FabSwingers.com forum: Messaging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If you don't ask you don't get, love"

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"thought I would try my luck"

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"god loves a trier"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Next question. Why the hell do I then get abusive messages when I don't reply. It's full on pants

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I don't think they read profiles. Just see a woman online and copy and paste their chat up line

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Next question. Why the hell do I then get abusive messages when I don't reply. It's full on pants "

They threw their toys out of the pram

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above I’m guessing. I just keep mine short and sweet for those reasons, pointless writing a long bio.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think they read profiles. Just see a woman online and copy and paste their chat up line "

Definitely this. I've had people 200 miles away send exactly the same message weeks apart.

It's crazy

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I always read the bio, I'm normal

as I find them interesting to read then decide whether to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody on fab reads bios. And I’m not even joking, women that are silly enough message me don’t read mine either.

Men I expect it- Cock in hand vibes.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Nobody on fab reads bios. And I’m not even joking, women that are silly enough message me don’t read mine either.

Men I expect it- Cock in hand vibes. "

I read it, I just disregarded your wishes

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think sometimes they do read it ,but just ignore what you want anyway.

I've had "I know I'm 200 miles away but...or I know you don't meet smokers but ,they think they will be the exception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why bother reading profiles when most don't reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always read the bio, I'm normal

as I find them interesting to read then decide whether to "

Thank you!!! For me it's logical!

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By *ostAirmenMan
over a year ago

crewe

If they are worth talking to they would of read the profile . I have yet to message anyone yet as I don’t feel I have found the right person / persons .

I understand it’s very different for women as many men do cut and paste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

90% of men who message me clearly don’t read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who gives a shit what *they* want when your dicks got the itch

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think sometimes they do read it ,but just ignore what you want anyway.

I've had "I know I'm 200 miles away but...or I know you don't meet smokers but ,they think they will be the exception."

Nothing applies to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

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truthfully we do read it, but we are horny so we try our luck. Also it could be because we fancy you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why bother reading profiles when most don't reply.

Good point, I hadn't thought of that

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I always read the bio, I'm normal

as I find them interesting to read then decide whether to

Thank you!!! For me it's logical!"

It's just normal behaviour

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By *eeds fun guyMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

Yes I always read profiles, In fact I read yours and you sound so nice

Thank you for been so truthful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they are worth talking to they would of read the profile . I have yet to message anyone yet as I don’t feel I have found the right person / persons .

I understand it’s very different for women as many men do cut and paste "

Good on you though. It's just pointless messaging people when they aren't looking for what you have to offer. Finding the right person is a priority

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

It's not just 'when women write'....

In the first paragraph of ours it clearly states not to message asking to meet.

And yet.....every....single.....day.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gorgeous wow xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"90% of men who message me clearly don’t read profiles."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who gives a shit what *they* want when your dicks got the itch "

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody on fab reads bios. And I’m not even joking, women that are silly enough message me don’t read mine either.

Men I expect it- Cock in hand vibes.

I read it, I just disregarded your wishes

I hate you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody on fab reads bios. And I’m not even joking, women that are silly enough message me don’t read mine either.

Men I expect it- Cock in hand vibes.

I read it, I just disregarded your wishes

I hate you

But I’ll forgive of you send boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

Can't say I do that, but I'm sure many do. Broad sweeping statements aside...

Why? No idea, probably comes under the same bracket of throwing mud and seeing what sticks.

We all have our crosses to bear with this place, it is what it is. You just try to muddle through best you can.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

It's not just 'when women write'....

In the first paragraph of ours it clearly states not to message asking to meet.

And yet.....every....single.....day.....

Bloody hell. Delete lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Nobody on fab reads bios. And I’m not even joking, women that are silly enough message me don’t read mine either.

Men I expect it- Cock in hand vibes.

I read it, I just disregarded your wishes

I hate you

But I’ll forgive of you send boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they see a nice pair of tits and juicy pussy and peachy arse, which causes their brain to go on strike...!

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Bugger - I need to see what’s within 10 miles of Wolverhampton

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"they see a nice pair of tits and juicy pussy and peachy arse, which causes their brain to go on strike...!

Good point lol

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Believe it or not, I always read your profile, and if something catches my eye or a nice personality comes out in it, I will message

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Mostly it’s because their little man is doing the thinking rather than the brain… it’s fine. Laugh, delete, move on. The way I see it Mars and Venus are always going to work differently so who am I to argue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

Maybe u just to hot to resist texting you .

Me personally I love your photos , you are hot .

But if I was a smoker I wouldn’t text you .

Same as I don’t text u cause I’m a bit more far then 10 miles ^^

I do read profiles … I guess is hope .

Hope run things here . I guess …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many somehow think it doesn’t apply to them. Lost count of the number of messages that start with ‘I know I’m not what you’re looking for but….’

Some don’t read it at all and others ignore it!

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"I always read the bio, I'm normal

as I find them interesting to read then decide whether to "

...yep, same as this but I think Forumites represent the greater proportion of those that read them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Next question. Why the hell do I then get abusive messages when I don't reply. It's full on pants "

Because they are ignorants with low energy to recognise and deal with a painful rejection .

I consider that a reason to block . Harrassment . Rude n selfish .

Sorry to hear Who is texting you is miss respecting you x x

If u ever pass Luton don’t be shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think they read profiles. Just see a woman online and copy and paste their chat up line "

I read . I don’t text a lady who goes clubs only

Or a “ black only “ takes me severe hours under the sun to turn black , and trust me is not in uk that is gonna happen

So I may skip texting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think they read profiles. Just see a woman online and copy and paste their chat up line "

I read . I don’t text a lady who goes clubs only

Or a “ black only “ takes me severe hours under the sun to turn black , and trust me is not in uk that is gonna happen

So I may skip texting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of the above I’m guessing. I just keep mine short and sweet for those reasons, pointless writing a long bio. "

Extra long bios … forgive me … but … came on …

Not being rude but I need put my “ superman reading mode “ and just go throught it …

Not many , but a couple of them I’m sorry I gave up half way there … to much …

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

You haven't heard about the "profile override" feature? If a man doesn't read your profile then what you say about what you want doesn't count. We get this frequently.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"All of the above I’m guessing. I just keep mine short and sweet for those reasons, pointless writing a long bio.

Extra long bios … forgive me … but … came on …

Not being rude but I need put my “ superman reading mode “ and just go throught it …

Not many , but a couple of them I’m sorry I gave up half way there … to much …

Hopefully if you find what they say boring then you won't want to contact them, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think sometimes they do read it ,but just ignore what you want anyway.

I've had "I know I'm 200 miles away but...or I know you don't meet smokers but ,they think they will be the exception."

And just have a quick fag quickly before go upstairs

Hiding behind the bins so u don’t see they smoke

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

Personally I always read a profile before messaging to check compatibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of the above I’m guessing. I just keep mine short and sweet for those reasons, pointless writing a long bio.

Extra long bios … forgive me … but … came on …

Not being rude but I need put my “ superman reading mode “ and just go throught it …

Not many , but a couple of them I’m sorry I gave up half way there … to much …

Long profiles can be a great filter!

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Thinking of Shawshank Redemption and Morgan Freeman saying “I hope!”

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By *im67Man
over a year ago

London

"Next question. Why the hell do I then get abusive messages when I don't reply. It's full on pants "

I would never send an abusive message to someone that doesn't reply I accept it and move on I suppose the ones that do do it have had a dent in their egos and throwing their toys out of the pram but hope you report the ones that send you that stuff theirs no need for it

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Next question. Why the hell do I then get abusive messages when I don't reply. It's full on pants

There’s a whole other thread running due to an op basically spitting the dummy

Male entitlement is usually the issue not that women don’t also have their “moments” but I’m willing to bet a fair proportion of the “women” profiles that act similarly? Aren’t actually women

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

I'm guessing those incredible boobs have something to do with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Next question. Why the hell do I then get abusive messages when I don't reply. It's full on pants

I do always report the bad ones tbh. I'm not sure if anything happens but I always do xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ways read profiles fully and tailor my messages. I don't do copy and paste. If I don't get a reply, which I don't, Lol, It's not a big deal. Just move on. However, one thing I've found, no matter how long your message or enticing it is, it is of no use unless the person finds you attractive.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

'I'm willing to travel hundreds of miles to meet you this week' doesn't cut it with me.

The more desperate and disrespectful of my boundaries they are, the easier it is for them to self-select and identify as a no go. Ever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"'I'm willing to travel hundreds of miles to meet you this week' doesn't cut it with me.

The more desperate and disrespectful of my boundaries they are, the easier it is for them to self-select and identify as a no go. Ever. "

Love this. And so true

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

Because you will be cock struck by my amazing appendage.

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By *nhinderedWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It’s INCREDIBLY frustrating, just chancing their luck I guess

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

Interesting questions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunately I don't have to deal with those kind of messages but I do feel for the ladies looking for men on here.

Due to the sheer number of men to everyone else on here it must be nearly impossible to keep up with the volume of messages you get.

Mostly from people who just didn't read what you are looking in the first place!

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By *im67Man
over a year ago

London

"Next question. Why the hell do I then get abusive messages when I don't reply. It's full on pants

I do always report the bad ones tbh. I'm not sure if anything happens but I always do xxx"

Well I'm glad you do report them I've never had an abusive message but also understand your point about guys who don't read the profiles but I read them every time but it's not only the straight guys that don't read them I usually get plenty of messages from gay men wanting to pleasure me orally or pay their back door a visit.

It gets on my nerves especially the persistent few who don't take no for an answer as it clearly states I'm straight the persistent ones get blocked in the end lol xxx

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By *oozleMan
over a year ago

high wycombe

I think it’s important to read the profile on someone I’m messaging, I only then message if I fit their requirement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read profiles and respect preferences. Any I have messaged otherwise are because of forum thread interaction that we have taken into messaging..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Next question. Why the hell do I then get abusive messages when I don't reply. It's full on pants

I do always report the bad ones tbh. I'm not sure if anything happens but I always do xxx

It gets on my nerves especially the persistent few who don't take no for an answer as it clearly states I'm straight the persistent ones get blocked in the end lol xxx"

It's so frustrating. The majority of messages i get i dont even bother reading. I can see without opening that they don't fit the bill. Grrrr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fortunately I don't have to deal with those kind of messages but I do feel for the ladies looking for men on here.

Due to the sheer number of men to everyone else on here it must be nearly impossible to keep up with the volume of messages you get.

Mostly from people who just didn't read what you are looking in the first place!

That's exactly right. I could get up to 100 messages and 95 would be from Scotland or London etc. Pointless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

Because you will be cock struck by my amazing appendage.

"
damn it, never thought of that hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s INCREDIBLY frustrating, just chancing their luck I guess "

Probably. Does my head in lol

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Long long ago, when I first started working, I was told by the head of the company that if you go out for a night out and want to get laid, don’t waste time chatting someone up for ages, just go up to each woman and say, ‘do you want to come home with me’, you might end up asking 50 women, and get turned down 49 times, but you only need one of them to say yes.

Sadly that attitude hasn’t changed in many mens minds and the problem on here is that this method is exactly what many guys do, they feel that reading a profile is a waste of time, just send out the same message to every woman they see, and they will probably get pissed off at rejections and take it out on women who engage at all, but their view will be that again, they only need one to say yes. It’s fucking ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a bit off two things

One people don’t read profiles

And the other chancing there luck

It’s one thing that’s always mythed me is distance

If someone’s willing to travel it then why should it matter how far they away

Or in less it’s the person is married can only do day time

Or single parent and can’t get baby sitter so can only do day time when in school

Other wise I think people are cut them selfs short

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

You've got a ridiculously good body and look amazing so I'm assuming they are hoping to overturn your objections with their well written, witty messages.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"You've got a ridiculously good body and look amazing so I'm assuming they are hoping to overturn your objections with their well written, witty messages. "

Irresistible.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Or they're a big fan of raisins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

Some people travel, some live between two cities, . Some move by the time they write.

The idea of a distance restiction is that we all live and work next door. Not sure this is the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question for the men

When women write what they are looking for in their profile, such as no smokers, specific distance etc....why still message?

Do you not bother to read profiles?

Do you think that it's always worth a try?

Is there another reason?

Sometimes if I see something on there profile that I think is really clever or something amazing that I can't help myself but to compliment them on I will just send a quick compliment but start by saying that I have read there profile and know I'm not there type and go on to compliment then I never expect a reply and if I do get a thank you I just say your welcome and then not bother them anymore, also have messaged the odd guy doing the same thing and yes I'm straight not just fab straight

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By *im67Man
over a year ago

London

"Next question. Why the hell do I then get abusive messages when I don't reply. It's full on pants

I do always report the bad ones tbh. I'm not sure if anything happens but I always do xxx

It gets on my nerves especially the persistent few who don't take no for an answer as it clearly states I'm straight the persistent ones get blocked in the end lol xxx

It's so frustrating. The majority of messages i get i dont even bother reading. I can see without opening that they don't fit the bill. Grrrr"

Just to show I do read profiles I went through yours and was going to message until I got to the near the end of yours I don't live within ten miles of Wolverhampton gutted I still probably wouldn't fit the bill if I did lol but I fancy getting out of London and 10 miles of Wolverhampton seems the perfect place to start house hunting could message then if I find a suitable house

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By *hef HMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

""If you don't ask you don't get, love""

My favorite saying

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

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