men and others ruining it. I can only go off what I am being told that is all."

Something you've heard about or experienced here? I've heard lots about it but not something I've personally come across. But the "don't be a dick" thing is definitely true. On Fab and in life, I find.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Another "genuine" one. Whatever the reasons for your own success or lack of, there being married men here is not it. Lots of people prefer married men by the way as shown on another thread and lots of women are married too, as well as lots of the couples being married to other people. Fab would be a much less active and boring place without all these people. Just focus on being the best you can be and stop saying genuine

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Just chat to people. Some will respond, others won’t. Just the same as in a pub, not everybody will want to talk to you.

I’ve not done too badly on here, all things considered.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Ask yourself a very simple question OP. Cheats and liars are quite easy to spot, certainly on fab, so would you want to meet people that cannot spot them? As being a swinger requires a fair degree of trust (certainly in terms of sexual health), I tend to focus on people that can spot cheats and liars as they have a handle on things and make informed choices.

People that complain about cheats and liars are therefore (in my reckoning) not using their noodle and not people I would focus on or want to meet, in a way I’m quite grateful for the cheats and liars as they tend to expose people that make poor choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is getting ahead of anyone else. People will either be interested in each other or not. I suspect that sometimes folk think there's some magic formula that requires the perfect profile, having veris, or some other stuff. I'm not saying those things don't help, but it's not a requirement either

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?"

Offer chocolates

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?

The simple answer is be yourself. If you are what other people want you will stand out.

Too many guys try to make themselves out to be something that they think other people are looking for."

I'm fairly new to this, so I have to say that I really like this and some of the other comments on here.

It's nice to see some constructive advice and comments

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?

Have a great online presence; profile pictures, forum and chat room banter.

Have a great offline presence; attend club events, organised socials and other events....

Make the effort to be present, be seen, be noticed...

The swinging world will begin to open its doors.

Amelia

Ps the "don't be a dick" is also really really REALLY important....

This too...although I've yet to experience a club

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I dont use the word "genuine" to describe myself. I let those who meet me decide. Ive found this site better for meeting people than any other site. I dont share face pics, dont have dick pics, dont ask people for face pics, but when people contact me they find me interesting, charming, attractive and trustworthy. Its just like meeting someone in a pub or cafe and starting a chat, with no agenda, no expectation. I can accomodate , which is an advantage, and also offer a different experience that most fabbers haven't had before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?

Offer chocolates

Or wine! But not flowers... Or cash

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Nobody ruins it for anyone else... The decent guys stand out a mile, and are willing to put some effort in.

Don't blame other people if you're not having any luck.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?"

There is no cheat code, it's just about luck, timing, personality, luck, good photos and luck. Unfortunately the ladies will have to wade through many cheats and liars before they discover the diamonds in the rough like you and I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just do my thing. If this doesn't get me ahead of the dicks, it probably means I'm a dick. Fortunately I've not hit that roadblock yet...

(I also bought the platinum membership which puts message to the top of ppls inboxes)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This a battle you'll struggle with sadly but I would say it's how you would message a person respectfully that will come across the kind of person you are

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"Here's the thing though no one ruins it for anyone else.It's and excuse that people use to make it seem like that's the reason they don't have any luck on here.

There are plenty of reasons people have no luck on here. Some are pretty obvious at times but it's easier to blame others for lack of success I guess."

Well said

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?"

Patience, a willingness to actually chat to people, an acceptance that you may not be for everyone and a well written profile help.

But number 1 is attending socials and clubs

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Actually being honest without an expectation that you are a perfect fit for everyone.

Being precise in what you want if 0-99 and throwing a catch all net is for you then take ownership of that but don't expect someone interested in a guy knowing exactly what he wants to move over so you can be seen.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Getting yourself known at socials and clubs lets people see the real you. Sometimes, profiles aren't read, or misinterpreted. It's a numbers game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t call yourself genuine and don’t blame others for your lack of success.

I have had plenty of success on other sites. It’s just this one that I am being told about married men and others ruining it. I can only go off what I am being told that is all.

We hear this all the time

If other sites are so much better for you why persist here if it's not working out?"

Probably plenty of fish, where the girls are looking for a bf and he just uses it for a quick hook up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

** Nobody ruins it for you **

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all genuine until we get a message that we either miss or don't want to reply to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, tailoring a message/a response to someones likes or dislikes isn't being nice or genuine, it's being deceitful. If you have to over-tailor a message then you're trying too hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?"

I find going to a club and becoming a bit of a regular works for me then use Fab as a way to keep in touch with those I meet there, only problem it gets rather expensive I think I've spent over £300 going to my favourite club in the last two of months

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Just invest your efforts meaningfully. Ignore others, except to learn from them. Good luck!

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?"

Use one of the main stream apps but be clear about your intentions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have 2 accounts; you, and your superhero alterego. Use your real one for behest and genuine (and discreet if you must!), and the other one for having a 3 foot dong and a tongue like a salmon filet. See which one brings you the most luck. Hint: It'a all about how you interact, not what your lies, damn lies, or statistics read like...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curious to how genuine guys can get ahead of the cheats and liars that ruin it?

Use one of the main stream apps but be clear about your intentions."

Pretty much this

Takes 3 seconds on here to make an account and message every woman with a 20 mile radius

Takes a lot more effort on the other apps so you don’t get as much bullshit

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

Pretty much this

Takes 3 seconds on here to make an account and message every woman with a 20 mile radius

Takes a lot more effort on the other apps so you don’t get as much bullshit "

You have to match before messaging too, which increases the likelihood of replies as well.

You have to be clear about your intentions in the bio though, otherwise you end up wasting time & energy chatting for it to go nowhere.

Clear, without being crass, that is.

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