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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No idea what happened but at a meet yesterday, I just couldn’t get hard!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens dude and get worst if you keep thinking about getting hard it just ain’t happening.

Do you think there is any reason why you couldn’t? Did you feel pressured ? Not by your meet per se but what your mental state ?

Thinking that we have to get it hard (so penetration can happen) put pressure on us I guess.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

It happens. Sex starts in the brain.. sometimes we over think it... or over worry. For us women we can fake it till we make it. For you men its much harder.

Just remember there is more to sex than a hard cock

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

These things happen! Maybe you were uncomfortable, without realising. I get this a bunch, or used to until I realised I actually need to like a person to be able to...

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"No idea what happened but at a meet yesterday, I just couldn’t get hard!!!!!

Message privately any advice/questions "

Nerves? Or she just didn't turn you on? I had both. It's definitely mind over matter. Maybe don't rush the sex. Get to know eachother alittle, flirt, tease etc. Unless you both have that instant sexual attraction, it won't happen over night. I had great one night stands but the sexual attraction needs to be there

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"These things happen! Maybe you were uncomfortable, without realising. I get this a bunch, or used to until I realised I actually need to like a person to be able to..."

This is why I don't really get why men talk so in your face in first messages like they expect to have fun with a woman without really having a proper conversation or seeing her face. If I said yes to every man that offered sex to me on fab, wonder how many would have softies? I bet 99% wouldn't even turn up. Just words no action

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Thumb it in. #BeAMan

Seriously though, it can happen. Too much to drink or too much in your own head, stress, depression. There's a lot that can stop play. Assuming that you tried other ways of helping the lady out and still had no joy with junior, just chalk it up to bad luck and give it another relaxed, no pressure go some time in the future

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to us all at some point. On the odd occasion it’s happened to me i find a friendly hand or mouth always helps, going down on my partner till im hard helps me alot then once im inside her lovely warm wet tunnel of love im good.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Do something else. You have a whole body not just your cock. It’s a normal thing to happen. Don’t worry about it and it all comes back again either later same session or another time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all your comments and positivity. Cheers it’s appreciated

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