FabSwingers.com forum: married men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, you have been chatting to a guy for ages. Very sexy, intelligent, likes the same erotic things, gets your pussy throbbing and then when the meet is imminent he tell you he is married! A loveless, sexless unhappy marriage. What does a girl do??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever she wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She must decide based on her own moral code what the correct thing for her to do is.

Some meet married men, regarding his responsibility to his partner as nothing to do with them. Some won't meet married men. Some wouldn't meet a man who hadn't been honest and upfront to start with.

Do what feels right for you.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

There's been a huge debate about this on here the past couple of days.

Personally I wouldn't. But the end decision lies with you and what you think is right. X

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

depends how much she needs her vagina played with, if it is at a level her preferences go out the window, go for it.

if a dildo will satisfy, then hold firm.

all the best which ever you choose.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"She must decide based on her own moral code what the correct thing for her to do is.

Some meet married men, regarding his responsibility to his partner as nothing to do with them. Some won't meet married men. Some wouldn't meet a man who hadn't been honest and upfront to start with.

Do what feels right for you."

I agree one thing you must do is be true to yourself if you seek others approval in this lifestyle you will end up very confused.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

you know what, I would be gutted if I had a husband and he was having sex with hot girls and I have to consider the woman who I could potentially hurt and to be fair there are plenty of single guys to play with so I think I have made my decision, shame though, this guy is yummy x

Thanks guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends. If you are looking for dirty NSA sex with someone you care nothing for, then I say just do it.

If you're on here looking for something that will develop beyond the sex part then probably best avoid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?"

many people do and it is nice to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?"

Yes, have encountered singles looking for something more. Kind of like a dating site but where you get the sex out of the way first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he been given permission by the other half or is this a behind the back thing?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"you know what, I would be gutted if I had a husband and he was having sex with hot girls and I have to consider the woman who I could potentially hurt

if that is how you would feel... then there is ya answer....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt matter what anyone tells you to do.

youve already made your mind up.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?"

Entirely possible humans being what we are will often find love (or whatever you want to call it) when we are least expecting it

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By *andyguy59Man
over a year ago

Gatwick

" What does a girl do?? "

Tell him to put it on his profile...and be up front about it. So he doesn't waste your time if you don't play with married men.

As for what you should do...up to you ...some girls (and couples) do some girls (and couples) don't, some girls (and couples) prefer married men!!

You pays yer money( or not) and takes yer choice...

Good luck with whatever you decide...

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Why just knock the married men there are plenty of married females doing the same thing bugs me when only the man is picked out, each to there own if there going to cheat they will this includes married females not just married men

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

nope , i dont think his wife is aware x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?

Entirely possible humans being what we are will often find love (or whatever you want to call it) when we are least expecting it

thats true. yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

rob and ruth, I agree but this is my dilemma and it is a married guy I am discussing xxx

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By *andyguy59Man
over a year ago

Gatwick

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?"

I've met and know of several couples on this site (and other sites) that have met and are together now because of it.

It all depends on what you want and what you are looking for....but put it in your profile if you are....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Why just knock the married men there are plenty of married females doing the same thing bugs me when only the man is picked out, each to there own if there going to cheat they will this includes married females not just married men

I think married men are knocked more because women are more vocal about not meeting married men. Perhaps the en meeting married women just don't care about it and crack on?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

beacuse she is a woman and her potential meet is a man. I don't see many threads started by men wondering if they should meet married women or not but if there were my answer would still be the same....your decision on and yours alone!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"rob and ruth, I agree but this is my dilemma and it is a married guy I am discussing xxx"

Is it really a dilemma? Would you have chatted to him at length of he told you he was married from the start?

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By *ikerbob1957Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm still married but haven't had sex or even a kiss off the woman for the last 5 years, we have seperate rooms and she has applied for a job abroad so decide which category I fall into.

Sometimes when I am honest about my situation I get quite abusive replies!!

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

the piont is do you want to get in bed with the married man if so go 4 it , if he is cheating thats up to him and if he has told you he is married then the choice is yours and yours alone

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

are we saying that the answers given on here to females may differ to ones given to males on a similar subject

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

rob and ruth, usually if a guy puts on his profile or tells me he is married from the start I just say no, I have put on my profile also that i dont want to play with married men, i did not know the guy I want was married until now and I do want him, poop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Says no thanks, not my thing and good luck

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

True but only the man is picked out to be hung drawn and quartered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm still married but haven't had sex or even a kiss off the woman for the last 5 years, we have seperate rooms and she has applied for a job abroad so decide which category I fall into.

Sometimes when I am honest about my situation I get quite abusive replies!!"

I hope you report them as there is no need for that

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So, you have been chatting to a guy for ages. Very sexy, intelligent, likes the same erotic things, gets your pussy throbbing and then when the meet is imminent he tell you he is married! A loveless, sexless unhappy marriage. What does a girl do??

Do you want someone to give you permission, tell you its ok, that he is the one responsible for any fall out not you? That won't happen, as I said before the only person who can make the decision is you and I think you've already made it you wouldn't be asking otherwise. Whatever you do I hope you have fun

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Think you'll find the married women just get on with it, the married men tend to bleat about others having a preference in not meeting them.

Personally, I find threads like this tiresome - get on with it, we're adults, you don't need permission to fuck whoever you like, just stop boring us with it!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"True but only the man is picked out to be hung drawn and quartered

There isn't a married woman posting is there?

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

The cant accom bit should tell you he has a wife , and if you like him go 4 it its your choice and yours alone , but he should have been up front and honest , but you new didnt you , the cant accom bit is a ded give away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The cant accom bit should tell you he has a wife , and if you like him go 4 it its your choice and yours alone , but he should have been up front and honest , but you new didnt you , the cant accom bit is a ded give away

Not being able to accommodate doesn't mean the person is married, i have children, so i dont. I wouldn't anyway.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I must admit we tend to think that if a guy can't accommodate that he is married or in a relationship especially if he is a bit older. We usually ask within a couple of messages anyway and most are honest.

Neither of us have a problem with married guys being on here it isn't a perfect world, but we do choose not to meet them. This doesn't mean we're making any judgement of them, we can't we only know one side of their story but it is our choice and one that we find ourselves increasingly being asked to defend (not that we do its no one elses business ).

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

9 times out of 10 it does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"True but only the man is picked out to be hung drawn and quartered

I don't think that's necessarily true. My feelings about married people meeting others, without the knowledge of their partner, is the same regardless of the sex of the married person.

My advice to a man asking the same question as the OP, but about a married woman, would be exactly the same.

I make my own decisions and I encourage everyone else to do what feels right for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being able to accommodate doesn't mean the person is married, i have children, so i dont. I wouldn't anyway."

Ditto. I can't accommodate but I'm not, and have never been, married.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No married woman has asked her to meet.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"you know what, I would be gutted if I had a husband and he was having sex with hot girls and I have to consider the woman who I could potentially hurt and to be fair there are plenty of single guys to play with so I think I have made my decision, shame though, this guy is yummy x

Thanks guys x"

Congrats on your decision xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh dear Miss, moody and impolite, not attractive for married or singles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not married, i choose to meet at my home or not, being a single guy am i not allowed the same rights as a single female or couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not married, i choose to meet at my home or not, being a single guy am i not allowed the same rights as a single female or couple?

Yes you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not married, i choose to meet at my home or not, being a single guy am i not allowed the same rights as a single female or couple?

Yes you are

thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever she wants. "

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a choice that only you can make. Not all married guys are monsters. True people are unaware if certain things. He did say before the deed....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile says married my choice to play , cheat if a guy doesn't tell you from the start what else is he hidding

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Oh dear Miss, moody and impolite, not attractive for married or singles

Me ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?"

yes it is possible! I was chatting to a girl recently on here and she found a great guy,so yes anything is possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're both adults capable of making decisions.

If you are both prepared for the outcome if things go wrong, then it's your choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're both adults capable of making decisions.

If you are both prepared for the outcome if things go wrong, then it's your choice."

Absolutely

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"rob and ruth, usually if a guy puts on his profile or tells me he is married from the start I just say no, I have put on my profile also that i dont want to play with married men, i did not know the guy I want was married until now and I do want him, poop!

It's only a fuck at the end of the day, you can pick another one of those up easy enough.... unless by 'want' you mean more than that.... well that's a different kettle of carp.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Oh dear Miss, moody and impolite, not attractive for married or singles

Me ?"

Miss granny crumpet doesn't really have the same ring to it. Don't think it was meant for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have lost many meets for this very reason . I totally respect potential meet's decision though and never question their reasons as I completely understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?"

Yes.

Next question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm still married but haven't had sex or even a kiss off the woman for the last 5 years, we have seperate rooms and she has applied for a job abroad so decide which category I fall into.

Sometimes when I am honest about my situation I get quite abusive replies!!"

Yep, can empathise with that, the simple fact is that nobody else knows what goes on behind closed doors.

For some of us, it's not as simple as black or white!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you check my profile, you'll see my status, and if as your profile has, a lady says she's not interested in married/attached guys, then I wouldn't contact her.

So on that basis, he's no different from any other eejit who doesn't read your profile properly, or chooses to ignore part of it. Delete and block him!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some wouldn't meet a man who hadn't been honest and upfront to start with."

We had this recently with a couple. After chatting for ages and meeting for a coffee they sent a message admitting they were married to other people not each other. Fine that's their business, but we didn't see them again as we were a bit stunned they had fabricated a complete life for our benefit and lied so convincingly for so long. If they had been upfront from the start then maybe things would have been different.

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

if he really hot i would fuck his brains out and byeee honey hahah

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i dont judge 'cant accomodate' to mean married.

It may just mean 'have children staying with me', 'live in home of multiple occupancy', 'living with parents' or many other things. we are a couple who at times have 'cant accomodate' on our profile for very legitimate reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We know people who can't accommodate and they are definitely not married!

There are all sorts of reasons

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"We know people who can't accommodate and they are definitely not married!

There are all sorts of reasons

Like living rough as a homeless person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We know people who can't accommodate and they are definitely not married!

There are all sorts of reasons

Like living rough as a homeless person."

Well that's one I suppose!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"We know people who can't accommodate and they are definitely not married!

There are all sorts of reasons

Like living rough as a homeless person.

Well that's one I suppose!"

Or those that are buying a new house and have exchanged contracts but a cock up with the solicitor means technically, they don't own either home?

What about men who are engaged and due to get married the next day? Or later that day even if you both get up early.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha i think i have made my feeling quite clear on this on another thread XD

i would walk away, i have no desire to get involved with other peoples problems.. im not here to ruin lives thanks Xd

thats my choice and i dont car ehow hot he was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?

many people do and it is nice to see"

Yip, and I cant wait for the day some o them go on a TV gameshow and are asked how they met

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?

many people do and it is nice to see

Yip, and I cant wait for the day some o them go on a TV gameshow and are asked how they met

why....are they forced by law to tell the truth

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?

many people do and it is nice to see

Yip, and I cant wait for the day some o them go on a TV gameshow and are asked how they met

why....are they forced by law to tell the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to the OP i would quite happily walk away from that situation.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Do you think it is possible to find something more than NSA on this site?

many people do and it is nice to see

Yip, and I cant wait for the day some o them go on a TV gameshow and are asked how they met

why....are they forced by law to tell the truth

No but I wish some one would say "my hobby is shagging, I'm on Fabswingers".... I bet the number of people joining would rocket. Good idea, eh? Admin? Get a celeb to blab!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"haha i think i have made my feeling quite clear on this on another thread XD

i would walk away, i have no desire to get involved with other peoples problems.. im not here to ruin lives thanks Xd

thats my choice and i dont car ehow hot he was"
That would be my response, too. Having said that I would not pass judgment on anybody who meets and plays with attached people or indeed who is attached him/herself. We never ever know the complete story behind a person and therefore, in my world should not judge.

I just would not want to be at the receiving end of a phone call from an upset partner asking who the hell I am.

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

That's bollocks. Im not married yet i have to houseshare with 2 others because of the high rents here in the south east, i wouldnt be to afford a place on my own.

I have no problems with people who dont want to meet, but i get pissed off when people assume all guys who can't accommodate are married or in a relationship. Do you do the same to the single women who can't accommodate? Ive been cheated in the past by a ex partner so there is no way id cheat with anyone on here(and ive had offers).

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Aphrodite: you'd have to put on a deep manly voice and say "me names steve, chuck, yer mans bi" in a sort of Manchestery accent. Then run away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's bollocks. Im not married yet i have to houseshare with 2 others because of the high rents here in the south east, i wouldnt be to afford a place on my own.

Yip, its the typical double standars on this site which is sadly shown by many. If a woman cant accomodate its cause shes quite rightly being careful but if a man cant accomodate its because hes a lying married piece of shit.

For a site used by swingers who by nature should be some of the more liberal of our society alot of them dont half generalise a load of crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say F**k him..... No, really, just go and f**k him

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

Thanks guys x

Congrats on your decision xx "

+1. He could also be just saying he is in a loveless sexless marriage to get into your knickers. If course he may also be in a loveless sexless marriage. If so why doesn't he A) try and fix things or B) Leave her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not read this thread just your OP for me he'd have not got near me...

No question, loveless or not, bearing in mind of course the man will say that and how do you know if he loves his wife? I believe you would not marry without feeling, it will just end in tears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks guys x

Congrats on your decision xx

A- Maybe theyve tried and things are unfixable

B- Maybe they are too far financially obligated to get out or have kids neither want to leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks guys x

Congrats on your decision xx

A- Maybe theyve tried and things are unfixable

B- Maybe they are too far financially obligated to get out or have kids neither want to leave"

A: yes but two sides: who or have both called it a day...inevitably it is one who moves on.

B: cutting ties is the best thing and equally children are not happy when said parents are not, they know, no one should ever stay together for the kids as in the long run it is them you affect.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Sorry, but for a change, haven't read the whole thread...

I have no problem playing with married/attached guys, but if it says doesn't accom on profile, one of my first questions is "are you attached?" If the answer is yes, then I'd still meet, but if the answer is no and after a few messages we arrange a meet only to hear "well actually I am married" then they can bugger off, they're blocked

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What an amazing response, Thank you so much guys, you are all absolutely fab x

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