FabSwingers.com forum: Relationship after hook up

By *amperedprincess OP Woman
over a year ago

Bedford

Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

A long term FWB relationship yes. I have done a few times. A proper relationship nooooooooo. But that goes for anyone I meet anywhere. I don’t want one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A long term FWB relationship yes. I have done a few times. A proper relationship nooooooooo. But that goes for anyone I meet anywhere. I don’t want one. "

Let me down gently next time

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"A long term FWB relationship yes. I have done a few times. A proper relationship nooooooooo. But that goes for anyone I meet anywhere. I don’t want one.

Let me down gently next time

Hey. It just means I won’t cook for you or ask you to put my bins out

. All the fun without the hassle. What could be better?!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No. I don’t think so, personally anyway. There are lots of couples on here that show you can, but I don’t think I can get past the idea that really men on here mostly want to sow their oats far and wide, and not just be tied to one person.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Yes, if I didn’t already have a LTR that is. Or if I did and we were poly. Or I wanted to live a double life!

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

A long term fb is def the preferred option for me ... over the years i have been very lucky to have achieved this with wifes full blessing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I don’t think so, personally anyway. There are lots of couples on here that show you can, but I don’t think I can get past the idea that really men on here mostly want to sow their oats far and wide, and not just be tied to one person."

Lock him in a chastity cage when you're not together until you learn to trust him.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Lock him in a chastity cage when you're not together until you learn to trust him.

they wimp out of long term chastity

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No he would have to bend all sorts of ways to accommodate my needs, and I wouldn't impose that on any one person.

Having a few long term fwb's suits best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think so no as I’m a monogamous kind of girl so would go the conventional dating site route!

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

I don't want another relationship with anyone ever, but if I really liked someone I met here I wouldn't mind something more like fwb. It wouldn't put me off because they were on here, I'd probably prefer it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty seem to hook up that way, so i don't see why not

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yes. Apparently...

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if she was my custom woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did, but it didnt work out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lock him in a chastity cage when you're not together until you learn to trust him.

they wimp out of long term chastity "

How can they wimp out if you hold the key?

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over a year ago

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't see why not.

My boundaries are sky high and he or she would have to be pretty phenomenal. But not because of hooking up, because I can't imagine anything I want less right now than a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away? "

100%

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

we didn't meet here but we "hooked" up in 1980 its clearly never going to last...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, if I didn’t already have a LTR that is. Or if I did and we were poly. Or I wanted to live a double life! "

Or a long term romantic in love 3 way

Who believes in that ? Is not impossible is it ?

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

I understand what you mean, but is that not all men? Let's assume all men in the UK knew fab existed, I'd guess 50% of them would have been on it at some point in their life.

One thing I think about being here is that you're already being more honest with yourself than most of your mates.

I think it sets you up for having very clear, open and honest communication in a relationship. I don't imagine if you met someone in real life you'd discuss your fab journey?

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Yes I'd prefer it because if you meet someone from vanilla world, it will likely clash with your swinging lifestyle

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By *elloWoman
over a year ago

alpha centauri

"I don't want another relationship with anyone ever, but if I really liked someone I met here I wouldn't mind something more like fwb. It wouldn't put me off because they were on here, I'd probably prefer it."

Same for me

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Yes, we started a relationship after being FWB’s for a while - worked perfectly for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you mean, but is that not all men? Let's assume all men in the UK knew fab existed, I'd guess 50% of them would have been on it at some point in their life.

One thing I think about being here is that you're already being more honest with yourself than most of your mates.

I think it sets you up for having very clear, open and honest communication in a relationship. I don't imagine if you met someone in real life you'd discuss your fab journey? "

Hi …

I tried to explain that to people . We free spirits are not nessecerily sluts , or swingers , what we are is more honest then u lot out there …

Me personally I rather be honest and lose then cheat to keep it . I can’t pretend . I explained …

Doesn’t fit in the head … oh well . I tried explain ..

50% ? I would say more .

When Fabs found me on POF n I got here I felt like … wow !! where have I been all my life ?

Not cause of greed , but cause of being discriminated for being a FFM lover .

On fabs everyone is normal and more freak as better . Respect ^^

Honesty and no one discriminate anyone …

Freedom . And that is beautiful n l love it .

Freedom … people think freedom means shag everyone . They don’t reach it .

I tell them . No . Freedom is u be honest and do whatever u like , then u r free . No rules . No masks . And I need that .

And it doesn’t matter what u up too . Is all labels xx is all the same : NSA , relation … whatever , is all the same …

Respect .

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Yes, why not?

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Oh yes

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

In not looking for one but never say never

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I did, in my previous incarnation on here

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I wouldn’t want a monogamous cohabiting situation again. Maybe fwb+? A few of us have said on several threads that would suit us.

I’ve never been a jealous or possessive type but I hate being lied to or made a mug of.

I’ve long thought polyamory would suit me well but frankly it’s hard even meeting one person that would suit me and I them

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I wouldn’t want a monogamous cohabiting situation again. Maybe fwb+? A few of us have said on several threads that would suit us.

I’ve never been a jealous or possessive type but I hate being lied to or made a mug of.

I’ve long thought polyamory would suit me well but frankly it’s hard even meeting one person that would suit me and I them "

Yeah, a small group of close friends with benefits (like, emotional intimacy of a good friend plus fucking) would suit me perfectly.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

God no

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I wouldn’t want a monogamous cohabiting situation again. Maybe fwb+? A few of us have said on several threads that would suit us.

I’ve never been a jealous or possessive type but I hate being lied to or made a mug of.

I’ve long thought polyamory would suit me well but frankly it’s hard even meeting one person that would suit me and I them

Yeah, a small group of close friends with benefits (like, emotional intimacy of a good friend plus fucking) would suit me perfectly."

Yep same here

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By *amperedprincess OP Woman
over a year ago

Bedford

Your absolutely right and it has given me the confidence to talk to guys on and off fab more openly about what I want especially sexually. Some people are not so open but I appreciate open conversations and honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just want a fwb someone I can trust and have good times with. Couldn't live with anyone but I do like the social side as much as the sex side of it. A part time lover would be good

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Of course, why not? I don't think you need to get into games of withholding sex etc, have sex with people you want to because you enjoy it. If a relationship develops or not, you're being true to you.

Most relationships I've been in have been when I haven't been looking for it, things happen and you meet someone. And it clicks. Dicking or not.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Interesting how any time a man answers this question with a no, on the basis he wouldnt want to get into a relationship with a woman from here, he gets hammered.

Yet looking through this thread so far i see zero condemnation of several women who have effectively said the same thing about men they meet on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting how any time a man answers this question with a no, on the basis he wouldnt want to get into a relationship with a woman from here, he gets hammered.

Yet looking through this thread so far i see zero condemnation of several women who have effectively said the same thing about men they meet on here"

Unsurprising to me! Fab is full of white knights. And women tend to stick together!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would, the Stag/Vixen or cuck dynamic is hot as fuck to me

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"A long term FWB relationship yes. I have done a few times. A proper relationship nooooooooo. But that goes for anyone I meet anywhere. I don’t want one. "

I'm with Nora on this one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away? "

Yes, i am living that life now, tomorrow it's 15 years since we moved in together ...

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Interesting how any time a man answers this question with a no, on the basis he wouldnt want to get into a relationship with a woman from here, he gets hammered.

Yet looking through this thread so far i see zero condemnation of several women who have effectively said the same thing about men they meet on here"

I wouldn’t meet a man who met loads of others for a fwb thing either. Condemn me

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"Interesting how any time a man answers this question with a no, on the basis he wouldnt want to get into a relationship with a woman from here, he gets hammered.

Yet looking through this thread so far i see zero condemnation of several women who have effectively said the same thing about men they meet on here

I wouldn’t meet a man who met loads of others for a fwb thing either. Condemn me

Hey, im not going to condemn you. I agree with you

But I think ill be waiting a long time to see anyone condemen you though. If only you had a cock

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

"Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away?

Yes, i am living that life now, tomorrow it's 15 years since we moved in together ...

Love a happy ending. Kinda like our story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having left here to have a “Vanilla” relationship with someone, I’d say I doubt it.

I was soon back on here!

I’m no longer capable of having a normal relationship because unless his sexual thirst matched mine, it wouldn’t last 5 minutes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha, no of course not.

What kind of idiot would do something like that.

Hahaha haha.

Ha.

Haha.

Oh fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It almost happened for me but there was trust issues on both sides due to us meeting here so it didn’t work out. I’m monogamous and not a swinger or poly so if I met a single guy here they’d have to also be monogamous and we’d have to both leave the site for it to work out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It almost happened for me but there was trust issues on both sides due to us meeting here so it didn’t work out. I’m monogamous and not a swinger or poly so if I met a single guy here they’d have to also be monogamous and we’d have to both leave the site for it to work out."

Ditto, which is why I find by think I’d meet someone on here!

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away? "

I met G on here, within 3 weeks we were a couple. Been together 5yrs

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Interesting how any time a man answers this question with a no, on the basis he wouldnt want to get into a relationship with a woman from here, he gets hammered.

Yet looking through this thread so far i see zero condemnation of several women who have effectively said the same thing about men they meet on here

I wouldn’t meet a man who met loads of others for a fwb thing either. Condemn me

Hey, im not going to condemn you. I agree with you

But I think ill be waiting a long time to see anyone condemen you though. If only you had a cock

If only. I’d never leave the house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away?

Yes, i am living that life now, tomorrow it's 15 years since we moved in together ...

Love a happy ending. Kinda like our story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I wouldn't trust them.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"No. I wouldn't trust them."

Another woman safe from condemnation i see. You couldnt make this shit up

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Whatever applies to men here applies to men outside fab.

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By *atandjayCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away? "

Why not

At least you know you have similar attitude towards sex

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away? "

Most definitely.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I have....so, yes

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away? "
I could ..and have done

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"No. I wouldn't trust them."

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

"Of course, why not? I don't think you need to get into games of withholding sex etc, have sex with people you want to because you enjoy it. If a relationship develops or not, you're being true to you.

Most relationships I've been in have been when I haven't been looking for it, things happen and you meet someone. And it clicks. Dicking or not."

This!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I have done. Just because you might be on here, doesn’t mean you are not “relationship material”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a 5 year relationship with a guy I met on here. Don’t think I’d do it again though!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Happened to me. Wasn't expecting it and people from fab who know me had trouble believing it

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

No but did get a bit addicted to one lady on here some years back. Met a lot but she just did it for me and could not get enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t say for on here but I did fall for a FWB and needless to say got burnt in the end, I guess it’s not something you plan but man does it suck when it goes bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100%. I don’t think I’d want a conventional relationship if I was single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. We met on here, its the weirdest in the sense that qe have conversations that would normally get one of us a slap lol, but also the most honest relationship I've ever had. I've never been happier

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

They fall in love with sex but no not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away? "

Depending on the ability to see their profile or not.

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By *uicyBBC8Man
over a year ago

Medway

A long term fwb would suffice

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Do you think you could get into a longterm relationship with someone you meet here if you found someone you really liked after meeting and sleeping with eachother straight away? "

Cherry and I are a couple who met on here. We both knew pretty quickly that this was going to end up a long term and committed thing.

Hades

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A proper relationship? Maybe yes. Maybe no. But that’s the same answer for meeting up with any girl from anywhere too.

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