FabSwingers.com forum: Ghosting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I the only one, or does this happen to every single guy?

I seem to have gone through a spate of introductory chats with girls at the moment where all seems fine and we’re hitting it off.

They’re returning my messages immediately, being fun and flirtatious. We say goodnight then next morning: nothing.

No read receipt or reply.

I can’t have become boring overnight, they may have sobered up, but it seems really strange that I’ll get 3-4 hours of attention, then…. nothing.

Does this happen to anyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens a lot online.

Just have to shrug and move on

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By *tranger swings 69Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

Happens to couples too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a deep breath and move on, don’t waste anymore time on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to ladies as well,

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Welcome to the world of online dating. Pull up a chair, sit down, pour yourself a drink and then try again until you're nothing but scar tissue. Drop any notion you might have about being any good, because there's always better. If you've been getting replies then you've done better than 99.9% of all men here. If you've actually managed to get anywhere you've done better than 99.999999% of the men here.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Move on o/p. I've been ghosted the day a meet was arranged. Happens to all of us.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

He had his wank n now doesn't need you... Or she had... Ya never know, we all have post cum clarity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spooky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the internet people are pussies online

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

Happens to us ladies too.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Yeah, it happens a lot, more often than not really. I wouldn't worry about it. Personally, I'd be happy that I got to have any conversation at all

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

It's probably not as sinister as you may think.

We were trying to arrange a meet yesterday, got side tracked and forgot to get back to a guy, so much shit and trash to wade through its so easy to forget who the good guy was.

Then again, it probably isn't just men who like some wank material now and then so who knows.

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By *r OreoMan
over a year ago

Croydon

Part and parcel about being on here!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I’ve had my wank so no need to continue the charade!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not alone on this, you got just keep moving on mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I literally expect every new guy I talk to to ghost me now. Easier to deal with disappointment if you don't get excited

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

I'm guilty of this tbh and have had this done to me plenty. Sometimes the next day I just cba to chat to people and then mean to another time then their messages get lost in the sea of all the other messages that come in and I can no longer remember what we talked about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm kinda busy with family stuff and decorating at moment, but I never, ever fail to politely respond to messages even if it takes ages. I look at it this way, someone has taken time to message me, it's only courtious and manners to reply, sadly not shared in the same manner when I initially send messages, but still smiling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to women too

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's a bloke O.P.

Either that or the husband is at home during the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens to women too

I'm actually shocked to hear that Wanda, I would jump at the chance to meet ladies here and would never dream of ghosting anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens to women too

I'm actually shocked to hear that Wanda, I would jump at the chance to meet ladies here and would never dream of ghosting anyone"

Believe me it’s real!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not alone in this.

I wouldn’t call this ghosting, personally, unless you’ve met them. But it’s still shit. Gotta have thick skin in this game unfortunately

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By *lairekTV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

"He had his wank n now doesn't need you... Or she had... Ya never know, we all have post cum clarity

You need to chat with your postie.

The worst I get are rain sodden letters.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think we've all had it at one time op.

I tend to lose interest v quickly if people go quiet and add a profile note on to their profile so I know what they're like in future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your not alone in this.

I wouldn’t call this ghosting, personally, unless you’ve met them. But it’s still shit. Gotta have thick skin in this game unfortunately

I agree buddy, you just have to keep smiling

Personally I wouldn't spend hours chatting anyway, make your aquaintance, set a date, KEEP that date, have fun together and hope for another visit if you impress

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I do this some nights. Lying in bed and have a chat. Some of the chats have been great. I don't necessarily want to meet that person. It's just a chat while I'm lying in bed. Fills a half hour before I go to sleep. The next day I probably couldn't tell you who I chatted to or what the chat was about. By then that conversation is 20 down. I don't really go into messages. From the bottom of my heart I'm sorry to all the people I've ghosted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long is it before you're either a ghoster or ghostee?

I mean, I don't necessarily want to talk every day.

I think it's worse in a dating situation, where there are maybe more expectations and potential for commitment. That's why I like fab. None of those expectations.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Whoooooooo!

Hi, I'm Tina Titz and I can impersonate a ghost. I'm not available for weddings, birthdays or Christenings, but funerals are a surprisingly popular booking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it worse on regular dating sites. Here I tend to excuse it because of the nature of the site. I’d also add when I experience it here which has only happened a couple times I’ve tended to explain it away but thinking at least once the person I was chatting to probably wasn’t who they presented to be…

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By *lean_CutMan
over a year ago

Rasen area

Internet, innit..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I literally expect every new guy I talk to to ghost me now. Easier to deal with disappointment if you don't get excited

Having said that I've just read your OP properly and wouldn't necessarily say you've been ghosted, just the victim of a fleeting conversation. I'm on the other end of these sometimes, but to be fair I'll usually let them know I'm not feeling it if they follow up.

At least you only spent one night on them!

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Happens to every guy here, without exception (probably). Doesn't matter how well you think you're getting on, you don't know what else is happening in their life, or if they were just being polite and have decided to yank the chain and flush you out of their life in the easiest way possible. It's frustrating, but we have to be prepared for it to happen every time

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Yeah happens a lot on here, a lot of Caspers on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it really ghosting though?

I have conversations that go stale for days/weeks then pick back up after a status or comment on the forums.

I don't even message my family every day, never mind some random on Fab, that includes those on my friends list

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

It'll Just be some guy having a wank in his mums boxroom. You'll get plenty more I'm sure,

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It’s not great. But that’s how it is. Just got to take it’s and move on.

But it does leave a bitter taste

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

"I think we've all had it at one time op.

I tend to lose interest v quickly if people go quiet and add a profile note on to their profile so I know what they're like in future."

I do this

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Is it really ghosting though?

I have conversations that go stale for days/weeks then pick back up after a status or comment on the forums.

I don't even message my family every day, never mind some random on Fab, that includes those on my friends list

No you are right, it’s not true ghosting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks.

Just me being naive is all.

I’m new to this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it really ghosting though?

I have conversations that go stale for days/weeks then pick back up after a status or comment on the forums.

I don't even message my family every day, never mind some random on Fab, that includes those on my friends list

Exactly

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

Oh yeah, for most its just a game.

For some they only intended it to be a couple hours. Others, they were just horny and the moments passed.

But its rude.

Yeah move on and all that. But its still unfair behaviour.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"Am I the only one, or does this happen to every single guy?

I seem to have gone through a spate of introductory chats with girls at the moment where all seems fine and we’re hitting it off.

They’re returning my messages immediately, being fun and flirtatious. We say goodnight then next morning: nothing.

No read receipt or reply.

I can’t have become boring overnight, they may have sobered up, but it seems really strange that I’ll get 3-4 hours of attention, then…. nothing.

Does this happen to anyone else?"

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

It happens to everyone really...its part of the fab experience...

comes with the package so to speak

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By *ad boy maverickMan
over a year ago

basildon

Oh so that's what ghosting is. It seems part n parcel of swing sites. The fantasists get what they want and move on.

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