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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Make love!

Yeah right...do you think there is a difference between the two?

And is one more sexually fulfilling than the other????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honest answer...

Yes, for me yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honest answer...

Yes, for me yes!

"

An abyss of a difference but no lesser need for both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honest answer...

Yes, for me yes!

An abyss of a difference but no lesser need for both.

"

Sorry ..... my answer.....YES one is far more fulfilling than the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely a big difference.

As to one or the other being more fulfilling, when I get 'made love' to I'll let you know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hmmm not convinced, but interesting to see peoples points of view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes a fuck can make it fel cheap but a night of passion alot more fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe there is a difference between a fuck and making love.

My question would be, is NSA fun the former or the latter?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Make love!

Yeah right...do you think there is a difference between the two?

And is one more sexually fulfilling than the other????"

1 - Yes

2 - No... well not if you just want a good hard seeing to anyway.

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Yes there is definitely a difference, and you can still have both from one person, depends on the mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can have the first just NSA but not the 2nd, making Love comes with emotions ..............xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ARENT 34ST -ASS56N AND DES5RE E06T56NS/

6H FFS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ARENT 34ST -ASS56N AND DES5RE E06T56NS/

6H FFS"

OK you can have passionate sex and hot wet hard sex NSA but when it comes to 'making love' you are talking about real emotions and you can't have NSA sex with someone you feel that deeply for - well not in my book anyway xxx

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"ARENT 34ST -ASS56N AND DES5RE E06T56NS/

6H FFS"

Razz, since you've responded to that, any chance you could translate it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ARENT 34ST -ASS56N AND DES5RE E06T56NS/

6H FFS

Razz, since you've responded to that, any chance you could translate it?"

Aren't just passion and desire emotions

lol number lock was on !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lust passion and desire yes...thanks razz, couldnt think what the hell was going on with pc lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ARENT 34ST -ASS56N AND DES5RE E06T56NS/

6H FFS

OK you can have passionate sex and hot wet hard sex NSA but when it comes to 'making love' you are talking about real emotions and you can't have NSA sex with someone you feel that deeply for - well not in my book anyway xxx"

real emotions???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting, raised the subject with a lady just the other day!

The word "tenderness" was mentioned!

I'd say that 'making love' can't be part of NSA fun, simply because the "l" word and NSA are in some ways, opposites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lust passion and desire yes...thanks razz, couldnt think what the hell was going on with pc lol"

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PSML, thought you invented a new language!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"lust passion and desire yes...thanks razz, couldnt think what the hell was going on with pc lol

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PSML, thought you invented a new language! "

Well I do talk in tongues...but shhhh its a secret lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so tenderness....

I disagree, you can have tenderness in a meet, it depends on how much of you you are putting into it!

I dont think tenderness is exclusive to making love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ARENT 34ST -ASS56N AND DES5RE E06T56NS/

6H FFS

OK you can have passionate sex and hot wet hard sex NSA but when it comes to 'making love' you are talking about real emotions and you can't have NSA sex with someone you feel that deeply for - well not in my book anyway xxx

real emotions???"

For me to 'make love' with someone I would have to be 'in love' with them, but I can be passionate and horny and sexy without feeling anything but lust for a guy, to me at least there's a big difference....................... x

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Make love!

Yeah right...do you think there is a difference between the two?

And is one more sexually fulfilling than the other????"

Yes, a big difference. Making love is what we do as a couple, having sex is what I do with a virtual stranger. Straight up NSA sex.

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"so tenderness....

I disagree, you can have tenderness in a meet, it depends on how much of you you are putting into it!

I dont think tenderness is exclusive to making love."

ooohhhh good comment, have to agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hmmm interesting

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Just my opinion… but… I always thought making love was about…. love. The sharing of emotions and the desire to express the connection of feelings through physical interaction.

In short - the difference is what's going on in your head.

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By *Y MAN n MECouple
over a year ago

FIFE


"Make love!

Yeah right...do you think there is a difference between the two?

And is one more sexually fulfilling than the other????

Yes, a big difference. Making love is what we do as a couple, having sex is what I do with a virtual stranger. Straight up NSA sex."

You took the words right out of my mouth, but most of our strangers turn into very good friends..could be said friends with benefits lol was also about to say isn't it funny how most of the replies here are from women????just goes to show the guys just like to shag while us girls see a difference...I expect the guys will prove me wrong now... or will they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

In short - the difference is what's going on in your head."

Here here, that just about sums it up

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Lay our emotions out for all to see?

That's hard enough in a relationship, never mind on a message board!

ffs, someone'll use the C word in a minute...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lay our emotions out for all to see?

That's hard enough in a relationship, never mind on a message board!

ffs, someone'll use the C word in a minute..."

Come here and give us a 'cuddle' xxx

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

In short - the difference is what's going on in your head.

Here here, that just about sums it up "

Right, so one party could be cheerily having sex while the other party is making love?

Actually, yes, that happens a lot, now I think about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Group hug time!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

Come here and give us a 'cuddle' xxx"

Could Wales cope with the additional flooding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

In short - the difference is what's going on in your head.

Here here, that just about sums it up

Right, so one party could be cheerily having sex while the other party is making love?

Actually, yes, that happens a lot, now I think about it. "

No I don't think that could happen, there needs to be a deep connection happening and that can't by default be a one-sided thing ??

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

In short - the difference is what's going on in your head.

Here here, that just about sums it up

Right, so one party could be cheerily having sex while the other party is making love?

Actually, yes, that happens a lot, now I think about it. "

Yep... well the other party 'thinks' they are making love anyway

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By *imnher2Woman
over a year ago

watford

if its with my hubby its love making no matter how fast or slow its done. now with a any1 else its just nsa fuck

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

In short - the difference is what's going on in your head.

Here here, that just about sums it up

Right, so one party could be cheerily having sex while the other party is making love?

Actually, yes, that happens a lot, now I think about it.

No I don't think that could happen, there needs to be a deep connection happening and that can't by default be a one-sided thing ??"

Have you never heard anyone say ... "and I thought you loved me!"

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"No I don't think that could happen, there needs to be a deep connection happening and that can't by default be a one-sided thing ??"

I'll give you a list of my exes who need that explaining to them...

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By *1dKingColeMan
over a year ago

east london


"so tenderness....

I disagree, you can have tenderness in a meet, it depends on how much of you you are putting into it!

I don't think tenderness is exclusive to making love."

I have to strongly agree with this point.

I believe to get the best out of a meet you need to be able to relate!

A great body can be a visual turn on, but a poor or disinterested attitude would kill it dam quickly regardless.

The phrase 'Making love' though, does imply 'love' not just friendship, respect, attraction, etc in any mix.

But it also opens the can of worms: what is love?

And, there are many types of love, can you not love a friend?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I only make love to my boyfriend, i fuck everyone else. Think i would freeze if someone asked me to make love to them its something ive done with very few people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yep, you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

In short - the difference is what's going on in your head.

Here here, that just about sums it up

Right, so one party could be cheerily having sex while the other party is making love?

Actually, yes, that happens a lot, now I think about it.

No I don't think that could happen, there needs to be a deep connection happening and that can't by default be a one-sided thing ??

Have you never heard anyone say ... "and I thought you loved me!""

All I can do is state my own feelings on the subject, for me I couldn't 'make love' without being 'in love' and to be 'in love' with someone I would have to know they felt the same............my marriage went from sex to love making and back to sex as it fell apart and I knew the difference x x

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I only make love to my boyfriend, i fuck everyone else. Think i would freeze if someone asked me to make love to them its something ive done with very few people."

My mum says people make love to make babies... so if they mention making love they can fuck right off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But it also opens the can of worms: what is love?

And, there are many types of love, can you not love a friend?

"

.

Now this is getting deep!

Can I love a friend? Yes, in the sense that I care deeply for them, and would not want to see him/her being hurt or upset.

Not dissimilar to the way I love my pets.

At this moment in time, "love" means emotional dependency for me, and I am not emotionally dependent on any of my playmates.

Hence the reason I do not feel "empty" after having sex with them.

Make sense?

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

This is all getting too deep and emotional for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excuse me, is this the right thread for a blow job??

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

And, there are many types of love, can you not love a friend?

"

I love fresh pasta... but I'm not quite ready to suggest we go ring shopping.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

And, there are many types of love, can you not love a friend?

I love fresh pasta... but I'm not quite ready to suggest we go ring shopping."

That's probably for the best...I hear that pasta has been seeing some tomatoes on the side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That's probably for the best...I hear that pasta has been seeing some tomatoes on the side.

"

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I thought pasta is seeing bacon and cream on the side

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

And, there are many types of love, can you not love a friend?

I love fresh pasta... but I'm not quite ready to suggest we go ring shopping.

That's probably for the best...I hear that pasta has been seeing some tomatoes on the side.

"

The bastard!

And I thought he loved me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That's probably for the best...I hear that pasta has been seeing some tomatoes on the side.

.

I thought pasta is seeing bacon and cream on the side "

Ooooo get them all together and have a party !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think there is about 3 mins of a difference between making love and fuckin lol xx

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


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I thought pasta is seeing bacon and cream on the side"

I refuse to hear a word said against bacon....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I thought pasta is seeing bacon and cream on the side

I refuse to hear a word said against bacon...."

.

I love bacon, and so you won't hear a bad word about it from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think there is about 3 mins of a difference between making love and fuckin lol xx "

3 mins??? is that to time the egg to go with the bacon, pasta etc???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I have the missus on all fours doing unspeakable things with another fella, she loves it - is that what you mean by love making ?

Clearly I am confused as to what love actually is and as a guide - condom on no love, condom off and I turn into cupid personified twanging his bow and shooting my love in any direction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only make love to my boyfriend, i fuck everyone else. Think i would freeze if someone asked me to make love to them its something ive done with very few people.

My mum says people make love to make babies... so if they mention making love they can fuck right off!"

PMSL Do you take it up the shitter - saves any baby worries doncha know

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

well I have to say...there are playmates I've met on Fab...and yes some them I love...yes there's NSA but ........I love them to bits....but I think there is a huge difference to loving someone and "being in love"....making love,at least for me, is totally different......I love sex...the thrill...the passion.....but when it's with someone who you connect with emotionally....it's just a whole different thing

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"well I have to say...there are playmates I've met on Fab...and yes some them I love...yes there's NSA but ........I love them to bits....but I think there is a huge difference to loving someone and "being in love"....making love,at least for me, is totally different......I love sex...the thrill...the passion.....but when it's with someone who you connect with emotionally....it's just a whole different thing"

Couldn't agree more Chezza!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prince Charles's immortal words, pictured with his bride to be, Diana, standing next to him up at Balmoral I think.

""Whatever love is"" That guy knew how to impress his fiancee!! What a pillock!! lol

However, I do believe that there are various types or levels of love! But to 'make love' to somebody, there surely needs to be some emotion, a connection.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Make love!

Yeah right...do you think there is a difference between the two?

And is one more sexually fulfilling than the other????"

There's def a difference for me - and they can both be fulfilling but possibly in a slightly different way - I wouldn't call having sex with someone else making love cos we don't love each other!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so tenderness....

I disagree, you can have tenderness in a meet, it depends on how much of you you are putting into it!

I dont think tenderness is exclusive to making love.

ooohhhh good comment, have to agree "

I agree with this too.......!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When meeting a guy maybe he thinks that he is making love to you with all the wild passion at the start of a relationship has, but possibly for me its just sex and making love is really just between me and hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Its all sex to me but I just happen to be in love with my husband

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

I agree with most comments above - you can only "make love" with someone you are in love with.

You can have many tender moments with regualr meets, and it all being very nice and sexy, but yu cant make love.

Yes of course there are different levels of love, and i do love some of my great mates deeply, but those of who i play with - its still just sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was actually at work last week and one of the old dears made love in the room we were in.

She had an audience.

I thought it was great going for a 86yr old with sight problems. And a zimmer frame.

Ok ok...so it was scrabble we were doing.

Gave us a laff tho

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"I was actually at work last week and one of the old dears made love in the room we were in.

She had an audience.

I thought it was great going for a 86yr old with sight problems. And a zimmer frame.

Ok ok...so it was scrabble we were doing.

Gave us a laff tho

"

nice one Peaches!!!!xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course we all know the difference.

But I have had meets that were definitely just a shag...ok at the time, but left me cold.

More recently I have found it can be very different. Lots of tenderness, lots of kissing and cuddles, talking and yes it did feel like 'making love'.

Even if I am kidding myself, I know which one I prefer...the one that left me with a wicked smile on my face for 2 days

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By *1dKingColeMan
over a year ago

east london

I think one of the issues in this 'debate' is that "making love" is a euphemism.

The sexual expression of love with a partner is incredibly rewarding for many reasons. It reinforces bonds, it expresses desire, it hooks in on so many levels.

But it is sex with someone you love (I was going to say 'with a lover' but that also gets mixed up. LOL)

In reality I don't think the English language has sufficient terms to adequately differentiate between sexlove and lovesex, or loves and lovers, or any of those sex/relationship combinations, despite the numerous ways we have to say Fuck!

We all agree that good sex is great! We just cant agree on the definition of what makes it. LOL

I believe some level of caring is a prerequisite of *good* sex, but that does not mean love. Being in love does not mean good sex either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the Klingons say it best nga'chuq

Poetry sheer poetry...

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting


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I believe some level of caring is a prerequisite of *good* sex, but that does not mean love. Being in love does not mean good sex either.

"

Being in love and having to put up with the crap sex. Hence swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically, as I think I said earlier, there's a range of types or levels of love imho.

Just as whenever a serious discussion like this gets going here, it becomes apparent that what is swinging to one person, is slightly different to another!

At the end of the day though, we should all be able to get along together! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think there is a diffrence...

how ever i have only just fucked, never made love... thank fuck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ARENT 34ST -ASS56N AND DES5RE E06T56NS/

6H FFS"

The internet itself is trying to communicate with us in a mysterious way!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ARENT 34ST -ASS56N AND DES5RE E06T56NS/

6H FFS

The internet itself is trying to communicate with us in a mysterious way!"

badly by the look of things lol

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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What about sensual sex rather than a fuck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot here are just looking to fuck ,,,, as thay see getting close too people not a good thing ,,,,, for me friend- ship and fucking is good. JO XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about sensual sex rather than a fuck!"

Sen s ual nope never heard the word xx

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