FabSwingers.com forum: Do you think its sexist......

By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

for men to open doors for women?

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over a year ago

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

You mean in a 'Leap out if the taxi run around and open the door while she sits there waiting' kind of way? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not because I do it all the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it's manners. I also open doors for others x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Not if they are at the door. I subscribe to being polite whatever sex you are.

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By *exymixedcouple7Couple
over a year ago

london

Never, jules always open doors and goes around the car to open the car door.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"No"
Neither do i, i see it as polite but a close friend and i were having a discusion this week and she thinks it is.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

No, I do it for men and women.

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By *exymixedcouple7Couple
over a year ago

london

"Not if they are at the door. I subscribe to being polite whatever sex you are."

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"You mean in a 'Leap out if the taxi run around and open the door while she sits there waiting' kind of way? X "

I have only ever had one experience similar to that and I found it very endearing indeed.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

No, I dont think it is - regardless of gender, courtesy costs nothing.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Would guys do it specifically for a woman?

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

"NoNeither do i, i see it as polite but a close friend and i were having a discusion this week and she thinks it is.

I think it is just good manners, tho does piss me off when you do and people do not say 'thank you'

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not but neither do i think its sexist for a man to open a door for another man, a woman to open a door for another woman or a woman to open a door for a man with a baby in a pram. What it is in my book is being courteous and frankly there is too little of it in today's society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I do it for men and women."

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"You mean in a 'Leap out if the taxi run around and open the door while she sits there waiting' kind of way? X "
Yeah if you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"NoNeither do i, i see it as polite but a close friend and i were having a discusion this week and she thinks it is.

I see it as politeness and good manners,I will also hold a door open for someone,I don't see it as anything to do with sexism

I don't hang around doors waiting for a man to come and open it for me

Why do some people think that something that is only good manners an insult to their sexuality?

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"NoNeither do i, i see it as polite but a close friend and i were having a discusion this week and she thinks it is.

I see it as politeness and good manners,I will also hold a door open for someone,I don't see it as anything to do with sexism

I don't hang around doors waiting for a man to come and open it for me

Why do some people think that something that is only good manners an insult to their sexuality?"
I can only speak for my friend but her reasoning was she doesnt want to be percieved as being the weaker sex, and men that do things like that are sexist.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No, it's manners. Especially if the woman had no arms and couldn't do it herself easily.

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over a year ago

"NoNeither do i, i see it as polite but a close friend and i were having a discusion this week and she thinks it is.

I see it as politeness and good manners,I will also hold a door open for someone,I don't see it as anything to do with sexism

I don't hang around doors waiting for a man to come and open it for me

Why do some people think that something that is only good manners an insult to their sexuality?I can only speak for my friend but her reasoning was she doesnt want to be percieved as being the weaker sex, and men that do things like that are sexist.

Personally I find that way of thinking very odd

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"You mean in a 'Leap out if the taxi run around and open the door while she sits there waiting' kind of way? X Yeah if you like."

Not sexist. But daft. I can get out of a car quite easily on my own. Haha.

Opening doors to shops etc is just courteous. I hold the door open for people all the time. Wouldn't expect a bloke to jump ahead just to open it for me.. But I wouldn't think it was sexist if he did x

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"NoNeither do i, i see it as polite but a close friend and i were having a discusion this week and she thinks it is.

I see it as politeness and good manners,I will also hold a door open for someone,I don't see it as anything to do with sexism

I don't hang around doors waiting for a man to come and open it for me

Personally I find that way of thinking very odd

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Me too, hence the thread.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"NoNeither do i, i see it as polite but a close friend and i were having a discusion this week and she thinks it is.

I see it as politeness and good manners,I will also hold a door open for someone,I don't see it as anything to do with sexism

I don't hang around doors waiting for a man to come and open it for me

What would she say if a bloke let the door go in her face then?

I am all for equal rights but when women moan about common courtesy then they really become their own worst enemies. Just smile and say thank you. Its not difficult!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not but neither do i think its sexist for a man to open a door for another man, a woman to open a door for another woman or a woman to open a door for a man with a baby in a pram. What it is in my book is being courteous and frankly there is too little of it in today's society."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, as I consider it as good manner. I would hold/open the door for anyone, young or old, male or female.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It is bonkers to think of courtesy in sexist terms. Expectations that men should go ahead and open the door for you is just as sexist.

However, I do find this confusion about modern manners can now mean that I am struggling with bags and boxes and men will walk past and not help me to open the door.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I just think that there are some women who just love to feel that the most innocuous of acts is a personal attack on their womanhood

The must spend all their day feeling indignant towards everyone around them

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"It is bonkers to think of courtesy in sexist terms. Expectations that men should go ahead and open the door for you is just as sexist.

However, I do find this confusion about modern manners can now mean that I am struggling with bags and boxes and men will walk past and not help me to open the door."
Tbh i think some guys have fallen foul of a woman who take exception to be assisted, and confuse good manners with being insulted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think its really nice and when im with a guy i hang back a little to give him chance to get to the door before me.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I just think that there are some women who just love to feel that the most innocuous of acts is a personal attack on their womanhood

The must spend all their day feeling indignant towards everyone around them"
I couldnt agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hold doors open for people as i think its polite

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"NoNeither do i, i see it as polite but a close friend and i were having a discusion this week and she thinks it is.

I see it as politeness and good manners,I will also hold a door open for someone,I don't see it as anything to do with sexism

I don't hang around doors waiting for a man to come and open it for me

I find that insulting to be honest. For her to judge my motives based on my gender alone makes her sexist in my eyes.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"for men to open doors for women?"

Only if they do it exclusively for women. I just think it is good manners to hold doors open for people. Particularly if they are struggling with something - packages, bags, buggies, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like opening pishflaps for women...thats not sexist is it?

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"NoNeither do i, i see it as polite but a close friend and i were having a discusion this week and she thinks it is.

I see it as politeness and good manners,I will also hold a door open for someone,I don't see it as anything to do with sexism

I don't hang around doors waiting for a man to come and open it for me

I find that insulting to be honest. For her to judge my motives based on my gender alone makes her sexist in my eyes.

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Ironic isnt it?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"NoNeither do i, i see it as polite but a close friend and i were having a discusion this week and she thinks it is.

I see it as politeness and good manners,I will also hold a door open for someone,I don't see it as anything to do with sexism

I don't hang around doors waiting for a man to come and open it for me

I find that insulting to be honest. For her to judge my motives based on my gender alone makes her sexist in my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like opening pishflaps for women...thats not sexist is it?"

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I like opening pishflaps for women...thats not sexist is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for men to open doors for women?

Only if they do it exclusively for women. I just think it is good manners to hold doors open for people. Particularly if they are struggling with something - packages, bags, buggies, etc."

Some men I wouldn't hold the door open for as they may take things the wrong way and become intimidating.

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By *cotslad007Man
over a year ago

armadale

Not at all, its good manners and not sexict

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be surprised if anyone held a door open for me because they believed I was incapable of doing it myself.

Therefore, no, I don't think it is sexist for a man to hold a door open for me and I would consider it quite rude to attack him for doing so.

I felt differently for a while when I was younger and actually felt quite ashamed of myself when the realisation of how rude I was being hit home. Now I always take the time to thank anyone for such gestures, and to offer assistance to others when I think it might be helpful.

If they say no, at least I have offered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's manners.

Just wish people knew it was manners to say thank you after though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had one woman tell me to fcuk off when i opened a door for her.

now i just dont do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regardless of the argument that it might be seen as sexist in today's society, I do greatly appreciate good manners and decorum.

I do actually love to have a gentleman open a door for me, and always acknowledge the gesture with a smile and a "Thank you"!

It's one of those simple, gestures that costs nothing and yet it worth so much - and brightens the day...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No it's manners.

Just wish people knew it was manners to say thank you after though! "

same here lots just say nothing if you do.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I will hold the door open, if they say thanks all good.

if they don't... hey ho.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"i had one woman tell me to fcuk off when i opened a door for her.

now i just dont do it."

Yes mate, but it was her cubicle door in the ladies.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"i think its really nice and when im with a guy i hang back a little to give him chance to get to the door before me."

And then you can perve his arse at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

I always open doors for people, male or female and have encountered the 'I can do it myself!' but mostly I get a polite thank you.

Personally I don't find it sexist, just good manners and courteous.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

no it 's not sexist...... Not unless he'd refuse to open it for a bloke .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think its really nice and when im with a guy i hang back a little to give him chance to get to the door before me.

And then you can perve his arse at the same time."

Well yes that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I do it for men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for men to open doors for women?"

No.

It might be seen as a bit old-fashioned, but men and women of a certain age do it and appreciate it.

Ok, so I might well be of that certain age, but I see it as part of my respect for a woman.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"for men to open doors for women?"

Not if it's the lav door for a quick shag in a nightclub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will open the door for anyone regardless of age, gender or colour, what does annoy me tho is if they don't have the decency to acknowledge you have done it, just like giving way to other drivers, who don't thank you lol

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

While leaving a shop one day i opened the door and stepped back to let a women in shop...she looked at me and said I can open my own doors....i was just gobsmacked

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I will open the door for anyone regardless of age, gender or colour, what does annoy me tho is if they don't have the decency to acknowledge you have done it, just like giving way to other drivers, who don't thank you lol"

And they walk through it without holding the door open as if its your job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think the only people i have helped recently were a mum with her pushchair which i carried down some steps at the train station.

and an old woman i helped on and off the train.

i hate it when everyone else just looks and does nothing when clearly someone needs help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While leaving a shop one day i opened the door and stepped back to let a women in shop...she looked at me and said I can open my own doors....i was just gobsmacked"

That is probably what she would have got in reply - gobsmacked

Surely it is just polite? Man or Woman.

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