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"I don't think it's rude or arrogant to put this on a profile, they aren't enforcing it upon you. It would be rude and arrogant if they reached out and messaged people demanding a face pic. As it is it's just the parameters they have set for people to contact them " ^ yep this. Up to you if you want to send or not. If they contacted YOU first, then I would expect them to send a pic first rather than demand you do, but if you’re contacting them on the basis of their profile then I think it’s fair game for them not to reciprocate if they don’t fancy you. | |||
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"I don't think it's rude or arrogant to put this on a profile, they aren't enforcing it upon you. It would be rude and arrogant if they reached out and messaged people demanding a face pic. As it is it's just the parameters they have set for people to contact them ^ yep this. Up to you if you want to send or not. If they contacted YOU first, then I would expect them to send a pic first rather than demand you do, but if you’re contacting them on the basis of their profile then I think it’s fair game for them not to reciprocate if they don’t fancy you. " Totally agree, if we message first, we send a face pic with it. It just saves everyone wasting their time if we/they aren't feeling it. The only people we wouldn't send face pics too early on are those who are new/unverified, or who live very near to us. K x | |||
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"I don't think it's rude or arrogant to put this on a profile, they aren't enforcing it upon you. It would be rude and arrogant if they reached out and messaged people demanding a face pic. As it is it's just the parameters they have set for people to contact them " This. It's their requirement for conversation. If it something that makes you feel uncomfortable, then copy and paste your message onto the next profile in a 5 mile radius | |||
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"It's totally fair. If you're interested in me, show what you look like. If I am interested in you, I'll show you. Whoever moves first, shows first. What could be more democratic? Just because you go first and you aren't of interest doesn't mean you get a pity selfie." How about a pity bj? | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance" Not arrogant just real, of someone messages you first, and send a pic we then return pics, what's the problem? | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance" The worse part is when you’ve been chatting for days/weeks and really getting on well and then exchange face pics, then you’re ignored or blocked. So maybe swapping face early on is essential? | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance" So what if it is arrogance? You're not forced to message them. | |||
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"I may be attacked for this but I think men judge woman on personality and naughtiness, whereas woman more on looks? " It's true. I get loads of men wanting to lick my personality and smash my personality's back doors in. | |||
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"I may be attacked for this but I think men judge woman on personality and naughtiness, whereas woman more on looks? It's true. I get loads of men wanting to lick my personality and smash my personality's back doors in. " Hahahaha and are they concerned about your face ? | |||
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"I never send a face pic as I'm an ugly fucker haha " Lies, you sent one to us! I don't remember thinking you were an ugly fucker.... It does seem to have disappeared now though so I can't double check K x | |||
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"I believe person to ask for face pic 1st, sends theirs 1st that’s my policy anyway " This is also my policy I have sent a face pic with an opening message myself but it's not something I demand from others. | |||
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"I don't think it's rude or arrogant to put this on a profile, they aren't enforcing it upon you. It would be rude and arrogant if they reached out and messaged people demanding a face pic. As it is it's just the parameters they have set for people to contact them ^ yep this. Up to you if you want to send or not. If they contacted YOU first, then I would expect them to send a pic first rather than demand you do, but if you’re contacting them on the basis of their profile then I think it’s fair game for them not to reciprocate if they don’t fancy you. Totally agree, if we message first, we send a face pic with it. It just saves everyone wasting their time if we/they aren't feeling it. The only people we wouldn't send face pics too early on are those who are new/unverified, or who live very near to us. K x" This is exactly us, if we send a message first we will always send our face pics x | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance" You have a choice of not engaging with them. Also they may send one in return, however if they are not interested then its unlikely they will. Enjoy and use the site how best it works for you, and don’t worry about how others behave | |||
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"I may be attacked for this but I think men judge woman on personality and naughtiness, whereas woman more on looks? " Controversial but I think many guys on here will fuck anyone whether there’s attraction or not. I don’t even think many care about personality either. Given the choice though they’d choose looks over personality but the gender ratio means they often have less options! I don’t think guys on here are any different to guys on dating sites with a more balanced ratio! But they have less options here. | |||
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"I don't think it's rude or arrogant to put this on a profile, they aren't enforcing it upon you. It would be rude and arrogant if they reached out and messaged people demanding a face pic. As it is it's just the parameters they have set for people to contact them " What he said LvM | |||
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"This for me too. I have face pics on my profile and I request that one is sent with the first message. It’s really annoying when people ignore that and message without one….why waste your time, I just delete the message without reading it anyway! As others have said, it’s an effective filter. I know that some people are super paranoid about people knowing they’re on this site, but I’ve never seen it that way….if someone you know has seen you then they’re on here too right?! A message with no pics just makes me think the sender has a pretty low opinion of their own appearance tbh " That is really rubbish as they have obviously seen your face already. We are probably the opposite, I think our face photos are far more appealing than our "body shots" K x | |||
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"I never send a face pic as I'm an ugly fucker haha Lies, you sent one to us! I don't remember thinking you were an ugly fucker.... It does seem to have disappeared now though so I can't double check K x" How lucky are you that you can't still see it haha. I may just send another for a reminder | |||
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"I never send a face pic as I'm an ugly fucker haha Lies, you sent one to us! I don't remember thinking you were an ugly fucker.... It does seem to have disappeared now though so I can't double check K x How lucky are you that you can't still see it haha. I may just send another for a reminder" But you can still see all of ours in friends *They need to add a pout emoji on here because that's what I'm doing* | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance" Well...if you ask for one,you should be willing to give one back... Basic manners really. | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance Well...if you ask for one,you should be willing to give one back... Basic manners really." People are coming from different backgrounds and asking for a face picture with first message is the same as asking people to put they picture on their profile. On my experience when a girl ask for a picture with frist message i won't bother. It is someone who is full of demands and think swinging is just about her. | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance Well...if you ask for one,you should be willing to give one back... Basic manners really. People are coming from different backgrounds and asking for a face picture with first message is the same as asking people to put they picture on their profile. On my experience when a girl ask for a picture with frist message i won't bother. It is someone who is full of demands and think swinging is just about her. " Thanks for that! I ask for one with first message! And nope it’s not the same as showing your mush to the whole site! If you message them rather than they message uou, you should be willing to show your face. Attraction starts with the face! | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance Well...if you ask for one,you should be willing to give one back... Basic manners really. People are coming from different backgrounds and asking for a face picture with first message is the same as asking people to put they picture on their profile. On my experience when a girl ask for a picture with frist message i won't bother. It is someone who is full of demands and think swinging is just about her. " Not at all! If u send it in a pm other site members can't see it! When I ask for face pic with pretty much first message it's because I don't want to waste my time or theirs! Nothing to do with it being all about me! It's a 2 way street x | |||
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"I may be attacked for this but I think men judge woman on personality and naughtiness, whereas woman more on looks? Controversial but I think many guys on here will fuck anyone whether there’s attraction or not. I don’t even think many care about personality either. Given the choice though they’d choose looks over personality but the gender ratio means they often have less options! I don’t think guys on here are any different to guys on dating sites with a more balanced ratio! But they have less options here." If I don’t feel a connection with a woman then it’s difficult for me to even get an erection, but that connection isn’t based on how their face looks. Am I abnormal? Lol | |||
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"I may be attacked for this but I think men judge woman on personality and naughtiness, whereas woman more on looks? Controversial but I think many guys on here will fuck anyone whether there’s attraction or not. I don’t even think many care about personality either. Given the choice though they’d choose looks over personality but the gender ratio means they often have less options! I don’t think guys on here are any different to guys on dating sites with a more balanced ratio! But they have less options here. If I don’t feel a connection with a woman then it’s difficult for me to even get an erection, but that connection isn’t based on how their face looks. Am I abnormal? Lol" Most people care about facial aesthetics! I certainly do and most men and women I’ve met do! | |||
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"I may be attacked for this but I think men judge woman on personality and naughtiness, whereas woman more on looks? Controversial but I think many guys on here will fuck anyone whether there’s attraction or not. I don’t even think many care about personality either. Given the choice though they’d choose looks over personality but the gender ratio means they often have less options! I don’t think guys on here are any different to guys on dating sites with a more balanced ratio! But they have less options here. If I don’t feel a connection with a woman then it’s difficult for me to even get an erection, but that connection isn’t based on how their face looks. Am I abnormal? Lol Most people care about facial aesthetics! I certainly do and most men and women I’ve met do! " Ahhhhhh I’m not normal and average….I’m actually pleased | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance" You’re quite right. The epitome of arrogance asking for a photo of someone they might consider getting naked with and having sex. I’d steer well clear of those perps, OP. Their sense of entitlement is larger than a loaf of bread. | |||
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"I may be attacked for this but I think men judge woman on personality and naughtiness, whereas woman more on looks? Controversial but I think many guys on here will fuck anyone whether there’s attraction or not. I don’t even think many care about personality either. Given the choice though they’d choose looks over personality but the gender ratio means they often have less options! I don’t think guys on here are any different to guys on dating sites with a more balanced ratio! But they have less options here. If I don’t feel a connection with a woman then it’s difficult for me to even get an erection, but that connection isn’t based on how their face looks. Am I abnormal? Lol Most people care about facial aesthetics! I certainly do and most men and women I’ve met do! Ahhhhhh I’m not normal and average….I’m actually pleased " Attraction is key to me and I’m happy to be normal and average | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance Well...if you ask for one,you should be willing to give one back... Basic manners really. People are coming from different backgrounds and asking for a face picture with first message is the same as asking people to put they picture on their profile. On my experience when a girl ask for a picture with frist message i won't bother. It is someone who is full of demands and think swinging is just about her. " My face is always visible... I think it's rude to expect me to talk to a bellybutton/chest/arse/cock/some other bird with your dick hanging out of her, until you feel comfortable enough to show your face, just so I can tell you I don't actually fancy you and don't want to sleep with you, then get abuse for wasting your time... No face is a total waste of time, it won't be a waste of mine (not necessarily aimed at you OP) | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance Well...if you ask for one,you should be willing to give one back... Basic manners really. People are coming from different backgrounds and asking for a face picture with first message is the same as asking people to put they picture on their profile. On my experience when a girl ask for a picture with frist message i won't bother. It is someone who is full of demands and think swinging is just about her. My face is always visible... I think it's rude to expect me to talk to a bellybutton/chest/arse/cock/some other bird with your dick hanging out of her, until you feel comfortable enough to show your face, just so I can tell you I don't actually fancy you and don't want to sleep with you, then get abuse for wasting your time... No face is a total waste of time, it won't be a waste of mine (not necessarily aimed at you OP) " I came to the conclusion to pop a face pic on my profile, it saves people wasting their time messaging me. | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance" Place is awash with arrogance and self importance.. | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance Well...if you ask for one,you should be willing to give one back... Basic manners really. People are coming from different backgrounds and asking for a face picture with first message is the same as asking people to put they picture on their profile. On my experience when a girl ask for a picture with frist message i won't bother. It is someone who is full of demands and think swinging is just about her. My face is always visible... I think it's rude to expect me to talk to a bellybutton/chest/arse/cock/some other bird with your dick hanging out of her, until you feel comfortable enough to show your face, just so I can tell you I don't actually fancy you and don't want to sleep with you, then get abuse for wasting your time... No face is a total waste of time, it won't be a waste of mine (not necessarily aimed at you OP) I came to the conclusion to pop a face pic on my profile, it saves people wasting their time messaging me. " I fabbed it | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! This to me is arrogance Place is awash with arrogance and self importance.." And men blaming other people and theirs for them not drowning in cunt | |||
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"I understand the need for attraction and therefore face pics are needed. But am I the only one who thinks it’s rude when a profile states must have a face pic or face pic in first message, yet they don’t show theirs!!! You get many messages because each men is sending equally the same amount on daily basis to different girls. Lol This to me is arrogance Well...if you ask for one,you should be willing to give one back... Basic manners really. People are coming from different backgrounds and asking for a face picture with first message is the same as asking people to put they picture on their profile. On my experience when a girl ask for a picture with frist message i won't bother. It is someone who is full of demands and think swinging is just about her. Not at all! If u send it in a pm other site members can't see it! When I ask for face pic with pretty much first message it's because I don't want to waste my time or theirs! Nothing to do with it being all about me! It's a 2 way street x" | |||
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"I may be attacked for this but I think men judge woman on personality and naughtiness, whereas woman more on looks? Controversial but I think many guys on here will fuck anyone whether there’s attraction or not. I don’t even think many care about personality either. Given the choice though they’d choose looks over personality but the gender ratio means they often have less options! I don’t think guys on here are any different to guys on dating sites with a more balanced ratio! But they have less options here. If I don’t feel a connection with a woman then it’s difficult for me to even get an erection, but that connection isn’t based on how their face looks. Am I abnormal? Lol Most people care about facial aesthetics! I certainly do and most men and women I’ve met do! Ahhhhhh I’m not normal and average….I’m actually pleased Attraction is key to me and I’m happy to be normal and average " Duchess you are Royalty! And for many reasons I respect you ! Attraction if essential, if someone show their face, of course it has to be both way! I was talking about those ladies that don't show themselves, yet want a picture with a first message. I do spend a lot of time reading men and girls profiles. And I came to realise that because men have to send so many messages, many are just copying and pasting. Some are tired writing message and don't event know what to say to a girl after sending so many messages. The bit that makes me laugh are people asking for pictures and saying there are into "blindfolding" | |||
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"We ask single guys for a face pic and message if they contact us as there are just so many who just don’t make an effort, this really helps us find those who do and for us these have been the best meets. However we will always respond to those that do send pics and a proper message with either our pics if there is an attraction or a reply saying that there’s isn’t an attraction but thanks for the message and taking the time to get in touch. Most guys appreciate the honesty. " | |||
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