FabSwingers.com forum: Narcissistic

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many people you know are?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've got no idea. Their psychiatric record is private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im trying my best to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea how many here are, I’ve met a few in the other life and hated them all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I knew someone it was painful and found out the hard way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex husband .

Glad I’m free from him but feel for my daughter putting up with him.

At 12 years old she’s starting to see it.

I’m not saying a word or getting involved , but says a lot when she didn’t see him for 2 weeks, and then called me to demand to be collected within an hour .

I heard it when he called me when he brought her back , the attempt to make out he was perfect and she was imagining it . She was literally screaming ‘ stop lying and take me home ‘

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Secretly everyone who posts pics on here?

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By *ereforgigglesMan
over a year ago

Scotland

Yes I am!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Personally off site?

Two.

On here? You can only make assumptions based on what you've read and jow someone portrays themselves and those assumptions may be wrong. Or they may be right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Secretly everyone who posts pics on here?"
is that not just vanity? Or is that now out dated

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By *ookingtolickMan
over a year ago

london

A lady I once met . She was stunning but I found her self love over the top and very ugly.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

The lines between loving yourself, being confident and narcissism are very very thin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, quite a few

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had it happen to me and I feel sad if it happens to anyone else. Take care out there they might seem caring but its not always the truth x

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Lex Luger

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I’ve never set fire to anything I shouldn’t

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

2 x

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"I knew someone it was painful and found out the hard way. "

This x

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't think I've ever met one in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well welcome to my world. Yes he was nice yes I fell for him. Yes I got hooked. Then.... All for himself....

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

One from here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One from here"

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of 1 & I finally escaped it

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

As I'm not a psychiatric this is purely conjecture, but there are probably three people I've met in my life who I genuinely believe to be at the deeper end of the narcissist spectrum - one seriously enough affected to warrant assessing for a personality disorder, but with this country's dire mental health provision, almost certainly never going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I'm not a psychiatric this is purely conjecture, but there are probably three people I've met in my life who I genuinely believe to be at the deeper end of the narcissist spectrum - one seriously enough affected to warrant assessing for a personality disorder, but with this country's dire mental health provision, almost certainly never going to happen."

Least you know and know what to do

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

No need to look too far. There are plenty with an inflated sense of self importance all around. The thing is though that can be easily spotted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheryl on Facebook that can’t tell the difference between too and to and there and their can spell Narcissist perfectly well every time she splits with her latest boyfriend.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Oh goodness quite a few. But it took a lot of abuse before I realised I'd been up close and personal with one for years.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My thoughts are out there for all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lex Luger "

What a reference!

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Least you know and know what to do "

Oh, I sure do - run!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've met a full blown narcissist. A few people who do seem to talk about themselves and bring conversations back to them. But I'm not sure if that's just narcissistic tendencies or them trying to understand the topics by providing their experiences. Either way, I'm definitely not qualified enough to call them a full blown narcissist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah - the heady days of being gaslighted - don't really miss it if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Glad to hear it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Least you know and know what to do

Oh, I sure do - run!!"

Oh I did but it did affect me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lex Luger

What a reference!

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i always thought he was called that cos he knocked people out with his metal elbow

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

"I don't think I've met a full blown narcissist. A few people who do seem to talk about themselves and bring conversations back to them. But I'm not sure if that's just narcissistic tendencies or them trying to understand the topics by providing their experiences. Either way, I'm definitely not qualified enough to call them a full blown narcissist."

I do this, but I think it's a neurodivergent thing - I think many of us are more self-referential (not quite the same as self-absorbed) in how we perceive the world. And talking about our own experiences is our way of showing understanding and/or empathy.

Fuck, I've done it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On Fab?

None.

There are NO narcissists on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On Fab?

None.

There are NO narcissists on Fab.

Don't you believe it

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I'm always flummoxed by this question.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd never imagine that I could make a statement like that about someone

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I'd never imagine that I could make a statement like that about someone

I can. My mother is one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you see one, you can spot them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw some research this week that suggested under 30s show higher levels of narcissistic personality disorder than older people.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On Fab?

None.

There are NO narcissists on Fab.

Don't you believe it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck, I've done it again

Haha I think you're right though, a lot of people do rely on their own experience to participate in conversations. I even worry about doing it in messages on here as I never want to make it seem like I'm only talking about myself so I try to ask them questions so they can talk about themselves too. See what I did there?

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Yet another word that gets thrown around left right and centre.Not everyone has to be a narcissist some people are just twats.

I’ll leave it to the professionals to diagnose people.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'd never imagine that I could make a statement like that about someone

I can. My mother is one. "

I don't have the experience or qualifications. My first husband exhibited various traits that I saw afterwards were not 'normal' no idea what name I'd give it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Need to remember there's a difference between the common idea of narcissism of being a little too in love with yourself, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

NPD is the stuff of nightmares and Hitchcock-like torturous abuse.

We all have a bit of the first, it's just human nature.

The second I would not wish on anyone

to anyone reading this who is living it or escaped it. I'm near my 1yr anniversary away from it and I actually think I'm going to have a party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Need to remember there's a difference between the common idea of narcissism of being a little too in love with yourself, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

NPD is the stuff of nightmares and Hitchcock-like torturous abuse.

We all have a bit of the first, it's just human nature.

The second I would not wish on anyone

to anyone reading this who is living it or escaped it. I'm near my 1yr anniversary away from it and I actually think I'm going to have a party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex is a self serving narcissist. I realized when it was too late but I'm glad he's out of my life now. My mother's a narcissist too, that one's a long story

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By *eesandbirdsWoman
over a year ago

Alford

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My ex is a self serving narcissist. I realized when it was too late but I'm glad he's out of my life now. My mother's a narcissist too, that one's a long story

Well I've dug up some worms tonight. Feeling for you all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met one person in my life that I think is a sociapath.

There's another that could be narcissistic but I'm still sitting on the fence on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone’s ex is one apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex is a self serving narcissist. I realized when it was too late but I'm glad he's out of my life now. My mother's a narcissist too, that one's a long story

Well I've dug up some worms tonight. Feeling for you all x"

How about you OP, do you know anyone who's one? x

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By *ittleMyWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

"My ex husband .

Glad I’m free from him but feel for my daughter putting up with him.

At 12 years old she’s starting to see it.

I’m not saying a word or getting involved , but says a lot when she didn’t see him for 2 weeks, and then called me to demand to be collected within an hour .

I heard it when he called me when he brought her back , the attempt to make out he was perfect and she was imagining it . She was literally screaming ‘ stop lying and take me home ‘

Sorry you're both going through thar. Same situation for me/my daughter (15). Sending ((hugs)) if you have use for them x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I don't know about others but my ex wife certainly is. Luke

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By *ittleMyWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

"Need to remember there's a difference between the common idea of narcissism of being a little too in love with yourself, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

NPD is the stuff of nightmares and Hitchcock-like torturous abuse.

We all have a bit of the first, it's just human nature.

The second I would not wish on anyone

to anyone reading this who is living it or escaped it. I'm near my 1yr anniversary away from it and I actually think I'm going to have a party

Thank you lovely. My excuse for a mother has NPD. I'm 10 years out from severing all ties from her. The single best decision I've ever made. You've earned your party! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My brother. Stab anyone in the back to get his own way and if he could eat himself he would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Need to remember there's a difference between the common idea of narcissism of being a little too in love with yourself, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

NPD is the stuff of nightmares and Hitchcock-like torturous abuse.

We all have a bit of the first, it's just human nature.

The second I would not wish on anyone

to anyone reading this who is living it or escaped it. I'm near my 1yr anniversary away from it and I actually think I'm going to have a party

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Like most aspects of human personality, traits exist on a continuum, so it's possible for many to have characteristics, without being a full narcissistic personality. Certainly, if another is manipulative and not supportive of your needs, you don't need to know their DSM assessment profile. I knew the odd 1 in real life and steer clear. In fab, I'd do the same, alongside anyone who's not healthy to be with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to sit back and watch my daughter be destroyed by one! Absolutely heart breaking.

Shes back on her feet now and doing well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My ex is a self serving narcissist. I realized when it was too late but I'm glad he's out of my life now. My mother's a narcissist too, that one's a long story

Well I've dug up some worms tonight. Feeling for you all x

How about you OP, do you know anyone who's one? x"

Yes I do was seeing him a long time and I'm glad I'm out of it now.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"The lines between loving yourself, being confident and narcissism are very very thin

The need for admiration is one big difference. You can be extremely confident , successful and not liked by everyone , but don’t really care that much about the views of people who don’t matter. That isn’t narcissistic, but the need for admiration often displayed here is

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

It’s an overused word, these days.

There’s a big difference between having narcissistic traits, actual narcissistic personality disorder, and simply wanting to be admired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister

But then she could just be a cunt.

I wouldn't piss on her if she was on fire.

It's so bad even my parents cut contact.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Very overused word at the moment, apparently everyone's ex has a narcissistic personality.

Mrs

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