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Are you the same in person as you are on t’internet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Like maybe you’re more confident behind a keyboard than in real life, or maybe it’s not until people meet you face to face that your real charm comes to the fore?

Or maybe online you is exactly the same as “in person” you?

I like to think I’m mostly an open book and similar online as in person - but I am shy and quite nervous about meeting new people at first until the ice is broken so maybe it takes a short while to get fully into my swing.

But what about YOU, Fabsters? I’m curious to know!

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Yeah I chat shit on here and in real life lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I'm much funnier in real life.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Yep you get what you see no frills or bows

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm the same away from the internet confident, like a open book. Help those whom feel less confident

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I think I'm the same. But others on here can either confirm or disprove. Mr KC is a strong, silent type

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

As 13 people have viewed me today and I don’t like that number, I would say check my verifications and see what other people who have met me have to say (not in stealth mode)

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I’m shy in real life, I find socials really stressful

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

I think I am. I’m confident and bubbly. Can walk into a room alone & meet a stranger with confidence…. Although in real life & internet a lot of it is bravado. I don’t actually think I’m half as attractive as I pretend to be.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m shy in real life, I find socials really stressful

"

Real.

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree


"As 13 people have viewed me today and I don’t like that number, I would say check my verifications and see what other people who have met me have to say (not in stealth mode)"

It’s 14 now (kind of - I did check you out earlier as well )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m nice with it online and in real life (if I like you).

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don’t talk much IRL. I’ve been told I’m witty and funny though. I’m a dreadful flirt in real life too.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I gather that I can come across as abrasive online...from my point of view I'm exactly the same, but people obviously can't see my body language, smirk, or hear my tone of voice online, so aren't aware that it's sarcasm or piss taking, and not bitchiness. I guess emojis don't fully portray that *shrug*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shyer, quieter, nerdy-er..

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By *ostAirmenMan
over a year ago

crewe

Far from it , I’m a train wreck in real life .

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Oh no. I'm Kate Middleton in public, Courtney Love behind closed doors (which includes t'internet)

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Ish. Kind of. Some situations I find difficult for various reasons and it takes me a while to "warm up". But once I'm more comfortable, yes. I think I'm possibly more likeable in person. Less nerdy. Waffle just as much though. And I don't know, my voice and facial expressions convey a lot of how I feel whereas sometimes I deliberately exaggerate wording on posts. Or am more straightlaced because it tickles me.

Oh I flirt more in real life. Just as poorly. More often though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm the same person, there's only one of me. I am waaay more horrible I'm real life though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm much better at meeting new ppl now than I was a few years ago, amazing how a psychologically abusive ex can batter your confidence without you realising!

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere


"As 13 people have viewed me today and I don’t like that number, I would say check my verifications and see what other people who have met me have to say (not in stealth mode)

It’s 14 now (kind of - I did check you out earlier as well ) "

Yay thank you

Ok nobody else look now. 14 is my lucky number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

40 year old virgin me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My OH says I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm miserable whatever the situation

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

No idea.

Only a non bias observer could answer the question honestly.

You might feel like your completely true to yourself here on the internet but in actual fact you’re totally not.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Online I’m dryly witty. IRL camp as as a tent sale (I’m told).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im me, no more, no less. Pointless being one thing here and something different irl

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I’m just a figure of your imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread makes me think of Goffman.

Perhaps the internet is part of the backstage? Or is it an extension of the front stage?

(Any sociologists, hmu and let’s talk dirty?)

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I'm confident and outgoing, with a wicked sense of humour in real life. I have to be in the industries I work in.

I can also be fairly reserved, and I think that's how I am on here.

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree


"This thread makes me think of Goffman.

Perhaps the internet is part of the backstage? Or is it an extension of the front stage?

(Any sociologists, hmu and let’s talk dirty?)

"

I think the internet is the extension of the written word. Victorian artwork & love letters that were dirtier than the exterior…. I will spew filth in written word that I would blush to say out loud (but still be happy to physically do).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quieter with strangers.

Just as daft with friends I think.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Have a lot more time for folks face to face, tend to zone out on social media.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Quieter in real life until I get to know you bit better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m shy in real life, I find socials really stressful

"

I’m very shy , at first , but a fast ice breaker . ( I think )

I don’t find social stressful .

Stressful is the fear of rejection , not even got to the social yet … just in chat and is already kicking .

Just waiting for a reply from someone u really like is already a massive thing .

As more exciting as more you love her in her profile , as harder the anxiety kicks and u not even got to the social yet

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm betterer

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I think I’m similar in real life but probably a bit less inhibited on here.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I think I’m pretty much the same actually I suppose it might for those that have met me to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, in person I'm different depending on the people I'm around, if I'm comfortable then I'm more bubbly and maybe slightly annoying. On the internet I'm just annoying

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By *lean_CutMan
over a year ago

Rasen area

More or less the same..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread makes me think of Goffman.

Perhaps the internet is part of the backstage? Or is it an extension of the front stage?

(Any sociologists, hmu and let’s talk dirty?)

I think the internet is the extension of the written word. Victorian artwork & love letters that were dirtier than the exterior…. I will spew filth in written word that I would blush to say out loud (but still be happy to physically do)."

Do you know what, I hear this. Not what I was thinking but I hear it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I’m the same .

Aways been free spirit.

And I never give a toss what people think or they opinion . In fact , they can fuck themslefs with they opinions and put themselfs in they own business … all they want is bastardise u and hurt you .

I am what I am , I’m lovely and a sweetheart and I don’t care

I can’t fake or pretend or hide or use masks .

And I wouldn’t . I refuse to charme n wear masks . .

Freedom .

My image only changes a bit in dating site , there I don’t say I like FFM . First cause I’m fully happy with a lovely 1o1 and for many people as soon as u talk about 3 way they automatically think they will never be good enough n u never be happy - not true .

Is what it is , if a lady doesn’t like , I’m sure there will be plenty more closer to her preference ^^

Like … a lot more. So… respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’m friendly in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m shyer than I come across online!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Pretty sure I'm 99% the same in real life but then that's how I see me, not necessarily how others will of course.

A

*I'm much better looking in real life though

**If we're in a dark room

***and you're wearing a blindfold

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"No idea.

Only a non bias observer could answer the question honestly.

You might feel like your completely true to yourself here on the internet but in actual fact you’re totally not.

"

You guys are the same, just invisible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people think I'm a miserable cunt.

Some people think I'm funny and nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people think I'm a miserable cunt.

Some people think I'm funny and nice.

"

But heaven knows you're a miserable cunt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people think I'm a miserable cunt.

Some people think I'm funny and nice.

"

What about those of us that think you’re a funny miserable cunt?

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Yup

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

No, I can ignore people on the internet

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm warmer irl...but not different

But I don't have my tits on show

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By *andi19Couple
over a year ago

somewhere

Basically, yes!

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Exactly the same, for which I'm sorry - to both you lot and the "real people"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably not the best person to answer this, but the general consensus is that I'm pretty consistent.

And by consistent, I mean hilarious, charming, erudite, witty, sympathetic, empathetic, honest, insightful, whimsical and most of all, incredibly humble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I'm exactly the same and I think everyone that has met me will confirm this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly I would say I’m largely the same. Though I would confess to being a tiny bit more confident behind the keyboard. Only a bit mind!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Only when I put ma Ace Winger T-shirt on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am much differant online and in real life.

Here I am flirty, confident and funny.

In real life I am painfully shy, suffer social anxiety and think I am not worthy of meeting anyone.

I think it is so much easier to be who you want to be online. It offers you that safety net of just switching off.

In person you dont have that.

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