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Being single and coping without human touch

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hugs, hand holding, physical intimacy (not necessarily sexual), the feel of someone's touch...makes us feel safe and secure. Why?

I miss that.

I'm counting down the days until I see a friend who gives great hugs, I might ask her if I can stop by regularly for a hug

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Hugs are great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP.

Those things are all about feeling human and connected. It’s not a surprise that you notice the absence of them not just sexual intimacy.

Great hugs are worth loads, get a regular top up of them if you can x

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I am not a touchy-huggy person in real life, it feels awkward when others try to hug me, for whatever reason. It's different in the bedroom though- sometimes I much prefer some cuddles and a chat, or even just cuddles, to sex. Other times, the horny devil comes out

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

3 words...FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I'm perma-single and physical intimacy is deeply important to me. Everyone needs a snuggle.

I make friends with people who have the same views on this important view.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Hugs are underrated

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I give amazing hugs.

OP..consider yourself hugged x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah it's tough. I'm sorry, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the one thing I fond hard about being single.

I'm very very tactile and do miss holding hands, having a hug whenever I'd like one, and being spooned tightly in bed.

I have a platonic friend I met recently through work , and each time I see him he gives me the best huge hug, and I absolutely love it.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It's the only thing I miss, being single. I'm very tactile, but hugs from friends and family aren't quite the same as someone you have feelings for.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Exactly the same as others have said - I miss those things too.

They have been quite elusive to find on fab as they need a degree of chemistry and intimacy with the other person - not the kind of thing you can often get from a ‘stranger’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The blanket trick works well

Buy a bigger blanket than your bed needs roll up the extra and cuddle it works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a weighted blanket and it is like being hugged in bed.. Well kinda

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being tactile myself I do miss the feeling of touch at times like holding hands and cuddling

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I hate being touched in general, like out in public, people I barely know. Even when friends hug me I feel awkward but I miss those intimate cuddles. My fwb does give me them and they're amazing but I miss having them on a regular basis

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By *ellaluaWoman
over a year ago

Camberley

I also miss hugs, the everyday touches from one another and everyhing else that goes with it!

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By *heeks123Woman
over a year ago

North West

As happily single as I am, there's still nothing better than a good hug, post sex spoony cuddles, the affectionate touches and supportive hand holding that come naturally when you're on a great night out with someone. It doesn't mean we want marriage, its just nice when it happens.

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By *ellaluaWoman
over a year ago

Camberley

In bed I have extra pilows and use them to cuddle into around my body, I find it helps if I need that feeling of being safe and secure in someones arms, like melting into their chest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went through a 17 year relationship with someone that deliberately witheld any form of intimate contact especially hugs. She was a horribly jealous person so hugging anyone else even platonically was severely punished. As such I don't really need to go to hell as I've already been there.

On a positive note BB will drive to my house just for hugs and staring deeply into my eyes - so I don't really need to go to heaven either as I'm already there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite easy what you never have you never miss as the saying goes

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

It's something I feel strongly about. Indeed it's on my profile headline and mentioned in my narrative.

I cannot imagine myself being devoid of tactility, either sexually or platonically. A somatic sensation that begins with a gentle pressure on my skin and amplifies my body's stimuli. It promotes a wondrous feel-good factor.

Sexually, it's a prerequisite.

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

I miss hugs, holding hands and quick kisses when I've popped downstairs to get coffee.

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden


"I miss hugs, holding hands and quick kisses when I've popped downstairs to get coffee. "

Oh, and snuggling in bed.

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By *b72Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I have a cat. The fact the he is about makes it less lonely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a very touchy feely person and that’s one thing I miss being single

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"In bed I have extra pilows and use them to cuddle into around my body, I find it helps if I need that feeling of being safe and secure in someones arms, like melting into their chest. "

I've done this sometimes as well.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"Hugs, hand holding, physical intimacy (not necessarily sexual), the feel of someone's touch...makes us feel safe and secure. Why?

I miss that.

I'm counting down the days until I see a friend who gives great hugs, I might ask her if I can stop by regularly for a hug

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Touch hunger is a recognised thing. Its the deprivation of human contact.

I'm not particularly tactile, but it was difficult during lockdown.

I do love closeness and cuddles as part of sex.

As a single it can be difficult having my needs met.

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

I have a fwb and sometimes we just get in bed and kiss and spoon.

Its not all sexually charged, but is intimate and reassuring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's also something I'm really missing at the moment. I've found myself wrapped around my pillows during the night. Really need to find a cuddle buddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant sleep in the same bed as anyone else! But I am a tactile and intimate person. I crave intimacy more than sex and I'm not single!

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By *9 kisses.Man
over a year ago

clacton on sea

I miss cuddling up and toothpaste kisses at night and morning kisses,

Even chatting crap and falling asleep next to someone,

It's shite being married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant sleep in the same bed as anyone else! But I am a tactile and intimate person. I crave intimacy more than sex and I'm not single! "

Loneliness and solitude can be very different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not any of that, I miss the most wonderful time I ever had.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Hugs are good for you, well they are for me I find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a massive hugger. Weither it be my mates I haven't seen for a while or people I'm being introduced to for the first time. I understand that most are uncomfortable with that type of human contact especially with the unfamiliaror when unexpected. I do however believe that it can create a bond of trust as offering a hug shows openness and vulnerability to someone who may otherwise be closed.

No all respond in the same way to a hug but if we are all completely honest with ourselves, we all want to be hugged and feel that love that it brings.

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