FabSwingers.com forum: How long from first email to meet up???

By *coobyroo218 OP Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

See a lot of posts on here about time wasters and people not showing but is there any connection between the time of the first email to the first meet as a ratio of people not turning up?

Us here in Guernsey have to chat for a while before we meet people because of where we live so it gives us a chance to suss people out and if they are willing to chat etc. even go on cam to proove they are what they say they are etc

We try to do everything that is possible to make us real and to make sure the other person/persons are real, we would hate to think we traveled over to meet someone and they did not turn up, cannot exactly get another meet in the space of 1/2 hour.

So how long it is from email to meet???

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Difficult to say, as you would expect as it so depends on distance, family and work committments etc.

I have chatted to some people for over a year before we had the opportunity to meet. Having said that, I d say that was one of the longest and usually I would try an meet within a few weeks rather than months.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

A couple of days, a couple of weeks or in a few cases a year.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

From 1 day to over a year for me, it can vary tremendously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See a lot of posts on here about time wasters and people not showing but is there any connection between the time of the first email to the first meet as a ratio of people not turning up?

So how long it is from email to meet???

The more you chat the more you will find out if they are worth meeting or if its one to walk away on. I am not sure though if there is any real connection though as there are some who just like to chat and would do so forever.

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By *coobyroo218 OP Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

but is there a connection to between time and who turns up??

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've noticed the longer the gap, the less likely they want to meet.

Some men are happy to wait. Others go off the boil if you won't meet that night!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"but is there a connection to between time and who turns up??"

Not in my experience to be honest. I get a feel for those who are genuine and want to meet and those who just want to collect pictures etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've noticed the longer the gap, the less likely they want to meet.

Some men are happy to wait. Others go off the boil if you won't meet that night!"

your right. which is why i give it a fair amount of time.

and if all im getting are excuses not to and they have new verifications then i just block them.

i never understand why some contact me asking to meet then delay it forever.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Some men are happy to wait. Others go off the boil if you won't meet that night!"
Actually, I agree with you on the latter part.... but those who want to me immediately (and I can and would never do that anyway) and then go off the boil are not really my cup of tea anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

eleven months next wednesday I hope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's a two way thing. If you both think it's the right time to meet then go for it. No need to put a time scale on things

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By *coobyroo218 OP Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

We would love to meet people at early opportunities but circumstances get in the way.

Then saying that if people are prepared to wait then maybe they will show, in Nine years we have never had anyone not turn up, then again some people on here have probably met more in one year than we have in nine so not a good example really.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"For me it's a two way thing. If you both think it's the right time to meet then go for it. No need to put a time scale on things"
Completely agree with you there

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By *coobyroo218 OP Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

"For me it's a two way thing. If you both think it's the right time to meet then go for it. No need to put a time scale on things"

It was not exactly about a scale of time it was more along the lines of say "ooh yes spoke for two night we wnt to meet they/he/she did not turn up, or we chatted for over a month every night and they showed.

thats sort of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's a two way thing. If you both think it's the right time to meet then go for it. No need to put a time scale on thingsCompletely agree with you there

Thank you. We have enough pressures in everyday life why add to them. Go with the flow as they say

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

it depends... sometimes that thing we call "real life" gets in the way....

there have been people who i have been within a short space of time...

there have been people who it has taken time to meet with planning...

there are people I have yet to meet but I/we will get round to it eventually I have no doubts...

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"For me it's a two way thing. If you both think it's the right time to meet then go for it. No need to put a time scale on thingsCompletely agree with you there

Thank you. We have enough pressures in everyday life why add to them. Go with the flow as they say

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Absolutely - at the end of the day (or night for that matter;-) ... it is meant ot be fun, recreational and enjoyable. If anybody put pressure on me for meeting sooner I would find that a turn off tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's a two way thing. If you both think it's the right time to meet then go for it. No need to put a time scale on thingsCompletely agree with you there

Thank you. We have enough pressures in everyday life why add to them. Go with the flow as they say

Absolutely - at the end of the day (or night for that matter;-) ... it is meant ot be fun, recreational and enjoyable. If anybody put pressure on me for meeting sooner I would find that a turn off tbh.

I'm with you on that one

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I've noticed the longer the gap, the less likely they want to meet.

Some men are happy to wait. Others go off the boil if you won't meet that night!

your right. which is why i give it a fair amount of time.

and if all im getting are excuses not to and they have new verifications then i just block them.

i never understand why some contact me asking to meet then delay it forever."

You don't know if they have been talking to the other meets for some time or it has been long arranged.

I get annoyed when people give the "I see you've met someone else" line.

Equally, some people keep chatting and I am happy to do that. If I told them the door is open for a meet then I expect them to make some effort and arrange it with me and not just have me asking when we'll meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's a two way thing. If you both think it's the right time to meet then go for it. No need to put a time scale on thingsCompletely agree with you there

Thank you. We have enough pressures in everyday life why add to them. Go with the flow as they say

We really should meet lol

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"For me it's a two way thing. If you both think it's the right time to meet then go for it. No need to put a time scale on thingsCompletely agree with you there

Thank you. We have enough pressures in everyday life why add to them. Go with the flow as they say

We really should meet lol

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We so should !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's a two way thing. If you both think it's the right time to meet then go for it. No need to put a time scale on thingsCompletely agree with you there

Thank you. We have enough pressures in everyday life why add to them. Go with the flow as they say

We really should meet lol

We so should !!

Deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've noticed the longer the gap, the less likely they want to meet.

Some men are happy to wait. Others go off the boil if you won't meet that night!

your right. which is why i give it a fair amount of time.

and if all im getting are excuses not to and they have new verifications then i just block them.

i never understand why some contact me asking to meet then delay it forever.

You don't know if they have been talking to the other meets for some time or it has been long arranged.

I get annoyed when people give the "I see you've met someone else" line.

sorry it annoys you but we go off personal experiences.

what if someone cancels you or doesnt turn up yet you made arrangements with that person a while ago?

would you be happy with that?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I've noticed the longer the gap, the less likely they want to meet.

Some men are happy to wait. Others go off the boil if you won't meet that night!

your right. which is why i give it a fair amount of time.

and if all im getting are excuses not to and they have new verifications then i just block them.

i never understand why some contact me asking to meet then delay it forever.

You don't know if they have been talking to the other meets for some time or it has been long arranged.

I get annoyed when people give the "I see you've met someone else" line.

sorry it annoys you but we go off personal experiences.

what if someone cancels you or doesnt turn up yet you made arrangements with that person a while ago?

would you be happy with that?"

I has happened and it depends on the reasons. If I get no call then I am not happy. Often I am just frustrated but life gets in the way and them is the breaks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've noticed the longer the gap, the less likely they want to meet.

Some men are happy to wait. Others go off the boil if you won't meet that night!

your right. which is why i give it a fair amount of time.

and if all im getting are excuses not to and they have new verifications then i just block them.

i never understand why some contact me asking to meet then delay it forever.

You don't know if they have been talking to the other meets for some time or it has been long arranged.

I get annoyed when people give the "I see you've met someone else" line.

sorry it annoys you but we go off personal experiences.

what if someone cancels you or doesnt turn up yet you made arrangements with that person a while ago?

would you be happy with that?

I has happened and it depends on the reasons. If I get no call then I am not happy. Often I am just frustrated but life gets in the way and them is the breaks."

trust me. im very reasonable and patient.

ive traveled all over the country for meets and i make a lot of effort.

some people just like playing games so you have to be fair to yourself sometimes and say it isnt going to happen.

and if that means blocking them so they cannot waste anymore of your time i think that is fair.

some woman on here i exchange messages with and i know there is no chance of a meet.

but they are happy to chat and tease via the message and i also enjoy it so i consider them friends.

im not a hard or nasty bit of work. just feel sometimes you got to be honest about it. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It varies from person to person, and the quality and frequency of the messages.

I have chatted to a playmate for over 3 years before we eventually met up for fun.

In the past, I have been known to drop my knickers within hours of receiving the first message.

However, that no longer happens as I prefer to get to know the gent I am interested in meeting in sufficient details first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It varies from person to person, and the quality and frequency of the messages.

I have chatted to a playmate for over 3 years before we eventually met up for fun.

In the past, I have been known to drop my knickers within hours of receiving the first message.

However, that no longer happens as I prefer to get to know the gent I am interested in meeting in sufficient details first.

now i would have never believed you'd have dropped your knickers that quickly.

shows you what i know doesnt it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes aweek on oir joint profile sometimes longer as i work shifts. also have domestic stuff to do so its a case of finding a common time

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"but is there a connection to between time and who turns up??"

Nope... well if anything it's sometimes the ones who want to talk for long periods of time who are the biggest dreamers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone who talks the talk can walk the walk, based on my previous experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everyone who talks the talk can walk the walk, based on my previous experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive gone from speaking for a few days to currently a few months. All had great experiences.

Sometimes its due to paths not crossing at times when both of us are free, and sometimes its just instant cos we are in the mood and available.

Before all meets even just social ones ive spoken on the phone and used webcam. Only experienced one timewaster in the two years ish ive been on here which isnt too bad compared to others i read about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you really want to meet someone i cannot see why the delay.

if they want to just get on with it.

makes it all exciting.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I have no time limit,I never rush,I never push,if its going to happen it will

We have busy lives,we don't play that often,we do things in our own time and understand that its the same for others

If people don't understand that then its all cool with me they can go and find someone else to play with

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By *coobyroo218 OP Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

It was just a thought as to why so many people get ones that do not turn up, thought it might have been email and very soon after arrange a meet and then they do not show.

Like said we have to chat BUT we always meet up with people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult as two jobs but not impossible. On occasions it's been a couple of days, some a week or more and some still trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it took about three weeks from joining the site, we received an email within a day or two of someone that looked interesting. Emailed back and forth for about 10 days. Then followed up with a couple of phone calls. We had our first public meet tonight. ( couldn't make it last weekend he was on call )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find if u cane both make a mutual time then its more likely to happen sooner.

Even if u chat there is no instant obligation to meet from either side.

I've had guys who chat to me then I don't talk to them for a while and then they come back with "when r we going to meet it must be my turn next" by then I've forgotten what they have said before in our breif convo, I'm chatting to people a lot. So if u want to meet u need to keep the interest going not think u can sit on someones friend list like its a queue lol

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

It has been a couple of hours all the way up to months - it all depends on timing, available time and location.

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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

Personally I'd say if its going to happen, it is going to happen, providing both parties are prepared to put in some effort and make it. It is as much as building that trust and relationship, meeting be it for fun or socially has to be about more than just getting down to business for me. There are a couple of people that I would say are special and on my hot list as I'd really enjoy their company with a meet, I'm not going to string people along and perv their photos with a promise of a meet that I have no intention of following through, but practicality and logistics have to be a consideration always. If I arrange a meet with anyone off here then I'll meet with them; unless it has been necessary to take a rain check. I am not going to let anyone down. If you're still reading this form an orderly queue and redeem your rain check vouchers now

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

2 years since first mail. I still live in hope she will read it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have chatted with someone for months then met, another after a few days.I think it depends in whether you click ir not and if it feels right .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i normally talk at least a few weeks but have been known to talk for months before meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've noticed the longer the gap, the less likely they want to meet.

Some men are happy to wait. Others go off the boil if you won't meet that night!"

I think people get tired of email ping-pong sometimes. I'm not saying these things should be rushed but both parties should make their intentions pretty clear from the start.

Also some men are concerned that if they 'rush' things ..even on a sex site, then the woman will retreat and this can be misunderstood for 'going off the boil'

People also have a tendency to 'keep people warm' - in other words, in reserve ..therefore they have an interest but only if something better doesn't come along - this applies to both sexes I think.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

One meet was within half an hour of them joining the site, they were local obviously. Another took over four years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Random for me.

Can be within an hour, or weeks, just depends how horny I am and when we can meet.

I do prefer to text or phone before a meet so I know they are genuine.

but haven't even done this with everyone, mainly guys who randomly text me every couple of weeks or so with messages that you can tell they definitely want to meet you give off that genuine vibe anyway.

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