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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's quite annoying xx

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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Yes it's quite annoying xx

"

Obviously not reading profiles... think be used to it by now but still annoys me that have to explain over and over x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They look for a late night wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X"

No, doesn't annoy me at all. If I'm awake it might respond. If not I delete when I see it.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Ha ha they're shooting their shot and hoping for an invite round "if you want some company"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But but but it's a sex site. All women here are free and easy.

Here ends the sarcasm

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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"But but but it's a sex site. All women here are free and easy.

Here ends the sarcasm"

Haha true story

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I got called bud by someone...fucking bud?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s like a fall back question when you can’t articulate anything else. At best it’s because they’re nervous about our tired of messaging (and not getting responses).

Most likely it illiterate laziness though

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

They possibly think it reads better than: fancy sum fun or a fuk?

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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I got called bud by someone...fucking bud? "

Hahaha... might of been asking if you "fancied one" haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It amuses me even more when they ask it in the chatrooms.

I'm chatting

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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"It’s like a fall back question when you can’t articulate anything else. At best it’s because they’re nervous about our tired of messaging (and not getting responses).

Most likely it illiterate laziness though"

Fair enough in the daytime,but at stupid o'clock clock at night.. ermmmm I'm playing the banjo,what you think I'm doing.. haha especially a weekday...

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Because they're creatively bankrupt and have no idea how to interact with people on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very feckin annoying when I get those messages at silly o’clock

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X"

Are you online / on fab at silly o clock ?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Granny wants to know what silly o'clock is

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By *eeds fun guyMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

I would never send a message like that at any time, equally if I get one and I’m not up I don’t reply when I am up and don’t get fussed either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X"

When I was on that fishing site and I got this message, I would always answer;

Wanking

Quite a lot of men questioned whether I have a cock

Missy x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I ignore on my profile ,as it's usually followed by fancy meeting or a phone chat .

Miss

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By *haggydogMan
over a year ago

Brooklands/London

I would never send "What are you up to?" message, even though I don't have any common sense.

I've whittled it down to "FAF?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X"

So which one were you up to? We’re you having a party or watching the kids or sat around in lingerie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could genuinely have “anybody who messages me can fuck off and die” written on your profile and you’d still receive these messages.

Nobody reads profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could genuinely have “anybody who messages me can fuck off and die” written on your profile and you’d still receive these messages.

Nobody reads profiles."

Nobody!!! ??

We do. We just ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could genuinely have “anybody who messages me can fuck off and die” written on your profile and you’d still receive these messages.

Nobody reads profiles.

Nobody!!! ??

We do. We just ignore them. "

Do you ignore it all or just the bits you don’t like?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

They are bored and would like a wank over something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could genuinely have “anybody who messages me can fuck off and die” written on your profile and you’d still receive these messages.

Nobody reads profiles.

Nobody!!! ??

We do. We just ignore them.

Do you ignore it all or just the bits you don’t like?"

Not everything. I fab all the picture.

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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Granny wants to know what silly o'clock is "

From 10ish onwards.. bedtime

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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X

Are you online / on fab at silly o clock ?"

Maybe about 10ish when in bed just browsing

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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X

When I was on that fishing site and I got this message, I would always answer;

Wanking

Quite a lot of men questioned whether I have a cock

Missy x"

Hahaha...love it x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X"

Why not just respond? Or not if you dont want to?

How do people get so angry at a “what you doing” message?

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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X

So which one were you up to? We’re you having a party or watching the kids or sat around in lingerie?

"

Well obviously all 3.. I'm good at multitasking.

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By *aximus74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X

Why not just respond? Or not if you dont want to?

How do people get so angry at a “what you doing” message? "

Because its usually common sense.. I don't get angry as such,nobody on here could make me that angry,it's just annoying that if you think about it 9/10 the person your messaging at silly o clock would probably be in bed at that time.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X

Why not just respond? Or not if you dont want to?

How do people get so angry at a “what you doing” message?

Because its usually common sense.. I don't get angry as such,nobody on here could make me that angry,it's just annoying that if you think about it 9/10 the person your messaging at silly o clock would probably be in bed at that time. "

Why do people get so frustrated by this?

Out of all the messages women receive on here, “hey what you up to” seems like the most innocent

It’s a weird place here

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X"
usualy they are looking for a quick wank in the bogs on night shift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But don't people that have kids still go out? Don't they have holls with mates? Don't they sit up waiting for messages? Maybe it's just a convo starter? Not necessarily a good one but all the same is it worth getting upset over? I think some people are over sensitive on here. Not everyone is versed in confidence. I'll take the backlash no probs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people sending messages have done a local search which starts with who is online right now and goes down through those who have most recently logged off. Therefore, if you're getting such messages at silly o'clock it's probably because you're online. The fact you say in your profile you're a mother is kind of irrelevant, it's fair to assume if you're online you are not right then playing mother of the month. Even if you're not online, one assumes that you're on Fab in the first place for something a little more than recognition of your mothering abilities.

As above, 'what are you up to' is about the least offensive way of opening a conversation even if it is a little bland. The fact you get annoyed by it says as much about you as the question does about whoever asked it. Likewise, the fact you make assumptions about being sat in lingerie. A perfectly reasonable answer would be "having a cheeky browse as I'm bored but not sleepy" or "reading through the forums" or making notes on all the men within a 30 mile radius to score them in my order of preference"

I find it really strange that anyone would create a profile containing intimate photos, post it on a site with a list of the sexual activity they like and then wonder why people responding to it don't ask about the few brief lines mentioning that you have kids

Mr

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I suppose they are looking for someone to talk to, possibly in the hope of it becoming smutty

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

OP, if this happens again then respond with a detailed account of you in a scene from a popular movie.

Currently, I'm using Pulp Fiction and/or 300, don't be afraid to mix them up and have Sam Jackson call someone a motherfucker before kicking them into a massive hole that clearly had no hazard signs, what a H&S nightmare the Spartans were.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Has anyone been brave enough to message the OP and ask what she’s up to right now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an opening greeting.

I think at times we are a little over critical of people's openings.

I could come up with the most contrived and generic opening message tweaked slightly for each person that makes me sound creative but it's all as fake as spotting someone you fancy and taking a chance with a normal hello.

Besides if there has been effort put into the profile page I've found the original messages matters less to people anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i get a message like that its usually because they are wanting dirty xhat. I usually reply with something arcastic haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i get a message like that its usually because they are wanting dirty xhat. I usually reply with something arcastic haha"

Arcasm is the lowest form of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i get a message like that its usually because they are wanting dirty xhat. I usually reply with something arcastic haha

Arcasm is the lowest form of it"

And the coldest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably expecting you to say your playing with yourself like them & have sexting messages back & forth

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X"

Yes!

But I also beat myself up because I feel I really should reply as it would be rude not to…

Really I should just ignore them

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Common sense is sadly lacking these days...and not just on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Common sense is sadly lacking these days...and not just on here x"

You’re so right, where did it go?

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By *8v3nCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Even more annoying if it is the same brief message ove and over with profile with no picture not verified etc etc.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Common sense is sadly lacking these days...and not just on here x

You’re so right, where did it go?"

I'll let you know if I find it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Common sense is sadly lacking these days...and not just on here x"

Common sense is never common in either meaning of the word and its rarely sense either.

Should be called "what I think"

Mr

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london


"Why do people message and say "what you up to" at stupid o clock at night? I mean it says in my bio I have kids so surely at silly o clock at night I'm in bed and not sitting around in lingerie waiting on someone to ask me "what you up too?" Or having a party!! Do some people have any common sense?! Anyone get frustrated with this? X"

Maybe they sow you online?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will always read a profile first before sending any type of message, especially in the early hours. Only respectful to know what the circumstances of the people you are messaging are, also look at what they are looking for. Maybe I am in the minority but I’d certainly put more effort into starting a conversation with “what you up to”. The mind boggles

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